How do you deal with mismatched libido in a relationship...

How do you deal with mismatched libido in a relationship? At this point I'm tired of always initiating and honestly I'm starting to feel guilty every time he rejects me. I feel bad that my sex drive is high, I don't even want to ask for it anymore since I feel like a bother.

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That’s simply unfortunate. I have the same problem. Hows the relationship otherwise?

It's amazing otherwise. He is very caring and affectionate, we have lots of interests in common, lots of things to talk about, our life goals are similar etc. It's just this thing that's starting to get at me.

This is the dumbest problem I've ever heard of. Stop letting your emotions churn your gears over nothing. Men are simple. They say yes or no and mean the statement. When you'd like sex just ask and accept his answer as is.

Men don't have estrogen that puts those weird emotional thoughts in girls heads. Just accept he loves you but doesn't like to fuck as much as you do. But if he does do it it's because he cares for you. Otherwise he wouldn't be there.

Throwing out a good man over sex is why women end up cat ladies in their 40s. You won't look like the pick, you'll own it... And 20 others just like em

Get a trigger word.
Sort of like safe word, but for you to use to make him initiate something.
This way, you can drop a verbal hint, even in front of other people, and he will know he needs to step it up.
If you make it a common word, you should never need to feel ashamed over asking for it. You can still initiate if you want to.
But the trigger+reward is a fast way to train someone new behavior.

Another thing is to stop having sex all the time. Give him time so he can enjoy it every time.
Have him go down on you or masturbate you without returning the favor can give you the breathing room he needs while still keeping you satisfied.
If he is anything like me, he won't be upset over something like that, but let him decide on this.

The last thing, don't confuse "making love" as "love". He probably loves you even if he can't keep up with you sexually.
Recognize how he show it to you.
Some guys build/make things. They are obviously unrelated to you, but when he gives or shows it to you, it is a way to be affectionate.
Some guys do things. When they do things for you, it is their way of loving you. It can be simple stuff like doing the dishes to painting your house.
It can manifest itself in many forms.
Recognize that shit because it matters way more than how often you fuck.
Rewards for doing these things can also come in a lot of forms. Make him feel like a man, build him up...
Let's say he does something for you and you notice it is not 100% perfect. Maybe it is 95% of what you actually wanted.
Don't start by tearing it down, if it can be fixed, fix it, if it can't, let it go.

>the only way to start sex is to directly ask for it
>despite rejecting you before, this will surely make him horny as a goat
>sex isnt important in a relationship btw just live your life without it
Incels should be gased

It’s not going to work out in the long run if you’re not getting drilled like you need to be. let’s say this relationship goes on for four years. Do you even want that first of all? Four years of infrequent, dull sex?

I’m sure things are great but you might as well cut it off and find another guy. There’s millions of dudes out here who you are just as, or more compatible with that just want to put the plug in all day.

I would suggest not even saying it’s because of the sex, because what’s gonna happen is he’ll try to turn around and be more active and go right back to being boring a few weeks later. And it’ll be out of obligation not passion.

This is actually a fairly common issue, and almosrt as frequent with women like you as with men wanting more sex than their partners.

The answer in both cases is communication. In a neutral setting, when you're both dressed and friendly, bring up the problem. DO NOT complain - just say that you feel there is a problem.

He probably won't want to talk about it, but it is a big enough issue that you should calmly insist. It may well be that HE is afraid of seeming too demanding, or that he has other problems on his mind that keep him from feeling sexy. At the very least, if both of you acknowledge that this is a real problem, you can meet a compromise schedule

Communicate, communicate, COMMUNICATE! Tell him you're bothered by the lack of sex, tell him it makes you feel bad how often you get rejected, tell him what you think he can do to help the situation and see if he's got any ideas. Either you work together to find a solution that works for both of you or you accept that you're fundamentally incompatible and find a relationship where you can be sexually fulfilled. Or just go about your life not entirely happy I guess.

This is good advice. I had this issue with an ex who didn't want to have sex as much as I did. We went out for a nice drink and I told her there was a problem she let me speak then I said we would come back to it in 6 months. 6 months passed and nothing had changed and I was deeply sexually frustrated. I broke up with her and it was amicable. I fucked 30 women in the next 2 years and really got it out my system. Now I have a great gf who likes sex as much as me.