My girlfriend tells me she loves me everyday, cooks for me, is attractive, doesn't ask me to pay for anything, tells me she wants to marry me in the future, yet part of me wants to leave. I feel guilty for wanting that.
I just miss being free (not even referring to hooking up with other girls), maybe travelling for a while on my own, being able to fully focus on uni, business and health. The other part of me knows that I will likely not find another girl like this (I was a virgin before her, couldn't get any girls besides an occasional makeout). When we talk, the conversation never flows easily, it feeld kinda forced, like I have to say something. I don't think she notices this, though.
Also, she is so attached to me, I couldn't even bring myself to break up. Don't get me wrong, I love her, and I'm not saying I want to break up with her, but I've having these thoughts for close to half a year already (been dating for a year). I don't know who to talk to, so I talk to biz. Guess the grass is always greener on the other side.
Wow, you’ve been sitting on this for half a year. Do the cons outweigh the pros by now?
Aaron Ortiz
>been dating for a year >she wants to marry me in the future a bit too soon
Brayden Russell
I don't think this is about greener grass. Sounds more like she isn't the right person for you. When you do find the right person, you don't fantasize about leaving. You're very young. You absolutely will find someone else. And so will she.
Ryder Brooks
shit advice. don't listen to this moron. IF she is loyal and trustworthy, then you should lock her down. the last thing you want to do is ride the roastie carousel - if you can even get on one.
Liam Morris
OP I was in your position. I broke up with her. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. But let me tell you... I made the right decision. And if I can do it, anyone can.
David Davis
List her flaws, please.
Samuel Lewis
It's never too soon, when you know you know. I proposed to my wife after two weeks, we've been together for twenty five years.
Austin Campbell
Incel found
Henry Diaz
This exactly
Aiden Taylor
I've been with my bf for 5 years and I've felt like this the entire time. If you stay be warned, it might not get better. I tried that strategy and I'm still waiting for the feeling of wanting to flee to go away but it won't
Michael Bailey
>I've been with my bf for 5 years and I've felt like this the entire time
You're evil.
Jose Johnson
This "incel" "moron" (haha) is actually a 58 year old woman who has been married for 30 years and can tell you that marriage is really hard even under the best circumstances. So if a 21 year old kid starts questioning whether this relationship is right after 6 months (takes about 2 years for those crazy hormones to start wearing off and reality to set in), it's not going to last and he's wasting time (his and hers). I get that it's hard to find a loyal girl but they are out there and I know this because I have 2 boys and I couldn't be happier with their choice of girlfriends. There's no reason to settle.
Henry Perry
I'm really not. This situation is more common than you think, look at OP, sure he isn't the first one to post something like this either and won't be the last. Sometimes you just don't know what you want or to think of a relationship, especially when you are young and don't even know what love is. I don't know if I even love him but I probably do and am just retarded with feelings
Alexander Ward
>we've been together for twenty five years. whats the secret?
Benjamin Wright
Well, I'm the person who posted this:
so I hold everyone else up to my own standard. You let that go on for 5 years? That's cruel as fuck.
Andrew Diaz
Flaws would be >2 years older than me >gets annoyed fast when I'm 5 minutes later than expected >Makes me feel guilty for going to friends, do things without her etc. (not by nagging, but by being sad) >We don't really have a lot in common
Brody Russell
He doesn't want to pay alimony for the rest of his life
Ryan Turner
Oh, so she’s human?
William Sanders
I don't know in all honesty, luck I guess, it's always been so easy with her, it sounds mushy but she really is my best friend and soul mate. For me I'd say find a girl who is so awesome you never want to be apart from her. I can cope away from her but I'm only really happy when I'm with her. In every relationship before her I used to love going out with my mates but now that I'm with her it's a chore, the few times I have gone out without her I've just ended up texting her all night anyway and then going home early like a loser. Every day she is in my life is better than the last, I actually don't know what I'd do without her. I love her so much, I love talking about how much I love her, I still can't believe how lucky I am.
Connor Ross
>I love talking about how much I love her moar pls. i live for this shit. happy loving couples are pure joy to witness.
Easton Jones
You are thinking of things in black and white too much, there is no way to explain it to you other than how I did already. Not everyone knows their feelings so surely and strongly, especially when people are always telling you love takes work and the honeymoon phase isn't forever. I'm not a bad person at all.
Joseph Butler
but if she dies first aren't you fucked? this is why I don't want to get attached to anyone. i'm already gonna have to deal with my parents death some day, and that's gonna suck ass. why go through it with another person?
Ayden White
Happily, I could go on forever but everyone I know got sick of it a real long time ago. She's wonderful, from the moment I saw her I knew she was the woman I would marry. She's beautiful but it wasn't just that that drew me to her, there was just something about her, she was glowing and I was head over heels in an instant. I went straight up to her and asked her on a date, she giggled and was so cute and said yes. Over the next few weeks we went on seven dates, we couldn't get enough of each other. I bought a ring after 13 days of going official, I proposed and as you can imagine everybody told me I was being an idiot, but I had never been so sure of anything in my whole life. A week later we moved in together, there were no difficulties, just fun and ecstasy. Everyday was a pleasure and an honour, I have never felt as proud in my life as I do walking down the street with her. I'd say what's important is we always kept the romance, the sexiness and the fun (but you couldn't not being engaged to a goddess like her). Honestly my heart aches for her right now, I can't wait to get home, scoop her up in my arms and give her a cuddle and a kiss. There is no better feeling in the world than her skin against mine, no more beautiful a sight than when she smiles. I would do anything to make her happy and she'd do the same for me, I feel like I've won the lottery.
Jackson Price
I think about this all the time, I'm so scared of her dying first, but we have four amazing children who can keep me going. I'd rather have a lifetime with her and experience that loss than never have been with her at all.
Jayden Murphy
bless. what's one of your weird little rituals that make routine mundane stuff fun? what's the most difficult thing she's helped you make it through? and you her? what's been the biggest surprises about each other?
Cooper Bennett
Well we have lots of rituals, we have sex every morning, we cook every meal together (unless we're treating each other) we play silly word games and we play kiss-tag where we steal kisses from each other, you gotta be stealthy and you have to wait at least one hour before retaliating, I like it when she leaves it days and then surprise attacks me. Also tickle fights, tickling is really important. I also like to slap her ass whilst we're in public, I guess we like to flirt a lot, we also go on dates where we pretend we've never met. We do a lot of kind things for each other, I run her baths after a stressful day and she'll give me massages, we always try to do one really kind thing for each other every day. The hardest thing she ever helped me through we both went through, our eldest daughter was raped and we both got so depressed, that was the hardest time of our lives. For personal struggle she financially supported me when I couldn't get a job for two years, I kept trying and applying but nothing was coming through, it really hurt me emotionally but she supported me in every way she could. And for surprises she surprises me all the time still, I'm always shocked because after 25 years you'd think there's nothing left to learn but there is nearly every day. My biggest surprise was how physically strong she is, she's so tiny, she's only five foot two yet she's stronger than the average man, it's freaky actually, she's the toughest woman I know and you'd never guess it from looking at her, that's one of the things I find sexiest about her actually.
Blake Flores
man what a post. thank you so much for indulging me. you and your wife are a bright spot in a world of darkness. hope your daughter is well. other kids too, it sounds like you've got a lovely family.
>In every relationship before her I used to love going out with my mates but now that I'm with her it's a chore Fuck, this is what I also love to do, and my gf doesn't like it. I probably go out way more than the average guy whos in a relationship does. How old were you when you met this girl? I'm turning 28 soon man.
Leo King
Thank you so much user, and she's doing so much better, as you can imagine it was really hard for all of us, but we've made it through! All the other kids are great, we're a very happy family!
We got together when we were 21, from my experience if you would choose your mates over her she isn't your soul mate. I don't want to pass judgement on you user, but that's my honest opinion, that's how I knew it was right, there is no place on this earth I'd rather be than snuggled up on the sofa in her arms with her titties in my face. That is literally the greatest thing in the whole world, nothing could be better than that.
Wyatt Long
This was me. Broke up. Worst decision of my entire life. Really think about it OP
Man sometimes Jow Forums is shit. These people, probably among others as well, should not be here. I'm sorry you had to deal with so many shitters OP.
It's a question I ask myself even at 24. Marriage is natural to some and not others, but to me, 21 is young to get married what with the cost of living and quality of life in America not keeping up with modern times. Child care (which seems to naturally come in marriage) in my area in particular is absolutely horrid.
Being so young, there's a lot of things you still need to learn about yourself and about life. In a relationship, it's much more difficult to up and go do something. For me it was living and working in another country and I've had to give compromise that. However, I've already travelled and dated around a bit.
You can still do these things that you want the freedom to do with her, but you're not happy with the rate at which it's happening. I suggest you talk to her about initiating some of these things you wish you could do.
Isaac Lee
I was in a similar situation a few years ago. I left her but sometimes regret it. Make a mental list of things you truly need and if she checks them then stick around
Xavier Stewart
>This "incel" "moron" (haha) is actually a 58 year old woman who has been married for 30 years and can tell you that marriage is really hard even under the best circumstances. So if a 21 year old kid starts questioning whether this relationship is right after 6 months (takes about 2 years for those crazy hormones to start wearing off and reality to set in), it's not going to last and he's wasting time (his and hers). I get that it's hard to find a loyal girl but they are out there and I know this because I have 2 boys and I couldn't be happier with their choice of girlfriends. There's no reason to settle. > I have 2 boys and I couldn't be happier >marriage is really hard Thank for proving my point and you're worse than a moron, you're a woman! Marriage is supposed to be hard, it's not some fucking disney movie. This is real world shit, it's the greatest commitment one will ever make in their lives and the problem with society today is the ease at which couples get divorces, like hey no big deal we/I/you made a mistake, let's just call it off - what a joke! Divorce is unnatural and puts a heavy psychological burden on both parties. >24. >I've already travelled and dated around a bit. the quality of roasties only gets worse as they age. take a look at the future just by looking at all the 30+ single women out there now - all with either a dog, cat, children, horribly aged, still hanging on to that disney fairytale. The glass shoe no longer fits.
Blake Perry
you can smell her desperation, that's what's making you want to leave
Jaxon Fisher
>Marry, and you will regret it; don’t marry, you will also regret it; marry or don’t marry, you will regret it either way. Laugh at the world’s foolishness, you will regret it; weep over it, you will regret that too; laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it, you will regret both. Believe a woman, you will regret it; believe her not, you will also regret it… Hang yourself, you will regret it; do not hang yourself, and you will regret that too; hang yourself or don’t hang yourself, you’ll regret it either way; whether you hang yourself or do not hang yourself, you will regret both. This, gentlemen, is the essence of all philosophy.
and here I thought I was the oldest woman on Jow Forums
Colton Kelly
>Flaws would be >2 years older than me can't do nuttin bout dat >gets annoyed fast when I'm 5 minutes later than expected start telling her the time with +5min >Makes me feel guilty for going to friends, do things without her etc. (not by nagging, but by being sad) make sure she is pre-occupied with other shit. >We don't really have a lot in common do you really need to be twins?
Angel Sullivan
Not her. Marriage isn't supposed to be hard. Circumstances can be hard, I went through all sorts of shit after I got married. But the fact that I'm married to the perfect person for me, to the only person I'd ever choose over and over again, makes it feel alright. We can figure out anything, we can make all sorts of sacrifices, we can deal with any sort of pain as long as we have each other. We went through a lot and never had a moment when us as a couple felt off.
You don't want to commit to marriage with someone who doesn't make you feel like you can take over the world.
Noah Hall
Admit you're a slut and be a slut Don't try to chase tradcon because you were told to or want to fit in with incels on Jow Forums.
If you don't embrace your inner slut, it'll embrace itself and hurt someone. At least this way, you have an opportunity to cut and run and save some face. Become a cheater, and that brand can follow you-- for years, sometimes.
