Stay with girl i don't love?

>Well, unless you already have another girl ready.
i have 0 chances of getting another girl, much less one like this one. Shes skinny with big tits, pretty face, hell bent on pleasing me, cooking for me listening to me when im depressed. I dont know why she insists on seeing me, probably has some sort of hidden problem, or maybe i remind her of her daddy or something.

But im in a bad place, im kinda autistic, not pretty face, altough im buff, the gym is the only thing that survived my depression. but other than that, no job no prospects, my house is a mess, etc...

>equal amount of love
>>girl is dating a male lesbian, not a man, and will probably get bored and divorce him in the far future or she might be closeted lesbian herself
i dont get this.

Why cant a guy love a girl as much, or close to what the girl loves him?

i mean sure, its unlikely, but its like a quantity, logic indicates that in most cases one part will love the other more (by how much is a matter of statistics) but it should be possible for both to experience a similar amount

>i have 0 chances of getting another girl
Then be smart, bury your feelings, and stay with her.
Life is hard af dude, and if you want to have a family on day, you gotta use your brain.
Your feelings don't matter as much as your logical mind.

>, and if you want to have a family on day, you gotta use your brain.
i dont want a family with a girl i dont love.
what i fear is being crushingly alone.

like, i broke a relationship a couple of years ago and since then ive been spending most of my weekends alone drinking beer eating frozen hotdogs and crying myself to sleep, then since this girl i get to cuddle and she makes me a nice meal, what im really afraid is of going back to that

my previous gf i knew i loved them from day one, can love be built after the fact?

> can love be built after the fact
Dude, ofc.
See you are confused.
It seems that you want PASSION.
Passion is istinctive, and natural.
Love? Love is built.
It's hard fucking work dude.
You love the other person IN SPITE of what you consider faults.
There are NO perfect women/dudes, just accept reality man, and accept her for what she is if you wanna try to build somehing.

>i dont want a family with a girl i dont love
Love will come, just think about your future man.
The rest will follow.

I don't know about all that man vs woman stuff that anons say, sounds like incel talk to me, but here's what I think -

Romantic love is hella overrated, my dude. It gets mad push from media, praising it as the best thing in the world but it really ain't, don't worry you aren't missing out.
Love for your craft and job, love for yourself and love for the world - those are the true loves, much harder to aquire than any romantic partner in the world.

I say enjoy that woman that is admiring you and take everything she has to give to you - ain't nothing wrong with that, you both are getting what you want.

Break up with her, you're a cuck loser who needs to find inner peace within yourself, that girl deserves better, she too good for you bro

1)if shes too good for me, then the more reason NOT to break up with her, i know its selfish but you gotta be a ealist some times.
2)how can she be "too good for me" if shes actually pursuing me? like, is there any other definition of leagues than who you actually end up dating?

>I don't like this person, should I use them and then discard them after I'm finished?
The obvious answer is no. You seem to care at leas somewhat about obligations with
>i feel like i would and i would be morally forced to stay
The moral thing to do here is be honest and let her go before using her selfishly.

>The moral thing to do here is be honest and let her go before using her selfishly.
but would it be using her? would it be so crazy to asume that shes having a good time too? i mean theres must be a reason she seeks me

Yes, because you can't give her a full relationship, let alone marriage. If you're honest with her and she stays anyway that's her choice, but as it is now she is wasting her time with the mistaken belief that you care about her as she cares about you. That's lying by omission for your own benefit.

I would recommend telling her that you're not in a good place mentally for a relationship--which is true. If she cares about you she'll probably offer to help you through it.

Harsh, but this
It's one thing to be in a relationship and go through a hard time and have your S/O support you and help you through it in a healthy manner but it just sounds like you have personal issues you need to take care of, if you can be honest about that and she STILL wants to stay with you while you get help for yourself that's beyond just dumping your shit on her then sure but if you also don't really like her/feel connected then fucking let go.
Think about how one sided feelings feel. Don't be the shit lord in the situation

Don't break up with her, you still appreciate what she does and she's hardly in an abusive relationship. Prepare for her to move on, but more importantly, prepare yourself to be better - there´s a high likelihood you'll come to appreciate her if you fix yourself up first, maybe even love her.

You are in a perfectly healthy relationship. LOVE love is a illusion which wears off in few years. IMHO This girl has the essential quality that is required to live a happy life together till death. You are a one woman type guy, she might be the one.

>relying on womens loyalty
elmao you stupid shits, this is why you come here crying
>b-but she cheated on meeeee

you dont need to be a pussywhipped faggot to love a girl, its actually healthy because women are retarded and its always, always a fucking bad choice they make, i wish everything bad happen to retards like you

Break up with her. I dated a girl I wasn't that in to for over a year. It was unfair for the both of us, and by the end I was just using her. It was a painful experience to break up, and I realized a lot of awful things about myself but ultimately it was worth it for the experience and insight. Don't pursue her if you're not 100% invested. It is not worth it.

^^this. Excellent advice

op here, i like it that theres different points of view.

jesus.

people think selfishly as fuck and then go “WHY AM I UNHAPPY? :(“

grow the fuck up user. take responsibility for your own emotions you fucking baby

hey id like to see you in my position, going from crying myself to sleep while eating cookie filling to having a nice girl who takes care of me.

You may babble about morals all you want but it's hard to make the choice to go from a comfortable positition to a miserable one, even if its "correct

i did

i was stringing a girl along just like you were. 3 years, she loved me so much more than i did her. i wasted so much time. she treated me great but i was unhappy and knew that it wasn’t gonna change. but i let it fester. and wasted my time and hers. and i hurt her really badly.

all i’m saying is i’ve been there. man the fuck up.

Best advice I can give you is think it over, find out how you feel and what you want. And then talk it over with your partner, ask them the same questions you just asked yourself.

The depression will pass, buddy. Just got to work passed it. No matter how much despair you feel, I promise you it will end.

This sounds like me and my ex wife.

STAY WITH HERE.

You don't love her because you don't love yourself. Once you get your shit together you will love her more as well.

Don't make my mistake and leave her. I regret filing for divorce everyday.