I'm in a bit of a strange situation with my GF and I have no idea where else to turn to. So basically, my girlfriend of 4 years now has gotten drunk one night and told me that shes extremely bored of our "vanilla sex life". I asked her to elaborate and explain it a bit more because I don't understand what she means.
She went on to explain how after 4 years she expected me to be more dominant in the bedroom and that I never want to try anything new and exciting. This is where the disconnect happens. She came from a very abusive household, she even developed schizophrenia because of it where as I have never even been hit or spanked as a child. I'm a firm believer that sexual devience comes from childhood trauma and after explaining to her that I have no desire to hit, slap, tie up, spit on or whatever wouldn't be considered "normal" outside the bedroom to the person I love because that's not how I operate. I am also her 1st boyfriend and the only man that she's slept with, so it's strange for me to see this kind of behaviour develop in someone who's not really ridden the cock carousel.
Choke her and slap her ass, be sure to grab the sides of her neck just underneath her jawline and not her actual throat, grab her hair and force your dick balls deep in her mouth then pull it out and slap her in the face with it a few times. That should fix your problem.
Liam Brooks
>I'm a firm believer that sexual devience comes from childhood trauma >it's strange for me to see this kind of behaviour develop in someone who's not really ridden the cock carousel You don't have to do anything you're not comfortable with, but you don't have to be a dick about it.
Jayden Gomez
I used to be into all sorts of shit. I consider it now an earlier need to have an exciting sex life, pursuit, new experiences, pushing boundaries, new knowledge, constant reminders. I can't be bothered any more to be honest because it isn't new and I sometimes wonder if my current gf is a little disappointed. The thing is, because she is submissive she does what I want. If I'm not happy with what she is doing then generally I don't play with her and that is part of her submissive nature so in effect by making less of an effort I am sort of playing along anyway.
You are wrong about degenerate, deviance, cock carousel and so on. When somebody says they want to do something different in the bedroom, sometimes they just want to try something new, be excited, they are talking about being engaged and stimulated, these are human things.
Who doesn't like looking forward to things? Having new things happen? Learning new skills? Learning about themselves? It is a bit boring in the bedroom, we do the same things all the time. Would like to try something new?
What is up with that? You could just message her filth during the day to build anticipation. Let her know you are thinking of her. Tell her verbally what you want, what you enjoy, what something feels like, communicate more. You could be rougher, but that could manifest itself as giving her some commands. For her she'll have some boundaries pushed. Sex isn't just physical poking and prodding, it is a weird psychosexual arena where we combat ourselves in the context of a physical and emotional connection to another.
I want you to feel so much pleasure that you become a gibbering mindless wreak, unable to wish for anything more than it to end so you can return back to being a human being instead of a white hot searing sensation of nerves. I want you to growl like an animal, bite me, piss yourself if you have to this isn't stopping. You can't stop this except by surrendering, if you are good I'll finish when I'm ready.
Julian Campbell
you sound like an asshole man. really selfish as well. instead of coming to a compromise you shame her sexual desires. 4 years of dating and you can't be more mature an open about it. Go back and talk to her
Blake Perez
Anyway bro, my point is she might not want to be sexually abused by you. But expressing a desire for something new i asking you to want to make an effort, learn some new skills, communicate that with her, build anticipation and excitement and finally show your vulnerability, fuck her with your creative and emotional side and explore stuff together.
You want your partner to be like ... I always look forward to sex with user because despite the length of time we've been together he never fails to surprise me with the creative effort he puts into sex, it is always a good time for both of us and I'm glad he makes the effort.
That doesn't mean I'm glad he always slaps me about. That gets old too. It is more about the genuine creative drive and desire.
I'll admit though I'm quite bored of it. It takes fucking ages to properly learn rope play to make it safe and sexy. Sometimes I just want to get my nut.
It doesn't always have to be complex though. The other day .. how does this tie look? Good enough to make you want to suck my dick? While she was I teased her with the tie, during sex in pick related I wound it around her ankles and pulled her legs up high, holding the ends of the tie in my hand against the head board of the bed so I could bang her pretty hard and deep in that position, using the tie so she couldn't escape or do much except squirm. Later flipped her over for doggie, tie looped around her neck, me holding the ends like a set of reins, bit of LIGHT tension combined with ass slaps, just enough to force her to keep her head up and back and choke her a little, but mostly the amount of choking was hers to determine, more just tension to heighten things at certain moments.
That is spontaneous, creative and something different right? That is one way to interpret 'it'd be nice if it was more interesting in the bedroom' and I didn't even have to dress as sexy baphomet.
OP here, dude I already pull her hair and spank her at every chance I get just to try and satisfy her, but it rarely comes across as doing anything for her. And she also doesn't like to deepthroat so I dont force her head on my dick.
Robert Thompson
Google "BDSM for beginners"
Dom/sub is largely a game of role-playing, and actual physical violence is only a very small (and not at all necessary) part of it. Your gf might be happy, for example, if you just abruptly ordered her to take a new position.
Read up on it.
Lucas Anderson
I don't shame her desires, she shames my lack of desires.
Jace Lopez
Dude she told me she wants to buy handcufs and ropes and I straight up said I'm not doing that shit to you and she started whining and calling me boring.
Justin Taylor
Yeah chief I don't really talk like that because it makes me uncomfortable. I'm not a sexuall person to begin with. Dirty talking makes me cringe and the whole "learn a new skill" and "make her look forward to it" is vauge as fuck. I talked to her about it before and I said asked her how she would like me pressuring her into shit she wouldn't like like threesomes and scat (neither of which I want, just examples) and she just ignored it and said I'm missing the point.
Sex for me has never been spontaneous, creative or what the fuck ever, I've slept with around 20 girls in my life and it's always really been the same. I get to bust a nut then I send them on their way home and never talk to them again. I never really needed to expand my sexuall repetuar because I never held onto a woman for longer than a night, untill I met my gf that is. Now all this fetish shit is creeping its way into my life and it's uncomfortable as fuck. I don't want to hit my woman, I don't want to choke my woman, I don't wan't to beat my woman. Don't get me wrong, I like fucking just as much as any other guy, but I'm a normal guy with no desire for bedroom suspence.
Lucas Parker
Forget about childhoods and trauma
Maybe she just wants you to go harder. Being more dominant doesn't mean degrading your sex partners, that's another thing entirely
Just see if fucking get harder in general works before you overthink it, and if she was drunk maybe it was a one time request
Jose Reed
>I've slept with around 20 girls in my life and it's always really been the same. I get to bust a nut then I send them on their way home and never talk to them again. I never really needed to expand my sexuall repetuar because I never held onto a woman for longer than a night, untill I met my gf that is. Well now you need to try a little fucking harder, you selfish cunt. Yeesh, she's right to call you boring, how has she dealt with your lazy ONS performance for 4 years?
> but I'm a normal guy with no desire for bedroom suspence. You grossly underestimate how common light sub/dom play is.
Michael Cooper
>makes herself vulnerable and expressed her desire to you >You shame and act haughty >"These aren't gentlemanly acts for a gentleman such as myself"
Yea, you're boring and your relationship is coming upon it's twilight hour. Dw though, I'm sure she'll find another guy that will be thrilled to fulfill all her nasty kinky desires.
Easton Brown
Shit dude, I don't really know what to say then. All I know is that when confronted with something which challenges me in a relationship whining about it in order to guilt the other person to make sure it never comes up again is a really bad way to deal. Like .. you can't express this side of yourself because it makes me feel bad and you should feel bad for making me feel bad. Fuck that.
It'd be worthwhile to not trigger yourself by talking about scat and threesomes in order to escalate this situation and focus on something specific which you can look at how you'd approach and deal with. Like handcuffs.
Fuck those personally, but if your bed frame can take it, is it really out of the question to tie one of her hands to the frame so she is denied use of it? Personally I find it pretty exciting to blindfold somebody, tie both hands to the bed.
They don't know what is coming next, where it is coming from. They are unable to fend you of, they are vulnerable and able to fully concentrate on the sensations occurring without having to think about what they are seeing and what they are supposed to do.
I know part of you is like ... blindfold? So she can fantasise about it being somebody else? but it isn't really about that, more how the other senses respond when one sense is denied.
Levi Hernandez
underwhelming bait 4/10 apply yourself
Isaac Nelson
Sue me for not being a degenerate
Carson Green
I don't want to shame her, I just want her to understand where I'm coming from.
One time she said "choke me daddy" and I shit you not I went soft while inside her. This stuff doesn't do it for me, it never has and probably never will
Ian Sanders
>she also doesn't like to deepthroat Discard this faulty specimen
Elijah Hernandez
>One time she said "choke me daddy" and I shit you not I went soft user this is wrong, everyone wants to be called daddy
Nathan Gomez
Go back to Jow Forums . The cuck porn will be useful to you once your gf leaves.
Juan Jackson
whatever you say my dude
Wyatt Wilson
On a more serious note I had sex once with a thot that all of a sudden started yelling "RAPE ME, RAPE ME" at the top of her lungs. There were other people in the house. I didn't know that to do so I put a hand over her mouth and kept fucking her through her muffled screams but it was extremely awkward
Eli Ramirez
nice trips also blow me maggot
Wyatt Morris
lmao
Christian Sanders
>so it's strange for me to see this kind of behaviour develop in someone who's not really ridden the cock carousel bait thread
