I love my current boyfriend, and plan on staying with him long-term. But I fantasize about other men constantly...

I love my current boyfriend, and plan on staying with him long-term. But I fantasize about other men constantly. Am I a bad person? Is this normal? I would ask how to stop myself, but I almost don't want to.

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as long as you don't act on those desires, it's fine... I think about fucking girls other than my girlfriend all the time, but I don't actually cheat on her.

what kinda fantasies are we talkin here

I never actually flirt with guys, and I would never act on it... But I watch porn (even though he thinks I don't), I fantasize about other men during sex, and sometimes when I'm around other men I pine for them and think about flirting.... I think I just miss that feeling of tension when I was single. I never feel attractive or desirable, it's all too comfortable. I want someone new to want me. But I don't actually want anyone new, I love my boyfriend.

Like I think about having sex with other men, or them raping me and getting me pregnant

Thinking about the opposite sex in a relationship is normal

But
>I fantasize about other men during sex
>sometimes when I'm around other men I pine for them and think about flirting
Seems to be pushing it. Idk

You sound like my ex

What should i do? Try to stop myself? The only thing is, I get pleasure out of those thoughts, which makes me not want to stop

You're obviously not happy with your current bf or you wouldn't think about other people in bed. Maybe you should get a swinger bf who is cool with you banging other dudes

I'm really really in love with him, there's no one else I would ever actually want to be with. It just helps me get off if I think about other people. He's great in bed, I just focus on thoughts about other men while he eats me out so I can cum. I only think about other men when I'm trying to cum, not when I'm just enjoying it and fucking him. Its hard to explain

How old are you? How many partners did you have before your bf? Maybe you feel like you're missing out because you committed to him early.

I'm 20, I was with one other guy before him but it was just a hook-up

That makes more sense now. This is pretty common behavior with girls that didn't let out their "wild side" before committing to one guy

How do I fix it now though? I don't want to ruin what I have.

You aren't "technically" doing anything wrong unless you act on your desires. Maybe counseling will help. Figure out why your bf fulfilling you sexually and talk to him about it. Don't mention you've been thinking about other guys, but try to encourage him to try new things with you. If you have rape fantasies you need to get your bf to try to be more dominant, which it sounds like he's not being.

Honestly thank you, thats really helpful

girl i had the same problem. dont worry. just work past it. ur desires are fine. and just dont cheat. that ruins everything. tell your bf how you feel and maybe he'll do a better job. like taking out the trash more often or he'll get you a cat. you could just be horny. i had the problem where it was like non stop crave. but that was when i was younger op.

>But I fantasize about other men constantly. Am I a bad person?

If these are real people in your life that you have opportunity to be around, thats a problem. if you put yourself in a position where you know you will fantasize about them or worse an opportunity to act on it with them, then yes, thats pretty bad.

>Is this normal?
Yes, you're a woman

Perfectly natural user. Window shopping is okay just dont buy anything

i'd put money on your relationship lasting another 6 months tops

If my gf told me she thought of other men during sex that would be the last time we had sex.

I'd like to place money in this bet as well.

There are certain Situations that sound cool in your mind but after the thrill fades you re only left with regret and are left changed
Forever, I'm Living with my best friend and his wife and my heart pounds when I'm Alone with her, I've fantasied three times about fucking her so bad but I dont act on these desires because I know this Is one of these situations.

Stop looking at porn and just stay committed. All this modern crap they push in porn and cinema is detrimental to a stable society. Traditionalism is what maintains a strong sturdy society not risqué, sleezy, actions. Stop entertaining the thoughts and think about things other than sex.

You have to fight your demons and vices. If you truly want to stay with him then I would say this is a very important thing to do. Learn how to control yourself and your demons. Don't let your passions control you, control your passions.

Also realize that "love" or sex is not the most important thing in a relationship.

Strength of commitment, loyalty, trust, shared values, communication, and walking the road together are.

Whore

>If these are real people in your life that you have opportunity to be around, thats a problem.

OP ignored this but it’s very important.

How would you feel about him thinking of other women while he fucks you?

I like how OP ignored this. It makes the answer obvious

Quit porn. Quit putting yourself out there in situations that might trigger such fantasies. Work on being in love with your partner and fulfilling all your needs through him alone. It's gonna take time to get out of your old habits but whether you want to fix this is totally upto you. Even though it's normal for people to go through this, you can absolutely turn a new leaf if you tried.

Natural woman instinct to be a whore. It’s fine, feel free to act on these urges since it’s the current year and you have the right to act on these feelings.

If your boyfriend finds out and gets an attitude accuse him of rape

Nice bait friend!

>2/10 b8

monogamy is bollocks, nobody really wants it, everybody does it because it's the default setting

the usual - make use of discreet opportunities when they come along, but don't tell your BF or else the insecurity and jealousy will destroy your relationship

Are these men you fantasize in your life often? Like your friends or his friends or at work for example? If so that is a red flag.

I don't think it's you wanting to let out a side btw. I'm 21 and in a long term relationship, and after the honeymoon stage I had similar intrusive thoughts. It will go away over time. It's just that biological block acting up.

>person thinking of other people during sex with their partner
>whole thread is filled with people saying it's normal and natural
So many future failed marriages/relationships in here.. Truly the fucking end times.

face it user, girls in 2018 are not made for monogamy, they crave multiple dicks

I hate women

>t. never even seen a vagina

>t. coping

This entire thread is probably bait. Why come to a place where thousands of inexperienced guys will ree about women being natural whores to talk about this?

This. Kys op, your bait is bad.