I have decided to ask a guy out

So, uh... how do you guys normally go about this/how would you want to be approached by a girl? How do I not choke/forget what to say when I'm about to ask?

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"Hey, wanna hang out sometime?" would work just fine for me.
Unless it's a cold approach and you don't know the guy. Then maybe a simple, "Hey, you seem interesting and I would like to get to know you, wanna hang out sometime?"

>how would you want to be approached by a girl?
The dream would be
>Hey, wanna go bowling this friday?

What is the guy's personality? That will change what the "best" approach will be, but if he likes you he won't care even if you do something cringeworthy.

He's kinda shy when it's just the two of us. What other info would be helpful for your answer?

>shy when it's just the two of you
I would generally act like this around anyone I didn't know, especially if it was a girl. If he's socially awkward, it doesn't necessarily mean much, but that's not to say you don't have a good chance.
If he's normally sociable, then he probably likes you and you're in the clear--as I said, barring a fuckup of epic proportions, whatever way you ask him out will be received well.

I can only comment further if he has a similar personality, but if you want other anons to help just say what he's generally like--does he keep to himself a lot, what are his main interests, and so on. That gives us more to work with--obviously a very sheepish guy will panic if, say, a girl just came up to him and said "I WANT YOU" or something. That's an extreme example, but you get the point.

I have a funny story about this
I never asked any girls out they all asked me out
I just think its funny how they expect it from a guy
The guy also might see it as "if she asked me out she must really care"

>Dating women
Wew

When I notice them showing up in the most unlikely of places and those friends that Ive never met are there too, Its kinda sad to see that perso struggle, despite going through drastic lengths just to take pics of me in public areas. The real shock is that you know that girl

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Ask him to hangout,like a walk or shit not a date encessarily and talk further

>ask a guy out
pretty much any girl asking me to do anything would put me over the moon
>how do you guys
oh, uh, I have no advice on gay pickup of that's what you mean

>hang out
Be more explicit. "Hanging out" doesn't automatically mean a date, and especially since women so rarely ask men out he might not assume it's a date. Just say "do you want to go on a date this weekend?"

For women asking men this is probably fine. But men asking women should generally not be explicit on the first date.

Also you might want to just go out for coffee the first time without it being a date. Get to know him better in a one-on-one hanging out context to see if you actually want to go for it.

>But men asking women should generally not be explicit on the first date.
No that's stupid, you also need to be explicit. Otherwise you will end up with women saying "yes" with no intention of dating you. Plenty of women will want to hang out with you but not date you

Is he already yyour friend or only an stranger?.

already a friend

>Otherwise you will end up with women saying "yes" with no intention of dating you. Plenty of women will want to hang out with you but not date you
Women generally haven't decided whether they want you to be their boyfriend before you have a first date. When you make it explicit that it's a date, it increases the pressure and thereby increases the probability that she will refuse or back out last minute.

Women understand that when men ask them out for coffee that there's a substantial probability (I'd say greater than 75%) that he is interested in her and wants to get to know her better for the purposes of dating. Women who have no interest or attraction in you will generally reject, cancel last minute, stand you up, or bring friends (i.e., rendering it a group hangout and not a date) in order to keep you from getting the wrong idea.

The problem, again, is women who are attracted but hasn't developed feelings yet. When you say "uhh, by the way this is a date", it indicates a mismatch of interest, and moreover suggests the guy is inexperienced, or the obsessive type. Abnormality generally is unattractive, and this sort of thing can be enough to ruin opportunities.

Either way, if the girl isn't interested in a relationship, the beauty of the coffee date is that you find out with minimal outlay of time and money. Generally speaking it's patently obvious whether the girl is interested. Moreover, even if you're so dense that you can't get it, when you ask the girl out on the follow-up date during the coffee date, you almost always will find out she's not interested.

The whole point of the initial phase of dating is to determine whether you like each other. Why should a girl have an intention to date you before she knows you well enough to like you?

I dont think most guys like it when the girl goes first. I know a few who'd find it emasculating. I personally wouldent trust a girl who asked me out, but thats just me. Plus if hes shy like you say that probably wont work in the long run anyway.

I personally prefer to make the first move. I think it's better if you give him some 'signals'.

Y'all are fucking retarded.

I'm assuming the girl wants something serious. A man doesn't take girls that ask them out seriously, they just think they are whores.

which one do I believe? :,)

My plan was a little less forward than "would you like to go out on a date?" and more like "Got any weekend plans? Oh, me? I wanted to go do xyz but I can't really find anyone to come with." Is that kinda lame?

For the love of all that is holy. I'd say there are 10 guys to every 1 that would love for the girl to make any move first.

I need some polls user

how could anyone possibly think this?

Ask him out. The dude telling you not to is just picking at your insecurities.
To let you know how wrong he is, there's been some studies on women asking men out and vice versa, and they found that guys were more likely to accept a proposition than girls, and if they did refuse, a sizeable portion of them apologized for refusing.
So your odds are good.

Totally ask them out. That sounds like a good line to me. Just be sure to judge their 'sperg' level. If they are a total geek (like me) then you might need to be careful they somehow don't go 'oh well no I have plans, have a good day!' and they not realize until like a day later you asked them out. If it happens, they WILL realize, so don't be discouraged and try again in a few days. Sometimes you need to be blunt with us guys. We don't all get subtlety.

babe, we're guys. we're dumb. we like things to be simple. he'll probably be fucking dumbstruck that you asked him out and his ego will explode like a firework.

made me laugh.

"We're going on an adventure"?

I love it. I called my recent dates adventures to my gal.. :)

My friemd tried asking out her shy friend. Caught him off guard and he turned her down. Turned out he was waiting for the right tine to ask her out. He told her like two months later but she was already over it.

>Hey, senpai. Netflix and chill?!

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Do a sickass backflip and ask him out.
Don't forget to yell.

do guys like it when you call them senpai?

If he likes coffee ask him to coffee.
If he likes food ask him to lunch.
If he likes beer ask him to go drink.
If he likes Pokemon go then go play with him. Literally depends on what he likes to what you do. But NEVER best around the bush. We are dumb. We need to be told what's going on. We never get hints, ever. " Want to go do this thing with me AS A DATE and see how things go?"
As for choking up, literally the worst thing he could say is no. Then you just move on. It's not the end of the world. But from what I gather he's probably into you any way.

"Hey, would you like to go to the movies with me this weekend?"
Worked for me. Granted I stressed about it for weeks and could barely sleep, I was so anxious about asking him out. Don't be dumb like me and just do it, chances are he'll be really happy you did. My bf was like "oh shit yeah, of course, I don't even care what movie you're talking about". After some months together he said he felt so excited when I asked him out, he didn't think he had a chance.

If he knows what it means then he'll likely take it as flirting.