ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

u sound like a loser lmao

could be thats just how she messages. for girls not every message is existential like it is for us men. they can send 'lol haha' without considering the implications of killing a conversatoin

If by dominant you mean secually, thats fine

If by dominant you mean you want to boss people around and get hissy when they wont follow, this shit aint going to last if the guy has some backbone

Initial attraction rubs off in a week imho if it's not justified or perused. If it continues, congrats you have a crush.
You could rekindle that attraction if she hasn't made her mind, plenty of young girls never make up their minds because they crave attention.
This is from personal experience but it could be a big bowl of bullshit for others I guess.

No, your friends sound retarded

Theres nothing wrong with showing interest, and you can build some attraction thru texting.

You like her, right? So why stop messaging her and make her feel like you're not interested in talking to her? Makes no fucking sense, girls don't play those bullshit games.

Talk to her, become friends. Friendships CAN lead to dating if you strike quick enough. If things go well when you meet her in Uni, ask her out quickly.

Thats a good point. In the past when we would message more often she'd always message back, even if it wasn't very much to respond to. I'm probably overthinking it.

Why don't you just meet up now?

>overthinking at its peak

Socially? They annoy me. A guy would get punched pretty fast with that attitude, girls only abuse the fact that you can't do that.
Sexually? Never had one so I can't say. If she wants me to lay down like a log 100% of times and use me as a dildo i doubt i would like it.

do NOT talk about my friends that way. u fucking sound retarded if anything. everything girls do is play games

we r miles apart and it would be weird if i was like haha wanna meet up hundreds of miles away??

she had more of a crush on me initially i think but i'm Jow Forums autistic and didn't do anything when i could so i let it burn out, then we would message randomly and by the time she started sending me sexy pics again school had already ended and i became a summer cuck.

bc i know she lost interest before im wary of overplaying my hand. i think she liked me, then got over me, then maybe bc it was summer and she was bored got into me again but idk could be overthinking it. one time she called me and i just stared at the phone bc i was so taken back like wtf girls still do this and just let it ring to voicemail, felt like it took forever.

i'm thinking of maybe talking to her in august sometime before school starts

why are girls always so insecure about getting eaten out?!

i mean i wouldnt do it if there would be something wrong with you down there. so why not just enjoy it?

dont get it

haha i kno right?

girls how would u react if i tried to eat your ass? like with no warning?

Such an obvious samefag it hurts.

We've been told over and over that our genitals are ugly and disgusting, also the porn industry isn't helping.
Also if you have gay friends, many of them are pretty fucking sexist and have told you at least once that your genitals are disgusting.

It's misty a thing about "I don't want you looking so closely at my vulva"

That's fucked, ask first. Imagine you have a slime tentacle touching your anus out if the blue. Not the sexiest shit for most gals.

woah calm down lmao

>We've been told over and over that our genitals are ugly and disgusting
from whom? where? wtf?

>also the porn industry isn't helping
i watch tons of porn, how does the porn industry signal you are disgusting? its rather whorshipping than anything else imo

actually i didnt write the second post

when i ate my gfs ass the first time i didnt tell her either. i just told her "dont be shocked and just try to relax and enjoy it since i certainly will"

obviously i did that when she was horny af already

u dumb bitch y THE FUCK would anyone care to samefag in this thread? i bet u browse /v/ like some nerd faggot loser

>from whom? where? wtf?
Religion, young fuckboys, even from each other when we're young. Plus there's this obsession over the phallic shapes and things which make dicks much more acceptable for young girls. Most of these things carry trough when they haven't dealt with it in their youth.
But ye mostly religion, and the association of "dirty" parts.

>its rather whorshipping than anything else imo
while this is true, they have about 1-2 kinds of vulvas out there, many porn actresses have some sort of aesthetic fix-up down there, whether it be colour or other shit. A lot of them look like children's vulvas. Many girls tend to skip the fact nobody cares about the subtle differences.

>i just told her
you did tell her, gave her a warning, that's enough, you did good.

>where are you from that religion affects you?
me and most boomer i know dont give a flying fuck about religion (god bless)
>inb4 pun intended

>Many girls tend to skip the fact nobody cares sounds to be true

>you did tell her
fair enough

my issue is that when im alredy down between a girls legs and enjoying her pussy in my face i dont understand a shy reaction

like im already going for it, i wouldnt do that if i didnt want to. to be shy before it happens makes sense to me but not that

Takes a while to shake of the shyness, and association of those parts, she might have some thoughts about whether she likes it, or if she is allowed to enjoy it, or if it should feel this way, there are too many thoughts, women thing A LOT when having sex.
With having more sex with the same partner, they feel safer/worry less. Or maybe more sex in general? Idk.

Just by telling you this you can see that we tend to overthink sex too much. Don't worry bout it you doing good regardless.

Also, for some it's a turn on for them to be the "shy maidens", so who the fuck knows.

My girlfriend got really mad at me tonight because I didn't want to start a paranormal/murder podcast with her. I told her I'd help her research topics but she said she didn't need help and she needed a co-host instead basically.

She eventually resorted to saying "my other guy friend wouldve done this with me" which was kinda gay.

I've noticed she doesn't often do things she doesn't like and rarely goes out of her comfort zone. If people don't accommodate her every wish or desire she gets very upset.

Ladies and guys, is this correctable behavior without conflict? I know girls don't like it when guys don't want to do things with them but when she doesn't like the things you want to do it feels like a one sided situation.

interesting stuff you are sharing there
also seems legit
thanks for that

She's immature, if she's not willing to even listen to you, when it's obvious that you have her best in mind, leave if you can't handle her immaturity as a flaw. (of course I assume, you've not been sounding condescending and she's doing this to spite you)
Correct her by leaving her. It's not worth the multiple fights you will have over it.

How2find girl who wants to go hiking/camping? Do they exist?

Why are there so many women split on the issue of rape now?
Before it was pretty cut and dry, but now young women misclassify rape and expect everyone to believe them and few will activily lie about it, while older women are activitly telling us that what actually classifies as rape. Where was this disconnect? How did this happen?

>How2find girl who wants to go hiking/camping? Do they exist?
The same way you guys who want to go hiking/camping
Yes they exist
I'm currently planning a hike with such a girl

Stop thinking of it like every girl is the objective of a video game and every rejection is a failure. Your challenge isn't to get every girl you meet to like you, your challenge is to find the one that's right for you among the millions that aren't.

Sounds like she is being manipulative.
Also if you arent having anything in common you might as well drop the relationship. People like her is always "me me me" with out even noticing. She seems to get her way a lot so she keeps up the bad behaivor.
If you want equality you are going to have to hash it out, but the moment she acts like its too hard and doesnt care, is the time to break it off. Men do this too so its not just women. These kind of people will only excel with someone who has the same taste as their partner.

Dominant is ok at times, just dont be controling.

Girls/Guys
A close friend of mine cried in my arms yesterday because we had a serious conversation about her family. It's the first time she cries in front of me. What could it mean?
Side note: She rejected me a while ago but really wanted to stay as we were.

It means she is usually comfortable around you and wants you to comfort her.
It is not a sex thing, just be a friend.

Rape:
-the classic definition; forcing someone into sex
-removing a condom or disrespecting a boundry that the other partner is highly against but still pushing them through it
-hiring a hooker as a single man and then taking her to a hotel where 5 other guys are waiting and tell her she must service all 6 of you for the price you originally agreed on for one person
-threatening violence or intimidating someone into performing a sexual act
-purposefully feeding someone a drug or encouraging them to drink alcohol to lower their inhibitions and pushing yourself onto them sexually
-wearing someone down over and over again regardless of them continuously saying no, but continue asking them until you pretty much force them to say yes (similar to intimidation or fear you will attack them)

Not rape (but still highly asshole-ish things to do):
-public molestation unless there is penetration (finger in hole, penis in mouth, etc)
-cumsharking
-paying someone to have sex with you
-giving someone a stare (imagining them naked or something)
-asking someone on a date
-forcibly placing their hand on your penis or vagina (some countries and states do consider this rape because HPV and other STDs can be transmitted by a touch lasting even less than 5 seconds)

My general rule is, if I wouldnt do this to a child, then i wouldnt do it to a man or woman without permission. Dont frame each situation above in regards to women. Picture doing these acts to children, the elderly, or possibly put yourself in that situation if a gay man was doing them to you. Your opinion might change. You might even consider an action rape if a gay man did them to you that you previously hadnt considered as rape before.

Yeah you are friendzoned for sure.
Just be that friend dude.

I'm really trying but I think my feelings will get the best of me someday.

>-wearing someone down over and over again regardless of them continuously saying no, but continue asking them until you pretty much force them to say yes (similar to intimidation or fear you will attack them)
this seems borderline tho, it's not like it was pushed by force
people do this all days to get what they want

Am I doomed?

>-wearing someone down over and over again regardless of them continuously saying no, but continue asking them until you pretty much force them to say yes (similar to intimidation or fear you will attack them)
I agree with all but the last one.
I mean you can leave. If it gets violent then yeah. I mean if the person keeps asking then leave, regardless of what sway he has over you. What ever sway he holds over you, you have social media to say, "yeah its because i epuldnt have sex with him" you will always have people who believe you, especially now in this day and age.

I get it, it is hard to let someone you love go.
But right now your options are to have her as a friend or not see her at all, so being a friend is often the lesser evil.
But you should just look for another to date.
Girls don't tend to be rewarding the patient guys.

Yeah, her feelings about you is cemented. Find a new girl and she of she gets possesive then tell her to make up her mind. But thats not gonna happen me thinks and she can still be your friend.

I understand. Thank you for the reply, I'll do my best.

>Girls don't tend to be rewarding the patient guys.
That hurts.

Wrong. There are right and wrong things to do to get women.

I didn't realise other girls felt this way, phew.

What said I guess.
I don't know about vaginas being overtly depicted as gross, aside from rude gay guys (who definitely do that), but there's definitely HEAVY implications of it that I and most people grew up around, and a complete 180 in standards when it comes to men. All the time on TV you see talk of blow jobs like they're just a fact of life, and at the same time if cunnilingus ever comes it it's depicted as uncomfortable, demeaning, or anxiety-inducing for men.
People openly and vividly joke about dicks in both positive and negative ways, but as a kid the word 'vagina' was unspeakable. And 'cunt' is considered the worst curse of them all. So many jokes about fishy smells (a sign of illness) as if that's what they're supposed to smell like, like they're just that gross as a default. For years growing up I thought it was supposed to smell like fish and that it was weird mine didn't.

Plus for me, cunnilingus just seems more intimate, since you're putting your face IN something, whereas if I'm blowing a guy I'm just touching the outside of something and I can see where everything is. And even when I'm alone, obviously idk what it's like to have a dick but I imagine exploring your own body when you have a vag is a lot more work, you have to unfold things and poke around, there's discharge and pain, etc.
Receiving is also generally just a kind of vulnerable position to be in, not being able to see what's going on down there or predict what sensation's going to come next. Again, getting your dick sucked, I feel like you have a bit of a clearer view of what's happening.

All that said, I do appreciate it and am getting used to it (haven't been at it for long).

>Girls don't tend to be rewarding the patient guys.
Do girls get the trouble men are having with this? Like a blind man who cant see if the water is boiling and he cant feel the heat unless he sticks his hand into the boiling water. Are women aware of this, or do they just not care?

Fucking obviously, but who gives a fuck about getting the wrong girl?

Women in general don't care much about guys they reject. They just wish those guys would magically get over them and like other girls without a fuss. Women are complete solipsists with zero empathy like that.

I have a doozy here

My gf of 4 months just came out of a 2 year relationship with a gay man. For the last 6 months they didn't have sex once and the year leading up to this they rarely got intimate. For all this time he would constantly reject her sexual advances. He finally came out and they broke up

Now she is with me and at first the sex was constant but the last month and a half it has been really sparse. I was always the initiator but now shes the one rejecting me and we have sex about once or twice a week if I'm lucky. We are with each other every day 24/7 and sometimes it will be perfect conditions and we will be getting romantic and she will just go cold and roll over and just go into lazy mode.

What could be going on?

Pining over some girl who doesn't like you isn't 'patience' it's just pining. Patience is when you're actually accomodating someone and putting your desires aside to accomodate them, like taking it slow with a virgin or waiting ready on the sidelines during a family emergency.
You don't deserve a reward for liking someone. Your pain isn't a gift to anyone, it's just some shit you've gotta nut up and deal with.

Dump her, broseph.
Lack of sexual attraction is almost always because the person just isn't attracted to you.

There's a reason she wasted so much time tolerating a man who wouldn't have sex with her. Any woman who needs to fuck more than once a week would have been outta there years ago.
She probably just has a really low sex drive or something.

Ask her about it, if you don't make it a habit to talk about your problems with her, the relationship won't work. It's obvious she is having some issues and something is bothering her, no matter how much we guess what it is, only way to know for sure is by asking her.

>solipsists
Thats a bit much. A woman has innate ability to nurture. So this just seems silly.

That really touched me
Just as to show that not everybovmdy in Jow Forums is an asshole

>Pining over some girl who doesn't like you isn't 'patience' it's just pining.
Already you assume its Pinning.
When in fact its being patient and trying not to be needy. Because if you noticed guys are either not enough to too much with women. Its impossible to be patient because each person is different, then you get women who misinterpret every good intention like the guy wants something in return.
Maybe women should stop expecting so much for nothing.

>Pining over some girl who doesn't like you isn't 'patience' it's just pining.
She liked me
But I wasn't "aggressive" enough apparently

It doesn't matter if she liked you, she rejected you and now you're pining. Still not patience. Still all to do with you and nothing to do with her. I know it sucks, but you can't frame it as if you're taking on pain for someone else, it's just how you feel and sometimes feelings are shit.

Very true, this encompasses the issue very well.

I don't know if I feel like cunnilingus is more intimate to me than whatever other sexual activity, I think that part is up to personal preference, but the rest of it is spot on.

Also it's awkward when you see your partner's face down there, I never know what to do with my arms desu lol. Every time, I get the intrusive thought to just pat him on the head, and I'd have to stay still and suppress my laughter and disappointment in myself.

>Also it's awkward when you see your partner's face down there, I never know what to do with my arms desu lol
Thank god I'm not alone with tha one... I don't like getting eaten out, but I feel the same when getting fingered lmao

To be honest... I never received good head. And I think that is partly to me being insecure about it. I don't want my man down there, smelling something gross, or tasting something bad idk..

I literally stopped being patient since.
I didn't completely move on but I'm looking for other girls. Better girls.

About the first part, where the fuck do you live? Can't relate with any of that, at all.
The rest of your post sounds like a load of cope.

Basically dude if she didnt give you signs that she wants to date you then its her fault and you should move on too.
She didnt want to communicate then she isnt for you.

Lol, I get the arms thing. It sounds so lame, but I love holding his hand during. Not only do I not feel so alone up there, but I can squeeze it and caress it to communicate how he's doing, and vice versa, him squeezing back reassures me that he's exactly where he wants to be.

I actually enjoy both activities!
I used to dislike it when I wasn't confident about myself, but it's up for preference. Good head/bad head, its head all in all, feels ok at worst if he doesn't bite.
Sex in general is a very mental thing for us, you have to be sufficiently turned on from the activity to orgasm.
So my advice is next time you do it, just stop thinking about it, try to focus on what you're feeling and you will relax a little bit. Then you can decide if it's for you or nah.

Also sperm looks and feels like nose buggers shooting out of his pee-hole, which pee-hole is weird in itself as well, hope that gives you perspective of the grossness of general human liquids. That's just how they are. Also if it was tasting bad he would've said something. Men usually don't care (when your hygiene is proper), they just want to see you squirm.

Haha, thank you, that's actually really helpful adivse, especially the last sentence! I really need to open myself up for different sex practices more, experiment a little. What you say about the mental thing is definitely true and needs some work as well

>Basically dude if she didnt give you signs that she wants to date you then its her fault and you should move on too.
She did but wanted to wait
So I waited as well
Then she moved on
So I moved on

The thing is, it's subtle. Even women don't notice it, they just internalise it. No one goes around calling women fat cows either, yet show me one woman who's not concerned about her weight. It's because these things are subtle that they get to people, because when you can't even see what's happening you can't rationalise your way out of it.
It's like asymptomatic cancer.

Then she is a manipultive bitch. She cant think about any one elses emotions but her own, then fuck her.

>then fuck her.
I wish I had when I could :^)

>knew this girl for years
>gave her thousands of dollars (yes I've posted here before)
>she borrowed $500
>said she'd pay me back
>never did
>gave me exact dates she'd pay
>never did
>decided this morning to be an asshole and ask where my money is and how I should have never given her a dollar
>tells me the reason why we never dated is i turned her off by "jumping down her throat" but this is the first I've heard about it
>But she "intends" to repay me now, instead of just repaying me
>And she just spent the entire week out of town blowing money, and has a "boyfriend" who she could get money from and she works a good job

I don't think I was wrong for calling her out on it, and it made me feel better because I've moved on and found another girl that actually respects me and doesn't ask for money, but she acted as if it was my fault. Joke is on her because I would have done everything for her and took care of her kids and all of that. She could have stopped working and I would have paid for everything.

Well damn... Generaly, I'd always set up some kind of contract/receipt when loaning someone that much money. Like say, 100 dollars upwards. I hope you'll get the money back user, otherwise you should go to the police

The police can't do shit about it if there wasn't a contract or some kind of document about it.

Speaking from experience, my family loaned a big sum to a incredibly close family friends, they were gone a week later, their apartment empty and there was nothing we could do about it and we tried.

People suck, always get it signed and stamped ladies and gents when you loan money.

No, I love her too much to go that route. I know I'm never getting the money back and it's small change to me, it's just the principle. I would have given her everything but I feel like I never got a fair shake, and for her to blame it all on me really hurt when she knows I have Asperger's and don't function "normally" with social and emotional issues.

Oh god I'm so sorry that this happend to your family... Some people are just fucking assholes, that's horrible..

It's very possible she just used you, but you have to come to terms with it. You should probably move on then, this woman will never consider you a friend worthy of a loving relationship, I'm sorry. To keep yourself save, you need to get over her.

I want to propose a question here. My boyfriend believes its fine to be verbally abusive as long as theres a valid reason. For example, calling your partner a piece of shit when you get into an arguement.

Is he right? Do the circumstances matter?

He's fucked.

>piece of shit
Woah there that really really hurts.
Are you serious? Who gives a shit, call him a dickhead and fart on his breakfast.

Circumstances matter.
If my bf insults me when we argue, we never really fight, we just argue, I'd be damn pissed off.

I'd never insult someone on purpose in a fight, it's disrespectful and immature, I know it slips sometimes, but I'll apologize after.

Same, for me, an insult would be a breaking point. Even just something silly like "you asshole"

It depends on the dynamics of the relationship, I guess. Some couples just work like that. This kind of insults aren't as meaningful for everyone. For some people they can just they this type of stuff not thinking much of it.
So yeah it's different for everyone I guess.

I understand that he insulted me several times because he was upset but he now refuses to apologise because he states the insults were justified because I started an arguement. I dont want to normalize this kind of behaviour.

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He's making his behaviour your fault. That's not how reality works.

Leave, not worth the nerves and time this will require to fix, plus there is no guarantee he will change his behavior regardless.

Depends on what you did. I think a light slap works better than insults, but to each his own. He's doing you a favour anyway, why should he apologize?

Ew wtf
He sounds gross af
Dump him

>imaginary girlfriends
>b-but why can I get laid, women are such sluts, I'm a nice guy
>autism.exe

>How do guys feel about dominant women?

Eh... Alright I guess... but I'd rather a partner than a mom/boss (or a daughter for that matter)

>Is he right? Do the circumstances matter?

Offhand I want to say that in this day and age: No.

However, if you're living in a 3rd world country where gender equality is skewed heavily male centric... then somewhat more understandable since that's the climate you apparently live in (however fucked it is. Maybe consider moving elsewhere. I say this as a first generation halfie where in both of my heritages that's true)

We're both white and from the UK. We both do our duties around the house and bring in the dough, I'm even the one who asked him out in the first place.

He isnt a dog you know

Men:

Would you let your girl get counselling?

Better than having to hear her shit myself so yea

How do I attract girls when I don't have a job and sit in my room all day and am socially retarded?

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