I think I need some actual help advice. I posted this in a Jow Forums thread about no-fapping but I think this would be a better place for it and I can flesh out my issue.
I'll try and keep this brief still I've had a major addiction to porn and masturbation for a very long time. Relationship impacting really. It came to a head for me last month when I had a week vacation from work. I did it every single day for long long stretches of time. Like once a day every day for 3 to 4 hour sessions. By the end of the week my dick was very sore. It ached and felt slightly bent. Being the horny piece of shit I am, I decided to ignore this and beat off one more time. After that I went on a no-fap for a few weeks and quite honestly my longest streak ever. Starting at the beginning of December, I relapsed tonight. Part of the reason for my relapse was not having done it in a while, yes, but also worry that I'd harmed myself. I hadn't had a boner or even morning wood this entire no-fap. Part of me wanted to make sure I was still in working order down there I guess. Needless to say, all was still working, the soreness I felt when getting hard was gone, and the bend I felt, while still there, was also less than it was before.
Now I'm going to try again. My dick is sore again, despite actually going for less than my usual length of time. I stopped at 2 hours tonight, which is still way too fucking long. I've been deleting any porn book marks I've got saved to help eliminate some temptation. Though I never really looked at those or anything during no fap. Would just get a tingly sensation in my stomach if I happened across something hot online, but I digress.
How do I quit this shit? I'm aiming for a solid month minimum of no-fap this time. I went for 2.5ish-3 weeks before, so I know I can go farther. I've never even been into the whole "no-fap" thing before. I'm just getting desperate and worried about myself here.
Will my desensitization go away? Will my dick be okay? Tips? Advice?
If you were able to stop for a few weeks than you should be able to stop altogether. I literally can't go two days without watching porn.
Lucas Mitchell
don't do cold turkey, it only makes the desire to relapse more intense and then when you inevitably slip up you will feel like you "lost" and that you will just have to "try again" some other time. I say this as someone in a similar boat to you. There was one time in my life where i was able to stop looking at porn constantly. I started reducing my porn intake (which is the main villain here), by fapping to clothed instagram pics of girls i liked, ie using more of my imagination. then i stopped using my computer altogether and tried to just do it in the shower with only imagination.
somewhat unrelated to fapping, but at this time i also quit drinking soda, started going to the gym 3 times a week and focusing more on my goals. i ended up dating this girl, and after things went sour a few months later, got back into my bad habits. now any attempts ive made since then (it's been 3 years) have only been short lived at best, and i always relapse. going to try this same method again for the new year though, hopefully i can get out of these bad routines. Best of luck OP
Mason Collins
Maybe. Honestly not sure how I was able to go that long.
I'll try and ween myself off it a bit more. Maybe shoot for the same amount of time I went this time. I'll try and lower the weird kink / fetish levels of what I'm looking at because it just seems like its gotten out of hand and reached levels I'm not comfortable with.
Though I'm still worried about my health over this.
Benjamin Gomez
I'd say weening yourself is a good option to be honest.
Not sure about the health of your nethers but I hope it's alright for you, user. In that regard, the long breaks are a good idea imo, also cut down the time you actually do it for.
Angel Cook
The longest I've gone is 7 weeks. I found that it was hard to stop again once I relapsed. Usually my relapses are followed by periods of time in which I masturbate almost daily before I decide to try again. I'm pretty addicted myself. I've been struggling with this for around four years. Recently I've been doing it almost daily and have been streaming myself on chaturbate a lot. Right now I've been fap free for 3 days.
Easton Lee
Have you ever noticed any soreness or health related issues regarding your addiction?? Or any relationship issues (if you are in one)?
Andrew Smith
>will my dick be okay
what do you think brainlet?
Jonathan Gray
I don't know? If I did, I wouldn't have asked.
Henry Bailey
Meant for
Aaron Torres
I went for no hardcore porn and really improved my life: more interest in 3D girls, more time to do their things and less sore on there. In the end you get used to it and you don’t appreciate it anymore.
I did nofap for about half a year once and found my dick resensitised. I don't know the minimum length of time though.
Nicholas Fisher
I'll try just forcing myself to ease up on the hardcore shit. I have had days where I just go all teasey stuff, but I will make it part of my goal to make that the main focus.
Its less about sensitivity for me and more about what gets it goin. Unless thats what you mean. Once I'm up and goin, alls working just fine.
Liam Roberts
I can barely make 4 days. I think part of it is that I have no friends. I'm trying to keep it down though I find that the most I can do without feeling miserable is one a day. If I go over that I will regret it mostly because of the guilt from it.
Ethan Johnson
You feel miserable when you do or do not fap? Sorry that was a bit confusing.
Liam Jenkins
>Went 4 weeks >actually went on a date with a girl >ghosted >Relapsed >Go 3 weeks >finals week >Relapse after
Seems I only ever relapse when I'm in high stress situations and it feels awful to not be able to control this.
Not an excuse but you should not fill your life with too much idle time. If you have 2 hours a day to kill you're not busy as you should be. Porn truly is one of the worst enemies of this male generation.
Michael Morales
By released, I assume you mean just fapped in general because you're on a no fap? Or do you mean you fell back into habitual/chronic masturbation? And yeah, porn is a hell of a drug. I don't think theres necessarily anything wrong with enjoying it in moderation, but the keyword is moderation. I never realized how fucking addicted I was.
Dylan Phillips
Curious what you guys think is a "normal" amount of fapping/porn watching.
I mean everybody does it, would be lying otherwise.
Blake Foster
Quit porn before you try nofap. Only allow yourself to wank in the shower. Most people are only there once a day and it’s very impractical to watch porn in there. You’ll end up fapping once or twice a day without porn so you get so horny it will cause you to relapse. It’s worked for me.
Luis Wood
so you won’t get so horny*
Dominic Bell
Listen here. As a guy that was fapping for 15 years I will tell you that. You have to stop cold turkey and never think about it again. You should realize that giving up porn amd masturbation you do not lose anythung but only gain. Don't listen anyone and hear your inner voice. Since you are already battle this addiction means you understand how bad it is for you. Don't make nofap is a way to get a gf as well. You must recover yourself from any sexual pleasure and put everything into your self improvement. I will be hard but If you do not stop you would never reach your true potential and die as miserable faggot that fapps to tranny porn.
James Martin
I don’t believe in sharp behavioral changes. My uncle quit smoking that way, but he is a busy man. Sexual behavior is really difficult to change, IMHO you need to develop other ways of interacting at the same time you drop the old ones.
Actually I am too fond of making out with random girls at the clubs, after leaving behind much of porn. For me it is just another way of “porn” and I would like to try a relationship instead, but time and will is needed for that.
Charles Bailey
Maybe rather than going full nofap (which may be asking too much) you can fap somewhat like a normal person, maybe even a bit less? Every few days, no more dan 20min, no (hardcore) porn.
The weirdest thing in your post to me is the duration of a session. I don't think fapping daily is that bad but 3 to 4 hours is really fucking long. I think 5-20 mins is normal desu.
Hudson Baker
When sexually active kinda depends on how sexually active you are. When not sexually active I'd say 5-20 min sessions 1-7 times a week is normal to me.
Carter Parker
I actually have a gf, but we are not very intimate because of the very reason I made this thread. It is very difficult to stop and the best I've done so far is the 2 and a half weeks I recently did, but I'm pushing myself to keep at it.
>The weirdest thing in your post to me is the duration of a session.
I agree actually. When I relapsed I made a point to go much shorter and it was for about an hour and 45 minutes to two hours. Still too long, but much shorter than before.
