Ask The Opposite Gender

Somebody else makes one for once edition.
GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like ?
>What do girls/guys think about
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, .

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I'm a 23 yr old loser (m). I always feel, inconsequential and I can't stand looking at myself. I'm giving up on ever trying anything with anyone. How do I become, more bitter and hateful?

lol

Why are girls so nofunallowed.jpg?

Rather than giving up, I'd recommend making halfhearted attempts at things and sabotaging yourself at every opportunity, then convince yourself that you actually tried your best and that the whole world is against you.

We have vague agreements for a third date sometime next week. She said she's not looking for anything serious, but likes being with me. I want to text her, but I have no clue what to say. It feels like we're past that stage and I should focus on the actual date.

I second this notion. Really make yourself impossible to be helped in the future.

Exactly, push everyone away and blame them for "abandoning" you. But be sure to look at the happy picture of their lives that they put on Facebook so you can marinate in your loneliness and misery.

Don’t message her. Let her message you. If she calls say you’re busy and will see her date day

Both genders since this doesn't need a whole thread. I know this sounds egotistical but how do I stop overestimating people's intelligence and accidentally patronizing them as a result? I'll explain what I thought was a really intuitive concept, and then people just won't get it all, but when I try again they usually get it, so clearly it's not that I just can't communicate things. I feel really bad because nobody likes to feel stupid but if I try to avoid it I always over correct and explain something they already got, and that's even worse. How do I get it right the first time without treating them like a child? It's so frustrating and I feel like such an asshole every time.

Thank you, this sounds amazing. One problem though; I have no one to push away. The life of a loser I guess. Didn't start out this way. Always tried, to be open and light hearted but, it's a waste of time. I wake up to 0 messages everyday and I'm only spoken to when someone needs a favour.

Then all that's left to do is keep browsing Jow Forums and ignore every possible opportunity to climb out of the hole you've imagined.

>Then all that's left to do is keep browsing Jow Forums and ignore every possible opportunity to climb out of the hole you've imagined.
Yes i do like making up the fact I'm a sad lonely miserable bastard because Every one walks all over me. It's my fault. I should be grateful and on my knees licking everyone's boots.

That's the spirit.

Glad we're in agreement

Guys say "dont fucking fall in love with her" when you are interested in a girl you haven't asked out yet. But if I'm not "really" interested in her, is it really worth spending time and money in going out on a date with that person (assuming they even say yes)? I can always tell from the start when I don't think someone is dating material but that makes my options too small. But of course that means I take it too seriously when that one person that seems good enough to date rejects me.
>inb4 lower your aim
It's low but just quite specific. What I mean is, is it worth it trying to ask out girls I'm not interested in if to me being interested only means being REALLY interested?

Women, what are the no-no's when chatting with a woman?
For example:
>send too many messages even when she hasn't answered

If you call me sir, does that mean I appear old, like elderly old?

Nah I'd go for it either way, she could grow on you.

No! It's kinky.

no, sir

re-posting from other thread as its about to die:

Do girls prefer being single or in a relationship?
how long after they get out of a relationship would they consider starting dating again?

Please spank me, sir.

Why would she want to hang out with me (asking to hang out herself) if the one time I asked her out (indirectly) she bailed on me, said she didn't want to go? don't girls know how awkward it is to hang out around someone you rejected? its not like we were long time friends or even good friends or anything, we've known each other for about 2 weeks and even then we didn't hang out much or talk much

>Do girls prefer being single or in a relationship?
Not a girl but
I think they're more OK with being single compared to men but they don't prefer it. Like the whole "girls have areactive sexuality" thing, they also don't typically get as antsy about being single until something makes them think about it, while guys just feel it whenever they go to long without being distracted from it.

So I'm in a predicament that's doing my head in. I've been with this girl for a while now and things were great. We connect and it feels like actual love. She's had to do nightshift and it's starting to take its toll. Always tire d. I noticed she's been rather distant. I hit her up about it and she said it's a combination of work stress, having to find a new flat and that we are losing our spark. Told me one of the main reasons is I've been staying over a lot and she needs time to herself. On Tuesday she showed me a positive pregnancy test. Light texting but she's gone even more distant. Are things over for us and I should just get use to us having a kid together and that's it, or is there a chance to rekindle that spark?

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Gay/bisexual guys, what would you think if a straight friend asked you to rate them? I wouldn't feel comfortable asking my female friends and I doubt my straight friends could really give me a good answer since they don't find any men attractive. I could see feeling that you're being treated as the token gay friend, or thinking they're into you or a million other ways. I probably won't bother asking him since it'd be kinda weird no matter what, but I still wonder if even thinking of asking is a sign that I have absolutely no tact.

Please respond

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>vaccinated man with no criminal record looks for vaccinated woman with no criminal record or crazy ex-partners
>incubus looking for succubus
Should I put any of these on my dating profile?

Either gender

How do i know if she's interested over text?

What subtle things do each gender do to imply interest? (aside from just straight up asking them out)

Unironically how do you know if a girl is interested in you?

Honestly, whats a decent idea for a low risk "Date" that can be done after work?

A simple dinner nearby?

Yeah that seems like a solid idea.

If it isn't already clear to you then you can't tell.

Yea, we really can't do anything to elaborate right now. Any other ideas?

My last "first date" before this was a legit day trip. Drove like 50 miles upstate, went to a museum, got dinner, drove home, and drank in a field till 11 PM...

Yeah, simple dinner somewhere casual. Or hell, go to the park if the weather permits. Walk your dog. Take her to the grocery store and go shopping. Invite her along to climb with you at the climbing gym. As long as it's something you can talk while doing. Bad choices: movie, go-karts

This may sound cheesy but it literally does not matter at all what you're doing if the chemistry is good, and if she has agreed then she's obviously interested. Parks tend to be great. I have the blessed fortune of having a city that puts on firework shows every single friday night over the lake. Works every time.

Please help

Hmmm, yea. Dinner is probably the better idea I think. Especially since theres a couple decent places nearby. Like a Japanese lounge.

But true. It probably doesnt matter too much what you do, as long as its together

Is it ever (read: ever) possible to hit on a girl at work? Like, I could compliment her on her voice or something, but how do I find out if she's single?

Yes it is possible but I strongly advise against it. You *have* to see people at your job and if ANY of these happen:
>She turns you down
>You do go out but break up later on
>Either of you gets promoted to a position over the other
Your work atmosphere is ruined permanently. In the case of the third, it may actually become impossible to be promoted without a transfer BECAUSE of the conflict of interest due to HR rules.

No, I mean SHE's at work, I'm a customer.

I don’t know, people always say that but I looove when I’m talking with the person I like and notice that person sent me several messages (if they were sent at different times I see that he thought of me several times during the day). I also like when I see that person replies right away, yet many people think that looks desperate.

If it comes from a person you like, it’s nice, if it’s from someone you don’t like, it may not be so appreciated. So just do what feels ok for you really.

So I went out for a family dinner and the waitress was clearly hitting on me. We flirted a little bit.

My fucking parents ended up putting my name and number on the back of the bill.

She just texted me today, I replied 5 hours ago and she still hasn't responded...weird situation but obviously she was a little interested right?

It happens all the time be warned. My last gf told me she got customers hitting on her all the time... and she worked in a women's clothing place (guys would come in "shopping for someone else" but really looking for girls to hit on). And in fact I have flirted with girls at the register before, I would've asked one out if I wasn't with someone at the time, at a watch shop when I was getting one repaired.

Basically go for it but be warned that most of the time girls are gonna act nice because it's their job to be nice. So it can be harder to read the situation than a normal approach. The best way is to be straightforward, I think. Casually chat her up about other things, especially if you see her there often, and if she's really responsive and asking questions/showing interest, ask her if she wants to get a coffee after she gets off.

Random compliments out of the blue are usually not great. They signal your interest in her without showing any value of your own. Instead talk about yourself - your job, what you're doing after this, etc. - to signal your own self worth. If she's interested in you, you should ideally be able to tell, but like I said, women at their job have to act nice to customers so it can be harder to read interest.

Good luck

Yes bro. Go for it.

Yes

Also 5 hours isn't that long for some people. Relax.

>I doubt my straight friends could really give me a good answer since they don't find any men attractive
Chances are they don’t give you a good answer because “I’m not gay, hurrr” but everyone can tell if someone is attractive or not (its subjective, but come on)

I think you're reading into too much. Most likely she resents you

Use photofeeler and get the free ratings lad. Get some honest opinions from legitimate strangers.

Friends will ALWAYS pad your points subconsciously because of the positive feelings they associate with you. Because you are friends.

Yeah but I can barely tell how good looking women are. I just know if I find them attractive, but I couldn't really judge them out of 10.

Yeah I get that but after my parents gave her my number she texted me first today and didn't respond to my message. Meh who knows.

They also told me she is was a cunt until I showed up and she got all bubbly and cute. What ever, was funny hahaha.

Why do you want to get a number rating?
And do you know you can post your picture on /soc/ and get rated

girls, will this girl ever sleep with me? we matched on tinder like in january and have surprisingly still kept in contact but we've never met irl. there have been periods where we didn't talk at all but it has been pretty regular, sometimes more intense, sometimes less. they're not always flirty messages but she sends me teasing pictures of her half-naked, and she's told me i'm cute and attractive too so idk.

i haven't asked her anything about it bc i kinda like the attention too and don't want to make things weird between us if it turns out she has no interest in me. i guess i'm just trying to 'act cool' as if messaging this girl is a completely normal thing on my end when it really isn't. i mean she has to realize it, right?

and yeah i guess you could call me her beta-orbiter if you want, but it's not like im being exclusive or celibate while i talk to her. as far as i know she's the one who isn't seeing anyone. her social life is a little lame desu but who knows

>Why do you want to get a number rating?
I'm curious, that's all.
>And do you know you can post your picture on /soc/ and get rated
I just feel like the type of person who enjoys rating other people on /soc/ isn't the type of person who's opinion I should put a lot of weight into.

Okay. I think it’s weird that you want to know your gay/bisexual friends opinion on this, but at the same time I wouldn’t think anything if someone asked me and explained it. “I don’t feel comfortable asking x because bla bla bla”, “I don’t think x would give me a serious answer so bla bla bla”

How do I breach the subject of exclusiveness as the male in the relationship?
I'm a 23yo in a 2 month relationship. I know that usually the females start the whole "where is this going", "are we seeing other people" convesations, and frankly I'm not too eager to rush the relationship and make it more serious before its time. However, I do want her to know that I'm commiting my time and staying away from the field because I'm going out with her, and I want her to do the same. It is entirely possible that she already takes exclusiveness as a given, or that she wants to keep the relationship casual and see other people. I really don't know where she stands on that matter.
Should I go for a talk? Is it too early? Or should I stay cool and wait until some time passes and either she breaches the subject herself or I realize myself that she is seeing this whole thing seriously?

Yeah I figured it'd be a little weird. Probably not gonna ask, but I'm glad I got some input here.

girls (and guys) when do i bring up the fact that im kinky in a relationship? is there any way to find out if the girl is as kinky as i am?

i just dont want to tell her what im into and then get a reputation as a creep

Tomorrow I’m spending the day with a guy friend who is interested in me and I admittedly do have interest in him. I’m currently in a relationship with a live in boyfriend. Any tips for making sure things stay platonic?

Whatever you do, don't touch his penis.

>spending the day with a guy friend who is interested in me and I admittedly do have interest in him.
Don't.

We have a lot of fun together and nothing out of the ordinary has happened besides him buying me a drink once. I still want to be friends with him and want to be faithful. I’m just asking for advice on how to stay true to my commitment

Anyone?

Bump

bump

I'm fat right now but I've been losing weight (down 60 pounds so far). Women have expressed interest in me before, but none really that I have found attractive. I haven't really gone out of my way to look for a girlfriend, but my question is, should I just yet, or should I wait until I'm closer to where I want to be physically? Just turned 21 for what that's worth. Reposting from a previous thread.

girls, how would you react if your boyfriend told you he had a hypnosis kink?

or if he said he wanted to try hypnotizing you?

dudes, general question, would you prefer a girl whose had many boyfriends but never went past a kiss during the relationships or a girl whose had only one boyfriend but pretty much done everything sexually?

Could a girl saying something like "I see you finally decided to use the cart" in a joking manner be seen as light flirting/teasing?


Like 20 min before she said that, I was being a dumbass and carried something manually. (She also joked about that after, saying mainly how she watched me struggle in a joking way)

I would be a tad bit wary about the former I suppose because that'd possibly point to her having some kind of issues (MANY boyfriends but never been past a kiss?) but at the end of the day it doesn't really matter if we truly hit it off, at least to me personally.

She was just making small talk, sorry dude

Meh, maybe on its own its nothing too much.

But she's also extremely shy normally, and doesnt talk unless you get her going.

Or someother shit, like her laughing at almost everything I said

I prefer homely type girls. I do like them to not be afraid to go out but homely types are just generally what I like. Should I just be using tinder for this shit, or okcupid? I'm not looking for just a hookup. I can meet girls IRL no problem but we just don't seem to click. It'd be nice to meet a girl who just genuinely wants to get to know someone before they get intimate.

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I would prefer the latter

Don't suck his dick.
Or better yet, don't meet up with him and explain to him that you might fuck him and cheat on your boyfriend.
Maybe in the future though

Don't be a bitch and call her

bump

not a girl but lol

>Comment on girls IG post
>She uses hearts in all her replies but mine

Nnnnnooooo.........

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why do you kinkshame me user

>Best friend meets girl on hinge
>go on date with girl, has fun
>goes on second date with him, goes well, but they don't kiss or anything so he's disappointed
>Plans a third date to see Ant Man together and get lunch
>an hour before they were supposed to meet she texts him canceling the date and also telling him she's "not looking for a relationship right now"
>he's upset, so we buy him beers, get lunch, make a day of it etc.
Before we go any further: women: What in the fuck is wrong with you lmao

>fast forward two weeks
>on hinge, see a got a new "like"
>it's that same fucking girl commenting on how funny my profile is with a :)
>My best friend who she essentially ghosted is IN MY PROFILE PICTURES WITH ME


So guys: what should I do? I hate that she screwed my friend over and shook his confidence, should I just let this go, tell him about it and laugh it off or should I drag this dumb cunt for treating him like shit? I don't think i'll ever get a better chance here desu

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Is it a red flag if she's met my family/all my friends and I have just met a brother (briefly) and no friends (but heard her talk about them a lot and they know of me)?

when you say "drag" what do you mean? I wouldn't fuck her because that's just shitty to your friend.

Do you want to meet her friends and family?

over the comments tell her how much of a raging asshole she is for what she did to him is pretty much it, and adding insult to injury trying to fuck around with someone he clearly knows

I'm not attracted to her in the slightest.

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What the absolute fuck is the matter with you people?

haha that sounds great. Do it.

So, this girl I've been talking too seemed pretty interested in me etc etc. I know she sees me as like a potential partner, essentially. However, she didn't realize that I know that she fucked my friend. So, maybe I'm just drunk but how easy would it be to manipulate this to my advantage and get myself in a position to benefit? Basically I want to use this to get back at her. Thanks!

I mean, this is a difficult one for me because I met current girl on FetLife and kinky is a vague word that covers a wide spectrum (so it depends what you're into). You could drop hints some way or another, or ask about safewords or a red light system before sex, or you could just wait it out until you become really comfortable with each other. It all depends how essential it is for you in a relationship. For some, kink and sexual compatibility is a huge necessity.

Tell her gross things he's done. If she has any respect for herself it should disgust her that she let that inside her. Then again women are hoes these days so maybe it wouldn't matter but it would work on me.

bump

I mean, friends I don't really care either way. She brought up that I haven't met them and tried to arrange something but I would've preferred to go just us (star gazing). From what I've heard they aren't people that I'd gel heavily with, so it's up to her on that front to make the move. I've taken her to lots of social things where my friends have been in the past and she hasn't at all.

Family intimidates the hell out of me, tough asian parents from what I've heard and I'm just a pale jew boy.

Fuck you

what?

>invite her to go see antman
>wait til an hour before you're supposed to meet up
>cancel

>tell her you're only looking for a girl that does anal

I'm not worried about that. Her and my friend are already on bad terms now, due to something unrelated. I want to make her feel like she needs to do whatever it takes to make it up to me, and then probsbly use her like she attempted to use me

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You people fucking disgust me

what are you so mad about lmao

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Are you good at manipulating?

oh fuck off slut

I'm confident in my abilities, just wanted to know the potential success of the plan. She says she needs a little bit to clear her head, then wants too "talk about it" so I've got a little bit of time to hash out some ideas

Puff up those dicks boys!! We're going in!