Boyfriend has changed a lot recently. Lots of new habits, new ideas. Started when he fell ill with a cold

Boyfriend has changed a lot recently. Lots of new habits, new ideas. Started when he fell ill with a cold.

>wants us to buy a new car and became obsessed with the idea
>considering getting a moped
>bought new clothes
>sorting out his finances
>wants to start vaping
>drinking excessively
>detached but reassuring
>discussing us buying our home more often
>waking up at ridiculous times (4am)
>baths every single day
>candles, fucking everywhere

I know that people change and sometimes you can have a spurt of enthusiasm but this is getting a bit weird now. He assures me he is fine but this behaviour is just really odd.

No history of bipolar, depression, anything else.

Do I just let it go and assume it's the cold medicine he's taking? I'd like my old, unenthusiastic boyfriend back, as at least he's relatively predicable.

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Maybe you're just a boring person, maybe you're threaded by new things. I'm assuming you're young. People change fast when they are young.

You're practically a new person every 3 years in your 20's

MAybe you should do something more interesting in bed. Check his porn browser history and then emulate. Pretty simple.

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he is in the midst of a depressive or mental crisis in his mind and is looking for outlets for his time and energy. You need to sit him down and make yourself 100% open and make sure he feels he can be completely honest and vulnerable with you about anything. Hes thinking that if he shares his concerns or worries you will think of him differently or end the relationship and even if that is the case you have to be honest and make sure he knows that so he can have some closure.

Some of the stuff he's doing sounds like he's trying to improve himself.

However, that he's turning to drug use and that you think his drinking is excessive, he's probably not in the best mental state to be making decisions.

What does "drinking excessively" mean to you though? He's having a glass of wine at dinner? He's getting loaded every night to the point of blacking out and doing shit he doesn't remember?

How long has he been doing this? What is "recently", a few days? A week? A few months?

I'd probably ask him to cut back on the drinking and that you'll agree to discuss joint financial plans if he's demonstrating that this new outburst of financial responsibility is something that he's going to sustain over the long term.

Three or four double whiskeys a night. It has been happening since he got ill, around a week and a half ago.

We are both in our thirties so we're not exactly young and constantly changing. Thank you for your input though. I don't think he's interested in sex at the moment regardless.

Thank you for your reply. I think he knows this but last night I begged for him to open up to me and he said he was fine, nothing was wrong and he was just unwell and likes to keep busy. I want to believe him but I'm also concerned about his welfare and want him to feel like he can be open with me, as you said. Perhaps I'll try having a chat with him.

He will die soon. Wants to enjoy last days and fix things for you once he is gone.

My condolences.

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I hope this isn't the case though, user.

~F~

because hes paralyzed with fear of rejection from you or hes so in his own head that he cant accept the possibility of you being okay with his concerns

start verbalizing random shit you think might be a problem and you may get lucky and be right and it might trigger something inside him that you saying it out loud and him hearing it finally forces him to accept it