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FAQ: >What do girls/guys think about ? >Do like ? There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of . Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, bit by bit, step by step. There is no "magic moment" (or activity) that will instantly change you.
>I like someone. What do I do? >How can I tell if someone likes me? Ask them out. "Signs" of attraction are meaningless.
>Where do I meet people for ? Anywhere outside. Or online. Above all, leave your comfort zone.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean? Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me. We're not in their head, we don't know.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I have a chance? No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date? Pick one or more of the following: lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, froyo, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, gallery, park, .
>I'm insecure because of my penis >Do women prefer penises of certain qualities? >How do I my penis? > Fuck off
>Why can't just give a straightforward rejection?! >Why are terrible? . . Fuck off
>Why is there no new thread? Make one yourself! Try these macros: imgur.com/a/y6BF2
i am a girl who can't seem to get girls to be interested in me. i have no idea how to approach them. what is it that you do?
Wyatt Baker
You should stop trying to imitate men and be comfortable with yourself. If you try to copy men you'll end up as a butch dyke
Blake Hill
>girl asking how to approach girls Would you not know better than us what girls want? What do you want?
Ayden Robinson
Is there any hope in getting with a girl after having a few awkward situations together?
We worked together for a class and she knows I'm pretty smart. We talked uncommonly later on. I tried to text her and invite her to our study group but she already had one. After that it's always been awkward "hi"s and such. Since I felt she had no interest in me, I try to ignore her presence now and not say anything unless our eyes meet. I feel she's trying to avoid eye contact. Strange part is she tried to talk to me before a few times. All these awkward situations have just been lately.
Thoughts?
Jackson Wilson
Girls: what are the cringiest/creepiest/off-putting things you had deal with personally from a dude?
Colton Scott
Someone to sit near me when I'm studying, doing her own thing at the same time, and looking over at me and smiling sometimes.
Thomas Bailey
When does she avoid eye contact? Does she stare then look away when you catch her? Just ask her for lunch
Anthony Green
Whoops
Austin Stewart
Then do that. You know that at least one girl wants that, so it can't be the worst strategy on earth.
Dominic Clark
Personally if a girl did that my first thought is “is this some kind of set up?”
Caleb Gutierrez
Nah, it's mainly when she comes to class. I sit next to the door, and she walks in and it sort of feels like she doesn't want to look my way lately.
Connor Watson
Both genders, It's my understanding that flirting is pretty much just mad bantz. If I just naturally banter with people I like; >is it possible my banter comes off as flirting? >is it possible I've misinterpreted other people's flirting as banter? >what is the difference between flirting and banter? Thank you for your time.
Camden Lewis
What’s the diffrence between flirting and just being nice? Been accused of flirting a lot when I’m just emphathizing with a cashier because I know how much it sucks.
Robert Hill
they would need to already be connected to me in some way. i can't just go into a coffeeshop and start staring down girls while they're studying.
sorry, i'm drunk, lonely, and sad. i really want a gf / wife.
Parker Gonzalez
Girls Any advice on tinder profiles? Best photos and what the hell do you write?
Ryder Martin
Definitely. Lots of guys are into twinks.
Jose Anderson
A bf? Absolutely I would love a tiny sub twink bottom with long flowing hair and a soft thin body
Grayson Flores
Ha ha user. I said straight answers
Chase Wood
Yeah if you do mean bf then height is nothing
Noah Fisher
Fucking typos
Hudson Foster
Guy here The difference I use is physicality. If I simply banter with someone, I stay where I am generally, and articulate a bit at times. If I'm being flirty with it, I will gesture at the person, take little steps so that I'm close but not too close for comfort, will lean in at times and shoot a smile, and if the situation allows it (like going through a door or moving aside for a car or something) I will guide the person out of the way by the shoulder instead of telling them to move. Basically, prod at their comfort zone with little physical cues, and see if they accept or if they shy away. Also make the bantz a bit more "open to interpretation", use slightly awkward wording that would make a raunchy joke if you wanted to take it that way, and see the reaction. It comes sorta natural for me, the actual hard part is figuring out what the other person thinks of it.
Andrew White
>do I have a chance? >definitely It's about as straight an answer as I can give to a man who likes dick.
Josiah Nelson
Once and for all and I want a straight answer: as a 5’1 male do I have a chance at finding a gf or should I give up?
Levi Martinez
It will be extremely difficult.
Easton Garcia
I made a typo
Jack Kelly
It will be much more difficult, but you have a chance.
Logan Edwards
So, no?
Gavin Howard
There is someone for everyone
James Rodriguez
>physicality Well, shit. Rip I guess.
Angel Gutierrez
How difficult?
Carter Anderson
Then why are they’re lonely men?
Lincoln Long
That doesn't come naturally to me at all...
Austin Nelson
There's someone for everyone But some people take your someone as well as theirs.
Jaxson Baker
>Hanging out with girl >Time to go >She leans in for a hug, then suddenly halts and just waves instead >Wave back and say bye
That made me feel awkward as fuck, what the hell was that
Isaac Morgan
What are you afraid of? You think they might pepper spray you and blow the rape whistle?
Isaiah Evans
Pretty much. Also the banter and everything, it just doesn't flow naturally.
But I've had girls call me a creep before so I just stopped trying.
Owen Wilson
Lesbians and bi girls: How do I eat pussy?
Julian Lee
Honestly not that bad once you get used to it. I only figured out that side of me at 24 years old, used to be super shy before, no kiss no hands held virgin. Just try it, but don't push too hard if you don't find it easy, try to figure out the comfortable way for you. Depends on how you see yourself my dude. For me it only really started to make sense once I affirmed my own self-worth by working on myself for a couple months - losing weight, getting a bit of muscle, that sort of thing. I'm not a "fit" person, but also not overweight as I used to be. I was kinda full with a hint of chub. Definitely not chad alpha male material, but I really surprised myself with this intuition, came out of nowhere really. I still think I look ridiculous doing it, but it works regardless. So yeah, you'll figure it out, and there's nothing stopping you unless you're 90 kg+. 181/82kg here.
Jeremiah King
I'm a "serious" person, I am really laid back, boring most of the time, always follow the rules type, I base my decisions and opinions using statistics/effort/utility, never angry mathematician who likes to drink. I seem attract girls that are nuts. Like no good with serious issues. Sometimes with substance problems. Girl im seeing now is going to make me end up doing some crazy shit I can already tell. And yet I'm still going with it. I don't get it.
Also should I get an earring? I feel like it'll give me a bad boy vibe to end this
Jackson Sanchez
No. It will give you a gay boy vibe.
Brayden Bailey
Being called a creep means you're coming on too hard. Don't force it. Don't make everything a flirt, just put a bit here and there while doing small talk, and go from there if they're receptive. It takes a while to ease in, doesn't happen within 10 minutes zero to full-force. Don't worry if the small talk is banal, drop some hints of something you are interested in and see if they follow through, talking about something you know will make you more comfortable and at ease, which will help you flirt.
Dylan Fisher
For either gender: could you share a time where someone was emotionally unequipped when you wanted their support?
Mason Myers
How do you tell someone to stop trying to be a “bad boy” when they clearly are not before they embarrass themselves or get killed doing something stupid. More worried about the latter.
Brandon Bennett
be tall
Julian Perez
I have been asking myself the following, femanons: 1 how often do you masturbate, i know it's normal, i have this roommate, she bathes in 3 minutes and i usually moonlight while coding, so i don't see her even taking 2 minutes to do so. I know some guys that masturbate 3 times a day...
2 is it considered ok to grab your friends tits, in a non sexual way, just teasing? I see a lot of girls in high school touching them with nobody pointing it out, if us boys touch another guy, we are getting punched
dont try to talk to anyone under 25 about any real emotional issues, they are all dumbasses and not mentally developed or experienced enough for any kind of understanding, its not their fault of course but no point in weirding them out and getting nothing from them.
Anthony Ward
Intimacy Prob didnt know if it'd be appropriate/if youd be ok with it so she changed her mind and decided to go for safe You shouldve hugged her you dolt
Ive done it a couple of times and the guy just told me "youre gonna hug me goodbye?" with open arms and a smile after like the third time which made me know it was ok He totally got that I was retarded after a bit, so that helped
Just my two cents
Eli Mitchell
Well the last time she hugged me just fine, it threw me off so hard my mind went blant for a sec.
Parker Clark
For girls:
Would you date a NEET? I have a post-grad STEM degree, but I've been having no luck finding work. I want to leave NEET-dom ASAP. I've applied to ~20 different companies so far.
I feel like it would be hard to convey that my current situation is temporary on first impression, especially on tinder.
Justin Hill
Nobody wants a NEET guy man.
Jonathan Morgan
Use your tongue like your trying to write your abc’s on her clit. Aka The bean thing above the hole you put your penis in. Suck on it lick it but feel her reactions. It’s not as hard as people make it seem.
Don’t bite it. If she wants you to don’t do it hard.
Why would you want to grab another guys junk anyway? You gay?
Ethan Perez
She's doing it when she's sure you're gone.
Don't grab girl's tits if you're a dude. It's rapey.
Jacob Lopez
Yeah, because I understand my situation. I have goals, just having a little trouble on the way is all.
Alexander Foster
Yes. I know girls who would litterally work and support them while living in the same house with his mother. I shit you all not it does happen. I’m not encouraging this but if you do end up in that situation please appreciate it.
John Myers
>Yes. I know girls who would litterally work and support them while living in the same house with his mother. I need to find a girl like this.
Christopher Kelly
This, get ready for neck ache though Just see her body language, if she starts to breath fast, shakes, grabs your hair, etc Just remember that pussy tastes neutral, slightly salty, (if you can get your prostate juice, is similar,) If it tastes acid or uncomfortable in general, it isn't clean enough Everything is the first impression, if you seem like a waste of time, girls won't spend the time to see 'your good side'
Aiden Nelson
I was phone posting, i wanted to extend this >girls won't spend the time to see 'your good side' Most guys are like, 'Why can't i get a girl , i will show her my best side , make her happy ,etc' The thing is, everything is the first impression, if you need to suck a lollipop that tastes disgusting , even if you might get some sweet bubblegum in the middle, you might as well just look for a lollipop that is sweet from the start, and you might find some bubblegum too. The 'Hurr durr i respecc wamens', doesn't get you that far ,you can get other attributes to look attractive (more than just physical) that will get you further
Xavier Morris
>Use your tongue like your trying to write your abc’s on her clit
this is the stupidest fucking advice anyone has literally ever posted in regards to eating pussy
are you people all fucking retarded, do guys masturbate by stroking to the tempo of the alphabet or some stupid fucking shit? Its consistent firm, rhythmic pressure on the clit and speed up slightly if shes close, there isnt a fucking code to it. Do it for more than 2 minutes you lazy fucks.
Samuel Parker
Girl in need of advice.
I've been online dating a guy for over a year now. I've kept trying to make plans to invite him over to my city, but every time it's been postponed due to him getting a new job, or me just being too afraid. My issue is, for the past few months (since the summer actually) he's been increasingly cruel to me and others. He insults my political principles (which I'm very devoted to) quite often, not to mention he's done everything he can in his power to destroy my religious faith despite claiming he finds my faith "interesting" (it's pretty convoluted so I won't go into too much detail). He has a history with depression and I've been told that whenever he gets very snarky or nasty I need to realize it's not "him" speaking but his depression. I need advice on whether or not I should keep perusing him, or if I should move on. I'm almost 30 and I need to find a guy and have kids ASAP so I can't waste anymore time.
I dislike distance relationships, too much talk, too little meat. >he's been increasingly cruel to me and others Is there a reason, because, accidental being cruel =/= being cruel on purpose > He insults my political principles feel free to discuss them, politics is a particular topic, everyone has it's own opinions >everything hr can in his power to destroy my religious faith When people try to change your beliefs is a red flag for me >im almost 30 and I need to find a guy and have kids ASAP Sorry to say it to you like this, but stop fucking play pretending a 17 year old. Get a real man, That being said, if you find him a good candidate, and the IRL meeting goes well. then analyze it again, Suggestion from a 21 yr old: relationships where one of the parts has depression requires a lot of energy to sustain
Jason Moore
How to make a good first impression under these circumstances (NEET).
Justin Ramirez
Have you ate pussy before nigga?
Jeremiah Foster
I always see girls sitting in this position but why do they do that?
Does it spread their vag open and feel good as a result?
And she isn’t bad looking either. Gets her into threesomes too. Idk how this guy does it but holy shit there are some results here. And he’s norwooding.
Joseph Bell
yes i have, have you? Do you actually think the ABC shit does anything, you would literally get chuckles and the girl asking you what youre doing
The clit is a grouping of nerve endings that get stimulated, you stimulate nerve endings by consistently stroking them just like jerking off your own dick
James Clark
I know pussy Cum when I taste it.
Lincoln Sanders
I’m a guy and I sit like that. I feel like I’ll slide out if I don’t.
Michael Powell
I need to write it down , sometime ,but. 1 - have something SMART to say, read phylosofy ,psicology, smart people get surrounded in social meetings, also parphrasing some psycology term in the middle of the conversation makes you look on a different mental level 2 - some JOKES and ONE LINERS will make you more likeable, i think you are born with some comedy, but no need to have the best jokes 3 - HYGENE ,good shave, nice haircut, basic foundation if you ahve acne (Pro tip: coconut oil makes your hair look sexy and healty) 4 - play the MASTERMIND, everytime i say we are going to have a date in a restaurant, i make a reservation, makes you look mature, foward thinking, i can tell you, you get the girls to go crazy with that 5 - have GOALS, and tell them , 'i want to learn a language', 'i would like to write a book' 6 - and most importantly, LISTEN TO THEM, all humans have this basic need to be heard, to feel important,{mentions psychology about that}
Side note: if you have hobbies (anime, computers, whatever you think isn't that socially acceptable, evade them until you are into the relationship)
Kayden Lee
If a woman keeps asking how my day goes, who she wants me to vote for, giggles at my weak jokes, and just seems to look away briefly every time we talk, does that mean potential romance or no?
She always wants to make a conversation with me while the others just keep quiet.
Noah Price
>I dislike distance relationships, too much talk, too little meat. I agree. Body language is a huge part of any relationship or friendship. It's much harder to communicate with someone solely behind a screen.
>Is there a reason, because, accidental being cruel =/= being cruel on purpose I think he's being deliberately cruel to me. He won't say shit to my face, but to his friends even though his insults are clearly directed at me. Again, it's hard to explain without giving too much away.
>When people try to change your beliefs is a red flag for me Oh yeah. He knows how much my faith means to me and yet he wants to insult and degrade it, even though he puts on a face and claims otherwise.
>relationships where one of the parts has depression requires a lot of energy to sustain No shit.
Lucas Hall
>have something smart to say >can't spell
>hiding your hobbies
Lame. Bonding over common interests is comfy as fuck.
Robert Allen
I would sit him down, and say , do you want to go serious? if so , there are some things that i think weneed to work our differences, and X Y Z (don't say you, it makes it seem that only he needs to change)
>Bonding over common interests is comfy as fuck. What do you want to say? 'you know those anime girls? I masturbate to them' it's ok to show personallity, what's incorrect to spend half the date in a one way discussion of anime /computers . It's about the other person, not so much about you
William Smith
I think I might just do that. I have to do it over PM though, because we are never alone when we speak over Skype.
Carter Sullivan
>go to my friend's apartment >meet his gf >hit it off fine, she starts flirting with me, I don't respond obviously, just be my normal self and try to ignore it >the next day my friend says "My gf really seemed to like you, like REALLY liked you" while glaring at me >starts slowly cutting off contact with me
Did I do something wrong here? Girls can you explain to me what I am expected to do in this situation? Why would you flirt with someone in front of your boyfriend? Is this some kind of girl test I failed that she told him about? Was I supposed to say something?
Good luck, i had a really depresive gf, i thought that maybe all the effort i had to do to get it working would be paid in those little momments in which it was a pleasure to be with her. 'At the end, the only ones we can help, are ourselves, people don't change outta other people's desire alone, they must want it too.'
'Man, sorry if you had that impression, i would never touch yo girl, i really don't want to give you that impression'
Austin Lewis
>it’s not him, it’s the depression Well you sure as hell didn’t sign up to date the depression, now did you
Plus that’s a weak-ass excuse anyway. If he doesn’t make you feel safe and good about yourself and knows it, the worst thing to do is look for something to blame.
I really think you should drop the guy. Maybe try for something in-person next time but I understand that can be hard. Sorry :/
Austin Powell
>'Man, sorry if you had that impression, i would never touch yo girl, i really don't want to give you that impression' Oh I said that to him immediately, it didn't fix it.
Wyatt Bennett
No Spazzimodo, I'll give you a real example:
>What sort of music do you like? >I've actually been listening to an Icelandic band lately. >Is it Kaleo? >Nah, it's from an anime. >Which one? >Zankyou no Terror >Oh I just finished that. Have you seen Steins;Gate?
and you go from there.
Nicholas Moore
Well if you know she is into that sure, but going to a normie and making a half an our exposition of the last 27 anime you watched , it just wrong
then wait for him to grow up,or , tell him to drink something togheter , as an apology and tell him IRL
Carter Carter
I'm not talking about him.
I'm trying to figure out why the GIRL would flirt with me if she was in a relationship, and continue to do it after I didn't respond.
Hunter Hall
Not a girl but you friend's reaction shows that he's jealous/insecure about that situation.The reasons why she was flirting are pure guessing, though.
Maybe she just wanted to do it for the sake of it, to have a little fun, because she likes you. Maybe she liked it because you didn't engage in it and it gave her a challenge to get you to do it, too. Maybe the girl sensed her bf's insecurity before and wanted to see his reaction when she's flirting with you, because maybe their relationship isn't in the best state and she want's to make sure he's replaceable (by proving his insecurity). Whatever, those are just wild guesses. She likes you as a person and he's insecure about it. There's really not much you can do, it's on their side.
Tyler Ross
>I'm trying to figure out why the GIRL would flirt with me if she was in a relationship, and continue to do it after I didn't respond. She must not feel 10/10 with him , normal practice to check other ''candidates'', also , this 100%
Mason Hall
Should I go for her then? Seems like he's cutting me off anyways
Michael Davis
Holy shit, you went from victim to perpetrator in a microsecond, DON'T what tells you she is not going to do the same to you?
Landon Perez
That was just a troll.
I'm still wondering about the situation and why my friend is so mad
Sebastian Thomas
>I need to realize it's not "him" speaking but his depression. That's.. not even slightly how depression works. Fucking run.
Blake Perez
He must have gotten the memo that her GF is interested in you, like a little bitch, he isnt going to confort her so he is going to drop the blame on youj i mean this isnt the first time it happend to me either , you can smell the shit like 5 blocks away.
