PLEASE HELP ME
I'm addict to porn (extreme stuff like scat, pedo...And every porn) and I just give 30€ to a findom...Fuck I feel so ashamed. I try nofap for 2 days...I'm on the 2nd day...fuck how can I stop it
>I'm 19
>I'm French
>I'm desperate
PLEASE HELP ME
I'm addict to porn (extreme stuff like scat, pedo...And every porn) and I just give 30€ to a findom...Fuck I feel so ashamed. I try nofap for 2 days...I'm on the 2nd day...fuck how can I stop it
>I'm 19
>I'm French
>I'm desperate
I want to fck kms...
why...why can I fucking STOP thinking about dirty things, I don't want thoses thought
im going through the same problem
basically all i could find was that we should start noporn. try fapping without porn and eventually most of the extreme fetishes will disappear.
it could be a meme but it's the best chance we got.
Do you have a discord ?or a skype ? do you know a group of person which I can talk to ?
Fiché S spotted.
Yep, so I want help, I don't want to be like this anymore...
And Its not the first time I try to quit trust me
What you feel deprived off is what you crave the most. You want to stop, even thinking about stoppig makes you feel deprived, so your urge to fap/watch porn increases significantly. Just let it go and fap as often as your heart desires without feeling bad or guilty or like you shouldn‘t fap so much, yadda yadda. It will balance itelsf out again once you actually feel like you can fap whenever you want and watch whatever you want. It will lose the excitement of the forbidden.
but I'm at the point where I watch scat stuff and cp...I fucking hate my reflexion in the mirror, I don't want my futur gf to find a bunch of 3To of hentai caption femdom scat loli sissy stuff
Unplug your internet
If you get caught with cp (which you shouldn't mess with in the first place you gross motherfucker) you'll go to prison and when they find out you're a pedo they'll fuck you up and possibly kill you.
I'm serious about this, you need to get away from the internet and just do stuff IRL.
sorry my nibba. i'm not really comfortable talking to people about it. this fight i'm having is going inside my mind and to release it by talking would be giving it credibility (i'm sure you know what i mean by this)
Yeah, so? Do you think just because you watch that, this approach won‘t work?
What are you affraid off? That it will escalate? To what?
Why don‘t you give it a try? If it doesn‘t work you can always go back to trying to solve it with willpower (which is pretty much doomed to fail. Sorry).
See, you‘ll end up watching it again anyways. Your willpower is not endless. So if you‘re going to warch it anyways, why not remove the element of guilt? I‘m very certain that it will take away from the thrill, since one of the thrills of watching extreme porn is that it’s considered inappropiate.
Maybe at first you‘ll experience an increase, since you‘re finally free to do whatever tf you want. But believe me, it WILL start to wear off.
Well I think about this to...But how can I be sure it will wear off ?
Also I'm really sorry that I watch this...I really don't want to, and I discust myself
I'm Honestly this is the best solution.
Try literally unplugging your router, and deleting all you have downloaded. Tell yourself you'll be able to download it back later if you want. This that you have can be vastly turned down by avoiding contact with porn. Don't refrain to masturbate but only using your imagination (and your hand of course) and your desires will regulate themselves. It may not disappear totally but at least it with diminish a lot.
are you french ?
I delete several time my fap folder, but I re-fill it went my urge come up...They come again and again and again and again, and at a certain point, I can't no longer resist
Oui.
Yeah you fill it back because you can. You need to discipline yourself, and sometimes we need help to do so. Just pull the plug.
See I started to get a video-game addiction, I just uninstalled steam and everything. Now I'm back at it but I accomplished so much during the 10 month without it I can now go back at it because my condition has improved. You can do it too.
How can you be sure that you can just stop? There‘s no being sure. But i‘d certainly try it in your situation. The other ways haven‘t worked very well as it seems...
not op
whenever i do nofap or noporn my extreme fetishes come back in full swing. i only dont masturbate to these things whenever i masturbate for a few days in a row (i usually only do it like 3-4 times a week)
Here's a guide I've been working on about this. Hope it helps you out OP
So you’re addicted to trap/cuck/loli/hypno/cp/interracial porn…
You probably know who you are. Most people don’t this guide, and if you’re fortunate enough to not have a sexually dysfunctional relationship with porn then you can stop reading here. For those who aren’t sure, here are some signs:
>Only being able to fap to porn that includes the fetish..
>The fetish is way more arousing than any other sexual stimulation.
>You spend multiple hours looking at or thinking about this fetish without actually fapping or trying to cum.
>You’re only interested in your other fetishes if they include this one.
>You no longer care about real sexual relationships outside of this fetish.
>You fap to this fetish multiple times a day, sometimes with only a few hours between sessions.
>You fap so much that it affects the rest of your life and the time you normally give to your hobbies, school or job.
>Seemingly random non-sexual things remind you of this fetish.
>You frequently find yourself fantasizing about this fetish in public.
>You’ve tried to quit fapping to this fetish multiple times, but you’re unable to go more than a few days. You delete your porn collection, only to start over again.
>Unlike previous fetishes, you actively try to contribute to this fetish in the form of uploading porn, compilations, fanfiction, etc.
>When watching porn of this fetish, every part of the video is arousing, including parts that you would normally skip over.
>The thoughts you have about this fetish are invasive, and seemingly occur without a trigger. They are persistent, and you almost feel helpless trying to resist them.
>You have tried “just accepting it,” but it changes nothing.
It’s easy to rationalize this and make excuses, saying “Oh, I’m not really addicted! What’s so bad about having my life be based around this fetish anyway? I can stop whenever I want!” Then why haven’t you? Why would you choose to let your life be taken over by porn? Would you really throw away everything that matters to you for this? To spend six to eight hours a day fapping compulsively? Don’t lie to yourself. It doesn’t have to be this way.
Despite what some people will tell you, this is NOT normal. Wanting to take your life back from a fetish that has completely consumed you doesn’t make you a religious bigot, someone in denial of their “true” fetish, sexually naive, or a traditionalist. These people hold ideologies that don’t allow them to admit that sexuality can be dysfunctional, and therefore they can’t admit that you are in pain and have a problem. They can’t even fathom what you’re going through right now, and both them along with others like you who have given up will tell you that it’s impossible, and that being a compulsive porn-addicted masterbator is just who you are. That’s bullshit.
You can quit this. You can get your life back. But if you’re going to quit, you have to start now. Not later, not tonight, not after one last fap. You have to start right now and say that you’re done forever. There is no point where you can look at it “safely” again. There’s no “safe” amount. This fetish has been so ingrained in you through repeated enforcement that even seeing something that reminds you of your fetish will flood your brain with it. The neural pathways surrounding this fetish have been given constant stimulation, to the point that they will literally force themselves upon the rest of your thoughts if they go too long without it. Their sheer activity has caused them to become tangled with the rest of your mind, resulting in unrelated thoughts becoming associated with them, and the rest of your mind being overshadowed by them. The first thing you must do is starve them.
You should know that this will be one of the hardest things you will ever do. It will be painful, and it will take years. But at the end, you will be free, and will have saved yourself from a lifetime of being a slave to this fetish. Start first by not just quitting the Internet, but quitting electronics. Let a friend or family member hold onto your computer, phone, or whatever else for a few months. If you need a phone or Internet connection for work, buy a burner phone or go to a library. This is important; the withdrawals will be so strong, that they will compel you to seek out your fetish. You have probably tried to make it before on willpower alone and failed multiple times now, so don’t leave this up to chance.
You can expect severe withdrawals within the first few days. There will be points where your brain will literally be flooded with your fetish. Don’t try to dwell on it, relieve it, edge or masturbate, because this will only enforce it further. Recognize that the thoughts are separate from you, and that it’s not who you are. These thoughts might seem relentless, but they will pass. This phase is different for everyone, but is usually over in anything from a few days to a week. However, the withdrawals are not over. Even after the initial week, expect there to be sudden, seemingly random pangs to go back to the fetish. On top of this, there will be periods similar to the initial withdrawals every three to five weeks where your brain is again flooded by the thoughts. Know that they are coming, and be prepared to wait for them to pass; they will cease entirely after about a year.
During the withdrawals, your mind will tell try to set things up in order to both make you relapse and avoid any guilt. For example, you might get the sudden temptation to go on a website where your fetish is usually posted, just to “see something funny really quick” or “see if anything new has been posted.” Suddenly, your fetish is triggered and you relapse again, but your mind rationalizes this as not being your fault. “It was a complete coincidence, I couldn’t help it. It’s not like I could prevent it from happening again!” Parts of your mind, desperate for stimulation, will resort to any means available to make you relapse. Be aware of this and criticize their excuses. The rest of your brain outnumbers these sick neurons, and once you realize their tricks then they don’t stand a chance.
There may be a lot of nonsexual things that remind you of your fetish. These might include phrases, songs, places, people, objects, shapes, and so on. If you find something that triggers your fetish, either discard it or avoid it. If it’s something you can’t ignore, like a person or your body, be aware of the effect it will have on you and prepare to resist the trigger before interacting with it. Notice how the urges are separate from the object itself as you fight them, and how they have twisted the object into a false perversion of what it really is. Eventually, these objects will go back to appearing non-sexual to you, but it will take time.
You can take the risk of using your computer again after about four or five months, but even then you should avoid forums, imageboards or any other sites with images of porn that will trigger you for at least another three months. Know that you never become completely immune to the addiction; even years later, you can still relapse and a dead habit can become alive and strong again in an instant. It may get easier with time, but this addiction will leave a lasting scar on your psyche. The urges will go away, but the potential for these neural paths to form again will be there forever. However, with the strength of your will you can beat it.
And that's it. I've been studying this phenomenon for a little while now and have helped a few people quit. I'll stick around to answer any questions you might have