It seems to be predicated physical attractiveness and is then post hoc built up around the personality and the compatibility thereof. Then the most important part is that initial meeting and whether or not they find you sexually attractive that matters the most. The rest just follows as a sort of rational as to whether or not they want to stay with each other.
If this is true then is there really no getting over ones looks? Will I be alone just because of my physical characteristics and in spite of my personality?
Is love shallow?
Connor Cook
Isaac Barnes
Love is the involuntary response to virtue. When someone shares your virtues, you love them.
In English we only have one word for "love" but emotionally speaking, we should probably have like 10. What you're describing in merely only one type of love.
Gabriel Murphy
Haven't you ever seen couples where one partner is much more attractive than the other? Do you really think it's impossible? You just have to let your personality shine through and someone will be into it. They might even be into the way you look from the start
Charles Clark
You don't need to be physically attractive for someone to be physically attracted to you. Ugly couples aren't together because they just couldn't get anyone hotter, they're together because they were drawn to each other. Physical attraction isn't actually just physical, it's also about pheromones, about what our appearance/body language says about our personality and temperament, etc. It's what people call having a spark with someone, you don't feel that way about every single conventionally attractive person you see in a day. We just chalk it up to 'physical attraction' because that's our best means of consciously perceiving it.
Jeremiah Harris
It really isn't.
My first love was probably the dorkiest looking chick I've ever seen. She was just downright precious, pure beyond imagining. Missing her the way I did really tore me up inside.
Then I hit it off with another girl. She was a bit prettier, but she was a little heavy. We got along really well because she's a wild spirit from a very conservative family, and I'm a bit of a shameless bumfuck who doesn't care about those kinds of expectations.
My current fling is easily the most physically attractive. She's also the one with the most scars on her. I want to touch each one and try to make her feel better.
Thomas Nelson
Then why is my height such a big deal? I constantly hear about how women what taller men etc etc. why is this so?
Logan Lee
>i constantly hear about
You should try experiencing life for yourself. It's not always true
Jace White
All around me I always see girls that are either around my height, or slightly above with much much taller men. I have yet to see a 5’1” guy with anyone!
Aaron Green
how tall are you user? let's just get that out of the way first
Joshua Reed
>Then why is my height such a big deal?
Guess even women have standards...
Ethan Sanders
there it is, go back to Jow Forums incel
Sebastian Fisher
Gold
Benjamin Parker
5’1”
But is having standards the same as excluding someone base solely on their height?
Already here unfortunately
Daniel Allen
That's called having a preference. It doesn't mean a girl won't date a shorter guy if she likes him enough.
Brandon Carter
height doesn't matter sweaty, my bf is short. he's only 5'11
Isaac Jackson
How often does that actually happen? Wouldn’t that preference play a lot into how much she likes that guy
5’11 > 5’1
10 inches are a big deal
Josiah Campbell
This is 4channel friend
I myself never set foot in Jow Forums
Jose Robinson
I was curious as to why chinkmoot did that. At work I was thinking of what he could possibly be planning and the best I could come up with is that he is gonna advertise the shit out of 4channel
Isaac Scott
Nothing is impossible but yes your chances will be lower if you sent very attractive. I will say this though most of attraction is within your power. All through High School I was made fun of as an ugly fat guy. Now in my 20s started going to the gym a few months ago, got a new haircut and shaved the neck beard and all the sudden the compliments are pouring in from both men and women.
Ayden Lopez
>Is love shallow?
no, you are
Dylan Williams
Are you joking? Cause that's a bit on the nose, user.
Adrian Robinson
>no u
No I don’t disregard people based solely on their physical characteristics
Isaiah Clark
Love is just the word we've come up with to describe the subconscious instinct to spread our genes to the next generation, and we are constantly making judgments about the health and fitness of an individual based on their appearance or actions. In modern day society where pretty much everyone has enough nutrients to reach their max potential height, height really isn't an indicator of health, but we still have a primitive instinct to perceive height as an indicator of health due to evolution, that's just how it is. If you didn't win the appearance genetic lottery there's nothing you can really do about that, and you may think that's superficial, but the appearance lottery isn't really any different from the ability lottery either when you think about it. Some people are genetically predisposed to be extremely intelligent and extremely wealthy, and that's usually even luckier than being physically attractive because you get a hot mate and nice things, not just the hot mate.
Easton Gutierrez
> he's only 5'11
She said from the height of the alps....
5'1" is pretty dismal. You'll have to rely a lot on your personality. Get the tiny but might thing going without taking yourself or other people too seriously. You want to be Tyrion Lanister.