Girlfriend of two months is on vacation in some poor country, she can only talk for around 30-60 minutes each day. This has put a strain on our relationship because I put to much effort in trying to make those minutes count and she’s distracted so it’s a mess. She really missed me and cried the first day but being able to talk for 30-60 minutes a day has made her comfortable and less affectionate/more boring.
I’m wondering if I should ghost her for an entire day and the following morning. She’s comfortable with my presence and I feel like her missing me would be good. I will provide a good reason the next day so it’s obvious I didn’t have a choice. Should I follow through? Why or why not
And by talking I mean only texting since she is unable to call
Kayden Peterson
>she can only talk for around 30-60 minutes each day. Kek. Tell her to say hi to my nigga Castro for me eh?
Logan Williams
She's cheating on you.
Benjamin Hughes
What makes you say that?
James Phillips
Because he's an incel lol
David Perry
Bump
Michael King
This.
Isaac King
Can someone answer my original question? I literally just wanna know if this is a good move or not
Austin Johnson
You're right about one thing. Missing each other is good. Whether you want to play games about it or not is up to you. I'd more take the direct approach of "why don't you go enjoy your vacation and I'll do my own thing". Instead of being a highschool faggot. Also shows you dont need her. Very attractive shit man.
Or call her every day and stop crying she isn't reacting to it how you want her to. But please. No games and manipulation. Thems be the dark arts of the faggot and it will backfire. I promise.
Elijah Campbell
Interesting, I have said things like “I feel bad that your spending money just to talk to me, we should wait till you home. It’ll be hard but I love you enough to wait” or something dumb like that and she said “no, I need to text you.” It sounds sweet, she would never let me stop texting her wiliigly unless I said I don’t wanna talk. So I think my only option is to ghost her for a day and the following morning, after that I provide some very believable story. I already told her I might be busy tomorrow so idk.
I get put in a shit mood because the way she texts makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong, then I overthink for the next few hours till she texts me again.
>or call her everyday and stop crying I asked her about calling and she is unable while she is there
Nathaniel Young
She can text but not call, how does that make any sense? Seems shady to me
Jace Perry
Calling overseas is expensive. If the internet is bad she can't use skype. Or you could bot be a clingy insecure mind games playing little bitch and let her enjoy her vacation. Why do you need to call her everyday? Do you not have a life?
Nolan Jenkins
It’s not trust me, she is with her over bearing parents 24/7 How am I being clingy? I never mentioned wanting to call her and I want to stop texting her for a day to take a break
Brody Wood
Let her enjoy her vacation. I had the same experience with an ex, she only called once a week because she was visiting family and friends she hasn't seen in 3 years. I became an insecure pussy and got mad at her when she didn't call me and text me at least twice a week. I believe that put a strain in our relationship, which made her become distant. OP, tell her to have fun and to call you when she has time and be busy yourself, don't be like me .
Jayden Cox
I have never told her she isn’t texting me enough, I always let her text first. My problem is our short conversations feel fake and rushed. I offered to wait till her vacation was over to text and she said she couldn’t wait that long. What is the best thing I can do in this situation? I do love her but I don’t wanna ruin anything or make her think I’m boring
Eli Ward
why would you expect someone to spend an hour of their day while on vacation sitting around on the phone? would you want to squander an hour of your day instead of doing cool shit in a new place?
Julian Anderson
I’m literally not asking her to talk more than she is, our short conversations are shit and I would rather wait till she is home than text for an hour a day. It’s pointless to me, she is the one who wants to text as much as possible, I don’t. As I said I love her but I don’t want her to think I’m boring because what the fuck do you talk about for only an hour, small talk? Nah
Robert Gutierrez
Have you told her about this? If she's always initiating contact and saying she's missing you, you shouldn't worry being boring because she just wants to spend time with you. Send her memes or videos you liked and ask her about her trip and new experiences she went through.
Matthew King
Yeah she tells me she is missing me, one of the more important aspects I forgot to mention is she can only text for like four 15 minute breaks throughout the day. So it’s basically some fake quick conversation for 15 minutes four times a day. Also, when we are talking she is in public and is usually distracted as well so it’s even more bland.
Pic related, she will want to talk at any given instance, again I love her but small talk for 15 minutes sucks and she’ll think of me as some awkward loser. Dont judge our typing style, it’s whatever.
Can you send her pictures or videos? You can ask for pictures of the places she visit and make a quick convo of that. Or you can just send memes for 15 minutes straight. If you told her you don't like small talk and she keeps doing it either way, think of bullshit convos or funny things that happened recently. Ignoring her is going to make it worse and cause a strain on your relationship.
Cooper Turner
Yeah I’m worried about that, I sent her voice recordings to wake up to in the morning since she said she misses my voice, hopefully she’ll love that. We don’t send memes to each other, just aren’t about that and she doesn’t take pictures of where she is at so as much as I appreciate your help there isn’t much I can think to do. All I end up doing is trying really hard to be interesting and fun for 15 minutes and her texting makes me feel like she finds me boring and I feel like shit for the day. I really have no idea what to do
Dominic Peterson
Maybe she's never alone or comfortable enough to focus into text, so it's only a matter of context. She's far away with parents and yourr communication are at distance and out of synch. Text only enhance the feeling of disconnection. But it seems like she cares about you. Don't play ghost games. Maybe try to push her into giving you a few minutes call in bathroom or something?
Christopher Bennett
She is fully unable to call, internet is already expensive there but calling would overly jack up prices. I think my best bet is to not put thought into texting and try to text as normal as possible
Ryder Gonzalez
Just send her voice recordings and try your best at texting. Just please don't be like me and be a clingy pussy. She misses you and text you because of that, don't overthink it. Don't ignore or play highschool shit on her, it always makes it worse. Good luck OP, I hope your relationship doesnt fall apart like mine did.
Blake Nguyen
Thanks, I appreciate the help man
James Hughes
Just calm down dude. You don't need to have hour long text convos, let her enjoy her vacation. Respond when she texts you, say hey if you don't hear from her for a day or so, and enjoy your time away. Once you two are more serious you will not have many opportunities to enjoy your hobbies for like a week uninterrupted
Adrian Reyes
She enjoys fucking with you.
Is there a reason why she on vacation for a month, don’t be stupid. You barely know this chick, and she enjoys the praise and the emotional stress she gets from you.
>No one goes on vacation this long and is not fucking all day. >She only talk to you by text and no voice because she doesn’t want anyone to hear any “boyfriend and girlfriend talk” while near whoever she is with at the moment. >she only talks to you because she wants a plan B when the new guy doesn’t work out
Honestly cut your losses It doesn’t matter if you invested $1,000 or million dollars this girl. She’ll do whatever she wants knowing that there is no consequences
My bf and I have to go long distance a few times a year because of uni terms. When we would try to have constant conversation or force time to talk it was stressful, we argued a lot and got upset because we would think the other was being calculating or whatever. Now on vacation periods we just always make sure we text eachother goodnight and then if we have time to talk during the day we will do that, either by phonecalls, or intermittent messaging over Facebook. Messaging expectations will put so much pressure on your relationship. Don't want to be a boomerfag but if this was 30 years ago she'd go on vacation, send you a postcard and that's it. Or waiting days for letters. You'd have to be fine with that. Try to get into that mindset, ignore the instant aspect to 21st century messaging and just send a text or two of interest in her time away and her when you can, and talk to her about what youre doing in a text or two as well. Otherwise I'd say just make sure to say goodnight.
The 'goodnight, I love you' always keeps me and my boyfriend sweet whether we have had long conversations through the day or nothing at all.
Jaxson Miller
When will she be back? If it’s a short trip then you can manage to have less contact. She’s on vacation
