GF turned cold

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OP again
some thoughts:
talk it out, not ultimatum, heard some shit about love languages

Talk it out, suggest that she wants rape play

Talk it out, ultimatum

>1.5 years
>no sex
>no cuddling even
Is this long distance? Maybe she's always been disinterested in sex and fugged to get you in a relationship, or she has some past trauma the rape rp brought up.
What keeps you two together? It sounds like this is a big deal to you and draining your self respect, so why haven't you left yet?

I'm going to give you the same question I asked myself before breaking it with my woman.
>are you sexually frustrated?
Fucking obviously you are mate!
Sex is one of the pillars for a healthy and loving relationship and it's clear you do not get what you need from your girl, and I don't mean the sex only.
You know what must be done user. Grab the bull by the horns. Godspeed.

You broke her with the "fantasy" and now you're dealing with it. Talk.

Unless she is cheating on him, this is best answer

I just broke up with my gf partly because we only have sex like 3 times a month

No I think it has something to do with a past incident. Is it possible for a negative sexual experience to cause her to act this way

Fake break up with her. By this, I mean tell her you want to break up. This will prompt her to ask why, and you can be honest. The more brutal the better. If she values you, she will relent and likely offer you sex. At the very least, she will try to explain why. Don’t take it as a loss, just dig deeper to the truth. If it’s not sustainable (which is sounds like it isn’t), then reevaluate your relationship.

>Banging like crazy at the start
>Suddenly nothing
>Rape fantasy
>"""Asexual"""

Hmmm.

Either
A) She's cheating on you
B)C) She signed out of this relationship long ago and is too cowardly to end it.

My (male) friend was a C. He was with GF for NINE YEARS and never had sex with her, even claimed he was asexual.

He finally broke up with her, 3 months later he's got a new GF and is fucking her silly. No word of a lie.

I’m pretty sure it has to do with a prior incident that was totally my fault and made her uncomfortable. I don’t think there’s any coming back from this

Then fucking talk to her about it. If she refuses, there’s not much you can do. Bring it up softly.

If that's the case then you need to get to the bottom of the issue or you're doomed.

You already let this go on for far too long, how can your relationship go from lots of sex to sexless and not immediately be a red flag?

Every time I bring it up she gets very emotional I can’t even bring up the dog without her bursting into treats

Tears*

Sorry was phone posting

If the two of you can't deal with this then the relationship is over, and it has been over for a long time now.

She isn't attracted to you anymore dude. This happens to every guy who isn't self aware. You simply have failed to display the key masculine traits that keep her hooked. She's probably getting it from somewhere else and is too cowardly or empathetic to break up with you.

Can I fix this? I rubbed peanut butter on my balls and while her dog was getting into she walked into the room and ran away. It’s been a few weeks since then and I’m so ducking embarrased

Lol. Yea, that’s pretty bad. If you two can’t communicate about this, you need to separate. It’s killing you. Think about it like ripping a band-aid off. It will be painful, but you will be better off for it. And don’t let the dog lick your balls. That shit ain’t hygenic.

>few weeks
>1.5 years
Something's not lining up here

OP here
sorry for the long wait, I work 2nd shifts and OT

I'm honestly thinking its past trauma and the times we have talkedand I brought up the Rape rp as a trigger or some shit she goes like "never thought of that I guess" she just doesn't think of it.
I'm wondering if shes feigning interest for more authentic rp that I'm not in the loop on or she genuinely just doesn't think about it or what

OP again
not sure when to talk about it with her.
I'm going to bring up that I don't feel validated and that its making me feel depressed.

honestly betting she is going to say I am guilt tripping and I'm just going to flat out tell her it is neglect to my wants and needs.
Not sure if I should write this out or just say it in person cause I am fucktarded terrible with words.

Couples counseling maybe?

also she lives with me has been for awhile

You and (more importantly her) need to understand it’s not about blame. It’s about compatibility and the love you two share. If she pulls the guilt-tripping card, ask her what she thinks this relationship even is anymore without intimacy.

Asexuality is weird. If you love her stick with it and realize sex isn't all that matters. Maybe its enough that you love each other and the sex can take a back seat. She probably felt like she needed to have sex to be loved

That's not op. It's that user who just discovered what a copypasta is and spams them daily.

Don't bother with "asexual" girls.

Plz don't do this OP. I basically did this with my ace ex and now i want to kill myself. But replace rape with sexual coercion. I'm not a monster, just a terrible person.

>sex isn't all that matters
It's literally what separates a couple from just friends.

Asexuality is a scheme.
There is a very small amount of people that are actually asexual. Most people that claim they are asexual, just do not like having sex with that person and or cheating on them.
I have been with a woman that is "asexual" with her husband but fucks me silly and is even down to do some of my more lewd fetishes.

asexuality does not occur naturally in species that rely on sex to reproduce
if she has genuinely lost her sex drive, its is being caused by something physiological and/or psychological, and she should seek the appropriate treatment from medical professionals
more likely is that she was never very attracted to you and used sex to "get you on the hook" and now feels that it is no longer necessary to keep you
>also she lives with me has been for awhile
and this is probably why she bothered with you in the first place
not trying to be an asshole, but ive been there. i know how it feels and it sucks. i recommend that you start planning your exit strategy

There's a scale of asexuality. Just because one isn't wired to need or want sex, doesn't mean they can't like it or be good at it. In fact, the two most passionate lovers I had were the best in bed but broke up with me because i demanded too much in bed. Turns out both are ace. Both found me physically attractive.

>being this deluded.

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Nah. I don't take relaxing non sexual baths with the homies

That is a load of shit.
Those 2 "passionate lovers" probably jsut lost interest in you.
I have seen real asexuals and thye have no interest in sex. There is no scale. You are either asexual or you are one of those modernday snowflakes that claim they are asexual so they can pick who they want to fuck and use asexuality as an excuse to those they don't.

>it's literally all that seperate a couple from just friends
what the fuck? no it isn't.

there's couples out there that don't have sex until their married. there's friends out there who fuck all the time and aren't romantically interested.

ROMANCE is what separates a couple from a friendship. Not sex.

>there's couples out there that don't have sex until their married. there's friends out there who fuck all the time and aren't romantically interested.
Both of those groups have severe mental problems.

Women can love and be monogamous and faithful without having sex because they don't crave physical release for seratonin bursts like men do. They are easily entertained by everything else around them other than other people's bodies. Learn how to see people on the social hierarchy and your place on it, once you do this you'll be more preoccupied with getting a "better" woman and she'll desire you more.

Basically just try to better yourself as a person. Focus on hobbies and family and friends and shit.

It sounds like you may have gotten too into your fantasy OP and have scarred your mate when it comes to sex.

While there really is no cure to this your best bet is to either
>Comfort this woman the rest of your life, feeling inadequate and depressed
or
>Find someone else. Sex is now not as important to her as it is to you thus she needs to be open to the fact that you need to find satisfaction in another.

I'm sorry OP, when it comes to this there is no cure-all, maybe being Polyandrous is your best move if you want to stay with her.

>Is it possible for a negative sexual experience to cause her to act this way
Yes that's why I said you broke her, it could be only you or also you brought something back up. The abrupt change happened, its definitely partly you otherwise you wouldn't be dealing with it when you weren't with her at first, maybe all you.
>Do something we've never done before.
>She changes right after.
>I wonder why she changed, definitely not that because I don't want it to be.
That you.

>Every time I bring it up she gets very emotional I can’t even bring up the dog without her bursting into treats.
Is perfection, not typo.

He said the grill is 15/10

OP Here
we're gonna have a talk
just got off work, gotta get food.
She actually brought it up and said I seemed depressed.

wish me luck.
will report back with results.

One question; is she a feminist?

She is not

just finished talk.
We decided to seek out a therapist/mediator to reach a resolution.
She said she just doesn't hold sex to a high degree like others and so we agreed to learn each others points of validation.

we have a mutual friend who is a therapist so we are gonna check that route out.

thanks to all you dudes for def giving me some insight. I truly appreciate it and it helped me bring up valid points.

Same thing happened to me bro.. I was left alone while she found a new flavor who let her down like I said he would. I took all that negative energy and turned it positive,,, started writing songs for her n shi making bracelets for her u know sentimental shi girls like. She comes crawling back mailing me cds ( long dist. yes) filled with "take me back" songs and shi, women like a roller coaster, if she aight up she down.