Bf has an Oedipus complex

I believe my bf is attracted to his mom. He is a good bf in a lot of ways, but he will not stop talking about his mom and it gives me the creeps. We have been together for about 7 months. I wanted really badly to give him another chance, but I can't get over my gut feeling he is obsessed with his mom.

-When things got serious in our relationship he said he wanted to marry me, but only if his mother approves. I've never met her, but he relayed that she thinks I do not seem devout enough.

-He lives with both his parents and his siblings and he is 25. His siblings are 30 (married) and 22.

-He has several social media posts declaring his love for his favorite person in the world and "the most beautiful person in the world", his mother. No pictures of us.

-He will literally stop our dates if she calls him to go back home and do whatever chore she wants him to do. He answers all of her calls. They interrupt our time together, a lot. She is not disabled in any way and has no diseases.

-He takes her opinion on everything and values it above all professionals including doctors and therapists. His mom never even went to college. She forbids him from seeing therapists because she believes they are quacks.

-I just found out HE SLEEPS NEXT TO HER a good chunk of the time. I asked where his dad sleeps and he said also in the same bed.

I don't believe that, bc I do not hear about the dad nearly enough to believe he has a thriving marriage with his wife. He is like the cuck in this situation.

BF has never slept next to me ever. We have had sex.

-He gives his mother massages all the time, and admits to this.

-I don't believe he has any friends besides me. He spends all his free time going places with his mom, like the movies or to restaurants.

-He will skip important events I have to hang out with his mom.

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-He sends me unsolicited videos of his mom (which I never ask for? what the fuck?) and they are supremely creepy. They range from, her dancing in a pool in a bikini, dancing in their house, her ordering food at a restaurant, etc. and he will put heart eye emojis in the captions. He seems infatuated as hell. Personally, I've never seen a mother dance so inappropriately before in my life. In front of her son who is recording it, no less.

-he has the emotional maturity of an egotistical 5 year old and is really needy, constantly in need of validation, which I think his mother supplies him with.

-He doesn't want to move out of his city ever because he needs to stay close to his mom.

-He is proud to call himself a mama's boy. He does her hair and she does his eyebrows.

-He once let this slip, 'you have the same beauty marks on your back that my mom has'.

I truly get vibes that he is attracted to his mom, more than he is attracted to me. I don't know if he has been molested in the past or if this emotional incest is two steps away from real incest or what but I cannot help but want to vomit whenever he discusses his mom in the tone he does. It's my gut feeling, based on months of knowing him.

First of all, what does Jow Forums think is going on between the two?

Second, it's obvious this is a lifelong character flaw of his I won't be able to deal with, what is the best way to breakup with this person? I don't want him to come out of this relationship feeling like he and his mom have such a good relationship and I am not understanding, or jealous of his mom.

Sounds like he's already married-to his mom-and you're the side chick.

Sounds like bait, but in case it isn't, you either settle for being #2 or dump him

>he sleeps with his mom and dad
Oh my actual God you need to start running
Forget Oedipus, these guys play the game the whole family can play.

It's incest.
The game is incest

I really don't see the issue, some peop-

>I just found out HE SLEEPS NEXT TO HER a good chunk of the time. I asked where his dad sleeps and he said also in the same bed.


Oh okay. Honestly OP ask him, if anything to figure out what the fuck.

I confronted him about this and his response was, "don't you sleep with your mom when she is sad?" and my response was "fuck no, I comfort her when she is awake", and it turned into a huge argument

the problem is he is unashamed about this behavior and finds nothing wrong with it. If anything, he seems proud and happy to have such a relationship with his mom.

Okay i'll only say this; your gut instinct is usually correct.

He just wants some milk

My girlfriend calls me daddy, despite us having a kid that's learning to talk...

Get him to call you mommy, he sounds like a little momma boy queer tbqhdesufam.

I'd get out now, he'll probably kill himself when his mom dies either way.

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Also I did have a somewhat similar problem, I thought she respected her parents a bit too much, and let them be controlling.

After living with her mother for a short time and feeling out the situation, I realized it's more her parents are overly attached to her than her to them, and she's slowly trying to let them off gently. Her parents are so attached to her and our kid, I fucking hate her mother. She's still controlling but my gf has about had it.

Your boyfriend doesn't have a problem with it.
Also his parents are fucking weird for letting it happen like this.

I do not even have the privilege to meet this saintly queen or see their house. They are above me apparently.

Sorry that you have to go through that, maybe moving farther away with the gf and kid will help a bit.

That's kinda the plan, she had a job interview today and got hired, we're both gonna save to get our own place.

To my dismay it'll be closer to her parents, but my parents are sorta better off and can make the trip there often then they could. Once we have our own place, even if it's close to her parents, I think their influence on her will drop a lot.

To add more to what happened, I pretty much pushed her mom against the wall and screamed at her cuz she deserved it and I was angry about the dumb ass rules there.

After that I had to move which I don't mind, those people were abyssmal to live with. This happened like a month ago. So now we don't live together, but hopefully we will soon, in a house that isn't fucking hell to deal with.

Does your gf take your side about what happened? I hope she doesn’t secretly agree with those abysmal people and doesn’t share any of their habits

Ask yourself this question: Can you see yourself with this guy forever? Because if not, you should cut your losses and find someone who doesn't have this sort of strange issue. You're going to be dealing with this for literal years if you stay with this guy.

She takes my side, her mom literally thought we broke up and we never did. She choses to believe whatever and my girlfriend just goes along with it for convenience.

As much as she's always lied to her mom, even about us having sex (we've fucked for like 3-4 years, her mom thinks it's only like, in the last year,) I feel my girlfriend just goes along with their shit because it's easier than arguing.

Senpai please see
>it's obvious this is a lifelong character flaw of his I won't be able to deal with, what is the best way to breakup with this person? I don't want him to come out of this relationship feeling like he and his mom have such a good relationship and I am not understanding, or jealous of his mom

Missed that line, my bad.

On topic, I don't think OP's going to be able to do that. You can tell him outright that his relationship with his mother and weird and lay out examples, but you aren't going to be able to convince him that it's the case. Figuring that out is on him and not on you. Whatever he thinks the reasoning is after the fact is his business and won't affect you, so don't worry about it and do what you need to.

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