I fucking hate my mom so much. She's far from the worst mother on earth but she's equally far from the best. I can't stand being in her presence, interacting with her, attempting humor with her, discussing hobbies with her or anything, and we never see eye to eye. Just her asking me to do any favor for her makes me want to scream at her to shut the fuck up and get out of my life forever, though I obviously never do that. I can't control having an attitude around her because the shitty things she's done over the years have been engrained into my mind and I can't see her in a positive light... but believe me when I say I've tried and tried to multiple times.
I say all this to say... she wants to do this cringy ass "cooking class" bullshit with me this weekend where she "shows me how to cook" when I've been outside the house before and had to cook for myself for about 3 years. I know this is going to be a disaster because I absolutely hate taking direction from her. When she smiles and jokes like "it's just something for us to bond together, and have some quality time :))" It makes me want to vomit and tell her that will never happen.
Jow Forums, I don't know what to do here. She's forcing this thing on me and I don't want any part of it. Yeah we live together but all I want is coexistence. Is there ANY advice that any one can give me to either avoid this or deal with it the best way possible? I already know I'm going to have anxiety and dread about however fucking long this bitch takes to show me something.
>I fucking hate my mom so much I advise you not to come her until you're at least 18. Never is preferable though
Elijah Evans
I know that was a distasteful and probably juvenile first sentence but I am 22.
David Gonzalez
What an asshole. You'll regret this the day she dies. I was like you and almost kill myself when she was very sick because i didn't have that quality time. If you don't start to love your mother, you'll never love anybody. Now, hug her, cry your guts out and tell her how much you love her. Also: hit the weights, take a shower, get a clue.
Josiah Richardson
>Now, hug her, cry your guts out and tell her how much you love her is that really the advice youre going to give me
Jaxson Lewis
It's good advice. You have a serious attitude problem and I think you know it. What kind of advice are you expecting exactly?
Tyler Wright
Yes. What do you want me to say? She seems like a nice person. Parents are always a little bit cringy but at least she's providing things. >Just her asking me to do any favor for her makes me want to scream at her to shut the fuck up and get out of my life forever Get rid of your ego. That's probably the root of your problems. You think you deserve the life of a king but you can't even live on your own.
Asher Ross
What did your mom do to you OP?
Hudson Wood
Stop lying and follow you massive little shit
Carson Lewis
Meh, disliking your mother doesn't immediately make you an under age poster you absolute retard lol. You know nothing about his life with this women, or what she did. It's perfectly acceptable to hate your mother, if there's a huge reason for it.
Brayden Thomas
It's not perfectly acceptable to hate anyone, much less your own mother, much less when she had given you little reason to. Grow up
Nicholas Price
I am aware that I have an attitude problem but I have conflicting thoughts of whether or not it is justified. These mixed feelings make me reflect on my relationship with her and why exactly it is the way it is. She has been decent to me as a parent, but has made very selfish and irresponsible choices that molded the way I look at her, which was only reinforced by general interaction with other mothers and becoming envious of their selfless responsibilities towards their children, which then reinforces my contempt.
If I knew what advice I was expecting I would take it myself and not bother with this thread. But pretending to feel a love I cannot surface and hugging her won't do anything except ask "what the fuck are you doing."
I've given plenty of thought to how I would feel if she died and asked myself how I would feel about my relationship with her. But that only creates more internal conflict and frustrates me even more. I know how I feel about her but I feel bad about it, and I try and try to change it but I can't.
Aiden Jackson
Try moving out, nerd. As long as you live with Mommy, you're gonna have to deal with her shit.
Angel Lewis
How is hatred not acceptable lol? Are you trying to be Buddhist or something? So if someone raped and murdered my sister, I would he wrong to hate that person? Hatred is as natural as any other emotion you idiot.
Hating your mother is unusual, and I certainly love my mother - but you don't know anything about OP's life, or what his mother did to him and the family. Perhaps she did nothing, and he is just a selfish little shit, or maybe she tore the family apart and ruined his life?
I suggest you take your own advice and grow up my friend. Without the critical faculty of seeing things from the perspective of others you are of little or no use on Jow Forums
Jonathan Rogers
Well before I explain I want to say again I know she's not the worst parent ever. I'm fully aware she's human and we all make mistakes but some things she did just bug me >born into poverty with a shitty dad that walked out on us >got beatings I didn't deserve as a child because she would never speak to me about the things that I did wrong. she used fear and pain to correct my behaviors which was NEVER necessary >75-80% of nights in my youth she went out with her friends to club leaving me home alone >I tried to joke and be funny with her but every attempt was shut down so I eventually said fuck it. >tried to discuss emotional things that happened and she wasn't being receptive to me at all, so I explained that it makes me not want to speak with her about my deep thoughts and she said "well don't then, because this is how I am" >Went homeless in highschool my junior and senior year because of a drug charge on her part. stayed with a friends family that was like heaven for me, a full house with both parents. they kicked me back to my mom and we jumped from place to place for the whole summer which was miserable >went to 3 shelters my senior year, then stayed with another friend and his mom whose relationship I became even more envious of >pulled me out of class one time to take a piss test for her cause she was still smoking, then got mad at me for being mad at her. I never got over that. >right out of highschool got a place but was out of a job... was the only one working overnight bringing in money but she would never pick me up or drop me off because she was "too tired" so I had to bike back and forth and still had to give her gas money for personal trips on top of other expenses >When I joined the military she took money from my account, $400 before I noticed >blames me when she wakes up late for work or misses an appointment or anything else with a timely suspense for not reminding her. She refuses to help herself
Andrew Wood
Move out of her house.
Hunter Walker
Move out. She's a mess
Nathaniel Gray
Easier said than done but I’m working on it.
Jack Gonzalez
this. 100%
Ayden Wright
Did you read the big post above yours?
Isaiah Clark
Move out and sort out your life and grow by yourself alone. She has a pattern of irresponsibility.
Come back when you are older and wiser to help her some of the time.
