Ex Friends-with-benefits told current crush about our history

Yesterday I broke things off with my friends-with-benefits because I wanted to pursue a relationship with a girl I have strong feelings for. Last night my now ex friends-with-benefits told my crush about our arrangement, which was previously kept secret. My crush has been texting me about it, and I'm not sure what to say. I'm pretty sure my now ex friends-with-benefits has been talking badly about me behind my back, any advice?

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In the future if you feel the need to keep something a secret, you should probably avoid doing it at all.

Your FWB is harassing you by proxy. That is shitty.

HA HA! That's what you get for being a degenerate animal!

This is good. The girl now knows you are a man to be desired after your FWB flipped out from losing you. I'm not sure how this can hurt you DESU unless she was a huge slam pig that everyone was porking.

She's not a slut but she's not particularly attractive (probably 4/10) which is why i wanted to keep things a secret. I'm nervous she'll tell others, should i confront her about it?

Yeah it feels pretty shitty desu
Do you think i deserve it though?

This.

But as far as your current situation, you need to just be as honest as possible. The jig is up, so it doens't help you at this point to try to twist things around.

Just say that you were friends with this girl and that neither of you were looking for a relationship. It was supposed to be a no-strings-attached and just-having-fun that you both agreed but now that you want to end the arrangement she's freaking out.

No. Nobody deserves harassment.

Tell the crush that she’s trying to harass you because the relationship you’d had with her didn’t work out. Apologize and suggest she block the FWB.

I mean she was attractive enough for you to stick your dick in her, yeah?

I'm starting to wonder whether this really was a FWB thing or if you were just stringing her along to get easy pussy.

Yeah, this is what you call 'being unable to have your cake and eat it too.' Ultimately, the phrase refers to this: it's the attitude, 'having your cake and eating it too,' that you can both make the expenditure but keep the resource.
Even if you eat your cake, you can still have it waiting in the fridge when you go back for it. That's how you're feeling.

That feeling in the pit of your stomach. It's not cold; it's warm. Awkward warm. Like.... public restroom warm. A foot from the urinal warm. Freshly used toilet seat warm.
And it doesn't hurt. It feels more like it's kind of... almost like it's saying "I told you so."

You basically have to own this. Own it to your crush, tell her you made shitty choices because you never expected to see an opportunity like this. That you genuinely believed your chances were squandered and all you'd get was casual lays.

this is what im wondering. If you led the girl on to get sex out of her in the FWB you deserve to lose the new girl because you're a dirty bag who doesnt need to be in a real relationship until you can evaluate your life and not toy with people for personal gain. Tell us more about your situation with the FWB.

Wow thank you for this. I guess i'll just be as transparent as possible and hope my crush understands...
Do i tell my crush that i broke off my friends-with-benefits arrangement because of her?

What was your agreement with the fwb. start middle end.

We started out as friends with benefits a couple months ago after a drunk hookup one night. It was fun, but then last week she stated that she wanted things to be exclusive, and so i broke it off because i didn't want things to progress

I felt like this was a good time to end things before i lead her on too much, but now i still feel like i led her on, even though that really wasn't my intention

you def led her on if you started talking to this other girl while doing the fwb. fwb is not designed to last months if you are friends. it signifies never being friends again. Have lots of daily contact such as texting/calling/meeting or chilling afterwards leads to feelings. FWB is a couple times fuck and you drop before someone catches feels. You got too greedy for sex and played the girl. Im sure you weren't oblivious that this girl had feelings for you. You should have ended it then. You fucked with someone emotionally and then dumped her like a piece of trash because you found someone "hotter". Dont date girl 2, Evaluate yourself and need for "hotter" women and need for sex at the expense of someone elses emotions. girl 2 will have trust issues coming into a relationship with drama from d1 anyways. It wont work out anyways so save everyone drama and work on yourself.

Ignore this troll OP. He's just trying to play you. Follow the other guys advice.

Not a troll. inside he knows its true. He knows what he did. Let him live with that. Otherwise we going to see a post in 2 months stating how he was dumped by his dream girl and his fwb was all to blame like he had no fault.

He also said "yesterday i broke things off with my fwb" and then in another post he said "last week she wanted things to be exclusive so i broke it off with her" so many inconsistencies. He's trying to hide that he was fucking this girl while trying to get with girl 2. What happened to that mysteries last week after the girl confessed her feelings.

"Dont date girl 2, Evaluate yourself and need for "hotter" women and need for sex at the expense of someone elses emotions. It wont work out anyways so save everyone drama and work on yourself."

This advice hit home, thanks for posting this friend
As far as the present is concerned, should i talk about this over text with my crush? I feel like it might be bad to have the details in writing vs said in person. She texted me an hour ago asking if i had a relationship with my now ex friends-with-benefits.

To clarify the timeline:

Thursday i had sex with friends-with-benefits for the last time. Afterwards, she tells me she wants us to be exclusive.

Friday she invites me over for sex, i decline.

Saturday (last night) i break things off with her and this was the same night she talked to my crush

how did she know who your crush was

They're friends so she it's possible she just talked to her about it because of that. However, i think she can tell that i like my crush and my crush likes (or liked?) me

so you liked her but fucked her friend?
Now you put her in the position of having to choose between a friend and a possible bf.

She is also a shitty friend if she knew her friend liked you but still fucked you.

This was a fwb wayyyy to close to home.