So I'm kind of in a dead bedroom situation

So I'm kind of in a dead bedroom situation.
Guess I only realized very late that my girlfriend has a very low libido, or is asexual.

She has no interest in sex whatsoever, we only fuck because she wants to please me.

The worst thing is we can't even talk about sex anymore because everytime I talk about how I'd like to have more or something different she takes it very badly, to the point she wanted to break up with me because I "deserve someone better".
Its so fucked up, basically I'm afraid she will break up with me if I even mention any kind of sexual preference or dislike.

What can I do? It sucks so much that an otherwise great relationship might end about something like sex.

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Break up. You dont even have babies yet. Life is too short to not spend it fucking your gfs brains out every morning.

Also she can try to start / stop / change type or brand of her anticonception. Very common sideeffect of birth control is completely kill of female libido. Also pic related. Are you sire she had ever orgasm?

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She started birth control one year after we started dating, she got off of it a few years ago, her libido never returned.

>lso pic related. Are you sire she had ever orgasm?

Yeah we have a vibrator that works for her, but only if she uses it for herself 5minutes without moving.
I honestly don't know if I make her orgasm. When I asked her she says "uh sometimes..I guess...". She doesnt do dirty or any talk at all during sex so when I ask" are you coming" or "did you come" after sex I don't get an answer.

Ofc she claims sex with me is great, but I always feel like a fucking loser.

It is painfully obvious you have never made her cum before dude. Ofc she doesnt want to have sex with you when it only bores her.
>pro tip
Alnost no woman has ever cummed from penetrarion. It is all about cuddling cuddling cuddling and clit stimulation. Do you even suck her clit like i would be lolipop?

Also go watch youtube videos about how to give message. Back and foot messages are god tier if you are good at it. Give your gf reason to love intimacy, dont blackmail her into having pity sex.

Or really just get new gf.

Man you don't know what I've been going through the last years. I'm always eating her out, always trying new things, massages, a couple different sex toys, being rough, being romantic etc.

I'm definitely not boring.
The problem also is that she has no opinion on anything. Did she like what I did? I have no fucking clue because she never gives a clear answer. Is there anything she like to do? Nope.

>we only fuck because she wants to please me
How is this a bad thing? She loves you enough to do something she isn't into to make you happy. Seriously, thats love.

Start looking for a new girlfriend.

>Alnost no woman has ever cummed from penetrarion
you lie, I do, it does depend on my lover however. There's this one guy I would be so worked up that I would orgasm before he was fully inside me, first insertion.

There are sex counselors/therapists, this seems like one of those times that you should probably go see one.

Tell her sex is important to you, that you don’t want to break up, but you want to see if this works.

Yeah but it lacks passion.
I will never feel desired, never needed.

Also her idea of sex is getting naked as fast as possible and then lying on her back as she waits for me to do everything. Sometimes I get an "Lets make love"in the same tone as "lets get over with it". Last time she did that I said "You know, I don't like it when you say it like that" and she almost started crying.

Op, you just can't have a relationship with "asexual" girls. You can never really be close to them the way you can with a normal partner. Break up.

This isn't about sex because OP has sex with her. He's just angry she isn't gushing and jumping on his dick because he's the greatest lover alive.

She either truely has no interest in sex, or she's hiding what she's into. Maybe she just wants to have one private thing, or maybe she feels embarrassed about it. Like if she's into yaoi she probably hates herself and doesn't want anyone to know.

I'm pretty sure she isnt into anything. We have watched porn together and she just thougt the people there are making weird faces.
Man I already begged her to just tell me one little thing she likes in bed and its like she didnt even understand the question.

>Tell her sex is important to you, that you don’t want to break up, but you want to see if this works.

Thing is I told her that. She just won't answer me. She will get quiet, avoid talking to me and after a while she will tell me we need to break up because I deserve to be happy. Then I beg her to not break up, and for the next days she will try to initiate sex a few times, and I will be too afraid to mention the topic again because she might break up with me over it.

It sounds like she's very insecure. Is it better when you're both drunk?

Nope. Pretty much the same.

It doesn’t sound like you tried what I said exactly, but maybe you did, I unno. If she is willing to force herself to have sex with you, she should be willing to force herself to go to counseling. Be clear that this is what you want, and if you’re being sincere that you don’t really see another way of her going to counseling, consider actually breaking up or proposing an open relationship.

Sex is important, etc etc.

>Alnost no woman has ever cummed from penetrarion.
This isn't a pro-tip, it's a loser-tip. Girls will cum from penetration alone, but you have to be able to maintain a good rhythm and they have to be attracted to you. Most guys constantly switch rhythms or have a short fuse so girls never cum.

Does it realy matter that much? We use vibrators to get her off alot, but sometimes shes not interested in them either. She claims I sometimes make her cum from penetration.

I don't see how making her cum vaginally is changing anything.

Reread your own post and the solution will be obvious. You will soon become bitter and frustrated with her for not giving you the sexual attention you crave and leaving you pent up 24/7. Save yourself the stress and find a better chick, cause the bitch your with right now sounds like a selfish, manipulative cunt.

“I deserve someone better,” she’s got some fucking nerve pulling that card. And you must be a pushover or have a lot of patience, because that’s a pretty deep insult to take. The second my partner ever suggests something like that, im kicking her ass to the curb so she can find her own Prince Charming.

you're on the same level of expertise as an incel

I believe she was saying that op deserved someone better than herself, not that she deserved someone better than op.

Sex drive and orgasm frequency are not congruent, how fucking delusional are you? And thatd not entirely OPs fault either, she won’t even discuss sex with him, let alone how to make it more stimulating for her. The bitch isn’t even trying to work with him.

>“I deserve someone better,” she’s got some fucking nerve pulling that card.

I think you misunderstood. She says we need to break up because I(as in me the user you are talking to) deserves someone better than her.

Incels regularly give girls multiple orgasms through penetration alone?

The fact there are many guys who actually think that girls cant cum via penetration is actually a real ego booster.

Here's an actual pro-tip: girls shiver when they orgasm. You can always tell. If you have to ask, they didn't.

It sounded more like the latter from how it was written. She’s right either way, they can both do better than each other and their are millions of people out there that can give them better relationships.

>she wanted to break up with me because I "deserve someone better".
Seems pretty cut and dry pal.

See above. I’m trying to help you cause your sex life sounds like torture, you’re fucking a dead fish on it stomach whenever you do. She doesn’t list for you, and that’s an important mutual emotion in a relationship.

I thought the I was in the quotations the first time but okay whatever

Lol right

Bbump

painfully obvious that youre not great in bed, and shes probably losing sexual attraction to you.
Dont ask for shit in bed, just do it and see how she responds.
Be dominant in the bedroom, and if youre comfortable enough, and have been dating for a while, you have the hatefuck the shit out of her. Im sure shell be happily surprised.