I've fallen out of love with my girlfriend, the spark just isn't there for me anymore

I've fallen out of love with my girlfriend, the spark just isn't there for me anymore

However she's a nice person and seems to be genuinely in love with me. Should I break it off with her?

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I mean.
I guess

You don't need to be necessarily crazy in love to be in a relationship. If you feel good with her then it's enough. If there are no particular reason you didn't tell us I don't really understand why you are putting this pressure on yourself.

Would you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't love you?
Also how do I place a $200 bet that op will almost immediately regret breaking up? Because that seems like a good bet.

yup, this will happen. so can't take the bet. And he's going to emotionally drain her for years after. Poor girl.

You are just bored. Things could not be new forever.
Find a way to fall in love with her again.
If you start to despise her or lose respect for her, then you break up.
Being in love is temporary. Loving someone is different.

That "spark" always ends after 2-3 months, due to change in brain chemistry

>Should I break it off with her?
No. Well at least, not yet. Because you still must try to identify all the reasons why you feel this way. And then work together with your partner as a team to figure out if you guys can solve these problems together so that the flame can be rekindled. To break things off without giving your partner and you any chance whatsoever to fix the issues that are causing this issue would not be fair to them. And if you did decide to stop before consulting your partner about anything, you would just fall into a nasty cycle of dropping relationships over and over again from losing your spark without trying to fix the problem with them. I know a girl who jumps from BF to BF for this very problem.

Always try to put as much effort into fixing the relationship as you can with your partners help before deciding it doesn't work out.

I genuinely dread talking to her every day, she constantly needs me to validate that I love her when I just don't, we've been at this for 7 years now and I'm just not sure if I want to devote anymore years of my life to this relationship.

I feel bad because it seems like she really does love me but I just can't stand being around/talking to her anymore.

Ok under this angle then you should leave her. It will only get worst from there.

Nope. I wouldn't. I had someone i really love and then from one moment to another i was like hmmm do i really love her and was retarded enough to break up with her. She was nice, as yours and loved me from the bottom of her heart. It has been more than 5 years and i still regret that decision. My advice would be to not break up and see if you can make things work after all.

Get worse*

Yeah I think you just don't understand how love and relationships work.

Everyone NEEDS time off. You sound like you are drained. Like you need a rest.

Mate, I learned about this with my husbando. We sleep on separate bedrooms because we have been together for so long we need SPACE. You know?

We want to be together but sometimes we just want to be without each other.


People are different. What every person wants is different from the rest of the world. Learn to work with these differences.

The spark(tm) isn't meant to last forever. You just have to find the dearest best friend you can find and fuck.

Friendship keeps the love alive and friendship is better than love in 100% of cases. Specially after 10 years.


Believe me opie

The thing is I've tried expressing that to her, that sometimes I just don't want to have sex or be really lovey dovey I just want to sit in bed and shoot the shit about cartoons.

She always responds that "what's the point of being boyfriend and girlfriend then" or makes me feel like I'm avoiding her and I end up feeling like shit.

Even if I just respond with "Hey I'm gonna be busy today, but love you!" she feels like I'm ignoring her and spams my phone or like I'm being distant.

The worst part is we just don't share a lot of the same interests anymore.

I get what you're saying and I think I'll just try to tell her what I've just said and hopes something works. Because I just can't deal with things like this anymore, I'm infinitely drained.

>7 years now and I'm just not sure if I want to devote anymore years of my life to this relationship.
man fuck you and everyone who looks like you

Fuck off, I shouldn't have to force myself to not consider that I'll be spending the literal rest of my life with this one person. It's not even like I want to leave them for someone else.

I just don't think I'm cut out for relationships.

no you fuck off cunt. 7 FUCKING YEARS. you led a girl on for 7 whole years. a girl who genuinely loves you and has been under the impression you love her back when you actually resent her for loving you because her wanting to spend time with you "makes you feel bad". fuck right off with that. you choosing not to nut up and express your needs properly for years is what makes you feel bad but i bet that makes you feel bad too so fuck it -- her problem, not yours, right? after all why shouldn't she have to pay the price for your decisions? you have the literal rest of your life to find someone else or die miserable and alone or whatever the fuck else it is you'd rather be spending your time doing. you shouldn't have to force yourself not to consider that if she's not already spent all of her best years with you, whatever's left of them will be taken up by getting over you. people who selfishly use others and discard them like trash deserve nothing but agony, and you are those people. drink bleach cunt.

My is chubby and not that physically attractive to me anymore. should I break it off?

take it up with her

Why dont youfucking talk to her about it. Maybe you and her can understand whats going on if you both address each others behaviors

take what up with her?

your dwindling physical attraction