Forgot bf's birthday

This thread went from me wanting advice on fixing a mistake I made to me doubting the entire relationship. He is pretty alpha but has anger issues sometimes. I am his first lover so I usually blame myself when stuff like this happens just because I'm slightly more experienced but now I'm starting to see through this.

dump him OP. mine was even worse, he saw an ecard I sent a guy at work for his birthday and I had to put up with his screeching about it for two months and then I forgot his for just a day. That did it, he was such a baby about the whole thing.

>I onyl realized it was his birthday when I got home
Did you at least wish it to him after you realized you forgot?

And don't listen to anyone who says "he is a baby because he cares about his birthday"
Maybe he values it a lot? So what?
Can't you have something that is important to you?
The reason of a "birthday" is to celebrate the person. Maybe in some cultures it isn't valued much, but in others it is.
Just because YOU don't care about your birthday, doesn't mean I can't care about mine?

I'm sure if you tell him what you wrote here; that you had an important exam and so on; he will understand.

He literally just said he gives too much of a shit about me. Also mentioned that other friends of his I had made fun of had already wished him a happy birthday. It's ridiculous cause it's not like they marked this day on a calendar, they just have facebook accounts and recieve notifications about birthdays. But he can't see through this. I feel like all he cares about are facades instead of actual feelings.

What does it matter that they received a Facebook notification? What matters is that they actually wished him a happy birthday. I guarantee that not everybody who’s Facebook friends with him actually told him hbd.

I did wish him a happy birthday but really awkwardly because I felt guilty. I have 4 exams this week, one per day. He knows that but doesn't care cause I was awake at 12am and still forgot.

I like how this is going from
>I forgot about my bfs birthday, I'm such a cunt
to
>my boyfriend is giving me shit for forgetting about his birthday, he's such a cunt

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Tbh people here changed my mind about him. I always pay special attention to birthdays, look for unique gifts and such. The fact that I'm getting so much shit for a one time thing drives me nuts.

How much shit are you actually getting? What did he say/do?

Stuff like "I'm an idiot for expecting so much from you" and "I give too much of a shit about you"

And a shit ton of deleted messages, god knows what he had in mind.

Damn, I thought you might have tricked yourself into believing he cared too much about it because you felt guilty, but yeah, if he says this kind of shit he's really overreacting and being inconsiderate, childish and self-centered.

You know I don't want to appear like a saint here but I am usually right about stuff when we argue and he can't seem to stand the fact that I am right. He believes I am tricking him or something. So anything I say to convince him is ignored, they just seems like meaningless words to him, doesn't even bother to read them.
Anyway, he is a great person and cares a lot about me but I can't stand his outburtsts of anger, no matter how rare they are cause he really pushes it. I wished he listened to me more often.

>I always pay special attention to birthdays, look for unique gifts and such

Imagine he knows that and thats something he likes about you...
Think about that sentence you wrote just for a second and think how he might feel.

Is there any chance he'll ever forgive me? I feel so bad I can't even study.

I feel bad for you, this thread has the worst replies I have seen in a while.
If my GF forgets my birthday, I would be pissed too. he is not being a baby or needy, even if he doesn't value his birthday, he was expecting the girl that he has feelings for, to treat for something.
OK you messed up, and you feel like shit. Good, you should. How do we fix this though? Well don't send him nudes, don't suck his duck (unless until you make up again) if my gf does this I will feel unwanted and yeah I will think that she doesn't care about me. So she would have to prove that she do care. Nudes don't do that.
Also, apologize. Tell him being busy is not an excuse to forgetting such an important day. What would have been the perfect present ever? You can go from there. You didn't have to spend a lot of money or put a lot of thought into this but now you do. Just tell him you love/like him often. Tell him you miss him often. Ask him how can you make it up for him.

One more thing. You're saying that he is overreacting, saying that you don't care just because of one mistake. Honestly, it could have been multiple of things and this was the straw that broke his back. You're his first. He is expecting a romantic relationship. Give him one.
You know what is the worst feeling for a guy? To feel used. To feel that he gives so much and gets nothing in return.

Very insightful. Helped me a lot. Thanks user.

This guy and your bf are little limp dick bitches. No grown man fucking cares about his birthday like that. Especially to the point of getting upset and throwing a little sissy fit.

Your bf is a little emotional sensitive sissy boy. Dump him and get an actual man.

This idea that birthday presents are only for kids always baffles the fuck out of me. Is this some yankee thing? In Tennessee birthday wishes and gifts are a lifelong tradition.

Yeah he kinda sounds like a bitch but nothing too serious. A relationship isnt about fixing each others shitty personalities, its about dealing with them. Now you know that he takes this topic serious. Tell him youre sorry and thats it. If he still cries about it afterwards I wouldnt bother. Its just childish.

Are you stupid or smth? You got some random guy a card but you forgot the birthday of your own boyfriend. He seems to be better off without you

>Im a manly man because I dont care about traditions and values, god Im so manly because I dont want any sign of love by my so. Fuck yeah manly man

My bad wrong user
Meant this cunt

he's just looking for a reason to butthurt

it wasn't a random but a guy at work and people give cards all the time. like we get a calendar each month that has everybody's birthday on it at work. you sound like my EX. trying to make it something more than what it was. Like my EX started showing up at my work unannounced trying to catch me, I don't know, screwing him at my desk I guess. It was kinda funny though, cause one time I was at lunch with the guy and he flipped totally out.

He does sound like an idiot, not gonna lie. But you do too. If you really cared about him you would try to understand him but instead you laughed him off. Ironically you sound like my ex too. Some people just dont match

Does he make a big deal about your birthday? If he doesn't, you're even.

It's all fixed now. He apologised for freaking out on me and acknowledges his random outbursts of anger. I'm glad he listened to me. I also have to make up for the fact that I forgot his birthday by looking for a special gift during the time he's abroad.

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Glad to hear it