LONG POST: I've been in a relationship with BF for 2 years. I know a lot of guys watch porn, whatever idc. All of my exes watched porn and I was okay with it. The difference here is about a week before we moved in together he was staying at my place and I used his phone to take pictures of a project I was working on (I was not snooping - he knew about this, his phone cam is much better than mine and he let me use it). So I was working until pretty late before I had to take pictures, but I saw in his recently deleted album a few porn gifs of women with huge tits. Now I have small ones like barely an A and I have always felt bad about that, but never in a relationship until I came across this. I told him about it in the morning and how much it hurts since I do not feel comfortable around him anymore. Like I do not have what he wants. He reassured me and it took me a few months to not feel worthless to him. Now fast forward to 2 weeks ago, I went into the bathroom while he was showering to use his phone to call mine (I was in a rush for work and lost my phone) and when I opened it I saw nothing but HUGE ASS TITTIES and of course I got sad and mad - mostly because he lied to me. He lied so easily about it and it hurt. So after a day of fighting and me not leaving because of the lie we were okay. I was still self conscious about myself and worried since he lied so easily to me. We came to an agreement for him to leave his phone near the bed when he showers. Easy right? Easy to keep a relationship, right? Well this morning he took his phone in while I was sleeping and seemed confused that I was hurt. It hasn't even been 2 weeks and he's acting dumb saying he was only shitting while the shower was on. Like okay, that's normal, but that was the ONE thing I asked him to do so I could feel comfortable in the relationship. Is that really that hard to do? Not take a phone into the shower? Is that too much to ask to keep trust running in a relationship? I feel lost.
Lost trust in BF for lying about porn
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Men can like both big and small breasts.
>Being mad that your BF likes big tits.
Now you know what it is like to be a man with a small wee-wee. It is understandable that you are insecure, but don't let that ruin your relationship.
if it bothers you so much he should be mature about it and respect your wishes. this is obviously affecting you to the point where it should be something he gives up.
He enjoys your tits. He wouldn't be with you if he didn't.
If you want him to focus on your body more find ways to make your sex life more fun. Causing drama over your body will only make it less fun. Your own unique body has its own advantages nobody else has and he'll enjoy it for them. Try to understand your own negative perception of your tits isn't the value other people have for them.
Wait what? How did he lie to you in the first place?
I’m one of those people who thinks porn isn’t good for you, and people should wait for marriage and blah blah, but you’re honestly coming off as crazy here. Or just a troll.
If you watched porn you wouldn't look for a micro dick or dicklet, you'd look for big dicks/big black cocks
This is the make equivalent.
>she should respect your wish of not watching porn with women that have larger breasts than you
I disagree. It think the problem is that OP has severe issues that she apparently has no intention of solving. It took her MONTHS to not feel worthless around him! This is the problem that she should tackle, not the porn he watches or whether he takes his phone into the bathroom.
Of course I don't know what he's thinking; if he just doesn't care about her issues at all then that's of course that's another problem, but for me it seems like OP is unreasonable, especially considering that apparently her breasts are so small that not watching porn with women who have larger breasts than her would mean not watching porn at all.
OP my gf also has tiny breasts and I love them. I wouldn't change them ever. And yet I still watch porn with women with large breasts. Just as I watch porn with black or asian women. That doesn't mean I prefer those women over my gf, it just means sometimes different things turn you on, and sometimes it's those things that you can't have, even though you don't actually want them.
OP you really need to work on yourself first.
You are a huge immature tool. You can't pressure people to be other than what's in their nature and think it's going to go well. Men are most likely going to watch porn and take care of their needs by necessity of their nature. You trying to control it is like him saying he doesn't want you having your period.
Just grow up or don't date people.
The root of this is that you're insecure about the size of your tits. Fix your own shit and don't project it onto him.
Get over it. At this rate he's going to leave you because you're insecure and pathetic, and you're going to convince yourself it was because of your tits.
user, a guy's porn preferences dont always reflect what they want in real life. If they do, most men would be fucking their moms, sisters, and nurses.
This is less of a trust issue but more of a self-esteem issue for you. Stopping your dude from googling tig biddies wont stop him jacking off to the thought of it. Figure out how to be comfortable with your body and accept that he likes you for more than just sex. You will never be any man's perfect sex object and you shouldnt try to be
only trash keeps porn on their phone so yea, you are probably trash too, do whatever, you aint gona hold down a good relationship because you are stupid
My girlfriend has small boobs and I tell her and reassure her all the time I don't mind. She's got titty envy or something because if I ever say a woman is attractive it becomes about her having bigger boobs.
Boob size isn't what matters to all men. For some, loke myself, I like boobs that fit well with the person's body. My girlfriend might have a small chest, but everything about her is small. Her boobs are actually very sexy. It's exhausting to have to always reassure her.
Holy shit you are so overreacting, god damn
It's just a pair of big tits relax
This is really, really weak justification.Most men would be fucking their sisters and nurses if there was no taboo, and if it wouldn't end in ruining one's reputation.
>I make him nice dinners
>he sometimes goes out to eat with his coworkers
>why does he hate my cooking?
Grow up, dear. He's simply consuming a healthy variety of tits, and if he's jacking off to them, he's probably not cheating for them. Also, him lying about porn is not evidence of conspiracy. It's easy to lie about simple and pointless things. Like your bowling score. I'm actually shit at bowling. Good luck, and learn to check your own emotions. Is what you are feeling reasonable?
Ha, over-reactive bitch
Get over it toots
>Is that too much to ask
Christ you sound like my mum. Every little thing she wants, she acts like it's the ONLY thing and that you're unreasonable for not doing it. Yes you bitch, it's unreasonable to have demands like these and flip when he doesn't follow because it's so insignificant and meaningless. It starts off with him not being able to go to the bathroom with his phone and before he knows it every tiny aspect of his life will be under your control.
Er... I think that just might be you, user
Why's everyone so harsh? What if you caught your girlfriend masturbating to big dick porn? Then what if you caught her again?
Doesn't work the other way around
youtube.com
Pussy's pussy
Why would anyone care, I'd probably be more concerned if she werev looking at small dick porn
First off, yeah he’s kind of a dick for not being able to control his phone habits.
But you also have to realize that porn and you is not comparable. It’s an extension of fantasy. In most cases this is harmless. Almost no women can do or be porn girls.
So try to get comfortable with small tits. Some guys are really into it so love yourself and others will too.
But I would probably drop this guy though, he seem kinda bland and got some shitty habits.
I guess we'll agree to disagree. If my girl's got time to oggle other men, she's got time for other things.
>Now I have small ones like barely an A and I have always felt bad about that, but never in a relationship until I came across this
He may or may not have a preference for larger tits. At the end of the day it doesn't matter, cause he loves you for you and your small boobies. Isn't that enough?
> I told him about it in the morning and how much it hurts since I do not feel comfortable around him anymore. Like I do not have what he wants
He's been with you for 2 years. He wasnts you.
>and when I opened it I saw nothing but HUGE ASS TITTIES and of course I got sad and mad - mostly because he lied to me.
You weren't meant to see it, and he lied because he knew you would react like this. This entire thread is further justification for why he hid that fetish of his, because he was thinking of how you would feel. And again, it was not meant for you to see.
>We came to an agreement for him to leave his phone near the bed when he showers. Easy right? Easy to keep a relationship, right?
No. It's my phone that I paid for with my hard earned money. I would break up with you but he's really trying to help you.
> Like okay, that's normal, but that was the ONE thing I asked him to do so I could feel comfortable in the relationship. Is that really that hard to do? Not take a phone into the shower? Is that too much to ask to keep trust running in a relationship? I feel lost.
Oh my goodness get over yourself and your damn small tits, nobody cares.
Im sorry OP, but if theres one thing making everything worse, its you being envious about those tits and pressuring him into not beating his meat.
Dudes gon be dudes and jack off to all kinds of things, while in real life, they might just want their sweet little qt gf without pornstar tits...
Problem is: you shouldnt project your insecurities upon him. He doesnt dislike your body, or he would have left you...
Those tits are different to yours. Ok who cares. Theyre DIFFERENT, not better, and again, if he wanted a big tiddy gf, he would have left a long time ago.
So just get over it, let him beat his meat to whatever he likes and dont bother him about suh insignificant things, because thats how youre going to loose him in the fastest way possible
hope your boyfriend leaves you for a girl with massive milk udders
so insecure and lame.
My s/o literally looks at porn of small girls, girls with flat chests, etc. All the time. My boobs are nearly E, and I'm fairly chubby. Just cause they look at porn of girls who look a lot different than me doesn't mean they hate my body.
I think you need to stop projecting onto your bf desu. It seems to be turning you into a control freak. He's been with you for 2 years, if he didn't like your tits and all that mattered to him were tits you guys would've been over a long time ago.
Most people, including guys, don't just love someone for their body. Sure, body is important to an extent, but you want to like who that person is too. You're doing yourself a disservice by making your boobs the only thing that defines your worth.
Do some guys actually like small tits? Or do they say this to make their small tiddy gfs feel confident with their bodies?
I'm not insecure like OP, just curious. My boyfriend always says he likes small tits and he'd take As over Bs, Cs, Ds and so on any day. And when he sees a pic of boobs like pic rel says "eww" or something like that
Big tits are a meme. Shape and firmness are what matters and smaller tits tend to do better on these, hence why I prefer them.
>Do some guys actually like small tits?
yeah
>do some american guys like wine?
yes, of course, but they're super elitist and whiny on the internet. I'm more of a boob-centrist, myself
I love all tits. I'd honestly have a girl who's almost flat than a girl with DDD's trying to throw her back out when she runs, but all tits are nice in their own way. Anybody who makes a big deal about body type is either a fetishist or completely deluded about what parts of your relationship will last longest.
Most people make a big deal about body type in the sense that they don't like obese girls, which is fair. Making a big deal about small details like boob size is petty though
OP sounds like a controlling, paranoid, and annoying girl. If you want to keep your bf then just let him do his thing. He's not cheating on you. And he's clearly putting up with your shit for a long time. Settle the fuck down or you'll get dumped for Being a control freak.
There's nothing wrong with having preferences, but putting "physical attributes" at the top of your list as uncompromisable is a recipe for failure since physical attributes will almost always be the first thing to go in a long term relationship.
I don't believe that most men would prefer a flat chested A cup (this is practically flat) to a girl in pic related - perky, shapely D-cup boobs.
Big tits don't age well.
>bf watches porn with big titties
I personnaly like nice big tits in porn and such but I have a huge crush on girls with small tits, tomboys are my thing
Don't worry, like a famous french streamer once said; "we men like to masturbate to sex bombs in porn, absolute sexual beauties, but when we come home to have sex with our potato bag girlfriend, we'll gladly do so, because we love our potato bag
I love big breasts, my ex-girlfriend didn't have big breasts either, and I loved her anyway. You're just being childish.
Also you shouldn't check his phone without his permission, that's just wrong.
you need to give him a stronger ultimatum and not expect him to understand your feelings
it's a tough situation because you are basically asking him not to jerk off to a fetish that, by no fault of his own, he has, and by no fault of yours, you can't satisfy. but that situation can't just be swept under the rug.
he needs to know exactly how it makes you feel, and above all he needs to actually WANT to know, to care about understanding you, and why you're upset. if you guys start sweeping shit under the rug by finding a convenient fix, you will set horrible habits for the long term. if my girlfriend were upset about something like this, in the way you got upset, i would
>be very distressed and try to figure out why, exactly what you feel etc.
>tell you openly and honestly if i feel like your request (that i not fap to that porn at all) is reasonable/unreasonable - i would tell the truth about whether i would or would not do it
>if i felt tempted in the future, because i understand how you feel i'd also understand full well what i'm doing - i.e., if i DO break down and hide it from you, i'd know i'm hiding it from you, i wouldn't be able to go "oh what she doesn't know won't hurt her :^)" because it's the principle of the matter
you guys are not doing some or all of this, but it's all necessary to good communication. if he fundamentally thinks it's unreasonable that you ask him not to fap to that shit, he needs to voice that with you and talk it out, not just think "hmm i'll be sure to do it secretly then."
>tfw have such a perfect figure and face my bf quit porn entirely
>tfw will never be insecure over my looks because I am the only woman who can give him boners
Feels good man. I couldnt imagine my life as a titlet/asslet. Insecure gfs must be fucking HELL to date.
and i forgot to say: likewise, you need to understand that your feelings AREN'T ENOUGH. you can't simply feel the way you feel about something, vent those feelings by crying/getting upset, and then expect a man to go
>i hate to see her upset! i won't do that again, then.
men need reasons and they need to abide by principles. women generally are overemotional and fucking weird about tons of shit. so you need to articulate your feelings in ways he understands (as reasoned, intentional principles), and he needs to meet you halfway as well by assuming that there is a method to your madness, and trying to see what you're saying when you are having strong feelings about something.
the precedent you are setting here is basically that you think your feelings are sufficient to sway a situation, and he thinks your feelings can be dismissed because they're just feelings. he's devaluing your emotions, and you're overvaluing them. in the future this will come up in other ways.
who cares if he has big boob photos, your being neurotic. deal with your insecurities they are not his problem.
This is so dumb. I like big tits more than anyone I know and yet all the girls I've in my personal life that I've ever wanted to date have been card carrying members of the itty-bitty titty committee.
>Wtf why does he like both turkey and chicken????
Dumb flattie.
Get over him. Get with me.
wow jesus are you a marriage counselor? i envy your ability to make an analysis like this, not kidding.
spying on his phone doesn't go well with discussions about trust, also if he needs to masturbate when you're literally in the next room that should raise some serious red flags.
big tits aside, do you think he's satisfied with your sexual life?
As long as im not feeling a chalkboard chest equivalent to a guys chest then i'm happy. Tits in your pic are indeed a meme
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He is literally willing to put up with your inane bullshit, small tits, and visible insecure personality.
Stop fucking complaining you retard. He looks past your tiny tits for a reason we anons dont know about.
Surprised this thread is still alive. Just here to post if your man is saying he loves your tiny tits and you argue with him it will piss him off. My girlfriend has tiny tits and she never believes me when I say it.
I love her tits so much I have her take off her shirt so I can jack off to them and cover them in cum. She still doesn't believe me lol. Women.
He lied to you because you're being unreasonably insecure. You're so insecure you've decided that he isn't allowed to have his own phone in his shower. You're being ridiculous. This insecurity you have is your problem, not his. If you keep letting your insecurity run this relationship he will leave you.
You are seriously ruining your own relationship
He needs to learn that if he just throws you on the bed and fucks you you will get over the insecurity really quick. Instead of waiting for months for you to get over something and having you be anxious about some porn. Nothing gets to "I feel wanted" faster than some domination.
> hope your boyfriend leaves you for a girl with massive milk udders
Top kek
Based
Tldr; typical girl tries to manipulate man because feelings, typical man thinks woman is being retarded because feelings.
The solution here isn't to give a "harder" ultimatum. The solution isn't to encourage op to be insecure. The solution is for OP to get the fuck over it. She's not even mad at the fact that he's beating it to porn, or even looking at porn. She's mad that he's aware of her inadequacies. Purely vain crap to be quite frank.
/thread we can like big cow tits and iddy biddy tiddys
She's not being vain. She wants real live and acceptance and him releasing feelings on women with different bodies is selfish of him, like who said he's entitled to even have porn? Or imagine those women want him and aren't acting while he has a perfectly good real woman right there?
OP just dump him sis. This is a boy, you are too mature for this. Find you one not so childish he can't stop looking at porn for you and his own benefit. Dump him sis.
Can't tell if this is bait or not. I hope it is lol
Stop trying to control every aspect of your partner's life, as long as they aren't fucking someone on the side you genuinely shouldn't give a fuck.
This can't be real. You can't be this vain, self-conscious, and overcontrolling... Right?
This
Ding ding! Winwar!
If you had big tits he would probably look for small. He likes your tits just fine, but sometimes likes to look at diferent tits
OP you need to get some confidence. I have A cups too, but I believe my bf when he tells me he loves them. From what he told me it's all about the shape and mine are perky and fit with my body.
Just because he watches porn doesn't mean his taste is narrow. He probably likes all kinds of boobs, big or small. In my experience, we are much more particular in our taste than men, they like a variety of bodies and are not as picky. The whole "if you have boobs and you let me touch them, then they're my favorite kind of boobs" thing.
OP big tits are like a fully loaded SUV, they look great and like lots of fun but most guys wouldn't have much use for them or even know what to do with them if they had some. In theory I like big tits but in practice they're not any better than small tits, there's a huge market for tiny teen porn for a reason because guys like small tits just as much as they enjoy giant tits, I understand the violation of trust but at the same time you should get over this fixation on your breasts it's like the guys on here who pretend like because they don't have a massive 9 inch dong no woman will ever want to fuck them or be satisfied which is just plain not true
ill fuck you in the ass and wont look at big boobies baby, we can make our own porn if you want
Bait.