Creep

>It's hard to be a loser, isn't it
The void calls for all of us. Words like "loser" mean nothing when you know that death is inevitable for all of us.

Just knowing one day, you will die, and all your life accomplishments are flushed down a drain, makes me happy

He'll just get his own secret phone.
Anyways you can't trust him anymore.
Hey at least it's mutual -- he can't trust you, either.

>Literally married a Jow Forumsentooman
GHAHAHAA
lurk moar Jow Forums femanon, you will soon become like him

Guys we were really close, best friends and bf/gf for 5 years, we've spent tons of time together, we've been through so much. He's the person I'm closestto in the world and i love him more than one ever loved anyone. He's perfect in every other way. Even after 5 years in memory in love with him. He's shown no signs of bad intentions until now. Ffs he was a virgin when we met who was so nervous of sexual contact that he would literally shake. I didn't expect this at all.

Is this behavior at all in the realm of normalcy? Please tell me he's nota lost cause. I have no one to talk to about this. My family gossips too much and i don't really want anyone to know

>he can't trust you
Nobody cares what the transgressor thinks. Maybe if you wanna be trustworthy, BE trustworthy instead of just telling everyone you're soooo coool

Lad, you can come back from this. I know it seems rough, but you arent the first to marry someone who turned out to be someone you didnt expect. From viewing the lives of people I love who have gone through something like this, I can tell you that you will likely regret staying infinitely more than leaving. Life is fucked sometimes, and for some people a lot of the time, but you sound like you are still young(under 30), there is no reason to waste your life with a creep. I assume you are still a citizen in your home country, so just head back, rent a room, and take some time to get your head on straight. Best of luck to ya.

>buying insta whores
>saving pics of his cousin
>total hebephile internet-stalking 14yos
If you want to drink the kool-aid then it's time to go. If you want to be validated that your personal freak isn't a freak, then go to Jow Forums
But the sad fact is that this isn't something that will get better. It will get worse, so much worse, because when he gets his own devices you'll be checking their shadows for duplicity.

I am easily way better looking than 95% of the woman he's lurking.
Clearly thar doesn't matter to him. Our sex life is good, i give him head almost every day and we have sex 3-4x a week.

I know I'm looking for validation in the wrong place. I just love him so much.

Im so fucked

I didn't say you did anything wrong. I just said he couldn't trust you, which is true.

This, OP. Where did ya'll get married? You are only going to get older and worry more and more about him creeping on young girls. What if you have children?

That wasn't me who replied, i realize I'm wrong for checking it out. I'm glad i did though in a way.

Plus, he just admitted to creeping all my messages and shit a month ago which made me feel like he had a guilty conscious. We're not perfect obvs but that was excusable.

So there you go. Suspicion and mistrust are core values in your relationship. It's a disaster. The earlier you break out, the better.

>He doesn't have a phone so he's been using mine for the past few months.

This is literally the strangest fucking life setup I've heard about. And you got married to this tool who doesn't even have a fucking phone?
I mean fine, I could understand if he didn't want one or wasn't interested in internet shit, but he's literally using your phone as his own. What the everloving fuck is going on!?

The problem isn't that you went through, ironically. This would be like saying getting people for crimes you discovered is wrong just because the evidence is in their home. Of course it is, we had a nigga kill his wife and fucking box her up in a Rubbermaid and cement her in the wall. So it was in his home, were the police snooping?

If your man didn't want you snooping maybe he shouldn't be doing weird shit like creeping teens and paying off actual whores
The behavior is clearly here to stay. And now, when you get him on this, he knows to cover his tracks.

Honey bunny, if he were the slightest bit interested in changing, it'd have happened by now. S'where I stand on it

At least his SO isn't creeping on his cousins though right

That's how i justified it to myself. I've kept out of his shit until i stumbled upon something very wrong.

Man this is ripping my fucking heart out.

He broke his phone a little while ago and we've been tight financially with the whole marriage and starting a new life thing. He wasn't in a rush to get a new phone and i didn't mind him using mine because i have nothing to hide.

Whatcha gonna do, OP? Don't keep us up at night.

>justified
He has to justify. You caught his ass red handed creeping his own cousins. Not the male ones, mind.

We won't stop you from denying the evidence. It's just not going to make your situation any better to do so. You, at the least, need to get a good damn explanation out of him for this.

Christ, I don't even have social media. Paying IG whores? My girlfriend's been suitable for me for eight goddam years, I don't need to swap for some fucking rando roastie thot. What's your man smoking?

This is heart shattering but deep down i know you're right. Fuuuuuuuuck
I'm 25. We got married in his country. I'm from Canada. I have no money left from the expensive move. I can't leave yet so I'm double fucked oreos

Idk man he's been such an innocent guy to my knowledge this whole time. I've been good and faithful to him and we're incredibly close. I thought we were well suited to each other. Everything was perfect up until now.
I have no idea. Even if i decide to end it i can't leave. I trusted him completely and put all my money into staying my life with him. Yea i know, I'm stupid. Hindsight is 20/20

Starting*** my life with him

Devils greatest art to convince you he does not exist. He would not get away with it playing the guilty party, so he didn't. I wouldn't be surprised to find out he has a network of internet thots. But because it's not physically cheating, he's probably justifying it.

Look man I didn't say dump and never ever look back, but you're in a pickle and a pack and you need to consider the truth that this is also part of him-- and that, knowing you wouldn't like it, he's not told you. I think the time has come to investigate what you can do for yourself in the worst case-- just in case it comes to that.

You're right. I know i have a few options here. I'm willing to work it out, but then the nagging reality is that this won't stop. It will only become more discreet as you all have pointed out. I would be willing to forgive it if he stopped it all and never did it again. But that's not likely.
I'll be choosing a life shared with a total creep because i value his company so much.

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>email in a browser on a phone
Try again.
>Bragoli
You guys are already on /b/. You don't have to shill her on the whole website, we get it.

It's a rabbit hole he's only going to go deeper on.

Like I said, sit him down and get an answer. It might draw closure. More likely he's just a typical man off the internet who thinks women are toys and men are a progenitor race or something.

You honestly think you can't use email in a browser? Try it out.
When you use incognito it doesn't retain your login info and signs you out when you close the browser.

Literally he is creeping on catch-me-outside girl. I wish this was a joke.

You can, nobody does. If that's his skill level when it comes to using the technology then you would have stumbled onto something way before this, and you're insulting people's intelligence by implying otherwise. Bragoli is a big star now.

Yea we will definitely have the talk. I hope he has some magical way to explain this but it seems unlikely to be any less creepy than it looks.
He talks often about how shitty other guys are for treating women like second class citizens. I know now that everything he said was essentially meaningless.

He really puts on this front like he's a super great, down-to-earth, trustworthy guy. Had me fooled.

Assuming this story is true why dont you just talk to him about it and go from there? Oh wait you're a dumb woman no wonder you can't even communicate. That being said link to your cousins insta?

We've only had to share a device for a little while. If he downloads anything to hide his deeds i will know. He only uses my phone when he's with me. He trusts me to not snoop his shit but he fucked up. I've only ever seen the typical annoying things in the past. Just liking girls pictures and petty shit of the sort

Sorry for a second i thought you might be pants-on-head retarded but that's me

This tale is a fiction, user.

He's at work right now and I'm home alone with no one to talk to. I can't contact him because he doesn't have a phone. I'm using the (my/our) phone right now because I'm a shit phoneposter. I don't have anyone to talk to about it and its eating me alive. I can't tell my friends or family this.

It is unfortunately fact. I would have come up with something far more interesting if it was fake.

It's fake, user, none of this happened.

It's a fake story.

Real talk, i'm no woman-hating incel, but you would be suprised at how common this is. His habits are certainly unhealthy but not grounds for divorce, atleast without communicating about it first. You would be suprised what porn does to your brain, be glad its still just normal females and even weirder stuff like traps or even scat.

However, because you found out, you need to talk to him. See this as your first symbolic act as a married couple - explain to him how you feel, try not to be overly judgemental, and ask him to fix it/explain himself. If not, if you can't handle the darker side of your mans brain (desu all things considered this is pretty tame) and aren't willing to help him work through it, you aren't really a true partner to him. Likewise, if the roles reversed, it would be the same for him.

I truly hope you heed these words of advice and don't over-react. Let your initiatal shock and disgust pass over you then talk to him like a fucking grown up adult

If this story were true, you mean.

The amount of time I've had to stew on this now has certainly calmed my initial feeling of wanting to freak the fuck out.

I really do love him with all my heart and i really want to work it all out. I just can't imagine living the rest of my life knowing he's taking secret videos of all the woman we know.
Even paying for insta-thot videos isn't the end of the world. It's more the underage girls and cousin obsession. I want to be with him forever and i don't know if I can handle that.

I know there are worse things he could be doing in this world. Then again, I also know that I've probably only found the tip of the iceberg.

That's fucking scary

All that being said i really do not want to leave him at all and that might make me retarded but such is life. I can't shake the feeling of impending doom to our relationship

>I really do love him with all my heart and i really want to work it all out. I just can't imagine living the rest of my life knowing he's taking secret videos of all the woman we know.
Literally just tell him that, those exact words. Guarantee you he will feel like shit and then adjust accordingly. Most guys would be secretely attracted to their younger cousins, its shitty but thats just reality. It is possible it may be darker & deeper than that but you can't make assumptions, talk to him about what you do know and tell him how you feel.

That's true. Actual good advice. I'm really hoping he just needs a wake up call.
He's always been obsessed with getting married and starting a family. It's hard to see him in this light for me. Its really confusing. I'm not worried that he's a total pedophile but 14-15 is still To Catch a Predator territory.

I mean, like I said he didn't even want you to find this much.
If nothing else, a break is certainly an appropriate answer, if a grim one; time apart and alone might
>A) help you mull it over
>B) help him mull it over
>C) give him time to """get it out of his system"""
>D) give him time to realize the harm he's done
>E) give him time to figure out if his independent bachelorhood, or his relationship, is the more important piece

I get you don't want to leave him, my girlfriend probably has a thing or two to say about that honestly. And again I don't WANT to say 'break up and run.'
But you have to do *something* and you keep teetering dangerously back toward 'I'll just bury this and stay resentfully silent.'
Even if it means you go for a week and come back crying, even if it means one of you just sleeps on the couch.
What you need is a demonstrable reaction and at least the threat that consequences can get worse.

If you intend to spend the rest of your life with someone be prepared to get to know all of their demons and make peace with them. You probably have your own aswell if you're a human being. Assuming its no more than what it is and he's not some actual creepy pedophile it doesn't really change who he is.

I know I'm probably too eager to keep this thing going. I just can't picture the latter.
I keep going back and forth between wanting to make it work and thinking it is worse than i think.

Do you think it's even possible for him to put this behavior to rest?

I'm definitely going to confront him about it. I've also changed my phone password so he can't do it for now. He can still use the playstation or get his own phone through so it all depends on what he's willing to do to rectify the situation. I can't be missing over his shoulder forever.

He's mentioned wanting to buy an old school phone with no internet. Maybe he realizes he has a problem.

I definitely have some weird interests myself but the saving and emailing himself photos and videos just seems so depraved. I wish he could just watch porn instead. It looks like that's not doing enough for him.

It doesn't matter if you are hot or not, men always want to fuck other women, it's their nature.

You should be happy he's not cheating on you.

>men like 18 year olds and legal aged teens
>shocking

Nothing of this is abnormal or shocking. The majority of men find 18 year olds attractive. Creep shots are not tho

>dated for 5 years and just found out after marrying.

OP gtfo, he probably married you out of pity or need.

All men look at porn, however, insta sluts maybe excessive for newly weds. Is your sex life so dry he looks elsewhere? If he's not banging you at least 3x weekly then that's probably the case.

>I'm from Canada
Why does this not surprise me?

We were in a ldr for a while but we have sex often now. I don't mind the porn at all, I watch porn too. It's the creepy stuff that's got me.

He's going to be home soon. Shit is about to get real.

it's only creepy to you because you don't realize how common it is. The only reason you found out is because you broke the trust of privacy. Which itself is creepy. And the people want privacy. Almost everyone has something they don't other people to know, whatever it is.

If you got 100 men and looked into their fetishes a good majority of them would be similar to your husband. Why do you think "teen" is such a common porn category? because other 18 year olds are looking for teen porn? Lol. 15-17 is legal in a lot of the western world and wasn't a taboo until very very recently. Not justifying it but it's not abnormal or something most men (and women) wouldn't do if they legally/socially could. Look at female teachers and underage students get caught almost everyday. More so then men. So you can't say it's a male thing only it's a human thing.

But there's a difference between fantasy/fetish and reality. I read that a disturbing amount of women have rape fetishes. Does that mean women are okay with getting raped? Or out there putting themselves in situations to get raped on purpose? Of course not. That's similar to this. Don't go super hard on him over fantasy.

>One of his cousins has a soft porn account

and what does this mean? She has an instagram where she posts bikini pic? That's not porn

most men don’t have porn instagram accounts. they don’t use their girlfriends’ phones, either. you have a sketchy bf.

I wanna know how dumb this guy is for doing these things on your phone. And how disrespectful is that? What a shitheel.

I'm not sure how young his cousin looks, but to be fair, that Bhad Bhabie bitch does not look her age at all. I thought she was at least 20.

and most people follow her because she's a trashy meme celebrity. I doubt 15 million people are pedo/ephebo or most of them are attracted to her

I surprised anyone is even attracted to her. Look at her. Even if she was 20 she just looks trashy and low class

OP abandon ship. Just do it. Nothing will redeem this.

this, unfortunately.
OP: you said you moved to his country - is that some shitty place where women are treated like cattle and have little to zero rights, and husbands can whip their wives?
If so, GTFO ASAP.

What a load of bullshit

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Congrats, you both like to lurk Jow Forums. Soulmates

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>Liking porn
>Attracted to cousin
>Attracted to the hypersexualized badbabie

He sounds like a regular dude to me

Whatever you do, decide quickly before get pregnant.

I'm a man who's been married 18 years, for better or worse. So am somewhat qualified to reply to your post.

Men change with time. So do women. Every marriage has good years and bad years.

There may be some creepy things about your guy right now, but you've known him for 5 years previously. Your gut instincts must have given the green light all that time. Right upto the altar.

So do not despair. It is likely that you will discover more stuff about him in the first 3 (toughest) years of marriage. Am sure he will also have moments when he wonders why he married you. That's normal.

May be in a year's time your man will lose interest in random porn. Or not. If he is a good human being otherwise and he is a friend you can trust, then at some point bring it up if it bothers you that much.

The creep video of your mutual friend is a bit out of line, and I would probably initiate the topic by saying "You know so-and-so? Turns out his girlfriend browsed through his phone and found creepshots of girls taken without their knowledge. What a jerk that guy is !"

Most men watch porn and are still well functioning adults. If anything, he sounds like a horny fucker, so you guys should enjoy lots of great sex while it lasts. After 18 years, it will be a lot tougher :)

My 2 cents

how old are you user? how's your marriage right now? do you regret marrying?

I'm 44. We have 2 kids.

Some years, my wife and I look at each other and see the the fresh-faced youngsters that we both always loved and cherished and adored.

Other years, we want to either kill each other or get divorced or - preferably - both.

Hope that answers your question.

My 2 cents

holy shit that came literally out of nowhere
fucking incels man

u married a creep
get out
he is not the one and he wont change, he is in too deep
getting outed will add to the problem, if I were you id beak up with him and tell him some bullshit

good luck user

I wouldve laughed if I didnt cringe

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I'll give you a response from a sane adult that is not a basement dwelling weirdo.

What you are describing is a pretty big deal, but I would not say it's relationship ending.

You married the guy because you love him and think he is great right?

Well I think you definitely need to confront him. Snooping or not you need to address this with him, it's a huge relationship issue. It might seem small now but could get much bigger later. Intimacy and trust are huge parts of a relationship.

Basically set the rules for the relationship. If you are okay with him looking at porn, that's fine, but messaging women and interacting with them is approaching the cheating side of things. Next thing it's strip clubs, then escorts etc.... You have to make that clear to him that kind of thing is not okay. If it helps him, ask him how he would feel if you were messaging guys on the internet and were clearly interested in them sexually.

If you approach this discussion with him calmly and with compassion it could really be good for your relationship in the long run. But it will be hard work. Both for him and for you.

Then give him a little space over the next few days to work through some things.

In my own relationship of 4 years it took me a while to realize that looking at porn when my GF was not around wasn't an innocent act. It kind of sucks the love and desire out of the relationship. It's a mini digital affair without consequences. But over time it consumes more and more of man, making him want to actually fuck someone who is not his gf/wife.

I know I sound all churchy, but what your describing has a negative impact on relationship over time.

Not everything is lost, OP. I've been through the worst few days of my life recently. I found out my gf had been cheating online (I suspected the whole time but just one day decided to break into her phone and find out) for 3 months. We were a valley of tears and she really resented me for snooping on her. It wasn't just the cheating, it was the things she told this guy. We're going to our first therapy session tomorrow because I want to work things out. Only time will tell. Anyway, don't let it kill you. It's not the end of the word. Seek counseling if you still love him.
Listen to this guy.

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Fpbp

Stop whining and get freaky with your fuckmate dum dum.