It's not just that i am sad. The worst thing is the lack of motivation . I really fell no motivation for anything.. I feel that the man simply calves with age, I see it clearly. For me the world is no longer so interesting, fascination and enthusiasm are slowly extinguishing, I became boring person. I fell loneliness of incomprehension - I am in a crowd of friends, family, buzz , but ... there is no one to share with my feelings, emotions. Only talks about clichés.
I fell loneliness by ignoring - I become invisible in the eyes of others. Loneliness is also when you pass several hundred people in the city center within an hour, and for each of them you are worth as much as nothing , when the only way that others perceive you is perceiving as a client .
Added to this is the feeling of my own mediocrity. If you are not unique, you do not look special, you do not have exceptional talent, you were not born in a unique place, you do not have special skills or have a bigger purpose in life, you will always be just a little gray man, about whom the world will never he has heard or he will never hear. I am 24 and I am overwhelmed by the thought that nothing interesting will happen to me anymore. If I had any talents, could do something specific, maybe I would feel better and needed. In the meantime, I am such a gray man that it is no longer possible. Why do I need a life consisting of going to work every day which I do not like, coming back from work, killing time with something that neither develops or amuses me, going to sleep and waking up in the morning for work.. I am constantly afraid that I will not achieve anything in my life and experience it as if I have never really lived.
I feel that I am not being helped by drugs or by the advice of psychiatrists and psychologists, motivational speakers and I do not know what to do. Would anyone have any advice for me, a solution?
Well I can definitely say I know what you're going through mate. This is just my thought pattern so I can't say these are going to work for you or anyone else for that matter. Just keep in mind that life is meant to test you. Every event is an opportunity for you to grow. Something bad happened? Cool, now ask how and why this affected you in a negative manner. Let it be an opportunity for you to learn from a mistake you made or accept, and look to better a situation you had no control over. Acknowledge when you feel like shit and when you feel on top of the world, it'll help keep you grounded in life. So what if you decline with age? Use your time to try and create something that benefits you for the sake of your own well being, and hopefully in the long run, the wellbeing of those around you. A lack of talent is no excuse in life. Skill and talent are the result of your efforts, as long as your working towards them take pride in your ability to push your limits. Getting older means you have more and more time to cultivate an interest which can turn into a skill. The more you challenge yourself and build upon these skills the greater your sense of self worth, charisma, and all round character will become. A positive feedback loop can be formed where you get a sense of pride and satisfaction out of your work, and you will in turn strive to become better. This makes you interesting to others, you'll have knowledge of something they know nothing about, or you can socialise with people at your level of skill and those above such as mentors. Each of these relationships offers you opportunity to teach and learn, thus creating social bonds with others. Try read some books on philosophy if you haven't already. A quick way to learn life lessons is to see how others handled themselves in similar or worse situations.
James Turner
Also exercise and meditate. These won't have immediate results but they'll teach you patience and the results will be worth it.
Tyler Harris
your goal is to make babies instruct them in how best to pick a mate and have babies of their own then die repeat Darwin's Algorithm, the only prose of all life
Aaron Roberts
Starting a family and breeding or leaving a band of kids behind? Is not it better to devote this time to writing a novel that will last a thousand years? Recording great music, painting a picture, making a movie, creating a breakthrough invention, making amazing discoveries, creating a new philosophy, What will be much easier with more time? Why, being alone, has nothing to stay after me? What will give me descendants who will not be in the 4th generation even know what was my name? Who remembers today about the fathers of 10 children living even 60 years ago? Only here and now does it matter, what will happen after my death I do not want to experience it myself than to dream that my child will be someone.
Jaxon Hernandez
I tried: - computer games - checkers -reading books -riding on the bike -spaces and running - putting the puzzle together -cooking -computer programming
I tried many things but everything is just forcing for me. Such a compulsion that I can't really get excited about any of these activities. I do not feel completely fascinated by anything. I can't even look at a film or a show, because I feel pressured to do it. When I forced myself to do it, I accelerated it 2x to finish it faster. With books the same. Computer games too. Music does not interest me either, everything that will go, I cant choose what I like and what I do not like. As for the difference between simply killing time with entertainment and real passion: you can simply ride a bike, and you can read about new trends, be interested in bicycle parts, assemble bikes from parts yourself, repair them, exchange parts and browse with fascination new catalog Specialized bicycle parts.
I feel the difference between a real, developing hobby (which even promotes social interactions and improving relationships between people), and a compulsive, addictive provision of instant, easy, unconditional pleasure (which you do not need to work) through various, intensified stimuli in excessive amounts. Everything that can lead (and often leads) to addiction is just such a factor. If someone actually puts together models for a long time, or spends so much time on their car that they neglect their work and relationships with relatives, then in total it could also be pulled under addiction But usually it is not. How many of you know addicts of the instrument, painting, sculpting, origami, modeling or car tuning, and how many addicts of the Internet, television, games, stimulants or gambling? It is a pity that I have no idea how to become a real enthusiast in my field.
Xavier Myers
>you will always be just a little gray man, about whom the world will never he has heard or he will never hear. >I am overwhelmed by the thought that nothing interesting will happen to me > writing a novel that will last a thousand years? >creating a breakthrough invention, making amazing discoveries If it's only the extremes of human accomplishment that qualify as 'interesting' for you, you're missing out on an awful lot. And how about you making something interesting happen around yourself, instead of hoping it happens to you?
>Why do I need a life consisting of going to work every day which I do not like, coming back from work, killing time with something that neither develops or amuses me, going to sleep and waking up in the morning for work You don't. What would have to happen before you felt able to try a different lifestyle?
>I do not feel completely fascinated > no motivation for anything >If you are not unique, you do not look special, you do not have exceptional talent >nothing interesting >every day > constantly afraid >never really lived >everything is just forcing >I can't really get excited about any >real passion >no idea >real enthusiast I get the feeling you problem may have something to do with this. You seem to reduce things to one of two extremes. It's called 'black and white thinking' and is very maladaptive. Unless you learn to adjust this mode of thinking, you will not find what you are seeking.
John Cruz
I also felt like that a couple years ago, i was feeling depressed and didn't want to go out, talk to or see people, i had no motivation to get out of bed and didn't feel like life was worth living. And until today i have no idea if i should keep moving on, but i wake up everyday with a hope that the next day will be better and that the best thing ever will happen to me then, and if i don't go out i'll miss it, i just pretend my life is building up to something great and i just have to endure whatever happens and keep moving forward. And since my life isn't exciting to begin with, anything good that happens puts me in a good mood. Sorry i don't really have any good advice, you're older than me and probably already went through many phases of self-doubt and depression, more than me at least. I'm dumb enough to cure my depression by basically tricking myself, i wont be able to give good advice anyway, good luck i guess.
Luis Walker
Even if religion is false, you’re basically devoting your life to the objectively best thing you can. It can’t get any more meaningful than that. Pascal’s Penseés is a good book to get you into Christianity. It’s actually what converted me
Jonathan Price
If i make as much money as i can, first study, have complete knowledge over and then devote my entire life to Neuropsychology even going to extremes by klling and then stealing millions to experiment is it then possible to go beyond the limits of humanity spending my entire life brainstorming and testing possibilities while doing this?
Juan Gomez
I used to be a very believer, but I stopped being true christian. There is no doubt that it is difficult to answer the question - why the number of miracles dropped to zero at the time of the image registration tools and sound. You see how hard it is to believe in some of the things written in the Bible:
In the Bible, you can read about: - walking on the water - changing the water into wine - resurrection of the murdered man - resurrection of the deceased -aniołach - touch hand massage -machine combined with virginity -proroku, who survived 3 days in the belly of the whale - the descent of the sea on the prophet's command - possessions - a prophet who flew to heaven on the chariot
Besides, You see believers who: - they are hypocrites -who are killing other people -who are stealing - they are called - they are religious at the show - priests who are for the real bussinessmans - they are fanatics kissing the corpses of saints and giving back to the figurines
In addition, thanks to religion, you learn that: -heavy metal is the way to satan - looking at attractive women on the street is evil - eating meat on Friday is bad - contraception is evil
I suspect even that a lot of priests are atheists who do not believe themselves in these religious, ancient myths and superstitions that they tell other people. What effect? Reason suggests that religion is a bunch of nonsense -> you stop believing -> you will be condemned for losing your faith And often in response to this, the slogan "Blessed are those who have not seen and believed" is the highest level of manipulation. It just can not be denied.
Landon Harris
It might not feel good to you right now, but your depression is actually a good thing. Think of it, would you really want to be like one of the billions NPCs out there, who are happy with their mediocre lives? At least you can see the bigger picture.
James Russell
Talents are a bullshit excuse. After 10k hours of practice you'll be in the top of whatever you do probably.
If you don't want to be boring, then don't. Try starting a company, becoming a painter, anything you want. Your life will end. You can try making something out of it that has some value to you, or not.
I don't get this concern with your own significance; to yourself, things can only matter if you can experience them. So optimize that experience, by including meaningful activities and relationships in it, and stop caring about whether it's significant objectively. God is dead, and we have killed him, and now we must become our own Gods to be worthy of this. Become the overman.
Jace Walker
On the other side, if people were deprived of individuality and ambition, the world could become a better place. There could be a world government that he would provideto the world of stability. People would be happy without ever wanting something they could not get. Having a similar worldview and mentality, ride the same cars, living in the same homes or apartments, having the same entertainment, living in a state of blissful ignorance about passions and strong emotions could be so conditioned that they would practically be unable to act otherwise than they should.
When reading the book The New Wonderful World, I always wonder: what exactly is wrong with the world described there? Wars, hunger and diseases have stopped. Social hierarchy still exists, but those at the bottom are genetically designed so that they do not bother them, they even enjoy what they are. Blessed soma it is enough for everyone, there is a joyful consumption and freedom of manners. Few visionaries get deported, but so what? New ideas, books or inventions they would only destroy the previous harmony built with such difficulty. It does not sound like an dystopia, rather the opposite of dystopia. If our goal is universal happiness and security, the individual's freedom seems to be a temporary, unsuccessful experiment that is an obstacle to his reached.
Josiah Wilson
I have a sort of answer, but it's very hard to translate. On the one hand I feel a sort of obligation to share some hope with you, but I don't think there's much chance of that hope being communicable.
Firstly, I can understand everything you've said. I've experienced all of those things myself.
Personally I'm spiritual, I believe absolutely in a 'resurrection of the dead' that will come. I don't believe in the New Testament accounts, though. It's hard to communicate, but the point is that I believe everything that's happening now is happening for a reason, in a way to 'develop' us - even the most evil things that happen ultimately will have a meaning, and more importantly will be OVERCOME - so that for example those poor dudes burnt to death by ISIS will one day wake, they will be free from pain (and physical bodies), and will experience consolation - and what happened to them will be important, because it will ultimately humble all of us, and contribute to the love we'll experience for our creator at that point. This love will be like significantly greater than the most sexual, romantic, idealised love you could imagine - with the most beautiful couple you could imagine.
For now, though, you have no good reason to buy into this hope (I believe this is also part of God's plan, many of us die without hope). But maybe for now you could at least see something of the reality of what I'm saying - and turn your attention to doing something small with your life to help others in the meantime. If you do ANYTHING small to help the suffering directly, do something small to talk to someone else who's lonely - I think that counts for something, it's like turning your face towards God and this hope I'm speaking about.
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Jack Davis
This is my post to anyone who feels these things, and I post it over and over again.
If you're religious, read Kierkegaard. If you're irreligious, read Nietzsche. These two want to break you down into what you think you really are, and if you let them, you will also find the tools to become what you are.
Connor Robinson
...Cont
As for importance - ultimately reality will be revealed to us and that will show that NOBODY gets to boast. That all of us were always simply prisoners of our circumstances, utterly hopeless and tied down by materiality and our ties to the injustice of this world. Even if you take someone who invents a vaccine that saves billions of lives...that person is just the product of the forces around them, the knowledge and systems of government (which is bound up with injustice), with the mere chance of being born at the right time and experiencing x, y, z. Nobody gets to boast. We are ultimately all important to our creator - and one day we'll all see things from everyone elses perspective, so we'll all know this as deeply as possible. So don't stress about not being 'important' or 'famous' - even a bit of looking around you shows how ridiculous those things are... even someone like Alexander the Great... what benefit is it to him that we know his name and talk about him? Nothing, we just refer to the name and his life as a form of intellectual stimulation and pleasure for ourselves...and he's long dead.
Aiden Sanders
Why is happiness the end goal? A dog with a good master is happy every day in it's life. Do you wanna live like a dog?
Aiden Price
So what better can you suggest as a sense of life for completely ordinary people, if you do not want them to be happy in their own way and fulfilled? What better alternative can you propose as a political economic and social system for humanity, if the vision of a system in which most people are happy and fulfilled in your way and is evil?
Landon Wilson
>completely ordinary people I think being a completely ordinary person is a bad thing. It means that person never thought for himself, always went with the flow and did what society expected of you. I think each of us has the potential to be extraordinary, if the conditions are right.
Charles Peterson
Dont be so sure that the extraordinary people are better than the ordinary people. From my experience I would say that intelligent people are also better in finding excuses and justification for explicitly immoral activities. I would bet that high IQ favors "soullessness". A psychopath and a sociopath can also be intelligent. Bankers, politicians have no mercy to ruinpeople living for their own benefit, are they stupid according to you? And unless psychopaths are not feeling emotions, so much worse are those who have empathy at a very high level, they understand other people, they can im sympathizers, but at the same time they are egoists. This is just a destructive connection, because such a person reads you and maybe even feels what you, but also thanks to this, it will be easier to use situations to your advantage to achieve what they want. He understands your feelings, but he just has them deep in the ass and only he counts. I gained certainty in contact with such people, they can immediately change the versions of facts, testimonies, and in the event of lack of possibility of manipulation , they are even able to physical assault, when there are no witnesses.
Today, cunning is considered a measure of wisdom, and morality means naivety and stupidity. In my opinion, cynicism as a lifetime attitude began in politics, business and ordinary life.If, on the other hand, you want to say that the key to success is to scoop your elbows, which will happen if more and more people will do so,how many will be those who will politely give in to this "more resourceful"?
