My gf shaved her fucking head

Again, its only skin deep and it grows back. Why do you care so much? What if she got it into a pixie cute? It wouldve taken maybe a month less to grow back, but I assume you wouldnt have come running to forchins to complain about it.

>why do you care so much?

Because I am not attracted to her as she is. The lack of hair makes her look more like a boy, or at least an androgynous figure, and while sex/attraction isn't everything in a relationship, I am not interested in being with someone who I don't find attractive to my personally.

Also I'll make no claim to whether or not she should have asked me my opinion before doing this or given me some kind of warning that she was going to do it, but it shows some weird character that she's willing to just do something like this out of the blue to fit in with her friend.

it means you are a closethomo elmao, shes still a female

Not OP, but would you continue to date a guy who got extremely fat, got swastika tattoos and peircings all over his body?
You people are delusional, attraction works both ways, she should have asked if he would like her being like that.
And dont reply to me with some bullshit like 'my body my rules', two people in a relationship are supposed to be responsible towards each other.

>She's still a female if she has vagina
Have you taken a look around and seen some resident SJWs? They look nothing like a female, no wonder no one finds them attractive.

Think about it that way. If she did that for fuck all reason, imagine the crazy shit she will do having even the tiniest reason.

First she snips her hair. Then one day in a fit of rage she snips your balls of.

Women shaving their head is just a big red flag about their character.
More so if the reason is just because their freind did it.

>Am I allowed to dump her over this? There's some tacit agreement in a relationship that we like the way each other looks, and something drastic like this is a pretty big deviation from the "way" I agreed to be with her.

First of all, user, relationships do have agreements but make no mistake, it's not some sort of contract you can withdraw on a whim.

Second, don't be so shallow. Hair grows back.

>If she did that for fuck all reason, imagine the crazy shit she will do having even the tiniest reason.

This has gone through my head to be honest. I know people experiment with hairstyles and whatnot, so why couldn't she just dye it pink or something less drastic.

We're coming up on 5 months of exclusive dating and this isn't the first retarded thing she's done, but until now none of her antics have been any worse than I've seen out of girls that I consider to be pretty stable otherwise.

>it's not some sort of contract you can withdraw on a whim.

It sure as shit is a contract I can withdraw on a whim. Imagine this was a business contract - she would be the one who broke the terms and I would be well within my rights to terminate it.

But those point to problems that arent skin deep.
OP said nothing was wrog mentally, she just seems young and wants to try something new that she doesnt have to really risk it all becuase it naturally grows back.
If she was getting fat, I was say be frank with her, she needs to know now before it gets too late.
But OPs ladys hair is actually going to grow back just fine, like literally Im letting bangs grow out, and theyre already down to the bottom of my nose after 2 months.
If his girlfriend got chemo, he would be fine with it because "well, I think its acceptable then!"
Hes being immature about it.

Careful with the chemo talk dude, I've been there and done that. Of course she would get a pass on it for chemo because I am not without empathy. Would I be less attracted to her? Absolutely. Would it be her fault? Absolutely not.

It's a really stupid comparison to draw.

>that arent skin deep
Shaving your head out of the blue generally points to some skin deep problem in their character

She got comfy with you and stopps repressing her female insanity. Which every woman has btw.

Dude protect you dick, balls, toes, fingers, ears whatever else she can snip off.

He specifically said there was nothing wrong with her. So he has already stated thats not the reason he would leave her.

Im not saying ita mot different, it is. Im saying because HE finds it okay, when it happens, when HE gets to justify why she did it, its perfectly fine.
Its hair, and it will grow back. Its not serious and I even had to do it for lice in3rd grade, yeah it sucks, but again, It fucking grows back.

To be clear, you're replying to OP. I have had chemo and I gave up years of my life to cancer, it's not even in the same league of reasons for hair loss to be drawing a comparison.

By the time her hair has grown back to where it was before we will have been together for twice as long as we've been together now. It's not a matter of a few weeks or a small percentage of our relationship. It will be 2 or 3 months before it's long enough that I'm attracted to her again because I really hate short hair on girls.

Break up with her, run.

Sorry to hear about the chemo man. I'm not the one you're replying to but I think she used it as an exaggerated example to show you could be alright with her being shaved if she had a good reason.

I agree with you though, what she did is strange and I think you should have a serious talk with her. If you're not satisfied with her reasoning I'd say just try to get out of the relationship.
Also did you make a good recovery with the chemo?

Unless she is ill, there is no excuse for a female to cut her hair that short. Have you done her doggy since she shaved her head? I'm sure it will be a life changing experience for you.

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>I'm not the one you're replying to but I think she used it as an exaggerated example to show you could be alright with her being shaved if she had a good reason

I know why she was saying it, and I don't see what's so hard to understand about my original reply. I would find her less attractive regardless of the reason, but the reason for shaving or having no hair is the difference between "I can wait this out, it had to be done" and "what the fuck are you doing?"

I made about an 80% recovery but it took a long time to get back to being even this healthy and I will never be as healthy as someone else my age for as long as I live thanks to lingering problems. I compensate for it by maintaining cardio fitness and looking after my health.

I haven't said 2 words to her since I found out earlier today. She came to my work and """"""surprised""""""" me for lunch. We ate in silence for 10 minutes then I told her I had things to get to and left without a backward glance.

You're allowed to break up with someone for whatever reason you want. In fact, you don't need any reason to break up with someone.

Should you? I don't know. It seems like a childish reason to lose someone you care about. Then again, this kind of indicates that you aren't emotionally invested in her in the first place, so you probably aren't losing out on much.

Great to know you're dealing with it well. Do you think this event may have influenced these feelings you have towards your girlfriend's rash decision?
Sorry if these questions are too personal, I don't expect an answer

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Eh. Hair grows back. I wouldn't think it was that big of a deal but its ultimately up to you. Just don't be a dick. Be honest with her.
>Unless she is ill, there is no excuse for a female to cut her hair that short.
Nobody needs an excuse to cut their hair, autist.

If it means that much to you than just break up with her. She might even dump you first for the shitty way you responded to it. If it's a dealbreaker for you you can't really control it and people are going to see you as a shitty person but idk what to do about that.

Which is better? Dumping her or getting dumped by her?

Dumping her would probably be nicer because you might have to be an asshole for a while before she dumps you. Honestly 5 years from now you probably wont even remember any of this if she was such a meh girlfriend that a bad haircut makes her unbearable.

You definitely have to leave her. When she asks why, explain that you realised what a prick you are for wanting to dump her over hair, then go find a wall you can sprint head-first into.

Not really. I didn't lose my hair in a rash decision and as a dude I've never found it particularly precious. I've kept a short hairstyle for almost all my life, I could regrow what I've got now in under 2 months if I shaved it down to the skin tomorrow.

I'm happy to be honest with her. It doesn't look good to me. If other people think it looks good that's their business but I know I'm far from the only guy who thinks these things about girls with very short hair. Her best friend might squawk about how great they both look as baldies but that woman was never attractive to begin with.

Let me ask you a sincere question: how would you have reacted to it?

I am an honest person by nature, with myself and with other people. I rarely tell a direct lie and am bad at formulating a lie on the spot due to this. Was I supposed to say that it looked good, or that it looked okay? Because I don't know if you've ever met a woman but if I had said something gentle like "I'm not a fan" she and I would still be on the outs right now.

Hair regrows, and in a few months I might be okay with the length her hair is at, but I'm not going to try and compel her to grow it back out. Her best friend that she's emulating has buzzed hers of a few times now and I have a strong feeling this won't be just a one time thing that she immediately regrets on account of my reaction. She's the crazy type who is more likely to do it again because it has annoyed me so much.

>If other people think it looks good that's their business but I know I'm far from the only guy who thinks these things about girls with very short hair. Her best friend might squawk about how great they both look as baldies but that woman was never attractive to begin with.
Forget all that bullshit. The issue at hand has nothing to do with what your girlfriend's friend looks like or how many other men agree with you. This conversation is solely about your displeasure for your girlfriend's haircut and how it affects your relationship. Talk to her and tell her how you feel about it. If it really affects your attraction to her that much then tell her so. There is no need to bring up how other guys feel about it. This isn't a right vs. wrong thing. Be honest. Stop hypothesizing what she might say, how she might react or what the likelihood of her doing it again is. Get off the fucking internet and talk to the person you have the issue with, not a bunch of random faggots on an anonymous tibetan throat singing forum.

>Call your girl the crazy type
Hombre

I came here to pass the time and vent the worst of my anger before bothering speaking to her. This isn't something you can apologise away. I sent her a message saying I wanted to talk and she replied that she's coming over, so I'll probably see her in about half an hour.

Good. I understand your frustration but there's no need for anger. She's entitled to look how she wants and you're entitled to walk away if its not something you can abide by. As I said, this isn't right vs. wrong. This isn't something she did to you. There isn't anything wrong with deciding that your differences aren't reconcilable. Don't come at her with anger, user. Be calm. Be honest.

We've been together 5 months, right.

When we were still "hanging out" and were getting to the stage of having sex and making a commitment we BOTH used to joke about other people we saw around. "Oh she's pretty," "He's gorgeous." It was a running joke until she flipped the switch on my without warning and without anything changing, I said another girl was pretty and she didn't speak to me for 3 days.

Not long after we started dating she introduced me to some of her friends and then treated me like shit for a week - snapping me up at every opportunity and flaking out on seeing me and telling me she was "fine" - after because not only had I been too friendly to them all by half, but apparently one of the girls had dared to say she thought I was good looking.

Two months ago she gave me a whole week worth of silent treatment because I hadn't invited her to come and babysit my 2yr old nephew with me when my sister was out of town for work.

Two weeks ago we were messaging on facebook and my message didn't get sent to her because my network dropped out, so she raced over to my house to give me a serve on leaving her on read and demanded that I prove the message hadn't sent followed by telling me it was high time she had access to all my devices.

If you're this fucking autistic over hair then you should definitely break up with her because she deserves someone better than your ass.

To all the neckbeards telling me I shouldn't give a shit, I would like just one of you to tell me what your realistic response would have been.

I hope you understand that venting about how crazy she is only makes you look like a giant idiot. Yeah, she might be crazy but you're the moron who witnessed this behavior and thought this was a good person to emotionally invest in. You chose her, user. The fact that she's unstable really only speaks to your terrible taste in women and poor judgement.

I don't mind a shaved head. I prefer short hair on women.

So, you're not meant to call your girl crazy, or the fact that he's dating a crazy girl is uncanny?

Imagine some equivalent situation then. Your gf of half a year turns up and is suddenly very unattractive to you because of something she did on purpose. No warning or preparation, expecting you to say something nice.

You can probably tell I'm not Chad McChaderson. Not only did I spend 3 years of my life in hospital with less hair than a victoria's secret model, it caused me to have a period of depression afterward where I became quite isolated. Until I met this girl it was nearly 8 years since I'd actually had feelings for a girl, which includes the girl that I dated casually for about 18 months without ever developing so much as a crush on her.

I felt that it was healthier for me to remind myself how dating felt and how amazing it could feel and I've had girlfriends before, they all do some stupid shit now and then, so I didn't think her behaviour was particularly bad.

>I didn't think her behaviour was particularly bad.
Yeah. Like I said, very poor judgement.

>Imagine some equivalent situation then. Your gf of half a year turns up and is suddenly very unattractive to you because of something she did on purpose. No warning or preparation, expecting you to say something nice.
I'd be honest with her. If we couldn't come to some kind of common ground or if I, for some reason, found it THAT repulsive then I'd just break up. 5 months is nothing, user.

Kek, you wish. Make that 2 years.

IMO you'd be right to dump her. Attraction is a big thing in a relationship, no matter how often people talk about their fairytale relationship with a partner who will take literally any shit from them and still stick with them.

Major changes like these are perfectly fine reasons to leave a relationship. I wouldn't stay with a guy who suddenly doubled his weight either, or let his hair grow down to his ass. Or worse, get a tattoo or piercing - instant ladyboner killer for me.

Her car is pulling up. I'm going to see what she has to say I guess, but it's not like this is something you can just fix on the spot. Not sure what I'll do yet, will report back.

>she's doing this because her best friend did it
I understand why you are angry, this doesn't make sense, it is sudden and she gave no warning but that is exactly why she did it, to shock.

You take it personally but shouldn't. I imagine her family wonder what in hell is she doing but like them, you cannot do a damn thing about it because she doesn't care what you or her family think. The person she is trying to impress is her best friend. Her best friend is who she emulates and the head shaving is a big fuck you to everyone but her friend. That week she treated you like shit early in your relationship was because one or more of those friends (probably her best friend) didn't like you, not that she was jealous.

If you want to know where this is going you should be analyzing her best buddy but I caution you if you try to make her choose you, she can't, she already chose her friend.

My sister shaved her super long hair down to nothing once, it looked like shit for several months but she did it to donate hair to that one charity that makes wigs for cancer patients

We spoke and I told her I didn't think it was going to work out.

What you say makes sense. I'm taking it personally because I would expect her to have enough respect for me and our relationship to at least tell me she wanted to do it.

Yeah she's not that thoughtful of a person.

Make Stranger Things references all day long calling her 11 and whatnot until she's so tired of it she never shaves her head again.

I mean, you could also tell her that you don't like it to let her know you don't appreciate her doing it again in the future and wait until it grows out, but sure, feel free to dump her. You're entitled to dumping anyone for any reason you see fit.

It's too late I dumped her.

Also the problem with that is that waiting until it grows out is a long ass time. A matter of years more than months. I'm not invested enough in her for that.

Fair enough. I was aware that it takes a long time, but I wasn't aware that you didn't like her enough.

It's like you've never dealt with a woman before.

I'd let her know it's a big change, that it would take a lot of getting used to, and that even though she's still pretty, I just like her long hair more. And I'd do so with maximum charm. Really lay it on thick. By the time I was done, she'd wonder why she ever cut her hair in the first place.

But you go ahead and do you.

>she's still pretty

She's not.

>Basically reward her after showing abject behavior

You're one of those fedora-type "I'd treat you so much better" guys, right? Single a/f?

You'd be straight up lying too if you told her to her face she 'was still pretty'. Obviously, in OP's eyes, she's not pretty anymore. Attraction is a very basic thing, and a buzz-cut on a girl may indeed cause a person to lose any and all sexual attraction towards them. At that point, sorry to say, a romantic relationship - especially in the early stages - is doomed to fail.

No sexual attraction = no relationship in 95% of all cases.

That's kind of a trivial thing to dump someone over but at the same time, I think the big deal, rather than her cutting her hair, is the part when she didn't let you know BEFORE doing it. Idk, if she somehow cared about what your reaction would be she would have.

Yes I told her that was the problem. She admitted it wasn't a whim and that she had been thinking about it for a couple of weeks, which only makes it worse that she didn't show me or our relationship enough respect to say something before springing it on me like that.

>people have told me before that I have a problem with respect
Her actual words.

>people have told me before that I have a problem with respect

oof yeah sounds like you dodged a bullet

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Disgusting

Ask her straight up if she has a cancer maybe? If she doesen't and explains that it's all because of her friend as you said then it would be big red flag for me.

>Getting a short hair cut is abject behavior
You seem like you'd be real fun at parties.

You seem like you failed comprehensive reading. Twisting words doesn't make you right. Read it again.

Protip; the actual getting of short hare is merely a small part of the abject behavior.

>abject
this word doesn't quite mean what you think it means. unless you're sure on the meaning and have just misapplied it; pot calling the fedoras niggers in that case though.

anyway. what said wouldn't fit for op because of
>in OP's eyes, she's not pretty anymore
>romantic relationship - especially in the early stages
not because it isn't solid advice. if wouldn't be straight up lying and if invested, a combination of that dude's advice and is hands down the best way of dealing with us when we do dumb shit like this.

>making me agree with a faggot
ew
why u do dis

Fuckin lol

1. Why are you dating an ugly girl in the first place?
2. You don't actually have to mean it. Kind of like when a girl asks you if she looks fat in a dress, or if you think her friend is hot; you don't have to tell the truth.

Perfectly acceptable to dump her OP.
Life is too short to spend a whole year trying with all your might to muster a half chub to fuck your GF.
Plenty of fish in the sea, no one is irreplaceable.
Guaranteed that after that she will run after you, and think twice the next time she wants to do something retarded like that.

Educate us then, oh mighty word-lord! What do you think I think it means?

You're just so infatuated by the idea of ever having a girlfriend, you'd take a literal landwhale and tell her she's pretty too.

1. She wasn't ugly before the buzz cut
2. That might be fair if she had done something temporary, an unflattering outfit or dyed her hair a strange colour, but as illuminated above, it would take ~2 years to return her hair to where it was, and hardly less time to grow it out to an attractive length

First, get a fucking dictionary. Second, no, I wouldn't treat anyone's girlfriend better, I just know how to get what I want from them. Women respond to having smoke blown up their assets. Even if she's not pretty, you fucking tell her she is.

Like I said, if OP wants to break up with this girl, he should do it. But if he really wants to, he should stop being a pussy and do it, not sitting on here asking what other people would do.

If she isn't pretty with short hair, she wasn't that pretty before.

what I thought, her friend did it so she soon followed and didn't give a shit about anyone else, especially you. I'm glad you broke it off but I'm sure she knew you may and did it anyway.

I broke up with her like an hour and a half ago.

>know how to get what I want

And so do I, but in the case where someone has shaved off their hair and what I want is for her hair to reappear, do you suppose I could talk it back into place?

Okay? She was attractive to me before and is not now. Her objective attractiveness doesn't really matter.

I prefer my women on the fit side, but hypothetically, if I wanted to date said landwhale, yes, I would tell her she was pretty. Because that's how you get women to stick around. You make them feel good. Generally with compliments, and sugary sweet lies.

You know how to get what you want from them, but somehow didn't want the respect of her discussing such a decision with you first then?

>Even if she's not pretty, you fucking tell her she is.

Rofl, are you cucked? Unable to be honest to your gal, if you ever got one? Have fun settling for landwhale then. "I liked you better when you were still slim, but now that you're fat as fuck I still think you're very pretty". Yeah that'll make her stop stuffing her mouth.

Also OP already broke up.

You don't have to pay a girl compliments and flattery to make her feel good you know.

I did my own research in the meantime and apparently the word "abject" we use in Dutch (synonymous with "dispicable", "objectionable") doesn't carry the exact same load in English. Who knew. My bad for not being a native speaker.

I guess my point was, if you really liked her, you'd convince her to grow it back, and tough it out in the meantime. Obviously you didn't like her that much. No worries. Onto the next one.

Next time, just don't come crawling to the internet to validate your choices. You don't need anyone to tell you it's okay to break up with your girlfriend.

you nailed the sentiment, it's the severity you were off on

also your appraisal of the guy who made the post deserves more credit than i'd given you initially. he's a colossal faggot.

eh shit happens. besides, you engrish better than a lot of native speakers. i wouldn't have guessed it wasn't your first language if you hadn't said so.

Breaking news, she's a retard.

She just sent me a text message asking if I still want to keep our dinner date on Sunday.

Wanna make out?

Mother of god, you sure do love to use words incorrectly, don't you?

Go ahead and see how, "You're getting fat, lose some weight or I'll dump you," works out. That'll totally make her want to be with you even if she does lose weight.

Listen you little cunt, I've been doing this for 20 years. I don't need some kissless virgin trying to explain women to me. Now do everyone a favor and go quietly die alone.

Jajaja! Good one.

>bawww my gf cut her hair too short, instead of just making sure she doesn't do it again and sticking it out I have to break up IMMEDIATELY
>did I do good Jow Forums??? Please validate me
OP is a grade-A shallow faggot and his ex is a dumb bitch

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Yeah. You kind of do.

In retrospect, this was all probably for the best.

You made the right choice OP, it was clearly a big red flag.

>girl shows signs of being mentally unstable and says herself that she has a problem with respect
>better make sure she doesn't do it again and stick it out!
Are you retarded or are your standards so low that you'd date anything?

>your gf of 5 months instantly and drastically changes her appearance and it's only fair that you should wait 6-12 months for her to become attractive again

Yeah, sure.

>Mother of god, you sure do love to use words incorrectly, don't you?

Such a strong sentence, though.

Again, you should really try to *read*. If you can't have open communication on preferences and desires, and actually be honest to each other, what the fuck are you even together for? Nowhere did I mention such a ridiculous ultimatum.

Also twenty bucks says your alleged wife is fat.