ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

I think communication would be the hardest part since I can’t hear or speak outside of ASL.
That is a good idea but I’m not sure how to find guys who know ASL, much less approach them.

Does your school offer an ASL course?

I think so? I didn’t sign up for it though. Oh, are you implying that I should try and meet guys through that?

Looks like it. But do you really want sloppy triples at this point?

I would assume. There would be like everyone who knows ASL right there

Hahahaha of course! Now that you know a place it's time to think how to approach.

Girl I messaged on an app, responded a month later.

Now, can I take anything from this? During that gap there has had to been dozens of other dudes, and yet she got back to me.

>During that gap there has had to been dozens of other dudes
What, did you think you're special for matching with her or something?

Did you even read or just reply? I'm wondering why she even bothered to remember someone from a month ago.

Oh boy. I guess I will sign up for it next semester and hopefully someone will notice me. Or maybe try and work up the courage to approach someone and not make a fool of myself. Thank you for your advice!

Maybe she was checking her messages from the past? Anyways man if it took her a month to respond it's obvious she isn't very interested in you.
Good luck! You'll do great!

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how do i let a woman know i think theyre attractive/sexy without coming off as weird? im not talking about telling it off to strangers btw

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I don't think you can man. It's gonna be awkward at best. Get the courage and ask her out.

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Why even bother then?

Girl's
So, I had a date the other day..
I think it went very well, best date I've been on in a long time, we just clicked and talked, I could be funny without try harding or anything.. Just all together it was a very good date.

We spent around 5 hours together, pub crawling, basically: went to one place and had a beer, took a walk around talking, went into the next place and had a beer>repeat.

>She has a dog and had to get home to it and so the date came to a close.

But when we separated:
>"Never loose your dialect it's so sexy haha, you seem like such a nice guy overall" (I'm not from here)
>Hug, like a very warm hug..
>"Thank you, you seem like a very nice girl aswell, maybe we should go out again?"
>"Yes of course! You have my number so just write and we can plan something"
I could have kissed her I think but didn't but we hugged, another very warm hug.. Then we separated.

So that was on Friday, I wrote her a "thank you for a good night-message" on Saturday morning and received one back, and then we texted for a while back and forth..

Since then: Silence!

Why? Like we had an awesome date, we talked over messages, I can't think of anything that I said that could be perceived as douchy or pushy or anything like that.
She just suddenly stopped.

Any idea what's going on?

Girls and guys,
Im into this girl. Now I plan on asking her out, despite not knowing if she's even interested.
Im not going to see her in the following few days but I do see her girl friend often (who is also the girlfriend of one of my friends).
I think maybe telling this girl friend that I like her friend or obviously hint it by asking if she has a boyfriend. This can't do any damage can it?

Stop thinking and do!
>what's the worst that can happen?
You're single now, wants a relationship after you've asked either you've started the path towards the relationship or you'd still be single wanting a relationship..
Nothing happens when you get denied.

>I very recently implemented this way of thinking about dating.. And I do have a hell of a lot more dates now then before.

>the working week

Chill out. Message her again close to the weekend and ask her out again to go do some specific activity (as opposed to just asking "do you want to do something this weekend?") and if you still don't get a reply then move on.

Guys.
The fuck's up with most professional porn? I seriously don't understand how anyone can enjoy that. I'm not a prude, but maybe I'm alone in thinking it's just 99% completely awful.

Yeah Im going to ask her out when I see her next time but the question remains... She might be losing interest so Im thinking about telling her friend that Im still into this girl and maybe she'll tell her.

It's designed to highlight sexual features from certain camera angles, not to reflect pleasurable sex.

So maybe I'm retarded but wouldn't it be easier to get off to porn that reflects pleasurable sex?

maybe for women, but i only care about looks

>aromantic
So you mean you've become jaded and don't desire relationships while you still want to fuck? Yeah, that's pretty common.

Would you date a guy whos studying hearing aids at college?

I don't know, some porn does reflect real sex. What you're asking is kind of like saying "which is easier to get off to, this video of people fucking or this book which describes people fucking"

Women: Why do you lie about not caring about looks? Why don't you just admit you care about looks in men just as much as men care about looks in women?

I'm not lying, I don't care too much. I do care, to some degree, but it's not the most important thing and I don't need to date a 10/10 model to be happy.

This started to happen after being a long time friendzoned and being exposed to MGTOW, not from having lots of relationships.

That's just as bad?

Are you attractive yourself?
Are looks an entry requirement for you?

thats right you care more about smell en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Major_histocompatibility_complex

How much do women let their female friends' opinions impact their decisions?

Tryna get back together with an ex (from a several year relationship), I broke up with her on fairly good terms. Response has been hard nos.

I recently realized literally none of her close friends have had a notable relationship. Ex is an attractive, quiet girl. Her close friends are:

>fat, absolute shitlib librarian who only lost her virginity because we hooked her up with a former friend of mine. they dated for maybe a year. she hasn't dated anyone else, and lives with her parents.

>fat, absolute shitlib hr worker who has never had a relationship last longer than a few weeks.

Basically your modern "empowered" women who are incredibly liberal and sheltered, and who think snark is an acceptable substitute for intelligence. They have virtually zero life experience of note, and are going nowhere in life.

Anyway, I get the impression they're steering her.

When it's a girl's period and she wears a sweater over her lowerback/butt, is that because she'd hiding possible spills from her pad or is that something a girl does with tampons?

I'd say I am a 6.5-7/10.
I have a cute face but nothing impressive, but I have a really good body. I'm slim with curves.

Yes, I wouldn't date a guy I don't find attractive in the slightest. But I dated a guy my friends considered a 3 or 4/10 and was very happy with him.

That's not the same at all. That still means you care about looks as much as a guy would.

Now if only the rest of you women were honest with it.

Well, yeah it can be gross and the girls aren't always 10/10 but, some guys just want to be degenerate and watch whores get fucked in gross ways.
Quality for all things have gone down these days.

I wouldn't date a guy I find revolting, I have no problem dating a guy who looks a lot worse than me or picking a guy who isn't all that hot over one who is if I have more than one option.
I don't know if that's the same way guys feel. Guys, in my experience, tend to care a lot more than I do.

Avoid going back to exes.

How do I get my gf to wear skimpier underwear? It's my single biggest turn on but I don't wanna be a dick about asking her to do shit just because I like it.

Specifically I'm talking about girls who wear thongs/cheekies on a daily basis and not really lingerie, so you see why it would be kind of weird to ask her to do it.

[spoilers]All her undies are just granny panty type shit that makes me depressed to look at.[/spoilers]

Buy them for her and tell her you'd love to see her wearing those, that it turns you on a lot.

>treat others how you'd like to be treated

Women don't want to know they're too ugly for something. They probably wouldn't want to tell a dude he's too ugly as a result.

Women do lie a ludicrous amount, however. You'll notice it when you see women advise female friends vs when women advise men.

No, they don't. Guys wouldn't date a girl they're not attracted to. Most guys would date a 6/10 girl as long as they find her even slightly attractive.
A girl, as you've just admitted, would not even do that assuming a 6/10 guy happens to not fit her definition of "attractive".

Girls,
Is a fan like one of those asian ones a good idea for a gift?
Or is that an outdated and sexist concept?

If it's a good gift idea would it be excessive if I put a hole and string a charm through it?

That's the opposite of what I said. I just told you I dated a guy who was a 4/10 because I thought he was attractive enough.
I wouldn't date a guy I don't like at all, but any guy I find cute enough (a 4/10 or more, basically) is good enough to date.

Asking her to wear it every day is different to asking her to wear them every now and then. She'd probably be more receptive to the latter

I would advise my friends not to date their exes, regardless of the type of person I was.

No, the "4/10 guy" was a 7/10 or whatever to you. It doesn't matter what other girls thought. So he's a 7/10.
Unless you at first found him unattractive but then he won you over with his personality. Then you'd have a case, and only if you are legit attractive yourself.

I don't understand where you got that from what I wrote, but he wasn't a 7/10. He was not good looking. Overweight, bad body structure (weak shoulders, feminine figure with fat around the hips, etc), quite ugly face (heavily asymmetrical and slightly disfigured).
I thought he was decent enough when it came to looks because he had some redeeming qualities. I wasn't attracted to him when we met but not repulsed either, I liked him as a person as I got to know him and we started dating.

Post a photo of yourself then. Delete the photo after a minute or so, and put a red marking on the side so that people can't backtrace it if you have to.

>Hello Jow Forums, I am an 18 year old deaf girl, how do I meet guys my age?
As a female, you do kind of have an inherent advantage when it comes to other guys your age, and this goes doubly so if you’ve got a disability like yours.

Guys are already wiping to cut girls some extra slack (if they themselves are not too busy freaking out too much about why a girl is talking to them at all in the first place—I know that was definitely my response my first few years of college) this goes double for shy girls (mostly), and goes triple for ones that are disadvantaged in some way.

In truth, that double/tripple threat probably means you’re waaay more intimidating to most guys than you’d think.

As someone with a decade on you that’s long past those awkward years. a pro tip to dealing with other people is :

Just be nice, say hi, ask things.

Keep it simple. It isn’t anywhere near as hard as you’re (over)thinking it out to be.
>The fuck's up with most professional porn?
The thing about porn and guys is, our brains are literally wired in such a way that visual cues get a near instant response. In fact, it’s been observed that enough porn usage can cause the male brain to further develop in such a way that the visual cues actually bypass the parts of our brain that basically cognate and think, and go straight to the parts of our brain that signal pleasure and physical response. It *literally* becomes a reflex.

That’s how close the male libido and visuals are linked.

Which goes a long way to explain why porn is so graphically visual and not much more: because it’s uncesarary and in some senses, kind of gets in the way.

Oh and as for real, pleasurable sex, by and large, you can’t really see jack shit while you’re doing it, which means it makes for bad visuals, which detracts from the above since most porn is made by guys, for guys.

I dont think shes a slut or anything
When i met her 2yrs ago she was with one guy and it was some serious thing, then the other guy i mentioned. So 2 relationships within 2years or more.

Idk if shes partying or shit, shes kinda awkward/ weird but so am I.
We got along well with each other but never even asked her number after the first flop

I'm not posting pictures of myself online, and absolutely not on Jow Forums.
I am not the most attractive girl in the world, but I'm not ugly. A 6.5 or 7, as I said.

It honestly feels like you just want to prove me wrong, and I don't get why.

I will happily admit you are right if
>you are objectively attractive
>an ugly guy won you over
>that this is not an exception
Unless all 3 can be fulfilled, women care about looks just as much as men.

I am objectively attractive enough, and a quite ugly guy won me over. I actually ended up asking him out.
I'm not posting pictures of me or him on Jow Forums just to win a frankly ridiculous argument.

I can't promise that all women feel the way I do about looks, and I never claimed it. In my experience, almost all men I met cared about it more than me, I don't know how other women feel or how much they care. I can see them caring a little less than men on average.

Men are also more willing to settle with an ugly girl than women are willing to settle with an ugly guy.

I don' know, that's not the case in my experience.
I had friends who were fine dating really short guys (talking < 5'4), or guys who were a lot less good looking than them, and I dated a couple of pretty ugly dudes.
I had a very attractive guy literally tell me that I wasn't "good looking enough to be his official girlfriend" tho. Guys are willing to fuck not good looking girls, but rarely to settle down with them.

Then, my husband is a lot more good looking than me. And he could have hotter girls than me. But then I'm decent looking anyway.

>Guys are willing to fuck not good looking girls, but rarely to settle down with them
True, but women would rather not fuck OR date a not-good looking guy.
Speaking from personal experience, what I've seen in nightclubs and parties, and on dating shows here.

Lol. Or her (or a chick) but that’s a pretty fucking loaded assertion.

To begin with, men probably have way more unrealistic expectations when it comes to looks (don’t tell me you’ve never had *at least* one dickhead friend who basically obsesses and rambles on and on about hittting up the hottest girl in the room, in spite of the fact that you’ve never seen him approach *anyone*), which means that that “settling” is a pretty fucking relative term because when you’re shooting for the moon, yeah, it’s not a fucking surprise when you realize you’re being fucking retarded and have to settle for something within the actual fucking stratosphere.

Women just seem to have more a bare minimum standard policy.

Everyone’s different and all, but you’re kinda shooting yourself in the foot on this one user.

Nope. I see way more couples where the girl is average or above with a really good looking guy than the other way round.

You'll probably find a person around the same level of hotness willing to go for you always.
If you want to date someone a lot more attractive then you, it gets tricky.
I don't know about women in general, but I would have no problem dating a not-good looking guy given that I found him somewhat attractive. I wouldn't date a guy I was completely repulsed by.

I'm more than willing to go for guys who are not as good looking as me or are ugly, but even being a quite cute girl I rarely met guys willing to seriously date me if they were objectively hotter than me.
My husband gets comments from his friends about my looks all the time because he used to date literal models when he was in college.
And again, I'm not a disfigured fatso. I'm a 125 lbs, 5'6" girl with D cup tits and a hourglass body shape, and a decent looking face.

>Nope. I see way more couples where the girl is average or above with a really good looking guy than the other way round.

Which is totally why “trophy husbands” are such a thing.

In any case, you’re still not swaying me on the unrealistic expectations bit. Just because a dudes dreams gets crushed and he “settles” for just something with blood in its veins out of desperation, doesn’t mean that that “settling” wasn’t unwarranted or direct result of mismatched expectations.

A woman giggled when I accidentally touched her boob.
Should I be worried or no?

How do I stop falling for girls so easily? I wanna stop being so clingy but I can't help it.

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Spent a long weekend with a woman I've been dating, and we spent a lot of time in bed together, really got to know each other. She gave me a fun little challenge to do before the next time she stays over: Buy her some pyjamas she can keep at my house. She told me her size and asked me to pick out something I'd like her to wear when she stays.

So women: What kind of PJs do you like to wear?

You can ignore reality all you want. It won't change it. Go on any dating app and you'll see just how much women don't care about looks.

Hook up with the guy that bullied you as a kid.

Depends on her.
If I'm on my own, I like wearing shorts and tshirt or my boyfriend's tshirt. Just something comfy.
If I want to impress, I'll wear something a little sexier.

Buy her sexy lingerie and tell her it's the pyjamas you chose that best fit her. Proceed with wild sex

I met this girl a couple weeks ago, when asked if she had a bf she said "i do for now, later... who knows" basically meaning she wasn't happy with him.
A few days go by, i tell her i'd like to go out with her if things didn't work out with her current bf and she tells me things are going a bit better with him now, but we could still go out for a coffee or something.

I really dont know what to do now, should i go out with her anyway?

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Most of the time cingynes happens when you don’t have enough shit going on in your own life, that you feel like you gotta latch on to someone else’s to try to fill in the hole.

Fix that. Be it a hobby, a new mindset of self-confidence, or whatever, find your *own* shit to fill in that hole.

>Go on any dating app and you'll see just how much women don't care about looks.

Once again, you’re using an inherently loaded situation to try to prove your point. Guys get literally dozens/hundreds/thousands of times more messages than guys do, because that’s just the way shit works in online dating

Where guys have to sort through profiles to find girls to messages.
Girls have to sort through messages to elimate people, in order to even see profiles.

P.s. like I mentioned (or tried to, I’m not sure how that came out with the typo) I’m a dude. I’ve also actually done online dating, am in a 3+ year relationship from it, and have seen my female friend’s profiles enough to know that the female experience online is pretty damn different (which was never more evident than while I’ve been in the room while my girlfriend basically co-writes her best friends responses... so fucking weird...)

Not a chick.
But that’s a fucking land mine and you know it.

Haha, she said something like: "Whatever you like. Baggy tshirt, lumberjack flannel... lacy" So yeah that's definitely an option. As much as I'd like that, I'm actually thinking something she can wear around the house on lazy days, something properly comfortable. I wonder if satin is a good choice?

Dunno though, suppose I'm not limited to getting her just one set of PJs. Could do lingerie too. Need to figure out what I'D like to see her in I guess.

Expanding the question to men then: What lingerie do you like? I need inspiration.

care to elaborate?

also check'em

Doesnt matter if ass is good
Id personally love to see gf walk around in tshirt only and panties

Answer me.

Anyone who is going to be that wish washy about being with their current significant other is:
>A.) someone who is just looking to mess around and isn’t going to leave them
>B.) someone who is wish washy uncertain as heck, and even if they do leave them and go with you, will still probably be washy washy as heck and want to go back to them at some point

And even if you did want to meet up with them for coffee or something, just to be friends, clearly you’re not capable of capable of keeping hard to that convinction as *you* don’t even really seem to have a strong convinction towards this matter and are instead being driven by other irrational thoughts that are clouding your judgement.

This shit is a landmine with a pretty clearly danger posting on it. Up to you if you want to try stepping on it to see if shit blows up.

Guys: yes or no?

Instead of trying to suppress my insecurities, how can I try and make her sympathetic towards them? I want her to talk to me the way a therapist talks to a patient.

No.

While that could be considered pessimistic and counter-productive, in this day and age a “yes” is infinitely more difficult to take back.

Go to a therapist if you need one, it isn't a girl's role to do this for you.

> I want her to talk to me the way a therapist talks to a patient.

That is not a reasonable expectation for *any* partner.

And I say this as a dude who has a gf who was abused as a child and still has night terrors/triggers/anxiety and panick attacks/relapsed memories over that period of her life and is always there and supportive of her.

While I *am* there for her, it’s my choice to do so. And whenever I feel like she’s crossing a line or over worrying about something I think is insignificant (because her anxiety is more than just about the past) I tell her so.

A relationship is a partnership, and both parties need to be on an equal level, and be there willingly.

But I can't have Bonding Time with a therapist.

Go talk to a therapist if you need one, and talk about your girlfriend only if you don't expect anything from her but basic human compassion. A girlfriend can't fix you and shouldn't be your therapist.

She's not my girlfriend. I am trying to formulate a way to make girls feel intense compassion, to prolong their potential conversations with me.

Girls. Would you actually fall for the naked man trick?

What's the trick?

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An ex of mine (specifically the one I have real regret about breaking things off with) seems pretty dissatisfied with her current relationship. She was pretty upset with me. for having broken up with her, only recently are we on speaking terms again.
I don't know, I miss her. I've been carrying this little torch for years, I honestly can't say how she feels about me except that she didn't feel like she could talk to me while her (current) relationship was going good.
Is there an angle to play here? just looking for general advice.