How to give the good succ

My boyfriend says I have to suck his dick. I really really want to but I've never given a blowjob before in my virgin-ass mouth. I need advice on how to do well. Good to note that we're into that sado/machoism shit and he likes to choke me and make me bleed sometimes, if that helps

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>no teeth
>apply actual suction
>while also flicking your tongue around the head
>the only part of the dick with pleasurable sensations is the head, whether or not a guy wants you to lick the shaft or balls is personal preference but they don't offer and direct pleasure
>work into a rhythm and keep it going steady, not too slow or it won't do shit
>dicks are way less sensitive than you probably imagine
>balls are very sensitive, do not squeeze or pull on them if you don't know what he can handle
>don't try and deep throat on your first stroke, work up to it for a couple of minutes
>deep throat is good but gagging is hit or miss depending on the guy so no need to push your limits too hard unless you're both into that
>if you want him to take control take one or both of his hands and put them on the back of your head
>remember to occasionally look up at him as you're doing all this

tl;dr
>suction, licking, tip is sensitive the rest is not, consistent speed and rhythm, deep is good but don't throw up on my dick

he wants me to deepthroat his cock but i'm actually bulimic so I'm afraid it will make me throw up on his dick because of sensitive gag reflex, which is not hot. What do

Find your limit and don't go past it. I have no idea if gag reflex can be retrained.

different femanon here with the same situation (sans sado/machosim) this is v helpful, any other advice would be appreciated

Blowjobs aren't rocket science but since you don't own a dick don't expect to be any good at it. Remember to communicate, ask him what he likes or wants you to do or if there's something you should be doing different.

It will probably take him longer to cum than you think too. To avoid your jaw/neck getting too sore you can do stuff like jerk him off (your spit is probably plenty of lube) periodically (also a good tactic if you are failing to follow the tips about applying suction and licking the tip), or switching positions to ones where he is in control and all you've gotta do is lie there.

Final pro tip is that if you aren't going to swallow don't bother sucking a dick. Think of it like a guy going down on you and complaining the whole time that you taste bad.

P.S. if he's uncut make sure to pull back the foreskin all the way. Sucking a dick through foreskin is not going to get either of you anywhere.

Nah you can still suck dick without swallowing. Id rather get my dick sucked without a girl swallowing than not get my dick sucked at all you cuck.

Start small. Just the head.

you sound like a major fucking douche

Different strokes man. My dick isn't super sensitive in the first place and I've only met one girl who was actually capable of taking the instructions I gave her in order to make blowjobs feel good. Most girls are too shit at it for me to bother, and without the added incentive of watching her swallow my cum I find it hard to care.

Please illuminate us on all the things I was wrong about.

not but saying "you aren't going to swallow don't bother sucking a dick" is as douche as it gets.

exactly.

I mean, , but I won't dispute I'm not the nicest person you'll ever meet.

Not even him but you roasties are always trying to find something to complain about

ur just scaring these femanon virgins looking for general blowjob advice into thinking they are obligated to swallow some dudes fucking load on their first try

Yes, I'm like the Catholic church preying (praying) on impressionable groups hoping to imprint my dogma on people who don't know any better.

I'll fix it for you since it's caused a bit of butt hurt:

Girls, we would sincerely love it if you'd swallow, but do whatever you please, and also never suck off a guy who is a smoker or has a particularly shitty diet because that's just asking for trouble. If you can't/won't/don't want to swallow, then asking him to finish on your chest is much preferable to seeing you spit it out.

>letting a guy finish anywhere but a tissue
I never got this. It's such a hassle to have to clean up after a bj, plus it could end up in hair or on clothes and furniture. If we're not already in the shower or have towels out, I never let a guy finish anywhere on me.

As you please user, it's a mental thing mostly. Blowjobs can vary wildly in terms of dom/sub and who is playing what role if at all, but I like to play a more dominant role (not like actual bdsm or anything, just that I'm more in control than she is) and where you cum adds to the experience mentally. My last gf was actually into facials because she liked how submissive it was.

That has happened to me before. embarrassing, extremely, especially since I had eaten calamari beforehand, but it's something that's easy to move on from if you really like each other

>telling a guy to finish on a tissue
I’d cum on your face and break up with you on the spot

I hope you swallow.

That's fair. I never really understood labeled sub/dom relationships in the bedroom though. I'm always in control and need things done my way, but I wouldn't say I'm ever dominating anyone.

>I'm always in control and need things done my way

It's normally the guy's role to do this but that's exactly what I mean. I know y'all exist but I'm yet to meet a girl IRL who doesn't tend submissive at least a little.

An ex once purposely didn't tell me he was close during a bj because he knew I'd stop to grab the trash can. Emphasis on ex.
Of course not.

Suction is good. Find the point where you won't throw up and keep licking/stimulating so he doesn't try to shove it down your throat. I like gripping the base and pushing back a bit when my partner gets overzealous. Try drawing the alphabet on his head, tracing over the top and around. Drives my partner wild. Alternate between tongue work and up/down sucking and listen to his breathing. Keep doing the stuff he really likes until he finishes. Then, you want to stick it a little deeper down if you don't want to taste the cum (because it's a bit gross and often tastes like salty bleach) so you can just swallow it directly.

>stopping just before a guy cums
What the fuck

>emphasis on ex
You make it sound like he’s missing out or something. Any guy would break up with you and wouldn’t look back

It could be a culture thing.

>not submissive
>no cum anywhere on or near me
>you're close? this is my best opportunity to stop and go find a tissue for you to finish in

What culture/country are you from? I need to know so I never accidentally go there.

I've met more than my fair share. Culturally women are pressured to act/be submissive, but the spread is fairly even when you take the pressure off.

>using the word “partner”

Found the gay

To be fair I can't think of a better source of blowjob instructions than a gay dude.

do whatever miss banana does. fuck.

Or a chick with more than one partner and a lot of experience...

Does he have a large cock? And there are supposed to be some tricks you can do to get around the gag reflex. Try googling that.

Just swapping to a handjob to finish while I pull out a tissue or whatever. I'm better at them anyway.
I'm definitely not compatible with everyone, but I've met guys who can put up with me.
China. Most of my life in the US, though. And again, I don't ruin orgasms. I just take like a split second to take out something to catch it with.

Don't worry, i got you covered

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I can't imagine being that enthusiastic.

>I don't ruin orgasms. I just take like a split second to take out something to catch it with.
The visual of my gf taking her mouth off to find somewhere else for me to finish because she can't have it anywhere near her is a pretty big fucking turn off.

I just don't like it everywhere. Is that so awful?

Remember that the physical stimulation is only one component to sex. Unlike porn which is largely visual, real sex involves a lot of emotions, mental sensations, and physical sensations other than on the dick. You have to develop the whole suite of the experience before sex can be mind blowing between two people. This takes time obviously, both individually in learning what you do and don't like and are and aren't able to do, but also together as a couple.

ENJOYING sex, and being seen to enjoy it by your partner, checks a lot of the above boxes. It's why women always shit on men for being silent during sex.

Absolutely nothing wrong with the principle of the thing, the trouble is you're indirectly calling him gross.

As I said above, hating cum to the point where you won't have it even on your tits is akin to a guy cringing while going down on you and announcing that it tastes/smells bad down there. That's how it feels to be the guy in a situation where you're so grossed out that you have to go and find a trash can for him to finish in.

Femanon who doesn't like orals, here.

How do I not gag at the taste of cum? I really, really don't like the taste of bodily fluids, no matter what his diet is. If I do it, it would be nice to swallow but shit I keep chickening out because of the fear I'll feel the need to throw up or gag and it would be terrible for him to see that, I know

I meant specifically about blowjobs, not sex as a whole. Blowjobs and handjobs are boring and would never be worth the time and mess if it didn't make the guy happy.
But I just hate it when it's all so close to my senses while I'm not into it. During sex I couldn't care less where cum ends up. But when I'm asked to uncomfortably kneel on a pillow and give a blowjob midday, I have a low tolerance.