I am 28 and still live with family that I am not having fun with and I never go out and do anything. I dont know how to change. I have a part time job I want to keep and dont really have skills anyway to bring other places. And as stressed as I am I don't feel up to the challenge. Same thing with going out, I only am motivated by people shaming me for staying home in my free time.
I am 28 and still live with family that I am not having fun with and I never go out and do anything...
What do you want from your life? Decide it and then act like it.
I know what I want, but it is selfish.
Similar situation. What I've wanted for half my life is a who, and someone not for me. I've tried to find something else, and nothing sticks. Maybe I'm not trying hard enough.
Who told you that selfishness is bad?
And why did you trust them?
Even if I were to disregard my family I am not motivated enough. Its too easy to coast through life to a point where I don't see how I could begin to care again.
Its laziness I guess I have to admit. But I don't see how anything iss worth the trouble.
The man in the mirror never ever gave a shit about anything. Now what?
Sell everything you own and buy a bus ticket to LA. Never return home no matter how much it hurts.
When your future self says thank you in 5 years, tell him I said you're welcome
This is what I want to do, but I'm already trying a plan where I will say thank you to myself in later years. I am securing a small pension and its another year and a half to go til I will feel like I can quit my job.
I appreciate the responses by the way.
Go read some tldr about zen and buddhism religion. If you want nothing, then you can never experience the negative emotions stemming from inability to reach your goals.
I guess you must have the biggest smug smile on your face now as you reading this. Congrats.
Just lie down, watch some meaningless youtube videos and eat some fast food. Maybe shitpost and go sleep at 4 oclock in the morning. Take it easy user. Maybe get a TV so you dont have to bother with picking which videos you want to see.
I wish. Im miserabel. Idgaf does not mean Im sucessfull in any matter. Im a looser to make it short. I just want peace and a living standard above hobo.
This. I am a loser and want to be a hobo.
I am not that lazy, but people make me feel bad for enjoying being at home or not making much money or not having kids etc.
I sort of want to buy into their ambitions set out for me, but I sometimes don't care and sometimes feel too overwhelmed and unmotivated to bother to change.
Nah hobo is too bad for your health.
It probably wouldn't be. I already have shit genetics with migraines and a heart conditionand O- blood which will never land me any good organs.
Go read that original pic 10 more times until you get it. If you feel miserable, then you have everything you need: motivation to do stuff which will change your lives.
Ive lived so long only wanting to be good to others with side distractions for myself. What more can I do?
I am blood group 0. Dunno if rhesus factor or not though.
Its funny cause though I just said I want to help others I am not an organ donor. I have some personal preference to be being buried as is.
Ok. I somtimes got the peace I wanted. The mirror of was calm but indifferent. Never says anything. My friend? Not really he does not care about me.
Did I misunderstand again?
I dont want to help others but often do. Out of a sense of duty or social calculation. Not from compassion.
Any spirituality? Just curious because that desire is unfamiliar to me. Salvaging organs is fine, the rest I want to be incinerated and forgotten. I don't want to become a site for mourning, and with my luck my rotting corpse would help pollute a water source.
I just do it. I am honest, offering help and am technical all the time. Very boring for people. I forget myself and every so often others make me remember I have a life to live for myself and I get flustered standing before what life can offer.
Its been years I asked for direction in life. Ultimately I have been giving up.
I guess its spirituality or superstition. I just prefer to be buried with out a coffin and soon after and with out damage to my dead body. I don't really care, but I know if i am an organ donor they will take everything. I hope I die in the street so I am not left alone.
I should maybe go back to college and do social work. I tried it. I didnt like it when I actually got involved. I might find it fulfilling though.
OP here. what I am scared of is losing my motivation. I just thought all night. Now its going to be the weekend and I dont know how to keep my thought process going. I will probably chicken out again thinking its not worth the effort and why do I care?