I'm a very successful women, have worked very hard and work very well. Anyway so often people only think I've done well FOR A WOMAN, it drives me absolutely crazy. For example I was talking to some boomer in a cafe, he asked my uni and I said I was studying maths at [best in country]. He was clearly impressed but multiple times said "it's so rare FOR A WOMAN". Asked if he was calling me incompetent and he said no he think it's just very impressive FOR A WOMAN to do it. Acted like I wasn't annoyed but deep down wanting to throw my boiling coffee in his face.
This isn't a one off it happens all the time. I've also had younger men act similarly, it just drives me crazy. The worst one is when they offer to pay in dating, when I'm clearly more successful than them, if I get offended I get called a bitch. Yeah I'm sure they wouldn't throw a fit if I paid for them
How are you actually meant to act as a successful women? I'm not physically intimidating
Typical insecure beta response, even worse than the patronising guys
kys
Logan Stewart
First post, best post
Kayden Moore
Well, he is technically right. Mathematics is an extremely male dominated profession. I would say the exact same thing if a guy was studying social Studies or nursing.
Mason Sanders
Are you telling me you'd say "That's incredible! So few men manage to do it". I don't think you would, you'd maybe think it's a bit odd for a guy to do it but you wouldn't bring up gender
Ayden Campbell
People are usually more than their careers, but it feels like that's the only thing you care about.
Just try to talk about other stuff with people or at least don't talk about it like it's that much important.
Caleb Sanders
Well it is rare. Could you tell me what percentage of people who study mathmatics at uni are women?
Jose Murphy
I enjoy rowing, long distance cycling and hiking. We talked about that first, he brought up uni and I didn't even mention which one until he asked. Then he makes a big deal out of my gender.
You really can't imagine how annoying this is until you experience it.
Charles Wright
I'm not denying it's rare, at my uni it's probably under 5 percent. Still, you wouldn't say it to a black or gay guy.
Logan Torres
How big are your tits? Wear clothing that shows them off.
Justin Butler
I don't know if this will help you, but I've always been a nice guy, going out of my way to appeal to people. I was certainly well-liked, but never really got respect from both men and women until I decided I didn't give a shit about how they perceive me, and I stopped catering to them.
Fuck, maybe they still don't respect me and I just don't care.
John Rogers
6/10, decent bait
Jonathan Jackson
t-t-thanks. I try not to let it bother me but it happens so often when a guy speaks over me even if continue speaking, probably cause I'm physically small.
John Watson
yeah, that's cool
Maybe try to meet other types of men, I personally don't bother that much with gender stereotypes and you may find guys that also don't bother
Adrian Reyes
Well i dont say it to a black guy, but i always think it. I am from an middle eastern background and grew up in the poores area in australia Victoria. I am studying civil Engineering at the best uni. People tell me that i have done well for my self. They say it becaus its rare someone from my background to study that. Its an massive compliment. The person was giving you one of the best compliments you can get.
Gavin Hernandez
You sound annoying OP
Robert Cruz
>How are you actually meant to act as a successful women?
Oh my goodness you're vain.
I work with lifesaving equipment. We survey commercial ships. My supervisor who's 58 y/o man. He's really good at remembering the names and faces of people. For example. 1 Gate guard at the shipyard he saw last year. Greeted the gate guard personally and heartily. He got respect.
Women get special treatment because of ass. 58 y/o cis white men have to put in effort to get respect/compassion.
Gavin Young
> you wouldn't say it to a black or gay guy. Because they'll throw a fit.
Why does it bother you so much that people think you're doing well compared to other people of the same sex? I can understand you not wanting to be called a bitch but I don't see the problem when people say that it's rare for a woman to do well in math.
> The worst one is when they offer to pay in dating, when I'm clearly more successful than them Men paying in dating has little to do with the guy being more wealthy.
> How are you actually meant to act as a successful woman? Don't let your success bother you so much when people offer to pay for you or find it rare; be happy that they pay for you and be proud you do better than most women rather than being bitter about it.
Kevin Fisher
I understand why you're offended but I think when people say "for a woman" they mean "compared to other women." After all that statement can go for any faction of people that make up the minority of a field. Female presence in the business field is growing but it's still a delightfully rare sight to see. Just be happy you're embraced and not ridiculed/estranged.
Aaron Torres
Yah you would, same as if I met a man who's a stay at home dad I say wow, not many men do that how cool. Get the fuck over yourself and stop taking offense over everything. Femacunts like you thinking everything is ment to piss you off. God no one gives a shit about your lonely math doing ass
Ethan Ramirez
>Are you telling me you'd say "That's incredible! So few men manage to do it" I would say "That's incredible! So few men do it", like, less than 5%, I think maybe 2.5%.
Ryan Harris
Braaaaaaap
Evan Watson
>Men paying in dating has little to do with the guy being more wealthy. yes it does... years ago in traditional dating it was meant to show you could provide and that the woman wasn't expected to have money
It's very rude to pay for someone else "above" you apart from special occasions like birthdays and of course dating and i honestly sympathise with op on this.
Adam Hughes
You can rationalize whatever shit you believe but it wont change how your peers think.
Owen Long
>Studying maths >Still doesn't understand basic statistics OP it is rare
Because society doesn't condition us to infantalize blacks/gays and hold them to pathetically low standards while praising them for every mundane thing. If you're looking for somebody to blame, blame feminism for demanding that we treat women like retarded children
Joseph White
> yes it does... years ago in traditional dating it was meant to show you could provide and that the woman wasn't expected to have money There's a difference between the origins of something and why people do it. Men these days aren't thinking "I'm probably more wealthy so I'll pay." even though that's how it started.
Kevin Smith
This, stop trying to play the victim.
Owen Hill
You've either got to call them out or stay unreactive and just dismiss it - be the bigger person and just acknowledge it as passive rudeness and get on with your life. Why waste time over such small minded people?
Zachary Jones
kek there is a weird crossroad our culture has taken. women are expected to be seen as strong and independent but men are still supposed to be chivalrous and protective (it's fucking stupid i know). any woman who shows signs of being strong are commended heavily by men who are culturally forced to be chivalrous.
Eli Wright
I always see it as a compliment, I AM DA BEST WOMAN
Most of the world is still male-dominated. If you want respect, earn it, instead of crying every time you get perceivably 'disrespected.' If you're so eager to pick a fight over something, wait for one of them to touch you. Bashing people for complimenting you isn't going to earn you respect; it's going to earn you extreme aversion and people will refer to you as 'that bitch who just loses it on you.' And then, at the end of it all, >How are you actually meant to further propagate this problem instead of solving it by breaking away from gender stereotypes and norms? They were right; it's impressive that someone with all the mental capacity of a teen managed to get into a career.
Noah Barnes
any thread with Nassim wojak is a troll thread, this is bait stop replying and he will stop making these threads
Luke Hall
>Get wonderful compliment from on of the few good boomers left >Want to throw coffee in their face What the fuck is wrong with you
Right, we'd hate to draw attention away from more critical Jow Forums threads. Like >tfw no gf And >tfw no gf Or, >tfw no self-esteem Or the other one, >tfw won't get therapy
Yup, be a damn shame if we derailed Jow Forums, huh... I'll give you an all fielfs, that's it
Justin Cooper
jej
With so much feminism and regressive shit in today's culture people are expected to treat women like children. Those guys aren't meaning to be patronising they're just trying to show that they're supportive and bluepilled on women.
I'm sorry to hear that OP. You may try to politely point out why such statements are patronizing. If the person is rational, they may understand and explain what they mean/give praise in a different way. If they are an asshole contrarian-sperg type, just brush them off and move on. Those types are unfortunately out there so you gotta learn to cut them off early.
There's a difference between "not many of X do Y" than "you do very well in Y for an X". The first is an expression about an outlier, the second is a patronizing statement of prejudice on group X. See the difference?
