Is setting up a date with someone cheating? Basically, I have a boyfriend and he recently told me he loves me but I set up a date with someone here actually. I bailed but he's really cool - very well read, has a concrete job, and sent me pics from his recent business trip which was so sweet.
I feel terrible though because my boyfriend says he loves me and that I do annoying things but nothing too terrible.
Nope. Only benis in vagina sex with no condom, orgasm for both partners and ejaculation inside the vagina counts as cheating. Anything else is fine
emotional cheating.
A date, like hanging out, or something romantic? Because if the latter, fuck yes it is cheating.
Yes, definitely. Especially if you made it clear it was a date.
Well, we were going to get a drink or a coffee. He asked me about my kinks and told me his in detail, and said I was sexy when I sent a picture. I told him I wasn't looking to hook up, though.
We chatted for a couple of days but I've not replied for around a week now. He just sent me pictures, and now the guilt is submerging me because yesterday my boyfriend said he loved me again.
Retribution? Can I just forget about it and move on, don't make the mistake again?
It is and you're a shit person for it.
If you had absolutely no guilty conscious about it and if didn't think of it as cheating then you wouldn't have gone as far as to make a thread in the first place.
Doesn't sound like you're serious about your relationship if a guy with a job and a decent education was enough to sway you.
You should consider how important your current relationship is to you. And don't lie to yourself. Do you really want to be with him? If you really are regretful, and really want to continue your relationship, don't do anything like this again and don't bring it up either.
It's cheating. If you're happy in your current relationship, why are you looking elsewhere? Either be honest and dump the poor guy, or admit it was a mistake and don't do it again. Nobody likes a sloot.
He wanted to fuck you and you were still going to go somewhere with him? Yeah, no. You were cheating and were going to end up fucking him had you gone. IF you can manage to never do something like this again, and your bf never finds out, then it should be ok though.
I don't like casual sex, and told him I don't want to hook up. He agreed with that, obviously who knows what he was really intending. And there was no way I could have slept with him either, my boyfriend usually calls in the evenings; my intention was a drink.
I realised that doing this means that there's a chance he'll find out and be gone from my life for good. I don't know why I didn't value it before I made the plans, God. Thank you for the reminder, I'm going to try forgetting about this.
NOT CHEATING
You're fine, user
this b8 is of the absolute poorest quality
It always starts with a drink. Pick someone and stick with them. Nothing is worse than indecisiveness, for you or them.
You're right about the indecisiveness, I'm like that in every part of my life really.
Never thought that anyone could replace my boyfriend. But that makes me feel vulnerable because he can easily replace me; he has girls jumping at a chance to be with him. Idk some part of me wants to feel independent and confident myself. It's probably what instigated this stupidity
>Is setting up a date with someone cheating?
Yes (if cheating is applicable to your relationship). Dating is not a committed relationship, unless you are engaged to be married, there is no way to cheat.
If I find out my girlfriend is setting up dates with other men - shes out. Just out.
>But that makes me feel vulnerable because he can easily replace me
I hope he does. You've just proven you don't deserve him.
I didn't do anything and I'm deeply remorseful. It's not fair that his confidence and value can be reinforced by his exes contacting him begging for his cock, whereas he's my first. It was a stupid idea, I shouldn't react to insecurities.
He'll never find out, that's all that matters.
>I didn't do anything
categorically false. You set up a date and had intimate conversations with a man while being in a relationship.
hi cheater! while going out with this person, remember to tell yourself you're a cheater. if you're at peace with that it's alright. but you have to acknowledge that.