Getting over ex

How do I do it as fast as possible? I went around 6 months without contact and thought I was over it, but started to think about her. I fucked up by reaching out and getting rejected which made me feel a lot worse then before I contacted.

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Talk about it. What did you say and what did she say when you tried to reach her again?

What's the backstory?

I'm in the same boat OP. NC then sent some dumb messages because I thought she wanted to reconnect. Only time can heal. Good luck.

Talk to other women

I added her back on fb and thought that was a good sign, but she never messaged me after a couple days so I did asking if she had same number. She responded giving me her number, but then stopped replying after a couple short messages. I made a status like a little bitch implying she moved on to someone else and she laughed reacted to it fast. I did a full 180 by blocking her number and on fb so that was a waste of time that just made me look desperate.

We started dating in high school, she was my first and only real relationship. I stayed back my senior year while she graduated and that made things weird. Our problems started when I met another girl that I thought liked more my second senior year which made me break it off with her. I was young and inexperienced so I made a lot of questionable choices. This started a relationship of us breaking up and getting back together over and over again. We're both crazy I'm bipolar and she seems to be too. The last time she broke up with me was different because after we had our make up sex I decided to cut her off for 6 months because it seemed all she wanted was sex and not to get back together. This period must've made her feelings for me go away because I'm sure shes dated other people while I never have because it's harder for me with social anxiety. We're in our 20s now and I've changed a lot I admit to my mistakes and forgive her for the ones she's made, but it looks like there won't be another chance since I gave up and blocked her off without putting much effort.

So she contacted you on FB.She gave you her number. And you then proceed to block her on everything ?
But didnt you say that you got rejected by her????
So whats the deal here?

The best way to get over her is to get under someone else. No really, it works just like that.

You thinking about her though, well, you're in for a ride. You will be forever haunted by those memories. If you find they cause you distress, anxiety and so forth, go see a counselor/psych to learn how to deal with it.

Until you die, you will forever remember her, all you need is willpower and fortitude. Good luck user.

Yeah I started the conversation, but she did reply. The thing is she left me on read on the last 2 messages and was posting things implying she wanted or had someone new which got me butthurt. I feel like she was just doing a little payback for cutting her off and I just overreacted by blocking and giving up immediately.

Thank you user. I've talked to other girls, but my feelings towards her are always stronger. Maybe I do need to commit to someone different if it's really over.

My question is shoud I leave her blocked or unblock her and get used to seeing things that remind me of her.

So what does the current situation with her look now?
Did you unblock her or thats it?
Are you guys from the same region or was it ldr?

Leave her blocked and move on this on and off thing sounds really bad. It wont work out.

You gotta move on, good luck user.

I'm thinking about unblocking her and leaving it up to her to reach out again if a miracle happens, but that will make it harder to move on. We're from the same city and live about 10-15 minutes away from each other. She lived with me at some point.

It's been really draining and I continue to do it feelsbadman.

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Funny thing is I wanna give advice but I'm in a weird fucked situation.
>Ex and me broke up after 5+ years
>Hate fuck ton of trauma happen to me in that time. Family murdered, money stolen, couldn't find work, etc.
>Ex had eating disorder, we didn't fuck for 2 years while together. Partly her, but towards the end her body disgusted me and I rather be alone
I focused on bettering myself
>Did Keto, lost weight and got fit
>got an amazing good paying job
>on okay terms with ex
But I feel traumatized by the past.
Even when girls actively speak to me and tell me I'm attractive I can't speak. This isn't the norm for me by the way, I used to be super vocal and gregarious before all this happened.
>If you aren't mentally fucked up...
You have some hope.
>1. Do Keto and IF. Your mood will be stable and you will have more focus. It will cut your drinking as well cause you get drunk quicker and have nasty hangovers if you don't control yourself
>2. focus on bettering yourself with a better job
>3. get a dog and walk it. They are the best convo started.
>4. work out. Don't overdo it, just stay consistent
However if you can't speak to people and fill with anxiety you're as fucked as me

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If you two live this close to each other then you should know if she dated someone or not during that time.But like others said before just because she was your first doesnt mean you can go on to better things. Be smart about it.

can't go on*

I know she has and its happened before, but idk her current situation. I've also talked to girls, but dont go far as in no sex or anything like that. Sorry for being all over the place.

Thanks for trying user good luck with your situation, but yeah I can barely speak to people and am pretty much neet status as of right now which is something thats also on and off for me.

Get busy.
Work, read, work out, visit places.
Just don't get in a rut and it will be gone before you know it.

I used to be able to just talk to anyone whenever and however. Crack jokes and make people laugh. Something just broke in me and I feel like everything I say will just upset people and my mind goes too quickly to dark humor and makes people uncomfortable. It sucks.
>I feel my issue is trauma enduced. It's also hard for me to tell if times have changed or if I have changed, but either way I don't feel like I fit in in modern society. If I can't power through being shut down in one more year, I'm gonna get professional help.
What I can say from when I wasn't like this is how I used to talk to people before. I'd tell interesting stories and ask them questions. People don't have the attention span for this anymore it seems tho :^(
>Also humor doesn't work the same anymore as everyone just goes to the internet to laugh now

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quickest way is to meet and fuck other women

well OP, now you've learned that reaching out is never a good idea. It feels bad right? So don't do it next time.

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Sure have user

Never reach out to an ex who dumped you, it almost never works. I guess you can unblock her, just stop using social media for a while. If she really wants to fix it, she will contact you, but you shouldn't put your life on hold for her decision.