How do I deal with having a hypersensitive girlfriend?

It's the fact that you prioritize a stupid joke over showing appreciation for her effort that makes you come off retarded. It doesnt matter what you say afterwards, it loses all sincerity. Like c'mon man. Imagine you spent hours making something and she blew it off and laughed it off. You're not gonna be able to tell she was joking. She felt foolish and as though her sentiment was wasted on you. This isnt a gender issue, just an empathetic one. I'd be surprised if she ever puts effort into anything for you again. You just lost hundreds of boyfriend points

there HAS TO BE a correlation between autism and anime posting

Goddamn you are dumb OP, she probably wouldn't have been as upset if you called her a fat cow.

I wish I had someone that would make extremely personal gifts for me, let alone a girl friend.

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Do you think I can make up for this if I'm on my best behavior for a long time and never do anything this insensitive again?

>people this retarded land gfs and have offspring
For the love of god, please don't procreate!

Not really. Not all autists like anime and not all anime fans are autistic.

Over time you have conditioned her weak female mind to cry and act sad and distant so that you will give her attention and affection. You now need to to break this cycle by telling her to get a fucking grip.

I'm not who you were replying to but honestly I think that if you come at her with a sincere apology, express how you didn't realize making a joke would undermine how much you appreciate it, and how you really do love the present, you should be good. It's not really a matter of like "making up" for it; things like this aren't transactional in that way. Just tell the truth about how you screwed up because you're autistic/an idiot/etc lol. She sounds really sweet so I'm sure she'll forgive you.

Why are you even on this board

Maybe. If I was dating you, I'd probably have a one- to two-hour heart-to-heart to make it crystal clear how pissed I am and you'd have to take it up the ass perfectly to prove to me you care. Then, you'd have to not fuck up ever again, or the issue will be reopened and much worse in severity. That's how I had to treat my previous, diagnosed autistic ex-boyfriend when he fucked up hard on social ques, especially because he was a stubborn ass who always believed he was right in his autistic decisions.

To give advice obviously...

>angry, intense gf that hashes things out for hours before letting them go
That's kind of hot.

>Not all autists like anime and not all anime fans are autistic.
That may be true but that doesn't mean there is not a huge correlation between the two.

that's not what correlation means but ok

It's exhausting for both parties, really. I used to bottle everything up, but now I don't tolerate bullshit and communicate firmly in my relationships. I'm also dating someone who isn't autistic, which helps negate dumb problems like this from even happening by at least 60%.

Maybe he should also break something she owns that holds sentimental value. Just to drive the point home

I can't tell whether this user seems really girly or really manly LOL

Look man there are times for jokes and there are times when you don't joke.

Everyone makes this mistake and the correct apology is not "But it's just jokes!" because that's not an apology - that is a basically stating that THEY'RE the one in the wrong because they shouldn't be upset.

It's like if you're your best friend's mom's funeral and they asked you to speak on her behalf then you went up there and said "Well, she was always saying that us kids were driving her to an early grave - I guess she really is always right!"

There are moments where you joke and moments where you don't. The fact that you're unable (or unwilling) to accept that makes you an autist.

>6 month anniversary
Is that really a thing?
Also yes youre stupid. Apologize, show that you mean it and thats it. Leave her alone with her thoughts either shell forgive you or wont. Be nice to her, maybe be her a gift or go out with her. Show some love

You said you did it because you think she's cute when she gets upset. In what way?

She doesn't get angry at all whenever she's upset. She seems... almost incapable of anger. She never really gets resentful towards anyone, she just gets sad like a puppy whose owner kicked her.

She also has a super soft, girly voice, so when she cries or her voice gets wobbly it's adorable as heck. She has big, warm puppy dog eyes and the voice of a 10 year old (which she's self-conscious about, but everyone else loves her voice and thinks it's cute).

>Is that really a thing?

Not normally, but she's made gifts for every monthly anniversary so far. She knitted me a blanket for the 5 month anniversary.

>wrote a book for a pointless nonsense anniversary
>make her feel bad for lulz
You’re both retarded and should be euthanized

You acted like an asshole, and then tried to make it her fault when she was hurt by you.
What the fuck is wrong with you?

Holy shit is your ex boyfriend me?

It doesn't matter that it was a joke, you don't do that to someone who's just poured their heart out to you. You're an asshole.

Anime has very clean, clear design to allow the audience to read a character's emotion at a glance, whereas western art prioritises being visually interesting and invite the eye to linger. Autists are often taught human emotions with simple things like "this face means sad :(, this face means happy :)" etc, so animu probably appeals to them for its clarity.

>she just gets sad like a puppy whose owner kicked her.
You genuinely sound sick.

Out of curiosity, have you done anything for her, other than routinely making her cry for funsies?

How do I find a hypersensitive GF? I find those kinds of girls really cute.

Okay, ask yourself what the whole sad puppy dog/little girl thing does for you.

Mate, she either going to leave you or cheat on you. Stop doing this.

you'll die alone kek

Wait, I know this behavior. Holy shit, I'm autistic. No wonder my ex was also my first and last girlfriend. Nobody will ever be able to cope with me.

Autistic and normal brains are really this different.

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>Western cartoons
>not ugly shit

lmao

To be clear, there is nothing infantile or childish about her overall. She's refreshingly pure in her emotional expression, but she's also incredibly intelligent and one of the best writers I have ever known. She's every bit as smart as she is emotional.

We get along great. Aside from the incident that this thread is about, I have NEVER tried to hurt her feelings one tiny bit (and even with this, I certainly didn't intend to make her cry). I am very loving and protective.

>>girlfriend writes a 10 page book about us as a gift, complete with stick figure illustrations on each page
>>I think she's cute when she gets upset, so once I finish I tell her "Eh. It was alright. Nothing special."
You are a monster. You can tease without shitting on something she actually put effort into. Like holy shit how often does THAT happen?!

>I hurt people who are close to me on purpose because I like seeing them sad
Holy shit, what is wrong with you?

How the fuck spergs like these get a nice gf and I never get anything better than sluts that are only good for fucking (still pretty rare since I don't actively look for a quick fuck)?
I'm critical of myself yet I can still objectively say that I'm a pretty good catch. My most obvious flaw is probably being disorganised but I'm good at improvising so I don't get into any serious trouble or make problems for other people.

Time and location.

Be in the right place at the right time with the right person and anything can happen (for better or worse).

So maybe tell her this and that you did what you did not to hurt her but to see this side of her and you realize that you crossed a line, you're sorry and it won't happen again.

Yep, that's how things went down. She's forgiven me and things are fine now. Took a LOT of apologizing and explaining to mend her bruised feelings.

I'm glad to hear things are okay. Pheww.

>gender is a social construct
Do you actually believe that shit?

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This entire thread has gone by with nobody falling for the obvious bait. And then you came along.

I said visually interesting, not aesthetically pleasing.

>I have NEVER tried to hurt her feelings one tiny bit (and even with this, I certainly didn't intend to make her cry).

>>I think she's cute when she gets upset, so once I finish I tell her "Eh. It was alright. Nothing special."
>>You said you did it because you think she's cute when she gets upset. In what way?
> she just gets sad like a puppy whose owner kicked her.
>She also has a super soft, girly voice, so when she cries or her voice gets wobbly it's adorable as heck.

this is really stupid

I laughed so hard at this

Yes men and women are this different but you my sir are a complete asshole

You sound kinda autistic yourself, you might wanna get checked out.

Already have, I test too high on the empathy test and I can read people pretty well. Trust me, I don't have to pull this shit with my non-autistic boyfriend, mostly because mistakes like this aren't usually a problem if you're not a retard.

how do i get autistic gf ?

Dude just say you loved the present and she will give your cock a good time.. why tf u upset the women if the women always right !! The only time women agrees with you, is the time she's being fucked

Nice :o

Would've sworn i replied to this thread already, but i dont' see my post anywhere...

Hypersensitivity is the same root as anger problems, but the difference is one externalizes it and the other internalizes it.

You can see this in self-help books. Books helping anger management and hypersensitivity are almost identical in content.

Generally, it comes down to feeling a sense of control over your environment. When you lose control you get either angry or sensitive depending on your personality.

I suggest either the Highly Sensitive Person (worked great for my ex-gf)
or Anger Management for Dummies (worked great for me)

bump
At least tell me how to spot and get one.

She doesn't sound autistic at all. If anything, it's her extreme normalfaggotry that causes problems. Being more normie than others can be damaging, too.

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You really don't want one. It's just veiled anger management problems. She'll try to control you.

Wew
I just wanted to hug a nice, soft girl. Every girl around me puts up a tough bitchy act. (Can't blame them though)

girls with daddy issues, user

>gf spends dozens of hours on a incredibly creative, thoughtful, and personal gift
> you shit on it for a laugh

What's wrong with you dude?

I dunno, I thought the joke was pretty funny

Your girlfriend sounds fucking crazy though. Like, what kind of wackjob writes a book about their relationship as a present? That's sort of creepy.

It really doesn't matter why op enjoys seeing his girlfriend cry, what does matter is that it's a sign of emotional abuse and she should get away from him as soon as possible.

>I am a sociopath and I hurt my girlfriends feelings on purpose and enjoy doing this
>That upsets her as she is a regular person with normal emotions
>"hypersensitive"

shut the fuck up

I can't believe how one-sided this thread is... honestly your joke sounds completely normal and fine as long as you delivered it appropriately making known it was a joke. Do people here not understand sarcasm? Your girlfriend needs thicker skin, honestly. How will she react when you REALLY disagree on something? She'll jump straight to crying about it rather than hashing it out with you.

It sounds like you apologized, which is fine and in order, but I'd also make clear that your sense of humor is like that, and she needs to learn to not jump to conclusions so quickly.

Whoa, bad bitch alert.

She sounds hot.

OP BTFO

>There is nothing infantile or childish at all.
I call bullshit. I’d guess she’s clearly immature, only you can’t see it because you’re even more immature.

She's weak
Kill her off

Eat her face
Be the girlfriend

>honestly your joke sounds completely normal and fine as long as you delivered it appropriately making known it was a joke
yes, but he's known her for a while now. he should have known she doesn't have thick skin

1. That was a dick thing to say, and do not try to pin that on the rest of us guys. The vast majority of us are smart enough not to say that shit.

2. Writing a 10 page book about you two after 6 months makes her seem crazy. 6 months is nothing. She's writing books?

Y'all both suck, but at least she sounds kind of sweet. You're just an ass.

Tits and timestamp

This isn't /b/ in 2007, Jow Forums used to be a female-dominated board like /cgl/ before r9k was deleted. Know your board history.

Oof.

I like to make jokes like that too my man but you really have to pick your timing. A girl needs to be primed for that kind of humour and doing it over a handmade gift is asking for trouble.

>so new that he falls for the double bait
back to >Jow Forumseddit

You're a bitch bruh.
Stop being a bitch, it'll help you in the long run.

Fuck, I might be level 1

I gotta second this.
If college taught me anything it's that if you concentrate enough people in one space your chances of meeting cute sane girls who are into you skyrocket.

You're an asshole OP, like a big gaping asshole.

There's a time and place for humor, the time is not when she pours her heart out in the form of something that took her hours to prepare only to feel nervous when presenting it.

Not only did you make her feel stupid for making it, but you also made her feel like you didn't like the book (and good luck convincing her you did).

Chances are, she won't try making you another homemade thing after this, seeing how little regard you had for it.

>>girlfriend writes a 10 page book about us as a gift, complete with stick figure illustrations on each page
Thats adorable but you're a fucking asshole and I understand why she cried. Now go fuck her good to make up for it.

she probably just got embarrassed that she cried prematurely and didn't know how to bounce back. you need to continue teasing her, the harsher the better. she needs to desensitize for both your sakes. if you haven't noticed already, sensitive people tend to lash out in proportion to the extent they feel they've been hurt

Haha enjoyed the joke :)
I want everyone to make jokes at my funeral, even have a few written for various way I could die, like if I crack my head open I want them to say "he proved to the world he had a brain" or if I drown "atleast he beat his record for holding his breathe"

I make weak spirited people cry all the time because I'm an asshole who likes watching people suffer, so either find a hypersensitive gf or a evil person like me to follow around.

Okay, why the fuck are everyone in this thread overreacting and taking the crazy bitch's side? Writing a ten page essay about your puny 6 month relationship with your first boyfriend is completely, totally and absolutely abnormal. Crying uncontrollably for fifteen minutes is even more crazy. The girl is insane and will turn OP:s life into a living hell once her infatuation in OP cools down.

Run the fuck away OP and find a someone not-crazy to date.

6 months isn't that short of a time. Why do adv normalfags act like you need to spend 10 years in a relationship before you even begin to develop feelings?

This also applies to . Does being "normal" mean being as detached as possible for as long as possible?

>How do I deal with having a hypersensitive girlfriend?
Imagine this:
>put time, thought and effort into a 10 page book about relationship for significant other
>upon receiving said book your significant other says "Eh. It was alright. Nothing special"
You're a tard.