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FAQ: >What do girls/guys think about ? >Do like ? There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of . Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, bit by bit, step by step. There is no "magic moment" (or activity) that will instantly change you.
>I like someone. What do I do? >How can I tell if someone likes me? Ask them out. "Signs" of attraction are meaningless.
>Where do I meet people for ? Anywhere outside. Or online. Above all, leave your comfort zone.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean? Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me. We're not in their head, we don't know.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I have a chance? No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date? Pick one or more of the following: lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, froyo, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, gallery, park, .
>dick questions There's no point in trying with you guys.
>Why can't just give a straightforward rejection?! >Why are terrible? . . Fuck off
>Why is there no new thread? Make one yourself! Try these macros: imgur.com/a/y6BF2
Reposting. Is "you probably shouldn't hit on your coworkers" an outright rejection, or is it just her playing coy?
Consider this in the context of middle school throwback bullshit like throwing product at each other and nicknames. My coworkers say she's flirting back, but I'm "ACTUALLY" fucking autistic and am not sure what she's on about. I flat-out asked her if I was doing anything over the line, and she said "no...buuuut..."
Asher Carter
none of my hobbies, interests and passions are attracting girls.
what kinds of things attract girls. I want to pursue something where ill get to meet someone I get along with. i know asking this is silly but im being serious. its always been said not to worry about finding someone and to just focus on yourself and itll happen. like ive been doing that for 30 years and everytime i try to talk about something i like or something i have accomplished no one gives a shit. if anything i get treated like im bragging about it and come off douchey. it makes me insecure and feel like im a socially awkward motherfucker cuz everyone is just numb when i talk to them.
Charles James
I have a thing for hairy guys but most of them at my university seem to shave their chests/armpits/stomach/pubic hair or don't have much body hair at all. Any advice on where I can find guys like that?
David Edwards
Just get a dude that shaves and tell him to stop.
Aaron Price
Girls, if you notice that a guy has shaved arms/legs/both, will you think he is a fag? Is it a turn off?
Now, what if you also know that he swims and this is why he shaves?
Brody King
I guess so but I'd prefer one who doesn't do it in the first place.
I'm personally not a fan but it would be fine if I knew he was a swimmer.
Asher Robinson
Would assume he's a swimmer, or just slightly unusual. Neutral if I knew he was a swimmer. It's not really a turn on/off thing for me tbf.
Jaxon Rogers
A lot of dudes do it because they think it's what girls want. Not much getting around that.
Owen Price
Men, are veiny breasts a turn off to you? Are they a common sight in your experience? I have very pale skin and visible veins in my breasts under normal lighting. They're not blatant but still quickly noticeable (except maybe one that comes up from under my left breast and disappears under the areola, that one's more obvious).
Angel Scott
>Men, are veiny breasts a turn off to you? No, guys love all breasts.
Dylan Ross
I don't recall ever seeing a veiny breasts, how bad are we talkin here?
Joshua Myers
Veins aren't necessarily a turn-off, although they don't excite me. Pale skin is a big plus for me though, so the positives of that probably outweigh the veins.
Landon Phillips
It's a shame because I just want a hairy chest to cuddle with.
Dylan Ross
Definitely not a turn off. Occasionally it can be kinda hot. Yes I know how weird that sounds.
Jonathan Wood
Get a cat and some glue, then.
Luke Gomez
Get used to it. I shave my body constantly. Can't stand tons of hair. Plus I think it looks way better shaved.
>t. hairy male
Luis Sullivan
>how bad are we talkin here? About this bad, but her tits are a better shape than mine.
Plus I have the aforementioned thin blue Y-ish shape on the lower part of my left tit where the two lines go under the areola. I guess it kind of looks like someone drew on me with a blue pen and then smudged it so it's a little faded and the edges are soft.
If a guy is in a position to see your tits like that, he's close enough to not care.
Eli Hall
I don't think hairy chests are that common naturally. Maybe research which ethnicities have it? I'm Japanese and my chest is pretty much hairless.
Christopher Wilson
Girls or guys,
On thursday, I set up a date with a girl from bumble for tomorrow afternoon. She's away visiting family, but is supposed to text me when she gets back in town so we can meet. We haven't texted since, should I text her tonight, or wait for her to message me tomorrow?
Brody Rodriguez
Older dudes
Nathaniel Rogers
There's literally zero reason to text if she said she'll text you tomorrow.
Jordan Robinson
Yes, I cannot find a dude attractive if he shaves his fucking legs, just thinking about it makes me cringe
Jack Mitchell
At least a third of European dudes have some chest hair
Angel Miller
I'm from the UK and they're pretty common here. I've had a relationship with one and had sex with two more guys 45+, that's when I discovered I loved hairy guys.
Charles Sullivan
There's this cute little Christmas event at my college and I really want to ask this girl on a date to this. However, the next time I'm able to see her is the day of, literally hours before it starts. Should I just straight up ask if she will go with me?
Hunter Harris
Seeing veins like that on a woman's arms turn me on; it's fine.
Sebastian Butler
>a relationship with one and had sex with two more guys 45+ when and who?
Eli Hernandez
I had sex with my dad's friend a few times when I was 13, junior and senior year of high school I dated a guy who was 52-53, and I slept with another older guy who raped me the morning after freshman year
Cooper Powell
*facepalm*
Ryder Young
At what?
Noah Butler
Girls, Am I original? Am I the only one? Am I sexual? Am I everything you need?
Justin Cook
I’m thinking about buying a Hitachi magic wand to use in bed with my gf, because i want to see her squirm and have shuddering orgasms. However, I dont want to use it every time because she’ll become dependant on it to orgasm and my tongue wont seem as good anymore. Ladies, if a guy bought one of these things and said we can only use it occasionally, would you be upset? Does it make me seem jealous to the point it’s unattractive? Should I even open this can of worms?
We’ve been having sex with no toys for a long time and it’s always been perfect.
Evan Collins
I am a guy who has issues with finding any motivation whatsoever to pursuit relationships with women, or even casual sex. I am kind of focused on advancing my career and hobbies, but my family expects of me to get married and have kids one day. Problem is - I think forcing myself to get in a relationship and enjoy it in the first place is already bad, considering usually the start is supposed to be the good part, and things go downhill alter on. Girls, do you know any females who would want a relationship just to fulfill social status quo requirements such as marriage and kids but dont care much about the whole romance shit? I always saw all the lovey dovey childish shit couples do as completely immature and retarded, and really want to stray away from any of that shit.
Jose Carter
I wouldnt be upset at all because Im already aware that you should use vibration to orgasm in severe moderation AND like to get off to vids of guys using a hitachi on tied up girls
I dont know if your gd is like me though
Blake Baker
Would a girl ever date a guy who makes less than her? A girl I like is studying to be a Pharmacist and I'm studying Business and IT. She will obviously make more money than me. Is something like that not sustainable?
Asher Williams
>we can only use it occasionally, would you be upset? Don't put it that way, it's negative and controlling. Phrase it more like "even though we got this I still love being able to go down on you" My bf got me vibrators and while I finish quicker from them I'd rather he use his mouth anyway.
Luis Collins
I was thinking about the vibrator-caused insensitivity thing last night. Yeah, it makes perfect sense to me. But personally, I would never buy one and encourage my bf to return it if he bought it as a gift.
Nathaniel Taylor
Are small man boobs a big turn to off to girls? I'm 179 cm and 165 pounds but I have small man boobs. They are the genetic kind not the fat kind. A girl in college who I slept with poked fun at them and it made me feel bad
Lincoln Smith
Not a turn off, some times a turn on desu.
Thomas Ortiz
Guess its for both sexes. I'm almost positive my ex cheated on me. I broke it off even though she swore she didn't. Now its been 5 months but I'm still bothered by the fact she never admitted it. How do I get past the feeling I need a confession?
Dylan Richardson
Why still care? She's your ex for a reason. If she didn't cheat are you magically getting back with her? Just drop it and move on with your life
Jaxson Gray
I guess I care because she won't take responsibility for her actions and she's managed to make our mutual friends hate me because they all think I'm a dick that left for no reason.
Logan Wood
Bumpin' It'd be pretty risky. No idea if she has a boyfriend, and she's pretty quiet so it's hard to interpret her signals. Stuff like playfully taking my pencil, laughing at my jokes, and putting her face close to mine.
Should I go for it, lads?
Connor Nguyen
>I guess so but I'd prefer one who doesn't do it in the first place. I'm fairly hairy and the reason I started shaving too much of my body was girls AND dudes telling me it's a must. Assume that others got Shaved Dude A to start shaving before you informed him of your tastes. He most likely doesn't enjoy it, I can promise you that.
Lincoln Bailey
I see, thanks. fwiw, fantasies about actual women we know are mostly vanilla and romantic for most of us. porn is probably better for lewder stuff or when you're just too horny, lol.
Owen Martinez
No, occasional fetish actually But what the heck are you doing in life to be so worried about how men in general think of your beasts?
Absolutely. Play it off nonchalant and make it clear you're not trying to presume anything though.
Cooper Stewart
Hey me and my friend usually text a bit every day. I messaged her when I woke up and am still unread 12 hours later.
Do I push the issue? Just let it be? It’s definitely odd. I don’t think I did anything.
Levi Richardson
Dubious desu
Ethan Hernandez
Wtf pharmacists don't make THAT much. You'll be making close to the same salary
Noah White
I dont shave baby, just trim pubes
Ayden Miller
Oh God I'm still here. >mostly vanilla and romantic That's reassuring. Glad we could help and happen to catch each other.
Carter Wilson
Do girls really want hairless dudes? A few girls I've hooked up with have made a comment about how hairy I was, but they didn't turn me down.
One LTR wanted to shave my chest/stomach in the shower to see what it looked like. It took over an hour and clogged the drain.
Connor Myers
Nah, it's just something a lot of dudes think for some reason.
Elijah Gomez
why would you cut off contact with someone when you were the one who fucked up?
Hunter Lopez
Embarrassment and shame. It's self punishment, social flagellation
Nathaniel Ortiz
In the previous thread, , I was told chicks are gonna be afraid of my dick, and that I need to get good at foreplay/non penetrative stuff. So how do I make girls as comfortable about it as possible? And how do I get the necessary practice to get good at foreplay if I need to already be good at foreplay to get the practice?
Adam Stewart
>earlier this week week >broke touch barrier >today >broke hug barrier, came crying to me when she crushed her finger Do I ask her out though?
Ayden Bailey
thought we could tell each other everything. thought we did tell each other everything. ah well.
Anthony Miller
If you post her pictures, we can help you decide.
William Perez
I dont have any. I dont even have her phone#. She's pretty cute though.
Adrian Stewart
Am I the only one who would be terribly afraid of joining a mmf threesome or swing/cuck party? I've read too many cases of cucks regretting their decision and killing the other guy.
Get her phone number and text back and forth a bit before asking her out. Establishing conversational rapport is good.
Andrew King
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Benjamin Peterson
Jesus christ fuck off. No one can tell you all of this and it differs from girl to girl. Ask the girl you're with and not strangers on the internet.
Adrian Sanders
>the girl you're with Haven't got that far mate. I don't want to fuck it up when I do.
Wyatt Sanders
Sorry for your autism. Getting along with someone of the opposite sex will often, but not always, involve a certain amount of flirting. Men and women are pretty different but flirting is something we have in common. It's almost universally understood and enjoyed by two people who like each other. The trouble with this is of course that someone can flirt with you without having any actual intention of ever doing anything else. They flirt because it's fun and feels good to be flirted with, but it doesn't mean they want to day you.
As to what your coworker was talking about specifically, I'd judge that as an outright rejection, but I'd have to have been there to tell you with any certainty. It could definitely have just been playful banter and a kind of reverse psychology.
Nicholas Martin
>8.5" dick >comfortable These are two things that just do not go together.
Ryder Peterson
Can I give you some sincere advice? Spending your time now worrying about it is only going to make things worse. Sex is kind of a simple thing in and of itself, and virgins all around the world have managed to muddle through it, including some with big dicks. Sex is absolutely one of those things where if you try to go in with a plan, the plan will go to shit in the first 5 seconds and then your brain will freeze because it has practiced a certain progression of things and is now thrown off because it's not working out like you'd imagined.
Noah Perez
maybe not for your butt
Ryder Adams
Nope. Just search for Daniel football player killed
Grayson Allen
God damn, women annoy me with this kind of thing. Why is it that you can’t tell men what you want and just expect them to be the way you like them by default?
If my GF told me she likes beards I’d grow one. If she told me she didn’t I’d shave. Most men don’t give a fuck about their appearance in the slightest except to the extent that it helps them attract girls. If there are no girls around I garuntee you that 95+% of men won’t groom themselves at all.
Julian Diaz
ok ill just google that and prove you wrong waaaaaaaaaaait a second
Oliver Phillips
>If my GF told me she likes beards I’d grow one. If she told me she didn’t I’d shave
NO! growing a beard or shaving is your choice unless you share (you pay for it) a house or have a kid (you pay for it) and then its her choice
Anthony Perry
Doing it because she likes it is still his choice
Brody Mitchell
For fuck's sake, how are you supposed to flirt with shy dudes?
I called something he did cute and all he did was cough and change the subject. I would almost say that he isn't interested, but he's said as much about being into girls that look like me to other people. Maybe I should just leave him alone.
Get something that won't cause insensitivity due to never actually touching the clitoris, like a Womanizer or its cheaper counterpart, the Satisfyer. I own the latter and I can go for hours with it without any sort of overstimulation or fatigue.
Austin Gutierrez
Do you also like big dicks? Do you expect them to have big dicks?
Robert Young
Women do shit because their bf's ask them all the time, and it's exactly this reason . You like/love someone, and want to make them happy, so when he asks you to shave your box you're perfectly willing to do it because YOU want to see him get what he wants. Same reason you cheer your friends on when they do something successful.
"Cute" will almost never be received as a compliment. Please don't come back and try to tell me that you meant it as one, because it doesn't matter. Guys are called cute the majority of the time in a condescending way. "That's so cute that you thought I would say yes if you asked me out!" That sort of thing. No matter what you meant, you've basically insulted a guy by calling him cute. Unless it's super, super clear that you are calling his physical appearance cute, "hey did you see that cute guy over there?" then he will default assume you were being mean in some way.
Leo King
>For fuck's sake, how are you supposed to flirt with shy dudes? My god, where are girls like you hiding?
Jack Lewis
What's my "batting range". I don't think I'm ugly, but I'm not slayer either. Dating apps also don't work and I'm not in school so I don't know what to do.
I guess the context was that a friend set up the ball for me and said that something he was into was cute "isn't that so cute, user?" and I said that it kind of was with a smile that he probably didn't see. Still bad, huh?
It's infuriating because the reaction he had made me want to bully his dick even more than I already did. That and his being unable to sustain eye contact, but I really think that part is him being uninterested.
Henry Murphy
How do I get my friends to introduce me to girls? I'm told that most people meet their romantic partners through friends, but I've never 'been introduced' despite having been single my whole life. In addition, I am far and away the best looking person in my social group. I think the issue may be that I give off an 'asexual' aura. While it's true that I'm not a particularly emotional or sensual person, I'm also not a cold blooded reptile. What steps should I take to change the way that people view me and leverage my social network?
Sebastian Johnson
Gain fat and muscle.
Cooper Torres
When people say that you meet girls through your friends they don't mean that those friends go around introducing or setting you up. It's more like your friend is has a female friend who you happen to meet by chance one day.
Also if you think that dudes will just introduce their female friends to you so that you can date her you're totally wrong. Even if he can't have her that doesn't mean he's okay with you having her.
Grayson Hernandez
>made me want to bully his dick even more than I already did please mean femdom please mean femdom
Christopher Gonzalez
‘Introducing’ doesnt happen. People don’t want to play matchmaker. Some do, but most don’t. If you’re not fucking weird, you’ll get invited to parties and meet people and girls who know those people. You sound a bit full of yourself and lack empathy. Try and empathize with others
Jeremiah Bailey
to everybody how do i distinguish a girl who's unexperienced with her own sexuality vs a girl who is asexual we've recently had first sex and she confessed that for the longest time she was worried that she could be frigid, and doesn't get much sexual desire i love her very much, and i want to figure out whether i could do something to help her find herself in sex, or if i should suck it up and be less sexual with her and not force the issue?
David Fisher
How likely is it that she's just been playing some cruel prank on me for the whole time and isn't actually interested?
William Morales
this is what I always assume and it has protected me and my virginity for 27 years. Don't let them catch you user.
Nathaniel Jones
I know that probably meant I don't have a shot in hell. I haven't dated, been interested or flirted with anybody in, like, 10 years. I don't know how guys work anymore.
It certainly would be something I'd be into. He's just too damn cute, like he blushes during sex or something.
You'll come to resent her if you become less sexual with her, as the higher libido partner. But you may want to have a candid conversation with her about whether or not she's experienced sexual abuse. Or if she's fucking dumb like me and hardly ever wants sex because she's too autistic to cum.
Samuel Mitchell
What do you think about loner guys?
Asher Hughes
I've found that people who haven't really had sexual experiences tend to learn how to go without it to the point where they stop wanting it and stop realising that wanting it is normal. Girls are especially prone to this because their sex drive and social pressures are different.
Don't push her into anything she's uncomfortable with obviously, but making yourself available for sexual stuff and pushing her limits just a little could be all she needs to have a sexual awakening.
Wyatt Ward
Please I just need 1 person to tell me that it isn't
Eli Wood
Occam's Razor.
Easton Rivera
I don't think about them.
Brandon Jenkins
I do get invited to a fair number of parties, but they usually consist of the same group of people I already know, or one person will invite me to an event where I know absolutely no one else (I turn these invitations down).
You may find this difficult to believe, but I actually have extraordinarily high empathy. It's so high that I have to actively suppress it in order to be able to function in day to day life. In fact, I can barely bring myself to watch most movies or television shows because the secondhand embarrassment I feel for the characters is so strong.
