ITT: Ask The Opposite Gender Anything

Why is it every girl I try to date only tries to use me for free food and a ride? I cut them out of course but it happens a lot and I'm starting to think I attract shallow women.

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if he would be 'scared away' by a female friend confessing then he isn't interested in a romantic relationship to begin with and you aren't going to change his mind

Okay. But what about when I can't? Like at work? Both customers and colleagues have shown interest, and I can't wear headphones at work.

It'll help in public transport though

I love when girls wear long skirts, but my gf never does. Would it seem prudish if I bought one for her, given that she usually wears short-shorts or tight jeans

Guys: how true is it that men are generally attracted on some level to most women they know?

Online dating is the wrong way to meet a girlfriend dude.

Why not pick one out and suggest she try it on next time you're out shopping together, instead of doing the usual guy thing where you go off to find the Boyfriend Seat?

Guys, and people in general usually, are only friends with people they find moderately attractive. So yes, but not in the same way like jumping at a chance to fuck.

if you work in a customer facing service job I really feel for you. Your job is to be nice to them, but idiot men see that as a sexual signal.

Coworkers have no such excuse. Politely tell them you wish to be left alone and inform your manager or HR if they don't leave you alone. I don't know about the retail or food services sectors, but in the corporate world men learn real fast that women are in the office for the same reason as the men, and that the consequences for harassing other employees can be very severe.

Blowjob on a first date? I'd be down for actual sex since I have moral issues with swallowing cum.

So how do I tell him?

Not really
I can find someone legitimately funny and stuff and have zero sexual attraction to them. Secondly i can be sexually attracted to girl and flirt with her but i couldnt care less for her because of reasons and its just mutual fun to have.

I can find a lot of girls attractive, but theres only handfull that i find actually beautifull or ones i would chase.

Show don't tell applies. You can show a guy you're interested without saying the words. Hold his hand or kiss him, that will make it as plain as it gets.

It's not that confessions scare people off so much as they highlight the disparity between two people's feelings, and you get turned down on the principle of it more than anything else.

>meet girl on tinder
>her responses are always some few hours apart
>go on a date
>date goes well
>she seems down for another one
>still responds hours apart
Understandable - she probably turned off notifications because too many messages and responds only when opening the app.
>move on to SMS
>still responds after hours
Can anyone explain this to me? How is that possible? I know she's got her phone on her so it's kinda weird to respond after so much time, isn't it?

>how do I tell him
the same advice that would be given to a guy: just do it

>hey user I really want to let you know that I've had feeling for you for a while. Would you like to go out sometime?

either he will accept, or he won't, but I seriously doubt he will react really negatively and respond with something like "no way fag"

Yeah, I don't have a problem with that
My question is if she'll see it as me trying to push more conservative dress standards on her

people don't always respond to texts right away when they are busy, and some people just like time to think about their response rather than being put on the spot. Don't read too much into it

Well how far do you want her to go with it? If it's just every now and then, that shouldn't be an issue. If you're expecting her to wear them daily, then it is

I think that varies from person to person, but for me my female friends usually just have similar hobbies, or we happened to share classes back in school.

Of those there was only one I was actually attracted to. If my other schoolmates were to come out that they had a thing for me I'd be kind of weirded out since I never really saw them that way.

Okay, but hours? I could understand like half an hour but fucking 4-8 hours is pretty damn long

>I have moral issues with swallowing cum

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I have a full time job and a life to live. Taking hours to respond is not that long.

Maybe this is just me, but I always keep my phone on silent and never pull it out during work. If I have people to reply to, I do it while on break or when I'm done for the day

I don't know if that's true. I'm friends with some people I definitely don't want to see naked.

Is it normal for girls to send selfies to male friends they consider close but not attracted to?

I tried playing it off, but she seemed kind of upset that I didn't react more taken with them initially.

Fair enough, but how about AFTER the work? Or even on weekends? Because that's when she does it. I mean shit, I might have OCD but I legitimately feel bad if I leave people without a response for longer than 30 minutes.

some people are just really into selfies

not everyone is glued to their phone all the time even if they carry it with them

I just think they're more attractive than jeans on a woman

After work and on weekends, I do other stuff. A lot of that involves socialising with people in person and it'd be rude to spend that time texting.

>not everyone is glued to their phone all the time even if they carry it with them
I'm not glued to my phone, but whenever I feel vibration, I just take a look at the notification and then respond like a good boy. I mean I thought that's just a common courtesy not to keep people waiting for a response?

Shit, on one hand I'm not even mad at her approach because that way we don't really run out of things to talk about if our conversation is spread over such long time, but on another hand it's kinda hard to keep remembering what you're even discussing.

Come on, you're not doing this 24/7 right? I suppose in the evening or whatever you could find some time to commit to a conversation with someone?

If this makes you feel any better; I purposefully delay my responses by a few hours if it's not urgent so it doesn't look like I'm hooked to my phone

Some people seem to just take selfies when they're bored. I have a friend who randomly sends me one pretty much every day and I'm 100% sure she's not attracted to me, nor I'm to her. Bitches be crazy yo.

>so it doesn't look like I'm hooked to my phone
For what purpose?

>Come on, you're not doing this 24/7 right? I suppose in the evening or whatever you could find some time to commit to a conversation with someone?
A lot of the time, when I have time to just relax, I don't really feel like engaging with people via texting.

Honestly, I don't really spend much time just sitting and texting people, and I don't know many people who do.

I had this happen by a girl that WAS attracted to me and it was her way of showing it. Man I miss this actually. I wish all girls did it because it gives me a subject to discuss and makes me feel better really.

Some girls are giving signs like that. They'll go to insane lengths to not straight up show their interest and will always balance in that weird way. I bet if you asked her why she's doing it, she'd say some shit like "oh I dunno". I'd say sending selfies is a sign of interest in a guy, just the same as giving him more attention than others or the ultimate "let me know if you got home safely".

If you're interested in her then this is your best chance to take a step forward.

My top three guesses: thought she did, forgot she was supposed to and felt bad that she didn't, or is leading you on. Alternatively she did and there's some kind of technical difficulty.

Not a dude, but I'll answer this one anyway: Flirt, simple body-language tricks like mirroring him (lean in when he does, etc), touching (his hands, arm, shoulder; hugs, or leaning into him if you're seated next to him; a kiss on the cheek or mouth).

It's time to set some kind of litmus test, user. Figure out what matters to you, even if it's "I don't want to be used for my money," and how to test for those qualities in a woman. Used to taking women to fancy restaurants and are frustrated when they fuck off after they've got a belly full of good food? Opt for a cheap adventure-style date instead, even if it's just something completely silly as walking around a park, or taking a hike, or riding the bus around your town for awhile (and for the fast food you find least objectionable).

If she can do that, she's not necessarily in it for free food, your money, but might still be in it for your dick.

I'd ask her about what she feels about skirts, then start with one on the shorter end (mid-thigh, maybe). Make it obvious you're more into her when she wears longer skirts, just giving her a long-skirt may be taken as "you dress like a whore."

May not be comfortable with the technology, may be busy with things other than her phone and have it on silent, or is trying not to appear desperate.

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>women have it easy, don’t go through sacrifices like men
>problems of teenage girls don’t matter
Just listened to At Seventeen, fuck I was wrong. Who else here likes this song?

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Also ladies tell sad stories from Highschool.

How do i sext /get nudes

girl I'm seeing right now gets so wet during sex that I do not feel any kind of friction anymore and I have a tough time ejaculating myself

any advice?

Less foreplay and just go straight for it. I've been there bro, foreplay can cause too much excitement.

>May not be comfortable with the technology
Makes no sense to me.

>may be busy with things other than her phone
All the time, even on evenings and weekends all day?

>or is trying not to appear desperate
How is responding to me within reasonable time considered desperate?

Not him but then she gets too tight and friction is giving me pain actually...

Just talk about sex for a bit but start in a normal way, like maybe discuss sexual experience and what kind of stuff she likes then tell her what you would do to her, and what you WILL do to her once you meet. Then ask her if she's already touching herself and if she is then just straight up tell her to send you pics so that you can join in on the fun. If she's horny, she won't even ask any questions and will straight up give you pics.

I was told that "for a while" is the killer. THAT will scare him away more than anything. Am I wrong?

It's wasted sperm, dude.

That's what I figured. Body language will get the message through.

I said less foreplay, not none.

>It's wasted sperm, dude.
So do you only have sex for the purpose of procreation?

I don't know, user with most girls once they get wet it's over. I mean I can totally feel her vagina but really only the... end of it? Shit, it's hard to explain because I actually can cum but I don't feel the vagina the same way I feel, say, my hand when masturbating.

Then again, I have a fucking pencil dick and it's quite heavily bent so, there's that...

Do you deathgrip, user?

>with most girls once they get wet it's over
You've death gripped dude. It's not a problem of women being too wet, it's you expecting a vice grip vagina. Stop jacking off for a few weeks.

I have no issue with peen-in-vag with a condom. I oppose oral and anal.

Not at all.

But I haven't deathgripped, user. I've always just utilized my foreskin for the texture and never went too hard on my cock.

>Stop jacking off for a few weeks.
I'll just come faster, but not feel anything more really. Seriously, it's as if my dick knows what's going on when having sex and feels everything and knows when to cum but somehow doesn't give me the pleasure.

It's not even about just the vaginas. I literally cannot come from a blowjob.

>I literally cannot come from a blowjob.
I'm the original user from and I exactly the same problem. Have never been able to cum from a BJ

I'm the user you responded to. Do you also have trouble even feeling anything when she blows you?

Because I literally can't feel shit when she's doing it. I've had multiple girls try and it just doesn't fucking work for me. Like seriously it sucks when they clearly try their best and I just lay there and wait until she gives up so that I can do other shit.

Instead of spazzing about it, why not ask her?

I totally would but I feel like it'll come out as some sort of an attack on her and that's the last thing I want to do. I genuinely like this girl and she seems really nice, so I don't want to fuck that up by asking some stupid question.

Okay i get that. However, what do i even preface with? Just straight up "oh man i was fucking this girl one time etc."

yep, pretty much. I've had my cock go flaccid again while she was trying to blow me, quite a humiliating experience for both of us.

Not like I have any trouble with getting or maintaining a boner otherwise.

I mean she already knows I'm into her, but she's in a relationship. That and New Jersey is not an easy drive from Texas.

I had sort of been more explicit about it a few months ago, and while she was initially pretty receptive she eventually backed off. We decided to take a few days texting off, and afterward she said she thought we were just messing around.

I kinda figured that things would cool down, but it sort of feels like the opposite is happening. Though I think I might just be looking into it too much.

>I oppose oral
Like, sperm or oral generally

So ask it off-hand, like it isn't bothering you, or with a heaping helping of humor.

Hard to say. You just gotta get into that subject naturally. Like maybe somehow progress from past relationships into how you miss cuddling and all AND sex. And then something about what you think about sex in relationships. Just try to make it sound natural, reasonable, not judging and overall just like you're a fun person to do it with and think nothing wrong of sex and playing around with it. Just don't be that guy that immediately goes "ayy gurl I'm hard right now so gib pics and I'll send u my cock"

Shit, I'm not alone with that then. You got a pencil dick by any chance? Do you have a foreskin? Did you ever have phimosis? How sensitive is your penis head?

I honestly have no idea how can I phrase it that way. I suppose I could attempt it if we manage to meet again but I just can't see how can I ask her over text. I suppose it doesn't really bother me all that much, just makes me wonder. Mostly about whether she's actually interested in me.

To be honest I fucking hate texting myself and I'd way prefer to just give her a call in the evening.

>soo what's up with you sending me selfies all the time?
Send her this.

I work at a supermarket and a customer was clearly flirting with me. How should I answer her next time I see her? Should I just give her my number with the bill?

>guys apparently think this ugly scar on my neck is a super good smalltalk topic
>few days ago a guy snapped at me for "leading him on"
Autistic sperglords.

There isn't much you can do I am afraid. With the current mentality these kinds of guys have, you are "obligated" to talk to ALL of them, and get to know ALL of them, and always respond if they try to get in contact with you. They are putting effort into talking to you, and "caring" about you, so you have to put effort back into them.

I'm sorry you are in the position, and there is unfortunately very little you can do. Just like you can't really stop a drunk from making noise and being a nuisance, you can't stop these mentally ill people from being assholes. I think the best you can do is just try to learn that hurting them is okay. You are not in a situation where you should be beating yourself up over what a handful of retards do.

>Body language will get the message through.

Please don't misunderstand me. I've been fortunate enough to see firsthand some of the stupid things that women do thinking it's an obvious hint, and I want to tell you that body language most certainly will not get your message across by itself.

I've said it in a previous thread but I will say it again:

Hinting will get you nowhere because no matter what you do a guy will be able to talk himself out of thinking that you're interested.

You will need to make yourself more plain than that. Hold handing being the minimum.

Just end the conversation in the middle next time and say something like "Haha alright sorry but I gotta bail now because I'm kind of in a rush but if you'd like to chat some more maybe we could grab a coffee sometime?"

>guys apparently think this ugly scar on my neck is a super good smalltalk topic
How the fuck does anyone think that.

That's not a question, just what the actual fuck is wrong with people who see nasty wounds likely connected to a severe trauma, and think "I know! I'll initiate a conservation about that!"

Just... Holy shit. That's some next level autism.

Literally nothing wrong with this subject desu.

Fug I am the same lads. Blowjobs feel warm and that's about it, vag feels about the same. Even had the same thing of losing an erection during a blowjob because it doesn't feel like anything.

Can't even test out whether or not it's a death grip or over-masturbation or porn addiction kind of problem because it has damaged my interest in pursuing women to the point where I don't try because I don't want to succeed and then just keep having this problem.

>uncut, no phimosis, head is moderately sensitive I guess but it's not like I can't touch it or anything

>if you work in a customer facing service job I really feel for you.
Unfortunately... And the worst part is I am a consultant, so whenever I am done with a customer, they feel like they can just take immediate contact to me and ask me personal questions. It's horrible.

I would really like to not involve HR, and I just feel like a terrible person if I start acting like I might report them... Maybe I should just quit or give myself an extended break somehow.

I can't make myself do that. I already hate myself for feeling like I have to turn them away without a chance. I wish I could just think otherwise, but I just can't. I gnaws at me for hours whenever I felt like I've hurt someone. And even if some of them are just terrible people, what about those that aren't?

I suppose it's an obvious topic... I am not good at Smalltalk either, I just wish they would talk about anything but that stupid scar. Even feels like I am getting more attention now that I have it, but that could just be my perception of things.

Before I post anything here I want you guys to know that you are about to be trolled by the king of all trolls!

>Literally nothing wrong with asking that nervous looking girl about an injury that might as well have been lethal, and has left a large visible scar.
Autism/10

If you are talking with her and she seems chipper and in a good mood, sure, but that's not a topic that will EVER be received with positive responses, especially not if it is people she hardly knows.

I've had phimosis but am uncut. Head is somewhat sensitive but not in terms of making my dick tingly and orgasmic. Strangely enough it's the foreskin that feels the best in terms of sexual pleasure.

It's not autism. People who get overly offended about shit like this are the worst. It's part of them and part of their life, so it's 100% normal to ask about things that just catch attention. Sure, if someone says they don't want to talk about it and you keep nagging them then it's annoying but just asking about it isn't autistic. In fact, sharing stories like that introduces trust and intimacy. That's a good thing.

Again, wasted sperm.

If I were to lube up/wet the head and rub it gently it has plenty of sensation. I should say that I did once get a bj from a girl who knew what she was doing and there was a slight amount of sensation.

The only thought I've had is that it may be related to some kind of porn addiction where my ability to orgasm has become so intertwined with the visual aspect of watching that it _doing_ doesn't have the same appeal, especially since all of my sexual experiences have been at night and in dark places where there isn't much to see in the first place.

I feel like if I could just do it once successfully then my anxiety about it would lessen to the point where it stopped being a self-perpetuating problem.

How is it wasted?

How is it wasted in a blowjob but sex with a condom is not wasting it?

Porn can't be the issue. I've fucked girls I found very attractive and did it in decent light so the visual aspect was there. No anxiety or anything either.

Wouldn't you rather have that sperm be used to create a new life?

>You got a pencil dick by any chance?
nah, fairly averge girth and length

>In fact, sharing stories like that introduces trust and intimacy
You don't want to build trust and intimacy with someone random you meet on public transportation.

It's fine to ask if you know the person and you feel you two are comfortable enough to ask about it, but you don't ask a God damn stranger to tell their story about their mortal injury.

Not really. In fact at this point of my life I'm doing my absolute best to not have it create a new life.

Average, so how much? In centimeters if possible (I'm a europoor).

>You don't want to build trust and intimacy with someone random you meet on public transportation.
Unless... you do? I mean if it's a date or something then what's wrong with that question?

>you don't ask a God damn stranger to tell their story about their mortal injury.
I don't know. Some people wear their scars like a badge really. Every scar carries a story and some people genuinely like telling those stories. I suppose there is a difference in a story of domestic abuse and fighting a bear, but still - you get the idea.

>I mean if it's a date or something then what's wrong with that question
Read the original post chain. It's never a date, and if you consider meeting a random girl on the train a "date" you have some serious issues with how you view women. Sure, if it was dates, it could be a fair conversation topic, but then you've already established that you are both interested in getting to know each other. That isn't the case here.

>Some people wear their scars like a badge really.
Men do. Maybe girls share these stories with each other, but I have never met a girl who was just waiting for an opportunity to tell everybody about how she got a scar.

And most women are super conscious about their appearance. A scar on the neck, a hard to conceal part of the body, "ruins her beauty", and generally makes confidence drop like a rock.

Does your crush know you think like this?

>Maybe I should just quit or give myself an extended break somehow.
If you can afford it, you really should. How old are you? Some places have additional support for younger people.

And get yourself some professional help if you aren't already. It won't get better by staying alone inside all day. At least get some help from family and friends if you can.

Can't do anything about the scar, I assume, without making it look like you are hiding something?

If you think it is too soon for a blowjob, then it is too soon to tell him you love him.

I'd rather have peen-in-vag sex on first date.

But it is not wasted.
If a girl spits it out, it means she likes you.
If she swallows, she loves you, if she gurgles, she is exaggerating and you need to be careful.

Most people just want sexual tension on the first date.
But my point is that you need to slow down and let him feel anything before you just spill it all out on him.

Is it possible to get some kind of proof of being sterile?

I am going out with this guy, and on the third date he joked about sex, before saying he didn't remember condoms anyway. So I revealed I am sterile. It's usually a sore subject to guys I go out with, but his reaction was just disbelief. He wanted proof. He said that it sounded oddly convenient, but he couldn't believe it.

Is this something a doctor can help provide? I am literally missing my ovaries, no periods, nothing, and doctors have told me numerous times that it is impossible to fix it for me unless we get significant medicinal developments in that area.

I love unprotected sex (when I know the guy is STD free), and I'd like to avoid condoms if possible.