A few months ago, I ended my relationship with my BPD gf of 5 years; it left me emotionally devastated.
Three days ago, I happened to have a Facebook chat with a colleague of my ex. She is a very smart, successful and beautiful girl. I had previously met her only once, with my ex, a couple of years ago.
Suddenly, during the chat, she starts revealing me details about her sentimental life. Turns out she was in a 2 year relationship with a BPD guy. She broke up with him a year ago. She told me that she has lost faith in relationships and feels hopeless.
As she also told me she is not a friend of my ex after all, but just a colleague that sees her very seldom, I disclosed to her something about my case.
We had a very intense but pleasant chat, until she lightened up the atmosphere a bit and said she had to go have dinner.
The day after, I sent her a new message, with a video (potentially interesting for her). However, she replied that she is now on holiday in a place where the mobile signal is weak, so she cannot load videos. I have not heard from her since then.
I am getting mixed signals from this girl. Could you please help me choose among the following courses of action?
A) Do not contact her until August 12, when I will go to an event of her interest; send her a picture from there and, with that excuse, send her also my mobile number, suggesting to contact me when she will be back from her holiday, because I'd like to have a coffee with her.
B) Contact her today ("How's your holiday going"?), so we can keep our interaction alive. Later, on the 12, use that event as an excuse and give her my mobile number.
C) Contact her today and give her my mobile number right away.
I think we have a lot in common, and I surely don't want to pressure her into a new relationship. However, I am extremely curious about getting to know her better. And to understand why she opened up to me during that chat.