How do you get disciplined and develop a strong will?

your father should've been building it in you from a young age. those of us without fathers have an uphill climb. focus on surrounding yourself with inspirations to work harder. don't isolate yourself. make goals that are important to you.

Get angry at the world and indifferent to yourself.

Go camping in the bush for a week with little distractions and just enough things to survive

Asceticism.
Then asceticism of asceticism.

I think not having a father can be beneficial in some cases. My dad died when I was young, but he left me a legacy for me to strive to live up to. I always heard everyone talk about how good of a man he was, and that just made me want to better myself in order to make honor his name/memory.

Start small. Willpower is exactly like lifting. It doesnt matter exactly what you do, so long as it is consistent.

Literally clean your room on a specific day every week, for example. Make your bed daily, for another example.

Refrain from masturbation. Doesn't matter how long you last, as long as it is longer than last time.

Pick up a physically active hobby like a martial art.

>find Christ
Why is he hiding?

It was really hard developing this for me with a cuck father, a crazy mother, and being a hapa on top of that.

Patience and reminding myself frequently were the key.

Write a diary, record progress, strategize improvements. Cold showers (or ending a shower with cokd water) are a good practice for enduring discomfort. Lifting weights is good practice for making an effort at something.

There are limits to everything but a lot of limits are on your head / memory / emotions. Don't aim too high or low, try to aim at things where your chance for success is 50/50. If everything you try works out you're not pushing yourself. If you fail a lot (you sound like that OP), you need to set smaller goals and feel the reward of schieving them.

Be real with yourself, assess yourself accurately. Don't lie to yourself. Lies grow exponentially.

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find you purpose, experience hardship, perfect a routine

Finally I've read some research that willpower is limited (that's why nagging works on some people, because they redecide each time, exhausting their willpower).

However if you learn to make decisions once (and accept the fallout) instead of reconsidering 5 times, you'll have more willpower to not eat those oreos.

One-up everyone you've ever met. Start with the losers slightly above you and work your way up. This will teach you what it takes to be disciplined.

that's not only unfeasible when taken to the limit but an unhealthy way to look at others

one-up your past self instead, surround yourself by people that inspire you to do just that, don't just leave people behind though, take them along with you if they are up for the challenge

>comes out of hiding to get digits

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Ironically, the more you respect yourself the more disciplined and strong willed you get.

Every time you feel bored or have a quandry you ask yourself "If I were a person who respected themselves, what would I say/do"? And then go do that.

Would a person who respects themselves let themselves get fat, or would they fix it? Would a person who let others talk negatively about him let it slide, even under the guise of a joke?

Also, constantly learn. Take a subject that would improve your life, such as learning about body language and eye contact, research it thoroughly, and then implement what you learned in your day to day situation. Recognize a problem, adapt a solution, and overcome.

That's not what he means although I can see why you'd take it that way. Boys born to honorable fathers who die young and leave a legacy of proper masculine behavior have something to look up to, as you speak. Not that it isn't hard to grow up without him, or to take anything away from you.

He's referring to boys born to weak fathers, often divorced but sometimes just plain absent or incapable in raising his sons.

That's terrible advice. Nothing wrong with wanting to be the best at what you do, but to make your struggle about beating other people instead of becoming the strongest version of yourself is to defeat the purpose before you've even begun. If that's how you are accomplishing your goals, you are doing so in spite of this attitude, not because of it.