Watching romances makes me depressed...

One last bump before I go run some errands

Watch koe no katachi, it's sad as fuck in some ways but it cheers me up.

Realize that chinese cartoons are fiction and love doesn't exist irl

That's about that mute girl right? I've heard of it but never seen it. Maybe.

K

Have you tried abtracting the ideal female/gf out of all the romances you have watched?
Make a list and note every trait you' like your partner to possess. Try eliminating any inconsitencies and write (think) about what would motivate her to behave that way.

Lastely construct her counterpart, the ideal male from her perspective and then live up to that ideal.

Damn, this doesn't sound half bad. Still, I don't meet enough girls to find one that's like that. I'm not an incel but most girls I know are the bitchy kind.

I am pretty much stuck at the same point, i currently have no crush on anyone and the girls i know seem ... well, odd. --> Chatting nonchalantly about how they never want to marry, cant imagine themselves marrying or having kids, but dont seem very interested in partying (the stereotypical slut and cock carousel riding outgoing id dont give a shit kind).

From my perspective ( males and femals alike) are most perople to afraid of anything as close as intamacy and as if to follow a trend state how its their choice and all.
I dont know any male peer i'd consider mature or virtuous, so it would seem reasonable to assume that neither am I.

.. No specific point, just bugged me

But in the end its a competition for the most competent mate, attractive in every dimension. It is just so much easier on yourself to consider it your fault by ignorance.
I started reading, coocking for myself, doing sport, and be more honest in general. This may not lead me to the girl/wife i desire, but atleast i did the best i could to redeem myself.

I agree so much on the not mature point you made. I actually thought that I didn't have a girlfriend because they are still immature and only want a big chad guy but that was when I was 16. I'm now 21 and it seems nothing has changed.

At least you're improving yourself, if not for them then for you.

Just thinking loud:

This is also the hardest part of it. Where to meet people, how do people even meet, get to know each other and form bonds?

Is it really just about self-esteem? I guess we all feel ashamed for beeing lonely, boys and girls alike. But is the right approach to be open about your desire for company/ and ask to see if you might tackle the one or other problem jointly?

Then there is still the need for a person that appeals to you... , but isn't this the time of the internet? where people can exchange information in ways unfathomable to our predecessors? wouldn't a person with the same mindset, who has realizied the lack of viable partners in her reach use a dating side with a profile reflecting her honest intent?

or is this just a fantasie about behaviour I am to shy about to implement myself?

The End of Evangelion really made think about how this current sytuation must prettymuch affect everyone, or atleast a large portion of the public ...

The fear of rejection is in some way the fear of seeing his efforts go in vain. Not in a direct way (the relatic short loss of respect amongst bystanders) but ones efforts in himselv as a person.

The acceptance by the female as a collective, is pretty much the hardest judge there is for men, isn't it?

Peterson said, be attractive to many, but pick one out and devote yourself to her. But i believe its within our personal choice to decide to whom we want to be attractive.

You hit every nerve.
You're really good at this, you should be a psychologist. I've thought about every single thing you said in these 3 replies. You've read me like a book.
Now the only problem is how to fix it all.

It might not come unexpected, but i don't know.
I am trying to do what i proposed to you. I wont let future me suffer. Thats atleast something.

Read, watch, listen and construct yourself anew. You have to really engrain it in youself, that you have unused potential to tap into.

Become the best you can think of, not in any sorts of ranking, but morally. I already set myself the goal of opening myself up in the online world, but theres he part of me that says: Thats not enough. you know you could do better, will be better, so that you can feel proud for your friends to have you.
Dont get cocky and contemptuous, but compassionate and be open about your desires.
If they invoke a sense of guilt, that sit down, and think or even better write about, why you might want something that ashames you.

And I am not speaking to you from a pedestal, its what I think I should do and try my best to do.
You might suffer initially, but i guess thats better than living alone and regretful.

Its so stupid, that i havn't come to terms with this, but why do i feel ashamed for wanting to carress someone. Why it it uncomfortable? because I am alone and cannot to what i desire to do, or because i fear i might be a greater monster than I think I am, and just use this as a conscious excuse for sexual lust?

Can i be affectionate? What conditiones must be met? I definitely cant watch at porn and fantasize about giving into my lust, while also holding commonsense romantic attitudes.

Will try it, good luck to you.
How old are you btw?

Honestly to me it's not even that much about sex, sex is good and all but I want someone on a more emotional level. Hand holding > sex

19

I know, that was what i was emphazising, but somehow i got the fear instilled in me thats that was is "lurking" in dthe depths of my mind.

You should become a writer.

Its not just handholding, general emotional and physical mutual support. Cooking for one another, sharing ideas, cuddeling after sunset at candlelight with a cup of Tea nearby. Walks in the park.

Befor i can get anything done, i have to find a way to ... not seal, or kill, ... incorporate my capacity for evil, the short impusive desire to hurt someone, the chance for short bursts of "power" that comes from putting someone down after they have maid a bad decision.

I dont know about your timezone, but its getting kind of late on my side.

Helping you by articulating my thoughts might have helped me more than you.

But dont just brush it of in pursuit of the happiness/pleasure that self pity brings.
(speaking from experience here)

Have a good time user, until next thread or something along these lines.

Yes, all of that, I said handholding just as a general term so you get what I mean

Still early here, 22h, have a good night and thank you.

Anime seems largely to be written by and for antisocial people
They're complete fiction; the social situations that occur within just have no bearing or reflection on reality.

I just want a relationship.

"I'm an otaku and I'm proud! 2d is better than 3d!" Say this every day, loud and proud from the bottom of your heart, "I'm an otaku and I'm proud! 2d is better than 3d!"

Can't touch 2D

k well that doesn't change the veracity of his statement.

even non-romance does it for me (even in non anime, but I don't watch a lot of stuff so anime is the main). just seeing how characters interact in a normal friendly way, hanging out with friends, doing small things together, enjoying life. and then realizing that my own life will just be me, barely getting by to only come home every day and do the same thing till the end, and I've been doing it since I was 10... it sucks.

Nigger this is Jow Forums not Reddit take your blog post over there faggot

>How do I watch my Chinese cartoons without getting extra depressed and lonely?
>Rascal Does Not Dream of Bunny Girl Senpai
Maybe you shouldn't watch trash?

Make an online dating site profile and message every girl who lists anime in their profile. That's how I met my gf. We watch the anime in your OP post together.