What does it mean when a girl has a boyfriend but keeps wanting to hang out with you?
I met a girl, she was quite friendly to me, added my facebook at the first meeting. She has a boyfriend, they are somewhat long distance, she wanted my advice in problems they are having (because i have had long distance relationships before), about primarily her feeling of a lack of affection from him.. I was happy to help, i like to give people advice as i do on this board.
Then she asked me to hang out one on one, i agreed and we walked around for a few hours and chatted and she even called her boyfriend during that time and told him the stuff i had said she should tell him. It all seems fairly normal.
However again she asked me to hang out one on one, awkwardly, basically hinting at it until i said "Do you want me to come out" and she said yeah. This time not for advice, and we just walked around for hours talking about everything. She's quite nice to me, she hugs me, touches me frequently and makes some compliments. She suggested we do this every week, just hang out together.
It feels a bit like a date, except naturally i cant make any move because she has a boyfriend, i just cant figure out her angle. Is it really just a friendship she wants or more?
You are being evaluated as a backup prospect and as a possible provider.
Liam Evans
Sadly this
Jayden Anderson
Yeah, this. She’s probably not doing it on purpose but either way she’s either too immature to put up proper boundaries with other guys, or she likes you and wants to fuck around on her bf. Or both. Dont hang with her alone dude. Do not. She sounds immature as fuck and will probably tell lies about you if you decline her advance or if she gets bored of you.
Jacob Cook
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Women never break up before they find new bf. This is where a lot of weird moments happens.
Im just replying to you that I’m a women and i broke up with my bf without having any ‘backups’. Because i respected him as a person like i do with everyone, and I was done with the relationship. Stop spewing your misogynistic crap
Hunter Gomez
Ofc exceptions always exist. But that isnt OPs case. Maybe next time i will try to not forget word: SOME women.
Girls want attention. If she's not getting it from her LDR she'll take it from where she can get it.
I'm in a very similar situation >Met girl 10 years ago >Feel connection, ask her out >She says she doesn't feel the same way >week later tells me she has a bf >Whatever, she's still pretty cool >10 years later >girl and bf see each other once every 2 weeks >calls and asks to hang out with me and help her study >more than once asked if it was obvious she wasn't wearing a bra (she has massive milk jugs) >Go with her to a lingerie store and watch her try on bras for half an hour
At this point I've just accepted that it's just how she is. I sincerely doubt I'd get into a relationship with her, but I'll still enjoy the show.
Eh do i care though? I'd like to fuck her, i do like her company anyway.
But part of me still thinks its innocent and shes just a friendly person, thats her way.
Noah Peterson
Then make a move Don Juan.
Hunter Rivera
Girls love attention and the chase. Don't go alone with her. Ask yourself this question, would you like that you girlfriend spends time alone with a guy. And believe me if she cheats him with you, she will cheat on you. I was on both sides. Ex cheated and 5 moths after a break up I started to spend time with a girl that has a boyfriend. I started to fall for her and asked myself the sam question. Now I'm ghosting her. Gl user there are plenty of girls if you do the same thing like me.
Easton Nelson
I dont want to seriously date her though.
Okay heres the real deal, im a dirty dog, im married but my wife lives in another country and even when shes here she doesn't put out. I want a side piece and if that girl is in a relationship then it seems safer to me. And yes she knows im married.
By the way im not really unhappy or want to divorce, i just want to have sex and that rush.
Easton Turner
This is an overly complicated pump n' dump scenario. Simplify it.
Adrian Thompson
2 years ago I would tell you that you shouldn't cheat. After some experiance I realised that all girls are whores. Do what makes you happy and gl!
Jace Cook
My experience is sort of similar. Not that all girls are whores, but that life isnt black and white. Me and my wife have built a life together and its great but the sex just isnt there. Im about to be 30, this new girl is 21, shes just fun, even when she meets me she jumps up to hug me like a dog youve just come home to.
Austin Perez
you guys are dumb. how do you get yourselves into such fucky and miserable lives? why marry someone who doesn't even live with you what the fuck dude lol. i bet you a fucking doughnut that if you try and fuck the girl will be confused because she was likely just acting like a normal human and your dumb ass thought she wanted the ol tism-d
Josiah Williams
Im not miserable, work has separated us now. Thats the point of the thread, is that normal girl behaviour or what.
Evan Garcia
Lmao you are a pussy
Jace Hernandez
Legit? she is likely just being nice. don't fuck her, unless you are willing to throw away your current relationship. you -might- get away with it. but life has a way of making sure you never get away with anything scott free. it'll somehow bite you in the ass. jacking off is a lot easier and safer.
Henry Watson
My ex cheated me after 8 years saying that I was too good to her, thats how
Cooper Long
All girls do this OP. They all want two guys. One is afraid he'll lose her so he tries hard and accepts a lot of shit and the other believes he's winning her and will accept a lot of shit. A girl can ride this forever and neither guy will quit.
Jace Thomas
This scenario unfortunately plays out time in and time again. It's so ingrained in women to be two faced it is almost like how baby sea turtles just know how to find the ocean from birth. Girl's half the time probably don't even noticed, realize, or care they are even doing it. But they are always weighing their options against you.
Levi Wilson
I agree, and don't think they are conscious of what they do, its just what they do. One man isn't enough and they know the male psyche, the competitive nature of men and use that to keep them both. Both guys really believe they can be or are number one dick. Its actually masterful how they get away with it though it proves how pathetic many men are who play along.
Cooper Parker
From a biological stand point removing emotion as much as possible out of the equation it makes sense. Women want the best option to make sure her limited eggs are used best as possible. This leads to a bunch of subconscious selections. Same as men but on a different scale. Men should want many women to procreate with but in humans we are quite wired that way anymore. Maybe in past history, but not today. Men want a women they can trust. Women want the man possible for their needs. It's an uneven field imo.
Owen Cook
Yeah i hear you guys but the difference with me is i dont care, i would prefer her to keep her boyfriend, i just enjoy her company and want to smash too.
I've dated a married woman before, it was great, met up once a week, did couples stuff, emotions but no strings, and good sex,
I think i actually prefer dating taken women.
Julian Perez
go away
Landon Jones
RESPEC WAMMEN
Isaac Rogers
For fuck’s sake user.
Lucas Reed
You have kids with her?
Carter Long
nope
Chase Foster
Then, yeah, you’ll have to find something to fuck outside of the house. Good luck.
Joseph Watson
She seems to be vulnerable right now and giving up hope on her boyfriend. You can do one of the either: >be the person you portrayed yourself as, someone who cares and helps her with her own life >take advantage of her, making what you've done a predatory preamble
As someone who's working, and giving their girlfriend the time she needs to make do well at school, needing to say this seriously depresses me.
Lately she needs most of the month by herself to focus on school, and while she's there she's making friends in the male dominated field. She knows I'm uncomfortable about it and she says she's not interested in them that way every time I talk to her about it. We have a strong relationship, but doing this has been tough for us. We have plans for kids, marriage, meeting her parents across the world, travelling together, all that future stuff.
I don't know what her boyfriend is like, but if my girlfriend was taken advantage of like this I would be devastated. My advice is to keep being friends, and help her. Keep your dignity. I read you have a wife and kids too, but you seriously consider fucking her? It's depressing man.
It all comes down to this. Do you want your actions to have been done predatorily, or as the person you want to portray yourself as?
Blake Collins
Well first of all if your girlfriend decides to fuck someone its not her being taken advantage of, its her decision.
But I'm not doing that to this girl, i will help her either way, she is fun and i want someone to hang out with and go to places with which is what she wants to do with me, even if nothing comes of it.
I'm not trying to maneuver her into sex, im wondering her intentions and if thats what she wants then il oblige.
Regarding your girlfriend, if she mentions the same guy more than once, she's probably interested in him, if she's hanging out with him alone, she probably is too.
Jeremiah Gonzalez
>its not her being taken advantage of, its her decision It sounds like you've been in a long distance relationship with complications that are not directly related to the actual matching potential of two of you. It sounds like you're experiencing this with your own wife now, even. In hard times like long distance, doubt and temptations can be overwhelming. You know what she wants, you know what you want, and people naturally try to make what they want available to them. Letting her lean in the direction she's headed now only exists because it's being enabled by you.
This ideology you have is similar to seeing a train driver asleep headed towards a crash, having the ability to stop it, and when you don't do anything and it crashes, you say wasn't my fault! Obviously it's not a perfect comparison but you know what I mean.
Yes it's her decision but you're part of it. Tell her she needs to break up with him before you do anything at least. If she doesn't then this is just a time where she's vulnerable. If you do it without that happening at least tell his boyfriend.
>if she mentions the same guy more than once, she's probably interested in him I know how this kind of stuff goes down so I'm aware of what may happening with her, but I'm not looking for advice here. I'm just saying you should be considerate because it may be a vulnerable time in the relationship like it is in mine right now.
Anthony Fisher
I get what you are saying but the decision to sleep with someone still ultimately that persons decision. Especially when it comes to women, literally all men are enabling them, most men who talk to a cute girl think maybe i can get her to fuck me.
She is vulnerable, and i have been helping her. Il be clear, i havent made a single move on her or flirted, i just hang out with her at her request and talk to her.
Tyler James
BEGONE THOT
David Peterson
>ultimately that persons Yeah but you're the guy helping her with her decisions. You can help her make a bad one in her vulnerable states with you, or if it comes with other guys in the future. You can be the predator or you can be her supporter as you built yourself up to be to her.
Hang out with her all you want, that's obviously not the problem here.
Luis Rivera
If being genuinely nice to a woman and helping her because you really want to and like her, to the point where she likes you and wants to sleep with you is predatory behaviour, then are we to assume all men are predators?
Isaiah Brown
>to the point where she likes you and wants to sleep with you People want to sleep with people they're not with all the time it's just how people are. To actually do it is something else.
Part of me believes we should always be looking for better partners, but it's up to her if she wants to break up with him to be with you. If she does it without breaking up with him then she has not thought about it thoroughly enough. I'd question the same thing with your current wife, too.
Jaxson Jackson
we should
Easton Miller
I honestly don't understand what the problem is. I'm not attracted to her anymore and she's just a cool chick I want to see do well. She even tries to help me with my own lack of success with girls.
