I have a problem.
I'm currently single after a long relationship (nearly 5 years) with a girl who introduced me to no-condom sex.
Actually, I never really used a condom: even my first time with her (first time for both, we waited nearly an year before starting so that both would be ready and sure about it) was without one; it was an accident and what a pregnancy scare we got.
She got on the pill and everything went fine.
Problem is, we soon developed a impregnation fetish.
For nearly four years we did it like rabbits and every single time I would come inside her after some roleplay ("make me a mommy", "do it, cum in me, do it" and so on).
Now, I find myself single again and without the ability to use a condom: I tried exercising but every time I put one on I go soft.
I feel really insecure about it and I know that there's some really nasty STDs out there so I know better than try hookups without on but...I don't know what to do.
Do you have any advice how to get out of this situation?
I have a problem
Hmm...
Try new condoms, now-a-days there are so many kinds, and so many thin ones...
You may find one that helps you keep hard. Perhaps going to a doctor would also help, he may be able to point out exercises or condoms, or whatever else is there, to help you out.
Also try kink/fetish dating apps or Fetlife.
You might find people with same interest.
If you get in a relationship, discuss using the pill or some other type of bc.
I use Nuvaring and I wouldn’t want to use condoms in the future.
I wish my boyfriend would fuck me without a condom. We had two years of wonderful, condom free sex before we decided I should come off the pill before we start trying for a family.
We're in the "waiting for the best time" period now and need to use condoms. It's not the worst, but I certainly feel your pain.
How much do you think women are open to the idea of it? My ex was very accepting of taking care of bc but I feel like nowadays is sort of expected to be the man to do it with the condom, moreso in new relationships/firt times/hookups.
There's the std problem too: have no problem demonstrating that I'm stds free but it may be sound offensive to ask someone to test for it before starting sex.
I don't know, maybe I'm just too much self-conscious
I was in the same situation. Dont feel insecure and most importantly, dont do it without condom!
No worries though. I the act, you will get less hard but still hard enough. You will need more time to come, but you will come.
Point is, we all prefer the no condom thing, but thats a required step to any new relationship.
As said previously, try different condom. I personally used some very expensive from Durex, but its totally worth it.
Suggestions about these app you talk about? I'm interested
Most of the girls nowadays (at least in Europe) are taking the pills. Even when they are single.
Condom is usually to avoid STD. If you trust the person, it should be fine
I think it’s a matter of finding a person that’s ok with that, my bf didn’t have to convince me or talk me into it or anything, I just prefer it that way (and so does he).
Also I’m lucky to live in a country where I can get it for free.
Also, I feel you on the std part, it can be difficult to talk about it. An option could be going to donate blood together. They make you answer some questions and you get a blood test.
Otherwise... I guess you have to find someone you’re comfortable discussing these things with. In any case I’d suggest not waiting with it, because it gets more and more awkward to discuss when you are close (and are supposed to trust the other person).
Let me tell you the story if every retard looking for excuses not to use a condom
>yeah but it doesn't feel the same!
>I always pull out!
>oh God shes pregnant my life is over!
>oh God I've got clamydia how could this happen to me?
I'm not gonna give you any bullshit. Yes sex is better without a condom. But were talking about the difference between a 90/100 and a 95/100. I'll gladly take that reduction in quality over not risking a fucking pregnancy. If you absolutely need to jam your dick into somebody unwrapped fuck her up the ass.
You clarly missed the point of my post: I want to use one but I can't. I'm asking advice regarding this matter
If the actual thought and act of putting a condom on causes you to lose an erection you should get counseling because you have a legitimate mental issue.
There is nothing mystical or prudish about condoms, it rubber balloon. I get it, dick on raw pussy was great, but the bottom line is there are clear risks associated with not using one. If you find a girl who is ok with it good for you, but your issue serves no purpose other than shrinking your viable dating pool. There is no magic song and dance to make it go away, admit to yourself you have a problem and get help or dont.
When you are discussing it, don't mention the roleplay.
He admitted it was a problem and came here to get help.
You mean I should just say I never used a condom and I can't seem to be able to use one?
No you should say you've never used one and you should definitely say putting one one makes you go flaccid. You should not ask her to say,
>"make me a mommy", "do it, cum in me, do it" and so on
during sex. Or at least not until *well after* the 'will you be taking the pill and a VD test?' matter gets resolved. And probably not until you accede to a kink or two of hers.
What's the source on your OP image btw, if you know it.
That's not an impregnation fetish you retard. Its a creampie fetish. Also you sound like you're still really hung up on the bitch, why even break up
Don't have condomless sex outside of a committed relationship wherein you have both discussed what happens in the unlikely event of a pregnancy. Condoms are to block STDs. You need those when you can't trust a person to not have one. In regards to how to use one: Vaginas are different and different vaginas like different things. This is an accepted fact. Penises and dudes are no different. A condom may prevent what works for you in that sense, be it friction or temperature. Condoms are not a fits-all problem solver. The reason they're pushed so hard is because they're genuinely the best thing for hookup sex. You're an idiot if you don't use one outside of an established and committed relationship.
I was talking to a guy on here with a creampie fetish for a long time.... yeah not anymore, I always knew he was a man whore