Is this a good idea for finding a good bf?

Thanks for the links user. I appreciate it

Quit talking like a stupid whore and just lose the weight. You don't see me growing a belly, scraggly neckbeards, and having a smelly penis just so I can attract girls who are not "shallow".

>I have a lot of willpower though
Yeah. But can you prove it? This is the test and the rules are clear. Lose weight.
>I will find the better guy
Maybe, maybe not. One thing for sure is you're gonna miss out on *a lot* of much better guys with reservation against fat.
DESU a man not caring for looks/health of his partner is objectively a negative trait. Folks like that are bound to have issues.

>I don't trust people though and I don't think I can differentiate a guy sho is shallow from one that isn't
You'll learn

>Why would I want to be with a man who doesn't want me when I'm fat?
So that in case you get fat/lazy/other easily fixable negative trait, he'll be there, caring, watching, and supporting you. Instead of just letting it happen.

What you describe is about being a dirt bag and I'm pretty clean. Besides men's value in dating isn't really about looks contrary to girls. You are weak because you treat women like dirt under anonymous boards. Who would take your advice when you sound so retarded bitter and loserino?

>DESU a man not caring for looks/health of his partner is objectively a negative trait.
You might be in the right with this one.
But user, one more thing I'd like to hear your opinion about. Since I will definitely become old and ugly. Shouldn't I still look for the partner who doesn't care about health/looks? Both will deteriorate with time

But I can see where you are coming from so I will think this better

Ok, so you accept that looks are more important for women than for men. Stop being fat you fucking pig.

>OP follows this plan
>ends up dating a fatty chaser
>he tries to sabotage the weight loss
>OP somehow loses the weight anyways
>he is not longer attracted to her and cheats/leaves for another fat girl

Shallow people will find you no matter what
No matter what
matter
what

Duh,that's what this plan is about.
About avoiding shallow men because they usualy put looks over personality. I want someone that won't give a fuck.

How do I avoid them then?or try to avoid them?

No.
I will make sure I don't date creeps.

>No.
>I will make sure I don't date creeps.
How will you be able to tell?

Some people use Jow Forums to help out others, while others use Jow Forums to trip. Quell your insecurities a little bit when you catch yourself calling strangers mean names on anonymous weeb forums.

Guys can be a bit shallow when it comes to looks admitedly but tbqh there's a LOT of flex room when it comes to attractiveness, and it is a lot more subjective than objective. It's a lot like flavours imho, where even objectively delicious flavors are likened to be mundane in favour of something special.

I guess just do what ultimately makes you happy and don't obsess over it as a good catch all solution

Haha, this.
you are dumb.

>I will make sure I don't date creeps.
Now you are really dumb, and also wrong.

>How do I avoid them?
Learn that they're shallow, and then sever ties
That's basically it. And get to know people before you fuck them
Like really get to know them. Shallow people will find you no matter who or what you are, that's the whole thing about being shallow, they just exist to sate a base craving.

Listen. I wouldn't want to date someone overweight (by that much) because it means that 1) they don't prioritize their health and/or 2) they don't have the discipline to improve themselves. Being fat and having the drive to lose the weight will attract people based on your ability to commit to positive changes, not just 'shallow' people. It's not shallow to not want to date someone because they don't take care of themselves. Someone that is willing to date you when you're fat either doesn't care about your health / what you look like, or at worst someone that doesn't care about their own health / what they look like. Do you want to date someone that's going to be 800 pounds at 50 and die if a heart attack? Do you want to date someone that's ok with you dying of a heart attack at 50?

if you're willing to do the work to find a good partner, it is easier to do if you are healthy.

Do you think it would be smart to get a bf with this body? And when I get into a relationship slowly transform into a qt?
Don't delude yourself. If it's not important enough to get fit beforehand, then it definitely won't be after you've got a boyfriend. I can count the fatties I've known that actually got fit later in life on one hand, and I've known a lot of fatties

>Scared of sex because my body is ugly

Wew, the flood of self esteem and egoism is going to hit you hard when you become "super cute" and sexy.

I feel sorry for any guy with low enough self esteem to settle for your fat ass.

Holy shit, my sides shot into orbit

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>Is this a good idea for finding a good bf?
Yes, I would totally date a girl with a tiger killing rocket tampon.

It seems like you fap while you write insults to women on anonimous chinese basket forums. How happy must your life be uh.
But that's ok. I think. Or maybe not. You have problems.

Well I wouldn't date you either because you wouldn't date someone just because they are overweight?I'm attracted to chubby guys, I find them extremely cute.

I expressed myself wrong. Imean I'm not ugly by any means. I feel ugly. I feel ugly but I'm not ugly. It's hard to explain it. It's a girl feel. Also, I'm not egoist or anything. You just like insulting people on the internet what a surprise. Much creativity.

I wish I could use my tampons to shoot niggers on the streets too user.

Some of you guys were nice and I will take your advice. But most of you are legit retarded and get all angry whenever a woman who disagrees with you post. But that's ok I guess I want to avoid people like you and you just don't want to accept you are shallow.

I understand not dating someone who is morbidly obese and can barely walk,that is really really sad and something that would affect you mentally but I'm not that fat I can't move my ass. or that fat I only drink soda and chew chew on doritos every night.

Anyway thanks, and the incels can go back to r9k senpaitachi.

Have a good night I'm going to bed

If you're fat and insecure about your weight, then you're going to attract creeps. There are men who target heavy women because they "like big girls". They know you have low self esteem. They prey on it because it means you'll be more willing to bend to their will because they learned to "love you for who you are". You're more likely to find a creepy asshole who will take advantage of you're insecurity as a fat chick than you are to run into a shallow dude who will go through months of courtship just to put his dick in you.

You want to weed out the creeps and pervs? Make them wait until you officially call it a relationship. Make them earn the Boyfriend status by building a bond and friendship before jumping into a relationship. Don't just go out and pick some dude who's nice to you because you're desperate for a dick in your life.

Be a real person first. Look for a real person first. Stop caring about how your weight affects the relationship.

>asks for advice
>doesn’t like the advice given

What the fuck do you want? Get the fuck off this board if you’re just asking for people to support the conclusion you’ve already arrived at

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Talk to that nice boy whos polite just because he does it out of the goodness of his heart.

The kind thay would entertain and talk to anybody. Yes anybody. Autists. Spergs. Rejects. Aspies. Hell even downsyndrome ass kids. Does he do it because he himself is retarded? No. He just doest because he is.

As a fellow woman, I hate this idea that wanting to have an attractive partner makes you shallow. There's absolutely nothing shallow about wanting to be attracted to someone you're fucking, ffs. It's about the whole package: looks AND personality. Lose weight immediately, OP, and filter out the shallow ones who care only about looks by being friends with them first. Guys who don't like your personality won't be able to remain just friends.
The issue us that you will probably have to ask them out yourself with this approach when you come to the conclusion that they genuinely like you, but that's how you get a good man.

just scrolling through the front page of Jow Forums and didn't open the thread

this is honestly 10/10 advice

based

There are just two requirements for being an attractive female:
Be young
Be healthy (this includes being non-fat)

you're not going to magically attract someone greater if you're fat compared to being healthy
it's the opposite, good guys will see your fat and run
judging by the question, you should work on insight and self-knowledge too

>So I avoid the dudes that are shallow and will want me for my personality?
>always pretending to be retarded when dudes want to come close
The problem is you are not pretty right now.
Guys who think you are not pretty does not mean they are shallow.
If they liked you for your personality but not your looks, you would be their friends.
I am a guy who have a ton of male friends.
I do not find anyone of them sexy, but I do like them as friends.
Start to get a ton of friends. If you want to have a boyfriend, be friends with some guys.
Lets propose this scenario instead:
You get a ton of friends.
You loose weight.
One of them asks you out.
Is he shallow for asking you out?
Was it because you lost weight or was it the timing? It will never be just one thing that decides these things.
You are distancing yourself from an issue you need to work on and blames a future boyfriend for having issues with you being fat when he doesn't even exist yet.
That is crazy.
Loose weight, focus on that.
I am personally in the same position (although a fat guy).
I was 30kg overweight and I started (for real) 2 months ago and I have lost 15kg.
I aim to hit these goals every day:
45min biking
45min walking
45min cardio
10k steps, 10floors up and 10 floors down.
I eat one meal per day at noon, about 1000kcal.
I burn about 3500kcal/day where 2000 of those are passive.
If I keep this up, I will have a normal BMI by Christmas, maybe sooner. I have already gone down 2 sizes in pants and I feel great.

No man that is willing to fuck, let alone date, a fat bitch is worth keeping. Fat girls are horribly disgusting. Do you really want to date a guy who is attracted to gross?

Sorry if i have trouble understanding OP. But are you saying you want to lose weight and get a more attractive body to get a boyfriend. And then after you have your boyfriend you go back to your out-of-shape self?

this

If you're pretending to be retarded you have more problems than you're admitting to

Slut shaming a neck beard girl that wants one person to bust deep in them walls. Classic Jow Forums, men can be horrendous, but if a woman is impure in any sense, she's worthless.

>So I avoid the dudes that are shallow and will want me for my personality?
You’re at just as much risk of attracting a chubby chaser as a guy who likes you purely for your personality. Especially when you just derp out around boys; you don’t have much personality to speak of in that case.

Odds are a guy in an actual relationship with you wants you for, wait for it, an actual relationship. Guys, especially shallow guys, who want quick sex aren’t gonna wait for a relationship.

>I want a partner who can prove to me he won't care about having a fat woman by his side and I will repay him the sentiment by becoming super cute or as cute as I can be.
This is dumb. You’re gonna continuously want the guy to “prove” he’s into you? You know how shitty that is? And you getting into shape will be his reward?

I’ll say this much, you’ve proved you have no experience in relationships, let alone an understanding of how they work.

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You should start working out. Don't really need the bf as a prerequisite, but they can motivate you to push yourself. The sticky on Jow Forums will be a great starting point. Other than that, it will be a constant climb.

It will also improve your mental health as well. Take a picture before you start your first workout, then try to track your gradual progress every so often. I feel much better now that I've seen results, and it will only get better.

This is quite a nice coincidence seeing this here as i am in the same situation with you, however i do have a boyfriend i'd like to be with for life.
However i'd say if you are an actual female and such and not trolling or whatever to be quite careful with a guy who shows interest in you and i'd say this for any girls online not just Jow Forums, in your condition especially a guy who just seeks virgins or has a feeding fetish/enjoys making girls overly obese and then leave.
I think anyone can get laid but finding a good bf/gf is gonna be difficult especially long term, i'd say if you do find a guy please know him for more than a year to two and be interested in each others interests and such and don't make it too much about virgin or not, just focus on what the guy is saying and just talk and hang out. Only give your virginity to the guy if you are a 100% sure, i mean, real shit, but i'd say sex and virginity shouldn't be the focus on a relationship unless temporary and short term, idk how people do that shit.
The guy im with right now used to be kinda chubb then he lost weight and im kinda chub but not obese anymore, i lost 33 pounds for him and i'll lose more. Weight shouldn't just be about just attracting a guy it should be a permanent lifestyle and as much as for you as it is for him, also i'd recommend going to Jow Forums and reading /fph/ and /fat/ on the daily to help you with losing that.
My bf is also a virgin and despite being a lurker in Jow Forums and stuff he's quite a reasonable and calm person, slightly autistic and says weird things at times but it's ok, he's also not much into pornography and never really watched porn, we both had similar interests in hobbies and such and are both into monogamy and can provide each other with objectives while also subjective matters. He also stopped being a neet and got a job, planning to go to uni and follows my advice in careers and helping with self improvement and motivation, this is how and why i chose him. GL.

you're overthinking it
just start working on yourself and putting yourself out there

I'd be happy to help motivate you if you use discord. Add me on Discord if you use it; Doyce#4401