How to tell my friends about my new girlfriend?
I mean that wouldn't be such a big problem if they wouldn't make jokes about her regularly like that she has no friends and probably has a dick, because she is some weird transboy.
They don't know that I'm secretly dating her.
I don't care about what others think about my relationship ,but I don't want to lose my only 2 friends either.
Friends that make you feel bad / uncomfortable aren´t friends. A friend is someone you feel comfortable and confident with (Obviously not possible 1000% of time buy you know what I mean).
Just pload a profile pic with her or something and tell them that way. You can always stand up for you and your gf if they make bad taste jokes.
I have a friend that makes alwyas dark humour and "edgy" jokes, I did that very often too, like not having respect for nothing.
When I got my gf I "conronted" him seriously telling him abbout disrespecting my gf and it worked just fine.
I mean how can I confront the directly? I don't use any social media and I think I feel somewhat good with them, even though they can be idiots sometimes. I want to talk to them first, because I don't want to just introduce them to her, because they will 100% start to laugh, because that happend so unexpectedly
Why do you feel that need of being approved by your friends? You have to like your gf, not any other.
And if they make bad taste jokes you confront them seriously, like, "Dude it´s my girlfriend, have some respect for her and stfu" or something like that (Sorry if my english phrasing is not very good, I´m south american)
>how can I confront the directly?
Just tell them. I don't know what secret methods you're expecting to learn here.
Should I put it in a joke? Or start a whole conversation by telling them I have a gf, or should I say that by the way, while keeping focus on another topic,...
Don't be a pussy.
One of my friends started dating a fat chick, so his/my/our friends were calling her a whale, and various other similar jokes, and I called them out on it every time. But I made the grave mistake of making fun of his cringy Facebook posts proclaiming his undying love for this girl he's known for a month.
The dude was a massive pussy and couldn't even take that, so everyone doubled down on calling her fat, because he made it clear that jokes were either all or nothing with him, so nobody held back.
Pick your battles op.
Thanks user, but friends are important too . Imagine that our relationship fails after a few months and i'm going to be fucked.
You are overthinking this. Go message your friends this right now:
>hey guys you’re never gonna believe this but I’m dating [girl]
You are probably right , that isn't such a big deal. I'm just going to tell them about it and that's it. They don't know anything about her and if they are behaving like assholes I'm going to tell them to show some respect.
Can't hurt to laugh it off if they act like jerks
I can sort of relate, I started dating a girl that.. unfortunately I made the mistake of complaining about her and calling her crazy to my friends before we got together. Had a girlfriend at the time and didn’t want to look like a scumbag for being interested in another girl so I made it sound like she was just some chick who was obsessed with me and wouldn’t fuck off even though I kept telling her I was in a relationship. Meanwhile I was actually loving the attention she gave me and falling in love with her. But I basically made my friends dislike her, and now I’m afraid to tell them she’s my girlfriend.
I bet you are in the same situation right now. I shouldn't have laughed at one of their "jokes" either.
The last time they said something bad about her I asked them why they do this shit , because she didn't deserverd it. Its okay if they make fun of some faggot who wants to piss of everyone he sees, but she fell in the same category of jokes like the guy I just explained. She had a bad childhood and had no real friends as long as I can remember. She is the nicest and most calm girl I ever met. We talk about the most intimate things we can image , beginning from some deeper understanding of depression to just some weird porn we've seen lol.
I'll assume your friends have SOs as well.
Get together for a date night.
If you know the SOs of your friends, ask them for advice, this will drop enough hints.
Well their partners probably don't suffer from mental issues
>probably has a dick
First you do care what they think but the larger confession you must make to them and your family is you are a homosexual. Its astounding, after generations of homosexuals needing to hide out of a real threat of persecution or death, today they do not have to and yet some continue to hide. Heterosexuals have done our part in accepting your right to be you and love whomever you choose but heterosexuals and most homosexuals do not have to suspend reality and accept a male with a penis is a female so you can pretend you are not gay. Pretend all you want but do not force feed me your tripe.
thanks for your advice but she is an actual girl (female). She just has shorter hair and is flatchested. While talking about anime I asked her if she knows what a trap in anime is and she said no.
>she knows what a trap in anime is and she said no
then what the fuck is your problem? also if she doesn't know why in hell do you want to talk about traps. you did it here by introducing she probably has a dick and you started on her about it and cartoon characters.
Your friends sound like immature retards and they probably hold you back in life. Lose them and socialize with adults.
I already thought of that , but that will be a challenge on its own. I think I'm going to keep distance from the more retarded one from both of my friends, because the other one is chill and somewhat capable of handling his brain.
It’s a challenge worth accepting.
You’ll become a gentleman and a scholar. With these guys you’ll just be another episode of jackass.