Husband upset that my work "isn't a real job"?

>not going in detail about hte business
>stocked locally and in stores around the country
>events and exhibits
>husband hates it
its porn isn't it

He is justifiably angry that he is not or soon will not be the breadwinner. Maybe let him run part of the business so he feels like he's doing something.

Yeah, this sounds like man-drama. A lot of women don't recognize it at first, because female drama follows a different pattern, but when men act "concerned" for you, and then say they're "embarrassed" by you, that almost always means they're mad at you. Or jealous of you, which I suspect is the case here.

This problem clearly isn't going to go away on its own. You've just got to tell him why your business IS a real job (i.e., explain your financial position), and tell him that your business requires a lot of attention to work properly.

You might, at a different time, want to ask some probing questions to see what is really upsetting your husband. Is he afraid your going to leave him? For example.

Finally, I think you're rapidly approaching the "too old to get advice from Jow Forums" age. There are lots of cool things to do on here, but listening 18 year olds giving marriage and financial advice isn't one of them.

FYI, wouldn't have happened if you married a nice guy like me

Of course selling your used panties to creeps isn't a real job. I'd be upset too.

All joking aside (I read your post), tell him it is a real job since you make a product, and sell the product to customers and clients. That's literally what retail is, and many people consider that a "real business"

As you said, it doesn't seem like an issue with money, but more with 'prestige'

What does your husband do?

When he introduces you to a common acquaintance/friend/co-worker, what does he say you do?

What does he want you to do?

Can he contribute to you setting aside your small online business?

>I need to consider putting it to the side while working full time
Your husband is being a cunt and a retard. There has to be something going on, and it's going to threaten your marriage if you can't communicate properly.
If it is, then the husband is just a cuck.

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I wouldn't be asking why he hates it if it was porn. I just don't want to go too into detail because I know people irl who browse Jow Forums (obviously showing my work is a dead giveaway) and I don't like putting my problems on blast non-anonymously

He's in the med field and makes around 24 an hour I think. He has always been really proud to introduce me. His friends think it's really cool and ask me questions about it all the time. His coworker has even commissioned me to make a huge gift set for his daughter. He probably wants me to go back to my old job that I did before things took off super hard (back before I made 60k+). I'm not quite sure what you mean can he contribute though.
I really am starting to think maybe he's jealous or feels emasculated or something but if it's that I'm stumped on how to make him feel better because I don't want it to seem like I pity him or something. He's helped me through a lot back when I doubted myself about this entire project and for this to happen, it's a little soul crushing. I might try to find out if it really is jealousy, and if it isn't and he really is just suddenly ashamed of me I'll probably go with what said and explain how great it is and that it's as much work as any other job. I don't know what to do if it really is just making him feel bad though. I don't want to make him feel worse.

When we were teenagers he used to help me put small finishing touches things. He's really too busy for anything like that now though or I'd love to. He does cover some customer emails when he can though but I'm not sure if he's interested in anything else. Maybe I'll ask.

Assuming you're okay with setting things aside, you move back to a harder job which will also be a pay cut, he'll need to understand that things will get lean, and he may need to work harder (overtime shifts) before you get back into your groove.

I don't know your husband, but insecurity is hard to defeat, especially in silence.
You have to defeat his insecurity, and it sounds like he's not sharing any details.

I can understand if he's flustered that a 'knick-knacks side job' can pull down more than $24 (seems low in the medical field), but your business seems more than your business - It seems like it's your 'child'

If you can expand from the US -> Canada or Canada -> the US, he'll may think of you as a small business owner, and not someone who rode on a fluke.
I know it's not fun to talk about money in a relationship, but it seems like both of you have benefited from your job - thank him for providing a stable platform (salaried/wage job) for your financial independence to grow together....

It's a good idea. My husband got this way at one point, but eventually made more than me and subsequently simmered down.

A lot of men have this weird dumb ego thing you have to actively tend to, otherwise they just get condescending and whiny because they don't know any other way to express frustration over something that's honestly dumb as fuck.

He really just sounds like he's jealous and may just resent people finding what you do more interesting or cool than what he does -- that's mine's current phase, but he's a bit more open about it than yours.

Communicating is hard and he may react poorly if you push the subject, even if you are just explaining yourself. Anyway, good luck.

divorce the faggot wtf

whats ur snapchat? ill treat u right.

What a stupid fucking idea. Telling her to stop doing her (supposed) dream job that makes better money just to appease a piss fit? Jesus.

is he a white Anglo Saxon protestant? they are very passive aggressive and status obsessed
have you considered leaving him for a handsome lowland Scott with low self esteem and depression and anxiety?

Ah, I see. I'm definitely not okay with that. It's obviously not a side job anymore since I pull just as many hours taking calls, emails, making and fulfilling orders, packing/shipping, networking etc. as someone who works full time with the money to boot. Disregarding my personal feelings, I also don't feel comfortable risking our finances and possibly stressing us both out and creating new problems which means minimal netgain. I know it's something that makes him feel insecure, but I just can't make that compromise. I hope making him feel more involved and showing my appreciation for him is enough because that's my plan at the moment.

I never said to do that, but the husband's insecurity might be blinding him/causing him to be shortsighted.

I think it's safe to assume that we're working on an irrational thought.

After bringing your husband out on a steak dinner, engage in casual sex, and just before you can feel him cream in you, whisper, 'Knick Knacks'

My bad I thought you were asking if I was down to do that because of still keked though

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He honest to god sounds jelly op. Or there might be other stuff upsetting him (maybe his own work isn't doing too hot, etc.) Your greentext is written and setup perfectly for that conclusion.

He's now taking your success as a hit to his ego. Too bad. Some dudes can't handle their shit around boss bitches.

>says its embarrassing when people ask what his wife does for a living

Lol, because he has to tell them you're a business owner while he's just some... Whatever the hell he is.

>says my luck is going to run out eventually

He's forseeing the part of your future where you realize he's just trying to drag you down so you kick his dumb, jealous ass to the curb.

You've become someone he's intimidated by and it makes him uncomfortable because he knows for sure that he's not good enough for you. I wouldn't be surprised if this evolved into him calling you names, devaluing you, and eventually gaslighting you as a desperate means to keep you from leaving him. Hey man, it could happen.

>>ask if something is bothering him
>>gets defensive and leaves
>>doesn't come home for a few hours
>>has been acting odd the past few weeks but is seemingly over it
>>have asked him about it a few more times but he says he doesn't want to talk about it
This is very odd to me. Has he been fired or something, and doing a Michael Douglas (Falling Down) or what?

Fucking run. If he hasn't cheated to boost his hurt ego already, he will soon.

He sounds like an insecure bitch. Throwing a tantrum, leaving home for hours and then not wanting to talk about it? No grown ass man should act like this.

OP, put your foot down and tell him you need to have an honest, serious talk about it. Finances and work can be tricky subject in a marriage, so you need to have proper communication about them. Whatever you do, don't abandon the business just because he can't handle his wife making more than him or whatever dumb shit bothers his ego. Very few people have the luck of doing something they love and making bank at the same time, being stuck in a 9 to 5 office job can be soul sucking.

>I should consider his feelings
but what exactly are these "feelings" he has suddenly developed, other than "embarrassing"?
Is he some sort of Gaylord Fokker or what?

I don't have anything else to contribute to this thread, but I want to chime in and say it definitely sounds like there's something he's not telling you and that you should under no circumstance consider stopping doing what you do.
Getting good money out of doing something that's little more than a fantasy to most girls is a fantastic thing.
>Do I just carry on as normal?
No, if this issue isn't thoroughly resolved it will be brought up again and will have time to fester in his mind.

>'e-commerce isn't a real job'

This is an objectively absurd statement in 2018. Shit, it's stupid past 2000. People make their fortunes on the internet. Further, it's very hard to do well with e-commerce because everyone and their mothers tries it out. For every successful online store, there are a hundred that failed. The fact that yours has taken off and expanded the way it does is badass as fuck.

Further, even apart from the distinctly modern prestige involved, there is a lot of respect to be had for having any stable self-employment/owning your own business. Again, it is *very* hard to do successfully. Within the West specifically, there's a cultural regard for self-employment and entrepreneurship, because it represents independence and 'go-getting'.

Further, to have control over your working hours; not having to have a boss etc is universally regarded.

So again, this statement is absurd as fuck, or completely out of touch.

It's a shame your husband is being this way. He sounds like a generally good dude. As a guy I can certainly understand wanting to be the breadwinner etc, but this particularly is basically like preventing your wife from winning the lottery because 'she would have more money'.
I would recommend gently probing and investigating what's going on, and would also suggest marriage counseling if it goes on longer.

t. commerce student; the dudes that do successful digital business instantly command respect

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