So I'm 19 and I want to have a traditional family and have like 5 kids and my bf is pressuring me to not go to school for 6 years because he wants to start early (he's 23) and he thinks as long as we build a house on our own and have everything paid off we can just live off his 90k a year once we're married. Should I or shouldn't I at least get an associates in case shtf and also how do I find a job with little schooling that would pay enough to support kids and also how do I find a job if I don't even know my passion outside of helping others? Before helping him I wanted to be a neonatal nurse but now I just don't know where to go or what to do
I'm scared for my future, user
Go to fucking school first, don't trust anyone who tries to prevent you from getting an education. Find your own success before getting yourself caught up in a family. Both of my parents gave up on an education when they had me and are now struggling romantically and financially. Go to school before having any fucking kids.
How long have you been with your bf user?
An associates in what?
>how do I find a job with little schooling that would pay enough to support kids
You have to get an undesirable job, school bus driver, construction, truck driver. All love hiring women but beware of sexual harassment as a bus driver.
>if I don't even know my passion outside of helping others?
Maybe you should try and get a job that revolves around that. Retail, teaching, police, nurse, etc
Anyways, don't let your bf control your life user, you're far to young. I've met men who are capable of just going off and doing their own thing and doing it well but those men were all "Chad," intelligent, handsome, passionate, charismatic men. Also how old is your bf?
I've been with him for a year now. He's 23 and doesn't want to wait for me to finish school. He says he has everything covered but I just don't know. He was already in the mindset to marry when we first met because he had just broken up with a girl who cheated on him 2 months before he planned to propose..
If you want to be happy with lots of kids you'll need lots of time and money to live comfortably. If not you'll have to make lots of budget cuts and deprive yourself of too many things which will leave you stressed and unhappy. If you work too much you won't be able to properly focus on your children, yourself, and your marriage which will also leave you stressed and miserable.
Lots of kids is a good thing if you have the time and leisure to deal with it, not if you'll have to divide what little time you have between them and work and that's a recipe for disaster. Same with the money.
Fuck college. Do you think Eminem became a success by going to college? Learn to rap and you'll be making a lot of money on tv
Yikes. He’s trying to use you as a fix for the disappoitment from his previous relationship. Get a degree, this way you’ll just end up alone and poor with your five kids when your future husband realises he’s still a child. People don’t respect marriage anymore the way they used to, so you can’t have your whole life depend on just that.
>settling down at 19
>5 kids on 90k a year
>doesn’t support you going to school
>only been in the relationship for a year
Yeah there’s a ton of redflags here
There's many obvious red flags in your bf, you should be scared. He can't have everything covered at 23. It sounds like he's lying to you.
>He was already in the mindset to marry when we first met because he had just broken up with a girl
Don't you see how wrong this is? He got together with you to revenge to another girl, not because he loves you. He sounds mentally abusive. Never breed with men like this. Get out while you can.
You should absolutely get education and be able to support yourself. If your bf doesn't accept it get a new bf.
everything makes sense when he talks about it though. I was scared at first but now it seems like he sees everything clearer than me