How do I tell a girlfriend she was my first time?
I am in my late 20's and some girl finally pushed enough where I lost my virginity. I told her I had a lot of one night stands and she actually believed it. We've been together for a year now and she keeps wanting to know how many previous partners I've had.
Should I tell her she was my first or should I take this knowledge to my grave?
Tell her you’re an anal virgin and she can take it
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well buddy, you came to right subforum of the right website. tell her that you have a baby mother in every port and if she doesn't like that it's no issue for you. then tell her that your riches are not worth her judgement and her jealousy is a huge turn off
Just make stuff up.
She's asking because you suck at sex. Confess now or look even worse.
My first time having sex I farted on her bed sheets (couldn't help it, orgasm pushed it out) and to my luck it happened to be the heaviest, eggiest, most foul smelling stench that ever came out of me. I never had sex again.
Believe it or not girls like it when they find out that they were the first time. Where the fuck do you live where sleeping around is a good status?
You need to punch that bitch in the face next time she speaks without asking you . Then you alpha son
Tell her, my first girlfriend loved it when I told her she was my first (at 20)
Chicks love that shit, no matter what happens, she will always be your first, so you'll never forget her
Also she may expect you to worship her because she is first (and your pheromones will probably prove her right, at least for the first year)
Tldr: do it, she will like you even more for it, because of her ego-trip
just tell her faggot
>inb4 leaves OP
First tell her you love her, and then tell her you were a virgin before she entered your life, then worship her and tell her you can't wait to get married and have kids.
I unironically forgot my first
>I told her I had a lot of one night stands and she actually believed it.
Beta move. You're fucked either way now.
Was your first before the age of 18? That's probably why
Jesus user don’t listen to these faggots. DONT TELL HER! By doing so you’re fucking up in two ways:
>You give her validation by letting her know you were a virgin, she’s gonna wonder why the fuck you haven’t gotten laid and in her eyes you lose value
>You’re exposing yourself as a liar, and you’re doing it in the most squeamish way possible. Not only do you look Lil an insecure bitch for lying about it, but she’s going to think “Why is he coming forward with this NOW?” You’re exposing the truth because she’s got you wrapped around her finger. You’re emotionally whipped son.
THIS. DO NOT TELL HER
Nice one
Just tell her you've only been with women (trans mtf) and that you mostly bottomed so you dont have much experience with people like her. If she doesnt like this, tell her she needs to be more open minded and subtley suggest shes a racist.
The sex isn't bad I did a lot of research online. I mean it was bad the first time but I think by the third I pretty much figured out everything I needed.
I feel like it would be cute and endearing in my early 20s but she took it at 28 and that is kind of gross and means I must have something wrong with me. I'm her fifth and I think if she found out she's had more partners than me she would lose interest and think I'm not a man.
I think this is a problem too but I couldn't straight tell her, I figured there was a 50/50 chance of her thinking I was disgusting and telling everyone.
We talk about marriage and kids all the time.
Too late
She would already know by his awkwardness.
Tell her, chicks love that kind of shit
Tell her the truth dont be a fake ass, who cares if it was your first time
Her suspecting it makes him interesting in some abstract way. Her knowing is the nail in the coffin.
>you'll never have a qt who reciprocates with a brap in these situations.
why even live bros?
What does this have to do with business and finance you, nigger cunt?
Tell her her clit is so large it's almost like tranny cock
What the fuck since when are there actual mods?
Fuck you gookmoot.
Women want men that are wanted by other women. OP can tell her now that's been a year but it would be stupid to tell a woman that you couldn't get a girl before her. Even if she loves everything about you, women are status whores and will reject a man just because other women also reject him.
If it's been a year you can just tell her. Be honest, say you were embarrassed and worried she'd judge you, and that's that. If she would still reject you after you've been together for a year then she's a truly big cunt who probably would have cheated on you anyway
The fact you are seriously fretting about this confirms that as a virgin you are attached to the woman who took your virginity, thus fulfilling the virgin prophecy.
I would say tell her. Tell her you lied about all the one night stands because you are naturally afraid to tell anyone you're a virgin. She should understand that.
Either way if she gets weirded out and walks away then you really have no choice but to move on anyways. However this time you will have SOME experience so you will be better off, right? In this situation being upfront and honest is a lot better than continuing on with this crap because you can't tolerate yourself.
I can never understand why people lie about their virginity. I'm a guy who didn't lose mine until I was almost 24(with my current girlfriend). I had been sick, and stuck in bed, for ~5 years. Seeing friends and women was the last thing I could do. It's nothing to be ashamed of if you don't have sexual experience, OP. The best thing you can do is admit she was your first and say you were embarrassed about being a virgin.
You had an excuse. See If you didn't have sickness as an excuse and it was just because women rejected you, it would be different. Not all women, but more than enough care about status and don't want to be with a man that other women don't view as worthy. It's why a lot of women are more attracted to men who are already in relationships.
Also a lot of women are really judgmental about wanting a man to be a stud in bed but obviously OPs girlfriend was cool with him being inexperienced even if she didn't know it
Dont fucking tell her
Nothing to be ashamed of and yet you still give your reason for being a virgin until 24 on an anonymous board. I was a wizard. Come at me bro.
Wtf dude you've been with her for a year just say I lied to sound cool because I'm a coward and couldn't admit your the first to touchthetip. Just be honest, asshole
just say you dont want to talk about your past relationships. women are good at detecting lies and lying is difficult to do-all relationships are based off of trust so dont get caught in a lie
No, do not tell her you retard
Had this issue
>was always introverted, very fat (have lost lots of weight), never really dated, was hung up on one girl that never gave me the time of day
>finally met a girl
>told her I have had sex with three people
>lies
>early on I managed to have sex with three people, a female friend hooked me up with a friend, I met an older woman in a bar, and my neighbor's daughter asked me to take her virginity before she left for college so she wouldn't be a virgin anymore
>girl i was dating ended up being number 4 and I didn't really lie to her at all
Take the advice, OP. If she asks for details, refuse to dig deeper into that shit. And don't worry - there are so many guys out there who suck at sex despite having it multiple times that you won't raise any suspicions.
Meanwhile my first time I fucking nailed it because she was starving for sex and I'm an amateur porn addict. So nailed it that we're still FWB to this day.
No reason to tell the truth ever. You've obviously either listened to advice to lie or come to the conclusion you have to lie to not weird girls out. Why do you think it's any different now?
Never tell a woman how many you had. The more she thinks you had the better.
T H I S
Many women love to feel special and get jealous of others, having her be the only one for you would just be romantic. Virgins are disliked when they are like 18 because it suggests they are uncool and probably clueless in bed (awkward with no condom is not a good way to be). In a relationship it doesn't matter.
That said if you haven't connected with your girlfriend properly in over a year (enough to talk to her about things like this) there is no hope. It seems pretty loveless.
uhh sweety, thots wear their virginities taken count as a badge
Married my first time. Never told her she was my first and I never will.
I you say something she will either be fine with it, in which case telling her was pointless, or she wont be in which case it would of been better to keep your mouth shut