My ex girlfriend has moved on a week after us splitting. She's in college (I'm deferring my acceptance until January) and I'm just really bummed about it. How do I get over it? She is starting dating this new guy. We still talk often of snapchat. Should I just drop her? Why did she move on so quickly? Our relationship was perfect while it lasted
My ex girlfriend has moved on a week after us splitting...
Easton Young
Henry Martin
she didn't move on quickly user, she was already with this guy long before you broke up.
Eli Bailey
She literally moved into school 2 weeks ago its impossible
David Diaz
>We still talk often of snapchat.
Generally speaking, staying in contact after a breakup only makes it harder. It's perfectly acceptable, and not AT ALL cringey or immature or childish to take some time apart.
It's theoretically possible she knew the guy already, but either way, she got picked up as a college freshman. She's probably sucking his dick already and there's nothing you can do about it. It probably won't last with that guy either.
Jackson Garcia
Thats true. I guess I'm frustrated that I'm stuck at home and can't go out and fuck other girls. Have to wait a while
Anthony White
she's looking for a rebound. Plus college chicks get a lot of attention from guys which aren't bad looking. She'll have it easy, you might not
=>Take distance/drop her to be able to focus on yourself.
Nathan Campbell
Drop her like it’s hot. There’s a reason why people suggest you don’t talk to exes for a few weeks. It takes ages for it not to hurt again.
Don’t cuck yourself. Block her ass.
Jace Perry
I really want to just drop her but I find it so hard idk what to do. I've been lacking the willpower to just not talk to her. We've spoken literally every day all day for 10 months straight its tough
Tyler Myers
>We've spoken literally every day all day for 10 months straight its tough
The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. Try one day. It doesn't even have to be thought of as a transition to two days, just literally stop for one day.
Twenty-four hours. Just do that. It'll be hard, but you'll feel real pride when you achieve it.
Ayden Collins
yea I get you, I had the same with a 5 year relationship (ended recently), even when we were long distance it was 1-2hours on the phone, mostly her talking about her issues,etc...
It was tiring sometimes but when it was off, the absence of contact was/is hard, I had a hole in my life. But it's better to go cold turkey now that it's fresh. if you don't it'll be tougher.
I tried to maintain friendship the first 6 months, it hurt me more than it did me well. If you are hurt trust me it's better not showing it to her, you'll lose all the value she did have for you as a person.
I stopped contact since 3 month now and I'm doing better, the feeling like I'm the only one having it hard is fading but the stalking phase is still harsh (trying to stop that too). I didn't go cold turkey directly I'm paying it now
My personal experience but I hope you find value in it.
Lincoln Brown
Fuck i messed up i just angry texted her
Blake Moore
My gf told me she loved me and she wanted to marry me and that shed wait 10 years if she had to to have me.
Then, we go away from each other for a fortnight and now she says
>I dont see you like that anymore
>I dont feel the same way
And she hasnt even the decency to reply to my texts within 24 hours.
Next thing I know, shes already with some other faggot who shes probably telling the same lies she told me.
Fucking bitch, I dont think some people are capable of love or, at least, they dont know what it means.
I dont know how to help you move on user. I dont think the pain ever fully goes away: when youre reminded of her, see someone who looks like her or something she liked, if you loved her, you'll be reminded with a mild pang in your heart.
Aiden Evans
I know the feeling. We used to talk about our future all the time and how we’d have a family and how we loved each other forever and shes been gone a week and is already dating someone else. I seriously don’t think most women even have hearts
Angel Sanchez
I dont know if they do. Maybe most men are the same.
I know that she doesnt though. The worst thing is, in spite of how she's treated me and how she wouldnt even ackowledge me, I still love her. I dont think I could ever trust her though.
Nolan Rivera
I know the feeling. I still love her cute little face even though she makes me so mad. As sad as it is to say, if she tried to come back to me I'd be helpless and I'd say yes. I don't think she loves me like that anymore even though she says she does. She still wants to be friends and she wants to talk to me all the time but im not gonna cuck myself so I'm gonna stop talking to her. Not sure how I'm going to fill the hole in my heart tho
Jeremiah Evans
I dont know if i could go back to her as a bf because I just couldnt trust her. When she says "I love you" the words would seem fake and hollow.
She'd have to try and show me she loved me. If she did, somehow and I dont know how, then I couldnt turn her down.
I worry about her and how she's doing after years even though I know I shouldnt and that she doesnt worry about me. I still want to make sure she's happy and safe. On an evening when Im alone I sometimes wonder about her and its like a dagger in my heart.
Dylan Ramirez
>I dont know if i could go back to her as a bf because I just couldnt trust her. When she says "I love you" the words would seem fake and hollow.
Dude, you JUST broke up with her a week ago. Fucking stop. Of course you feel like this right now. Everyone does. It goes away if you stop being so fucking cringey about it.
Colton Flores
OP is not How long does it usually take to stop caring and thinking about her? And I don't mean completely but to a point where it isn't a big deal anymore
Connor Watson
>How long does it usually take to stop caring and thinking about her? And I don't mean completely but to a point where it isn't a big deal anymore
Give it a week or two, then go out and meet new people and make new friends. And I mean new friends, not just go hang out with the same old friends, and I don't mean go date new women either (though if it happens, it happens). You can be pretty okay with it in a matter of weeks.
If you just sit at home every night crying, or when you go out with your old friends, just cry into your beer, it can take awhile. Especially if you have nothing happening in your life other than school or work or video games. You could potentially think about her every day for five or more years.
The reason new friends is important is for a couple reasons. First, you have that "it's a stranger" inhibition to laying your emotional wreck at their feet; you are likely to at least play like you're normal and put together, even if you do casually mention that you're newly out of a relationship. Old friends, you're likely to be able to cry in front of them, or at least bitch about your ex. Second, talking with new people brings on a new group of thoughts and concerns to occupy your mind, as well as the potential for new hobbies. Old friends are likely to focus on old things, either "how they can help you get over your ex" (i.e., making you dwell on your ex) or activities you used to enjoy but you probably associate with your ex right now.
Either way, it gets you out of the house, which is also huge.
Cameron Fisher
I'm about to be a Freshman in college so I'm about to have the perfect shot at that because I won't know anyone there. Problem is that I'm gonna be sitting around alone until then just due to the nature of my school schedule so I'm trying to find things to do, especially when everyone my age is out of town now because of school. I kinda wish I could fast forward out of being 18 and start off at being 20
Michael Clark
great reply
yea i feel girls say "I love you" like they say hello, it's manipulative in a way. Their "I love you" should be considered simple "I like you"
Guys say "I love you" when they involved themselves in the relationship.
find 2 hobbies (sport hobby for the body and mental hobby (drawing, mechanics, etc...)) in the meantime that you can continue in college or will be useful further on. You'll start with a bit of skill :)
you have plenty of time to dedicate yourself on them.