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is it possible for someone to show signs of AvPD sometimes, and to be the complete opposite other times? I am bipolar so that is probably my answer
user that was worried about a friend last night here, have a bit of an update
Texted her again today asking if she was coming to group therapy today, she said she wasn't feeling well and needed to come pick something up from the front desk but I did get to see her, so I at least know she's alive. The anxious feeling from last night continued into work today to the point where I could barely function, but my mind was put at ease when I finally got a text back and actually saw her briefly.
Needless to say I'm still deeply concerned about her and still at a loss on what to do regarding it.
Where do I find a feet gf?
It's possible that specific situations trigger this avpd. What are some examples of where it flares up?
There is no shortage of adult meeting websites, where you can meet likeminded adults
Thank, it seems to be a slow night this time. Isn't it?
Spamming? How come?
Let me consult a contact, but I feel it'd be fairly plausible for that to be the case.
Well, knowing she's safe for the time being is actually quite a relief, I'm happy to hear you got to confirm she was okay.
At the feet store.
I remember you from last night. Glad to hear she's doing OK.
Okay, I was reading and it seems that it can be a possibility but I'd attribute it to your BPD, since it doesn't seem to be a permanent state as you said you do a full 180.
I am by no means a professional on this topic, that's what I can say from an uneducated point, I'd still suggest you consult your psychiatrist regardless, user.
I agree with .
I too, am bipolar. And I cycle fast, when I'm not on meds. The doctor treating you for bipolar should be informed of this problem.
Mmh... yeah tonight is slow.
I hope I get to help enough people tonight.
Isn't this generally a slow board?
Yeah, but it tends to fluctuate, some nights we hit around 100 replies in the 3 hours, and others nights are like, well, this.
Not that I'm complaining, I can do other things but I still keep a close eye on the thread.
But, well, if it's a slow night it can also mean anons aren't as restless as usual, right?
I need advice on dick troubles. I had unprotected oral sex last week, on Tuesday to be exact, and just this week my dick has been acting up. It’s been slightly itchy on the very top of my urethra, and I can feel something when I urinate, but not enough to cause pain. I also get discharge, but it’s comepletely clear and I usually have it anyway. The girl is clean, and I don’t want to go to doctor. What do?
been in a serious relationship for several months
we're talking about marriage, a lot
i told her i'd marry her, she hasn't said anything. i don't really know how she feels
i'm going to tell her i'll never propose and that she'll have to ask me. is this a bad idea?
That sounds like gonorrhea. Or it could be ringworm.
It’s not bothersome at all, and the girl was clean, how else could I have got it
From the content of your post it sounds like she simply doesn't want to talk about it right now.
I suggest you dont say anything about marriage for the time being
What makes you qualified to respond to posts? The vanilla pictures don't help the situation
Don't most women have feet? Also, your fetish is normie tier.
>I don’t want to go to doctor. What do?
Go to a doctor, don't be that retard that doesn't go to the doctor
>i'm going to tell her i'll never propose and that she'll have to ask me
It's probably not going to happen if you expect her to do it, especially if she wants a "dream wedding", only propose if you're sure she's going to say yes though
First thing I'll ask is why is it that you do not want to get that checked? If there is something out of the ordinary I'd say it's cause enough to go for a check-up. Well, atleast the way you describe it it doesn't seem to be an urinary infection. Anything else out of the ordinary?
I feel like that has a bit of a chance to be taken the wrong way, as in "I do not want commitment", or "I don't want to settle with you", I don't think you should take that approach, have you asked her directly what she thinks about it?
How many months? Depending on that you could ask her hand, no?
You're welcome to join in and respond to the posts as well, I make these threads for everyone afterall.
Have you had unprotected sex with anyone else in the last 15 days?
Also, this is your dick we are talking about. I suggest seeing a doctor to rule out stds and fungal infection.
>You're welcome to join in and respond to the posts as well, I make these threads for everyone afterall.
I was asking what makes you qualified, not whether I can post messages in the thread
Well it's rather a tough question, the only thing I have actual grounded experience dealing with is depression, other than that I'm just a normie who tries to study about many things to try to assist anons. Not really a professional or anything.
Any suggestions where I could improve or are you simply going to say "shut it down"?
I preffer to be honest and upfront about this kind of stuff.
My girlfriend always wants to do what she wants; eat what she wants. Drink what she wants. Watch what she wants. Listen to what she wants.
Anytime I want to anything she always complains or asks me to change it up.
For example we cooked dinner the other night and she made fish and said she didn't want anything else. I let her cook the fish and I started making potatoes and corn for myself. She kept telling me to stop because she didn't want it and when I got done she ended up eating it anyways but took 2 bites and said I didn't cook it right and threw it away.
She also never initiates sex even tho her ex apparently always turned down her advances. She doesn't act interested in me sexually at all. Sometimes we go days without so much as a sensual touch.
Is my gf just a bitch?
Did she grow up in household with lots of siblings? That's what it sounds like.
2 siblings. She was the youngest child
For how long have you been dating, and has she always been like this? Because if she had been like this from the start I doubt you'd have dated her in the first place.
Sometimes in relationships people can reveal some behaviour previously hidden once they stablish a comfort zone around their partners.
She might have issues from when she was growing up. As the youngest, she probably had to defer to the older kids about...lots of stuff. Now, maybe for the first time, she gets to have her way. And it might be getting a little out of control.
It was relieving to get at least something out of her today.
Last night and earlier today made me realize how much I get worked up over my troubles. Would you have any techniques on how to deal with those thoughts? I'm thinking for a start maybe I should back away a little bit... clearly the whole situation isn't doing me much good.
Those are swarmed with weirdos and paywhores, I want a feet *gf*
wheres the feet store
The last girl I dated was repulsed by feet, she didn't even paint her toenails
About 5 months.
I'm 24 years old, working as a cashier, quit university halfway because I didn't like any of it. I have to go back to school this year because I can't find any decent fucking jobs then the one I'm at. I saved around 13K CAD$ and I need to find other source of income or maybe invest it with a bank deal or stocks during university. What do I do, bros?
A good way to keep your mind off something is to draw your focus towards something else, often inmediate tasks, anything that could manage to keep your mind occupied should be good enough, such as puzzles, reading, or practicing a new skill, music or watching videos wouldn't work very well when you attempt to clear your head considering the mind tends to wander off when you zone out using something that doesn't require your focus.
People with a feet fetish is a bit of a hit or miss, you can never be sure at first glance who likes feets, just like any fetish, you'd have to get to learn about the person before you get to know the stuff they're into, which, in all honesty, would be too much pain effort/chance wise.
You should really consider dating someone because you're into them rather than craving someone solely for a fetish you share in common.
What mentioned might be a plausible explanation for her behavior, but ot's ultimately up to you wether you put up with it or not, either try to find a solution where both are comfortable, or simply cutting for the healthy would be what I'd advice.
Either try consulting her about the things that bother you, and attempt to change things as a couple or going your own way.
What's your opinion on this, user?
You need to find something interesting to take your mind off her.
Your fetish is not at all uncommon. You might even try a conventional dating website.
I'll need you to answer 3 questions, 1) what is your goal, 2)how much risk vs reward do you wish for, and 3) what time frame do you have?
Have you thought about Trade School, the military, or fireman /police jobs?
Puzzle actually sounds like a really good idea, I think I'm gonna go pick some up at some point.
I'm also noticing that I'm having trouble getting myself to do any kind of activities I would otherwise enjoy, this has been going on for a few months now. My go to is usually gaming but I just can't bring myself to do it much anymore... Do either of you have any suggestions on dealing with that?
>1) what is your goal
My goal is getting a degree for CS in three years, then get a better paying job.
>2)how much risk vs reward do you wish for
I would risk investing 10K of my money if it means I can see it double in the next year.
>3) what time frame do you have?
Three years, most likely. I can't do much, I live with my parents + I eat food home at most. we agreed that I'll pay half for year tuition while they provide the other half (3.5K for each). I already finished some courses, just gotta take 2nd year courses because I chose a major I deeply hate, so I switched to CS.
Those are certainly options, but I'd rather try doing CS first and see if I can go through with it.
Ok. Best of luck to you!
You can't get stuck on a single activity otherwise it'll end up having the same effect, if you do something too often it'll lose its charm, you need to do different things to keep yourself entertained otherwise everything will end up devolving into feeling mundane.
You can either invest in canada stocks which from a quick look arent as "sexy" as US stocks like Amazon, Apple, etc. Or invest in american stocks but the tax is more confusing and there is an exchange rate. Another option is cryptocurrency which will get you the more risk you want, but can be extremely volatile. This is probably also taxed (is in america) you can potentially hide under the radar if you have less than 10k USD in it though. (Sell off a few thousand each year)
I think I'll go to bed now. I'll put the threads on hold for some time but promise I'll eventually come back to it in the near future, I need to get some things sorted out as well as learning to do, I hope I see all of you once again seen, and goodnight.
Goodnight, op.
Thanks for hosting this thread.
Damn it i missed it again.
Oh well good night.
I've been having panic attacks for the past week or two.
I should have read the full OP
My girlfriend told me yesterday I could have sex with other women if i felt the urge, as long as it was only sex and nothing emotional, and that I didn't neglect her in the process.
Should I do it?
Anyone got some experience with this?
If you're still there maybe I could help
Any idea what brings them on? I was once told by a counselor that putting your face in a bowl of ice water for about 30 seconds will help bring you down if you feel a panic attack coming on. It's supposed to trick your body into going into shock or something along those lines. It's worked for me, I've had to use it a few times this week.
My GF and me are about to be 1 year together but in the last 3 months, we haven't had sex. She suddenly stopped the lewd and I didnt want to put pressure on her, but I'm going full bananas about being unable to tease her. I haven't noticed weird behaviors, she's a home/job-job/home person so, she couldn't date someone else. Also we live together and this fact makes me trust her. She discovered my stash of porn and since then, she doesn't feel in the mood, but I find that stupid. I mean, almost everyone have porn for those moments of loneliness, but she went full mad at me for that.
What should I do to get laid again? She let me play with her boobs but seems to have no effects if I want to arouse her.
help!
Do you feel the same way about her having purely physical relations with other people? Does she have any interest in being a part of you sleeping other girls? She might just be angling at an overall open relationship, which a lot of the time means she just wants to see other people but doesn't want to give up the stability of your relationship.
Talk to her about it. That's literally the only productive step to take unless you want out.
It's been over three weeks since I went on my first date with this girl, I asked her again about 2 weeks ago but she was genuinely busy the whole week. After that she gave me her work schedule and I asked her if she was available on X day she didn't work. The thing is... She has a habit of putting off opening and replying to my texts for over a day. Sometimes it's instant sometimes not. She texts her friend because I can almost trace when they text each other (Snapchat map and score changes) I know that sounds creepy but I just am genuinely concerned that I'm being totally blown off. She always replys well and talks like she's eager to go on another date with me but nothing has happened yet
I'm not completely sure. I had one today, because I'd stressed myself out spending too much time studying without a break and then found out over the phone that my grandmother is dying. If I were to hazard a guess at an overarching cause, I'd say it's related to my sense of self worth
You went on one date, she isn't necessarily going to give you the same attention she gives her friends. Tell her to give you a heads up if she has a night off and wants to go do something again. If she does, she will. Stressing and stalking won't do anything but drive her away.
Yeah we grew up together in a small town and went through most of school save for two years of high school, we were each other's prom dates for both junior and senior year. We have the same mutual friend group and have considered each other friends for a long time now. Sorry I didn't include this info, didn't want it to be too long of a post.
Same advice still applies. Obsessing over it never helps. She's either legitimately busy, or doesn't want to be mean. Nothing you can do about it either way.
Sounds to me like stress is a big factor here. I went through almost the EXACT same thing in the winter. I dropped out of college because my mental health situation became too much to handle with school work and my grandmother died around the same time. I guess what I'm saying is that it's important to know your limits. If I had of stuck around in college any longer I might have gone over the edge... Not saying you should drop out of course but sometimes it helps to take a break. If you find you're getting overwhelmed while studying, just walk away from it for a while. That's what I did in my final days in school, anyway.
Also could you clarify what you mean by "sense of self worth"?
I believe I have some psychotic disorder. I have extreme difficulties expressing myself through speech and emotions. I don't feel comfortable around people and sometimes feel as though I can't trust my own thoughts.
What can I do to fix myself?
I'll keep it brief.
Seems that my gf seems to always ask me if everything is ok between us. I tell her yes. We've been going out for 5 months, always been happy together. We only see each other 2 days out of the week though.
So my question is, why would she constantly ask if everything is ok between us?
I'm in a little bit of a feedback loop. I get stressed, so I withdraw, but then I get stressed over not having the things I want done. I am finishing my assignments though
She's just being self conscious. Maybe she's worried you aren't happy seeing her so infrequently, or that you aren't into her enough to want to see her more frequently. Reassure her if you're genuinely happy with what you've got.
Yeah, I know what you mean, I felt the same way. If you're finishing your assignments that's good, it's better to chip away at them slowly instead of overworking yourself and finishing it in one go. That's how I looked at it anyway. Does your doctor know what's going on? If you have a diagnosis perhaps your school could get you accommodations for it, before I left school I was given accommodations for depression and anxiety which gave me things like extended deadlines, so perhaps that's something to look into. also nice quads
Got it.
Thank you!
I actually have a therapist. I haven't spoken to him in a little while; I should probably do that soon
>Demonstrated worked independently in the past.
How can I answer this? I've only ever had one job at a call center, otherwise I've been a student all my life beyond that.
It's for a campus student job. Could I get away with bullshitting about working on projects and research independently?
Projects and independent research is perfect, though hopefully you're not 100% bullshitting and have some kind of proof.
You could also just talk about how you managed some stuff on your own, doesn't necessarily have to be work but a passion project in a hobby, like that.
39 Male
What fashion advice would you give ? I think I should get a casual blazer that looks formal.
But I think maybe leather jacket type would make me look better in 40-50 age bracket.
Does anyone have any tips for phone calls in a long distance relationship? I've been talking with this girl for about 2 months so far, and we recently switched from messages to phone calls. I find myself running out of stuff to talk about though, and the call ends up dying pretty quickly. I don't have this issue with straight face to face conversations, it seems to be just phone calls that are difficult.
Any advice is welcome.
Don't message too much if you want to talk.
Honestly, I have the same issue though, but if I haven't got in touch with a person for some time, I have an easier time talking with them on phone.
But I seriously advice you to meet her in person (or do it more often). I broke off with my online gf because we had no chemistry after being face to face even though we could write each to other for hours on a daily basis.
Both sound great. The jacket will be pricer though.
Hit up pinterest and look up fashion for men; it has helped me a lot.
uopeople.edu
They offer a (mostly) tuition-free degree. Also check the pic.
What's a good computer related skills to have ?
Graphics photoshop ? I can't draw but I am interested in photoshop for facebook and instagram ?
Watch a movie together or a TV show. Play videogames together.
My bf and I often lurk forums on call and link each other things, watch sports together, movies, TV shows and such.
We talk about fun memories like childhood stuff.
Repairing computers is the easiest followed by GNU/Linux sysadmin, programming is more up for skills and infosec the hardest.
>GNU
meme
>memes
meme
Should I go to college to become an engineer on a ship in the merchant marine, make $6.5k usd a month starting, and work 6 months on, 3 off?
Otherwise I was considering becoming a TESOL teacher and moving to Japan, I'd probably make like $2.5k with a better quality of life.
>In 500 words or less, please explain why you would like to be a Student Ambassador
Applying for a job at the college, what kind of things should I write? this is what I got so far, only about 150 words though. never really had to write something like this so im at a loss
Is either of those a guaranteed job? Would you like working half of your life on a ship? You can also work on the first job, try it out, and if you don't like it just quit and get a TESOL certification. Maybe you can also work in Japan as an Engineer.
How do i get over the fact that i have to compete for anything of value in this world?
acquire autism bux or win the lottery
I hate myself and have no family, friends, or loved ones.
Why shouldn't I kill myself?
I want a better job. fell for the liberal arts meme in college (it can work for some people, I am not one of them, whether you can make it work for you is more or less contingent on social skills) and i'm still at the same min-wage job where everyone obviously can't stand me. Aside from my degree, I don't have many skills (don't know any programming languages, can't draw / write very well, etc). All I want is a job where I don't interact with many people and can make enough money to support myself with some amount of comfort. To be honest, though, intelligence-wise I'm probably somewhat below average. With the combination of being a socially repulsive human being, am I just fucked?
Because you're not alone. There are tons of people, including myself, going through the same thing. Killing yourself would be like admitting defeat...? What would be the point of making it this far just to give up and die.
I'm having an internal crisis. So to give you some backstory, I've been with my girlfriend getting on for 4 years now, we get along perfectly and all the rest of it. We've discussed moving in together a few times, we both live with our parents at the moment. The problem I have is that we might have got too carried away with the house thing. She wants to do it together, as in equal split down the middle for mortgage and bills, which is perfect in an ideal world. However, she earns pittance in comparison to me to the point where she simply wouldn't be able to afford 50/50. I've suggested that I buy a house myself and she can live with me, she dismissed that idea immediately, in her logic "if we ever broke up, she'd be X years along and nothing to show for it at the end" (no stake in the house) which I appreciate, but I want to move out within a year or so. I don't know when, if ever, she'll be able to keep up with equal house expenses. She already said she wouldn't move in with me if I bought a house alone so I kinda agreed to waiting until she's in a better position financially. It could take years for all I know. I've got more than enough for a deposit and all the fees that come with buying a house. What do I do?
I'm scared to hurt her feelings by going back on what I said about waiting. Sorry if this is a mess of a post
TESOL is guaranteed, merchant marine isn't as guaranteed but job placement is 95%+
It's a dumb fucking question but do any of you have the feeling of trying to watch stuff in media you're uncomfortable with? I tried to watch "highbrow" movies or visual novels that contain sensitive shit, but at times I feel too physically and mentally uncomfortable to the point that I stop watching/playing them. Stuff like
>Funny Games
>Amour
>Euphoria
>Almost any war movie that's focused on helpless civilian
I know I act like a tumblr faggot but I can't stomach through them. How the hell do some people do it?
>several months
>marriage
L O L
Why are you wasting your time watching things you're not comfortable with?
Maybe I'd get used to it and enjoy it, just like with action movies and games. I used to be scared of Resident Evil, Mortal Kombat and Devil May Cry but with age it didn't bother me that much. I feel like I'm missing out on good stuff but idk
It's not 'good stuff' if you're not enjoying it
Not a question, just a rant. I can't find the usual "Get it off your chest" and I don't want to make my own, so this is it.
I saw your face tonight. You show up in FB recommended's from time to time. I don't know how we have 18 mutual friends. I can't believe there are 18 people that we know that can stomach you after the shitshow you put on at work. I know I'm wrong for resenting you but I can't help it. I'm cursed for life. I'm still that silent, edgy shitlord sitting alone in the lunchroom. I'm still the pile of excrement that I was a decade ago. I know it's wrong but I still resent you because I wonder every day if what happened between us meant anything at all, and I know deep down that it didn't. It was just a huge mistake. One of the many mistakes we've both made. Just another one in a long list. But I hate us. I hate me infinitely more than I'll ever hate you because I still feel feels for you, and I know it is the textbook definition of futility and meaninglessness. So here I am, drunk, alone, posting stupid bullshit on the internet, thinking about you... after two whole fucking years. I've met hundreds of different people. I've been to a bunch of different places. I've seen lots of cool stuff. And yet, none of it compares to the very brief time we spent together. I still think about it, though. You should update your FB pic, though. You had that same profile pic when you showed up in my rec's back in November. You're too beautiful to only be showing the same photo of yourself. Take more... without whatever fuckhead is around now.
For weeks at a time ill be perfectly fine, confident chatty ect. the for a few days ill go ito a weird mood where i shut my self off and nearly have panic attacks about ever social interaction in the past few weeks. Only started this like 8 months ago, but its getting more frequent and damging my social interations Its making me turn to shit like xanax.
Any help?
For a student, what percentage of one's weekly income should be spent on rent and food?
>27
>male
>a bit of a cerebrotronic and kind of a sperg
>gotten a few one night stands out of sheer luck before but never dated a girl longer than three months, much less had a steady relationship
>usually it's almost always one of two things that kill the would-be relationship
>I'm either not showing enough interest in them and they think I'm some callous, distant asshole or I'm showing way too much and they think I'm a clingy headcase thats going to be a ton of baggage
Is there some middle ground I can walk here that won't ruin shit? How do I find it?