ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

virgin > couple of guys > a shit-load of guys

Virgin is preferable because I'd get off to the idea of being the first one, also, I don't mind clingy girls. Couple of guys is perfectly fine and doesn't bother me. If she slept with loads of guys (maybe 8+ or something), then it's a red flag and I'd have to think about it and probe around because I don't want to be easily replaced and cheated on.

Regarding experience, a willingless to try and learn is what counts the most.

id love to have virgin gf so we could have first time togheter
probably wont happen but yeah
what can you do

>have female friend who is a virgin
>I'm also a virgin
>she asks me if guys mind virgin girls
>I say no
>she says that she wouldn't want to sleep with a male virgin, though

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I dated both virigns and non virgins, she has a point.

Hey guys and gals what signs should I look after to know if a girl is interested in me besides directly admitting it?

its like just after graduating getting into the job market.
>We only take people with experience
>Can't get that experience because they don't want someone without it.

Honestly, I have no problems dating ""late"" in life virgin. I dated two guys after breaking up with my first bf, both of them were virgins at 22-25. Both of them were cunts.
Insecure, jealous, would keep looking for a girl even if we were together, clearly using me just to lose it.
I really liked these dudes. Like, a lot. But fuck me if I'm ever touching a virgin with a ten feet pole.

Now maybe you're the kindest human being on earth, and I'm sorry. But really, virgins are a whole thing.

Is a little jealousy alright? Not full blown crazy jealousy, but small comments here and there to prove to her she's worth caring about.

As long as you aren't too much of a cunt about it, yes.
I like when my bf is a little jealous, especially if he fucks me like he owns me afterwards.

Depends on the girl, but often yes.

By little bit, I mean just a comment or a question, not making a scene, not accusing her of anything, no interrogation, etc. Just a little bit of "who's that guy?"

Right now, at least 1 previous partner is required.

But I am 36, and when I last dealt with a virgin it was a train wreck. Not doing that again.

It's kinda the same with girls who slept around a lot. Some of them are alright girls who just happend to have a lot of sex, but usually there's some sort of issues involved and you'll end up sticking dick in crazy.

Guys - I've been told that if I want a man to respect me, I need to not be too kinky when we fuck.

Is this any true?

How do I make myself genuinely believe there are girls who want to be with me? There are clearly girls attracted to me

What's your opinion on the idea that women only go for douchebags?

Because the Chads are all uncivilized meatheads and they all have girlfriends whereas the sensitive types are generally single. And by the sensitive type I don't mean the easily offended, snide remark type of dude, but the dudes who are in touch with their emotions and treat women with dignity and respect.

I would honestly prefer a girl who has had a couple of partners

you just have to take a risk and be prepared to fail, if things don't work I promise you won't die...

If it's your partner go for it.
If not then yeah chances are you won't gain much respect.

>I'd wager any guy who looks disappointed is that way because he wants to just smash and be casual, but is afraid that a virgin would get clingy and he's not willing to commit
Oh... Glad I broke it off then. I would like to lose the V card, but not to someone who just want to have sex.

That's the gist I get from here, yeah, it just seems to be the opposite in real life.

>id love to have virgin gf so we could have first time togheter
Might be age difference means something then. I am 31, so I suppose most people my age has long since passed that.

I'll admit, I would probably prefer a guy who at least didn't seem too afraid of messing up (virgin or not). I don't expect my first time to be amazing, I'd just prefer that it didn't feel like we're 15 year olds experimenting. I can't really blame guys for not being too keen on my lack of experience, since I'll likely be really terrible at first, and require a lot of patience.

Damn, I can almost imagine you being one of the guys I have even on dates with. I feel like I really messed up by not putting effort into this before now...

Life is a lot more complicated than that. "Chads" and "sensitive dudes" basically don't exist, most people stand somewhere in between.

My boyfriend looks like a Chad, never had issues finding girls to sleep with, he's a little bit arrogant and kind of an abrasive jerk, but he's also (by far) the most sensitive and romantic guy I've ever been with, treats me like a princess and is an amazing, supportive boyfriend. We've been together for 3 years, he's crazy loyal.

I dated a guy who was "sensitive and treated me with respect" before him, and he cheated on me twice. And beated me once when I implied that I wasn't fine with something he was doing. And he was the kind of guy who'd talk to all his female friends about how it was important to him to respect me and love me, brought me flowers.

Life is more complicated than that. People don't fit into stereotypes.

>Because the Chads are all uncivilized meatheads and they all have girlfriends whereas the sensitive types are generally single. And by the sensitive type I don't mean the easily offended, snide remark type of dude, but the dudes who are in touch with their emotions and treat women with dignity and respect.
I haven't really noticed this trend. In my circle of acquaintances, the silent weirdos and impolite retards are the ones who are single. Reasonably nice guys have gfs. My fiance himself is one of the kindest and most sensitive people I know. Hell, I often talk him into being more assertive because he's kind to the point that people take advantage of him.

Thank you for answering my question. I guess most people put on a facade when they're in public and only in a relationship will they show their true self.

>I would like to lose the V card, but not to someone who just want to have sex.
I'm the one you replied to and I just want to say, I had in the past turned someone down for just that reason.
Not that I was looking to smash and dash, but it felt like she was asking if we would be together forever and I sure as hell didn't know that for a fact about someone I had seen for a month.
Bit soon for that level of commitment

Long term bf, yes.

So you've never heard of the 20:80 rule? 20% of men sleep with 80% of women...and they're the Chads.

That's not a thing. Roughly the same amount of women and men are getting laid.

How do you tell a guy that you want to get more physical, but not in a strictly sexual way? Like fighting/wrestling for fun? It sounds messed up to say it out loud.

I have heard of it, but it simply doesn't reflect the reality in my experience. Maybe it's true for dating sites or whatever, however when I go outside, all I see are couples. Couples which consist of mostly average people. In fact, women are often the ones who are more attractive than their counterparts, not the other way.

It applies to parties and hook-up culture. Marriage is separate.

since virgins were brought up, I'm a virgin guy in my early 30s currently in therapy to try to improve my life

Do I even have a chance with women anymore with that? Therapist says yes, but she obviously would so I don't stop making progress...

But you weren't originally talking about hook up culture and parties, you were talking about how all the nice sensitive guys are single and how the Chads have gfs. What are you even trying to say? Why are you jumping between different arguments?

Sure. Just try to be as normal as you can about it.

it's extremly weird for a girl to wrestle you in a non sexual way, i doubt i wouldnt consider it an approach
a punch or a kick ok, it's reasonable, but wrestle? asking for it
sure
most people dont give a fuck about virginity (be it as a good or bad mark)

>Not that I was looking to smash and dash, but it felt like she was asking if we would be together forever and I sure as hell didn't know that for a fact about someone I had seen for a month
I am not expecting neither myself nor any guy to know that within a month. I just at least want someone who is looking for the same. If it doesn't work out, that's too bad, but there is a difference between finding out we weren't a good match and breaking up because of that, and getting dumped because the other part was just looking for some casual sex.

Nonsense. Sex is sex, play and have your fun as much as you want. If I girl begged me to spit on her and call her a dirty whore during sex, I'd still respect her, it's just a game.

i would love to jokingly wrestle with a girl and cuddle

too bad it will probably never happen to me

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I just said "go for" which was nondescript. It includes both one night stands and short term relationships. Women seem to keep dating douchebags who who cheat, are verbally abusive and so on and all the gentlemen are left by their lonesome. It's a well known question in the mainstream media.

You said
>My fiance himself is one of the kindest and most sensitive people I know
When it comes to marriage it goes back to 1:1 pair bonding.

A girl who had a couple of shitty exes is the best. Makes me stand out and makes her appreciate having me. A virgin might always be wondering if she could do better.

Kek. Same thing my bf said.

I also spoke about the countless unengaged/unmarried couples I know and that all the weirdos/machos are single, but okay. It's obvious by this point you're not actually interested in a conversation; you just want someone to confirm your already existing worldview.

bear mode built like brick shithouse guys or lean cardio and some weights bodytypes?

pic related my absolute goal body and also someone i look up to.

>tfw sensitive on the inside but thick shell outside
let me out

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A-user what if I like chubby guys?

Can guys ever fall in love with a girl they knew while she used to be fat but became skinny? Or is her emotional image just printed in their mind based of the first time they saw her?

When I met my boyfriend I was 220 lbs. I'm 130 lbs now.
He looks at me like I'm the hottest shit ever and was crazy in love with me even when I was fat. I lost weight while being with him.

Don't worry.

If anything, I would rate her more. She proved some willpower by losing that weight. Maybe would be worried about a rebound in future. Unless it led to some heavy skin deformation I see no problem.

How should I go about explaining it's a just a recreational thing? Is it even possible without sounding crazy?

Chads are meatheads, but to say all the rest of men are equally as bad is not only offensive but it makes me wonder if you prefer women.

Chads don't exist.

No, it's not impossible. I did it with a few girls in past, but I do same with many guys too. I did mma in past and liked to "play" with friends (totally non serious, no strength involved, I'm 60kg anyway so not that much danger of too much output). I think I did it to a couple gf of friends (with them present so no misunderstanding) and with my gf. But if you are into that maybe you should just join some grappling classes. I can't imagine a grappling session with a female friend not ending with some sexuality involved, even if one sided. It's A LOT of body contact, there was a girl in those mma classes and I didn't really feel at ease grappling with her.

how chubby were talking here
carefull audio aids
youtu.be/xNBgbbnPGUg

i have some input on this one
i seem to value face far more than if girl has too much fat (extremes obviously still apply, and usually if you are extremely overweight you have other issues, its a red flag basically)

So tehres this chick at my workplace, she lost plenty of weight, but i dont really like her face, she looks better and i have respect to her for breaking out of her shitty habits and proving everyone wrong. But im just not into her. She calls me honey and shit but we are just friends.

On other hand, theres this overweight girl working as cashier in store nearby, but she has really nice unique face, if she would lose weight she would be 9/10 EASY (she used to have mole on face but had it removed now its just small scar, she was probably very insecure about it)
She always smiles to me with that sly look. If i would be with her and she lost weight (which is easily done with fasting, i have experience in weight loss and im pretty good at managing my weight) i would be afraid she would leave me for someoen better looking than me.

Third side, my "crush" used to have tiny bit of fat on her, but she has heavenly looking face and cutest smile imaginable and is somewhat quirky / weird / awkward. She lost around 10kg and now her body doesnt look so good, since shes sedentary so her butt is flat as pancake, whereas before those pants were filled out.

Sure, she can workout and get those glutes going but she isnt willing to i thin, she mentioned once she hates exercise, which was kinda sad for me because its one thing that i have going for me.

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Im autistic as hell and cant differ between a normal nice behavior and a flirt.

>how chubby were talking here
Bf is muscular but kinda chubby. He's about 30 lbs fatter than when he was ripped.
Hottest guy I've ever seen, want to fuck him like crazy every time I see him.

Hadn't thought of it like that. I suppose it makes sense.

I just don't want to date and have sex with some random guy before I really start trying to find the one.

I call bullshit.
You'll need to provide sources for this.

>first date being arranged with a guy
>He wants to go to a fitness center together
Really...? Is this some Jow Forumsguy?

I go to the gym already, but that's probably the least romantic date I can think of.

good for both of you
Of course there are tastes and preferences like in op message. Just like men who will prefer thicc or skinny chicks

Im 6'2" and kinda awkward body proportions (somewhat lanky) and i want to gain more weight (im 86kg, and for my height people recommended 105kg weight class for powerlifting competition)

And thats a whole lot of muscle to gain.
Im not lean rn, i have pretty big Vtaper but i want to reach Eric Bugenhagen mode (Which might, or might not be achieveable naturally but im not advanced enough to take drugs yet)

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Maybe wants to show off his lifts. Outlif him and watch life fade away from his eyes.
Wouldn't think a climbing training followed by something to eat and a beer would be that bad of a date anyway.

I'm not super into the competitive side of it. It's just a really good stress reliever for me, gives a feeling of control and all that. Is there an officially recognized organization that offers classes or something?

>gives a feeling of control
You never really tried grappling, did you? That's the thing you really never experience. Also, this thing about asserting your dominance with it smells of a real asshole attitude. Google "mma/bjj gym in [your hometown]" and go get a taste.

I really like the way he looks. He's around your height, he was pretty lean and about 195 lbs. I didn't really like it, but heh. Now he's about 225 lbs and I think he looks amazing.

I might be fucking up the weight to be honest. I think he's around 225 now because he was joking he was "as fat as me when I was fat" the other day and he knows I was 225 lbs.
Obviously 225 lbs look better on that mountain of a man than they did on me.

Should I ask her out?

I decided to sign up for yet another dating site.
But this one show my weight.
As I am overweight, should I just wait on using the site until I have lost more weight?
80% of women here are fit, so I do not have the option to just ask the fat girls out.
Am I making this too big a deal?

Fell in love with flatmate, bein flirty and stuff for 2 month, i got anxious because afraid to get hurt: So I did distance/lie to him because he was close to find out that I have depression(never told anyone)
Still got strong feelings, seemed like not that much changed between us but, sometimes he got mean, declined my offers to go somewhere even though wasn't meant romantically at all. This got more and more till I stopped inviting him cause I couldnt stand the rejection anymore.
Still feel so much and he is being nice and stuff sometimes.This is going on for 6 month. In 2 weeks He will be going to live inanother country.

I really adore him if not bf than i really would like him as friend. I dont know how to adress it he is locked in his room all day and doesnt want to go anywhere.
Is that all a sign to tell me, he doesnt want contact with me afterwards, or should I still try to speak with him.
And how should I tell him risking making it awkward for us and losse the chance to be friend with him.

yeah sounds reasonable if hes lifting hard

for example this is 230lbs guy with really good genetics, lifting for almost 2 decades
Back like this my actual dream

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How overweight are you?

95 kg/XXL

That's muscular as fuck.

He's a LOT smaller than that. And a lot more chill about lifting weights than he used to be. He just got fatter.
He said he wants to go back to 210 before next year, which is kinda reasonable.

How long have you been lifting for?

And how tall you are, user?

What do you mean? Like I said, I don't mean competitively. It's always just been trying different holds and stretches I've seen done in instructional videos because it's interesting to me. My friends who let me try have no idea how it works and are just humoring me.
I get it's a shitty reason, but it's not necessarily about dominating the other person. It's physically exhausting and at least for a moment I've got a handle on what's happening next, so it's satisfying after a long day.

I just want to figure out how to best explain that to a guy I'm close to with, without spilling my guts about it.

height? weight alone tell us nothing.

Depends again on how overweight you are and how it looks on you, not all girls look for /fit guys.
But then if you are on a shallow dating website, I guess it does matter more.
I mean you will have your weight on there but also your photos. If you look handsome on the photos, then they wont pay that much attention to the number undernath it.

you should fast motherfucker and take control of your life

we should both

he probably got very confused about what are your intentions. Bringing it up for him now that hes leaving would be bitch move to be honest.

You will basically put him in very awkward situation of "damned if do or dont"

2 years, i dont have amazing aesthetics genetics like that guy though
and hes strong as motherfk
youtube.com/watch?v=iEVDduB2DzQ

Some people will say hes roiding but i have reasons to believe hes natural

Most people grapple as amateurs, they don't want to be professionals. Go to the gym and stop being an autist.

I have a question regarding the FAQ.
There was this girl that, initially, wasn't interested in me at all
But now, we've been together for a couple of months
What if i've had just given up back then?

Virgin.

Boyfriend and I have formal dinner to go to for his work.
I don't usually wear make up and my boyfriend dislikes make up a whole lot, but I normally would wear it to more formal events.

I'm really worried my boyfriend will mind and find me less attractive. Am I being unreasonable?

>implying there are good advices here

176cm.
I am working on reducing it. Currently I shed 1-2kg/week, but I don't know how long I can do that.
I lost control of my weight because I changed careers and went from being active all day to an office job where I worked all the time.
Change is hard and it takes time.

>I just don't want to date and have sex with some random guy before I really start trying to find the one.

You are right about this. Feels so much more romantic to lose your virginity to the right one.

And I say that as a guy who regrets losing his virginity to the wrong girl.

Well maybe in a similar situation like

make it minimal and he wont even notice
apply same makeup few days before and ask his opinion
Also, depends on your skill on doing it, ive seen chicks with absolutely horryfying makeup and actually going out with it, and they dont see any issue.

So yeah hard to say

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stop fucking eating fatty

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It does not look amazing. I have the belly of a pregnant lady and a second chin.
A friend's wife just gave birth and she was never as big as me.
It is not ideal.

I don't think I'm horrible at make up. Given, I use really basic things (normally go for eyeliner, mascara, lipstick) with a very light and natural base so there's not much to fuck up either.

It's definitely noticeable because of the lipstick and eyeliner, but I also will wear my hair up, wear heels and a nice dress and it'd feel wrong to not wear make up. I don't know.

I need to stay awake and alert at my work.

I’m sure he won’t mind if it’s just for the one night. I hate make up too but like if I have to wear it I will.

As a incel, thanks for saying it
I actually had some good opportunities to lose virginity but never was into it.
Now that i have better chance of attracting girl I AM also attracted to, since now i actually give value to some
And yeah im 190lbs ish rn
Working on strength numbers in gym and i want to gain weight. Eating one big ass meal a day with occassional 48 / 72h fasts for health benefits

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you wont lose any of that if you are doing it correctly

t. did 200kg deadlifts at gym after not eating for 4 days and i work physical job on top of it

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If there were multiple guys you told to that you are a virgin, that means you didn't fuck any of them. That's probably the source of disappointment, not the virginity.

But that's the problem, I don't have a physical job anymore. I do research from an office. I can easily stay awake when I work with my hands, but reviewing papers makes me fall asleep if I don't eat right.