Ask the opposite gender thread

what's the best thing a girl can do to seduce a guy? and how do i seduce this guy if he finds me hot but i don't have the self confidence to do anything sexy?

Do most girls actually like to call their boyfriend "daddy" in sexual relationships?

guys (preferably men who had more than one partner),

What's your experience with how enthusiastic a woman is during sex? I'm sort of curious because I hear online and male friends complain about women having men do all the work and seeming uninterested, and I remember a few female friends of mine saying they don't find that much joy from sex.

I know not every girl is like that, I myself always do my best during it and really love having sex with my man and I know a lot of others share this too, but I do wonder what is more common, girls who love sex or girls who just do it to please their boyfriends and aren't really into it most of the time?

Fundamental axioms of logic/science/mathematics are not social constructs but they still are dependent upon certain assumptions/assertions constructed by people. If one was liberal with their semantics then you could possible define even these as social constructs but I dont think that's in the spirit of the term.

So yes, dont be fooled by argumentum ad social constructum

I don't, because I actually love my father. Dunno why other girls do it. Probably porn

>seduce
Not sure what that would mean. Either a guy likes you or not. I guess, maybe if you try really hard you can get him horny and fuck him. But he's still not going to like you after if he didn't before

Dunno. Personally don't even though my bf is quite older than me, because it's just weird as fuck. Maybe having a good relationship with my father turns me off that sort of stuff

Some do, some don't
I like it in the same way girls called their man daddy in the 40's, but not ddlg way.
All girls are different, talk to your partner and find out yourself

Girls who love sex is vast majority. I would say 85%.

Women, at what weight do you prefer your men to be at?

How do I get girls to have sex with me? Girls seem to like me more than most men, but I don't know what I'm supposed to do about it.

Also, why do I attract late 20s/early 30s career woman types so much more than any other kind of woman?

Touch and rub him.

I like builtfat
I don't know numbers, but being a little husky gets me going on a primal level

All in all, i'm happy as long as he isn't stupid obsesse

>how?
Do you have your own place or money for a decent hotel room?
Invite them there

>why?
As someone in this demographic, you are probably witty/funny/ interesting but also give off virgin vibes and they want to destroy it.

I feel like I have an issue where after I start dating a guy and we start sleeping together, we have so much good sex right from the start it starts to fizzle. How do I keep it spicy in the bedroom so that the sex doesn't lose it's wow factor and guys don't get bored with me

Make him crave you like Amy Schumer craves chocolate. Men love the thrill of the chase. The hard earned goods. The fruit that finally dangles in the palm of your hand after jumping after it. At least I do.

Behave like things aren't weird. If you want to be just friends, act like it, if you want more, act like you want more.

Start off with simple stuff like talking to him, gauge his response and escalate from there.

Gf's scared of sex. Gas put it off like five times already. I try maybe once every two months.

I myself am all for it but have no experience.

How to help with her fear? (And no, there's no other issue, it's exactly what I said it is)

Hmm well now that we've had sex a few times, should I wait a bit to reach out to him and see if he reaches out first? I feel like the guy I'm seeing can go a while, or worse may never text at all

That's almost impossible, isn't it? Don't girls get bored of the same guys as well?
Do kegels exercises and teach your vagina some tricks.

It's also a reason why we fuck prostitutes, they can easily be replaced. There's only one prostitute who has guys from the entire city after her and she is a total succubus. She really earns the Succubus title.

Winking at him while someone else is talking girl, it is subdle, but will make him feel you have some "unsaid" pretty well. The male is expected to do the first move, but many of us are afraid. A sign like make us bois understand we are liked a gives us the confidens to act out. Make him understand this, don't play the whore, he could get the wrong image of you

Why do I attract gay guys? My ex gf told me when she met me first she thought I was gay. I asked her why and she couldnt explain why.

Are a SJW feminist guy?

No, i have been with my boyfriend for 6 years, only him, and he still gives me butterflies

Most girls don't have this issue

The best cure is no porn, but if he doesn't want that, try some risky sex

Stuff in semi-public places..... try costumes or toys. Even mild roleplaying. Try new positions or new methods of sex (ie: thigh sex)
Wear lingerie, wear a collar, feel him up while he's driving
Make his heart race

Guys like a girl who wants them and is attractive about it

No not at all. That sort of thing never even comes up in my life.

Have you sat down with her and talked about why she's hesitant to have sex? Any past of sexual abuse when she was a kid?

>want to destroy it.
Like I have a certain innocence about me they want to corrupt? That make me a little uncomfortable

We like active girls during most of the times, i had experience with passive girls and over time I started to dislike having sex with them. And that's a big indicator of the duration of a relationship. Be active girls, have fun, don't stay lazily down

How do I get my gf to be more romantic and emotional? I like her but all she seems to care about is sex. Shes 20 and I'm 26.

If a drunk girl clings onto me, touches my hand, waist and even literally putting her cigarette she is smoking in my mouth ( but doing it only to me and telling me to try ) would the same person like / be attracted to me even when not drunk?
Or am I overestimating my looks.

Yes, take it how you will but women who are go-getters like conquering, which does include people.
I'm doing fairly well in a good company and my kink is "virgin killing". Most of my female coworkers and friends in similar lifestyles feel that way as well

I have, actually! No abuse, but past bf's were really unpleasant, apparently.

The problem is that she seems really eager and cool about it...until the chance of sex actually happening arrives, at which point she made excuses the first two times or just straight up admitted she was scared afterwards. It's a complete change in attitude.

Now I'm curious why no one talks about pompoir here.
Girls, don't you have any interest in it?

Bros, have you ever had a girl do pompoir things? Did you enjoy it?

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pompoir

I've done it, but it's really hard to make a guy cum from it. Most dudes death grip which nullifies this technique.
You have to actually train your vagina to be that strong as well.

When I was teen and early 20s I liked quiet nerdy girls but from around 23 or 24 onward I started much preferring slutty party girls. Why?

Man, that sounds pretty hot to me. I'm 18, so it's probably my never-ending horniness talking, but I'd love for an older girl to sexually "corrupt" me.

Testosterone. You're now craving the alpha females with signs of high fertility/estrogen who are being pursued by other high-test men.

Women need to do that shit more often. If you don't wink, look at me cutesy like, giggle at me, or any other fairly innocent invitation to talk me and most other guys won't talk to you in a million years. Especially if you're in a group of girls. Forget it! It takes two to tango so don't act like a pretty dead fish and expect what you want.

What if the person turns out to be fatter than you thought?

If a drunk girl clings onto me, touches my hand, waist and even literally putting her cigarette she is smoking in my mouth ( but doing it only to me and telling me to try ) would the same person like / be attracted to me even when not drunk?
Or am I overestimating my looks.

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My first ever girlfriend loved fucking and the thing I always enjoyed about it was she had unbreakable confidence (Mixed with some arrogance). Even when being on the bottom she'd put her hips into it and yank me close into a deep kiss. She was very passionate about it, and was good at it. Might be just because she was my first, but god damn she was fantastic.

However I think the issue is what in my experience, some girls define as initiating sex, as well as staying thoroughly engaged.

My last girlfriend lacks confidence, therefore usually would never initiate sex. Would say she would, but sitting on my lap is not initiating sex. Pulling me close for a kiss and burying your head into my chest is not initiating sex. it's a start but she would never "go through" with the foreplay. At one point she jokingly said that she was selfish in bed, which wasn't news to me at that point. She likes being railed out, but other than kissing, would not do anything else unless I explicitly ask. She'd tie me up (on my request) but then after about 15 minutes of riding me, would get tired of "not being touched" and untie me. Her and I might have just been incompatible in that respect, but she was also very physically needy.

I guess for the analogy of a fire. Last gf would bring the tinder, the twigs and dry leaves, but unless I bring the kindling and firewood, the fire (sex) cannot be lit. She would bring dry tinder and assumed that was enough to start a whole fire. She'd also end up surprised and confused that if you don't continue feeding a fire, it dies out almost immediately.

Enthusiastic women are great. When a guy feels gratified and wanted during sex, he's going to want her back just as much. There's also such a stigma I've noticed that if the sex is bad, it's the man's fault. Which is true half the time, but people rarely ask "Well, is she not satisfying you?" instead of the normal "Well what are you doing wrong?"

Exactly. Do you care about something that's readily available as much as something that's rare?

Happened to me, was not a problem I liked anyway but she became obsessed by it, thinking i didn't like her for her physique and then it became a problem

What's your relationship with the girl?

You need to ask her specifically what about engaging in sex seems so scary to her.

Have you ever seen her fully naked before? She's not hiding anything she'd be irrationally embarrassed about? Like self harm scars, stretch marks, etc?

Drunk girls are a pain, because sometimes they like you for real, but then feel ashamed because of how they behaved, and some other times they are just bitching to have fun.
Try to talk to her casually and see how she does, i wouldn't mention what happened while drunk

I don't need advice, but perspective and some sense talked into me.
My boyfriend recently has been less interested in sex. He just wants to cuddle and fool around a little.
It makes me feel like he finds me less attractive, but i know i'm just being stupid. He's extremely thoughtful and affectionate. He's an amazing guy and i couldn't ask for a better partner, but his lower sex drive is making me scared he's not into me anymore.

Met at the party, first time I ever even saw her.
But wasn't this too much? There's gotta be something there!
Would a drunk person go that much against his sane self and flirt with a guy she doesn't like at all based on looks

The fire analogy is pretty fucking good man

I'm not sure if I'll like it, though.

A drunk person will become best friends with total strangers for a night and not think about them ever again thereafter. There's no telling if there's something there.

That's probably it then.
I was really proud of myself because she didn't do that to other people and I was with 2 friends who are, at least in my opinion, way more attractive than me ( also both about 10cm taller )

>but i know i'm just being stupid.
Are you? Maybe he's getting pussy from another bitch. Maybe you turned him gay.

Jk. Ask him about it. Nobody else will know why.

I have indeed seen her naked and she has no body issues. We've had long conversations about this and it's always the same. "I really want to try it, but I don't dare to." sums it up well.

I wish I had more info to provide. The lack of reasoning is killing me too, and trust me, I pressed as much as I could've. She isn't cheating either.

It'd be a problem if he didn't want to do anything, but he still likes to cuddle and fool around like you said. I think you're fine.

It depends on if she outright lied or just tried being sneaky about "camera angles" and shit.

Either way I wouldn't feel shame about dropping a date on that account, because if she has no issue with hiding it (And you know they are) I have no issue just walking out.

Go for it then, you don't have much to lose.

It depends man, but usually yes, even when drunk, no one goes with someone that they don't find attractive.

I like to be at least 99% sure of these things, I couldn't handle rejection.

I've asked him and he said he doesn't know why
He's not cheating on me, I don't think.

He's still very physical with me, which makes me feel better. I still just can't get the fact out of my head that my long term ex relationship wanted sex every day, but my boyfriend now doesn't.

And that's why online dating is problematic

Why do girls like my really dumb, corny, dad-tier sense of humor? Think Norm Macdonald and you've summed me up pretty well.

>I've asked him and he said he doesn't know why
>He's not cheating on me, I don't think.
Sounds troubling. Guys always want it unless there's trouble. Is there something in his life going bad?

That's good to hear. Gives me a bit more self confidence

It's fun, harmless, and charming
It doesn't feel sexually charged or crude. They feel comfortable, but also get turned on because you're witty.

Wow geez it's almost like every person is different and women have no idea what the fuck they're talking about when they claim that men only think about sex and never turn it down!

You're a moron.

The deeper you get into a relationship the more value you derive from stuff like cuddling, and it's different to the value you get from sex but in some ways it's more desirable. If anything I would say that he loves you more now than ever.

I don't think this is true. Nothing is going poorly, he just works hard. He got some time off for the holidays and it didn't really bring back his libido.
I really don't think he's cheating. I can't say i know for a fact, but i'm confident he isn't.

I don't think that i'm the final opinion on male psyche at all, i'm just being paranoid and asking for some perspective from a male. I appreciate your genuine input and this sounds like something he would say.... not the moron part.

Hmm. Makes sense. Thanks user.

My gf and I split due to her being incapable of handling her mental health issues. Issues I did not know were a thing until we were already well into the relationship. She was just at a "good time" until she wasn't.

We broke up (She initiated, I agreed) on the notion that we will revisit the idea of us after she gets her mental health back on track. Because the problems she has can't be fixed by any relationship. She told me she wants to learn to be happy without being validated by a relationship or guy.

Later when I asked how she was doing, she came out with this shit that I was at fault for the relationship, and that she feels as if our breakup hasn't affected her at all, and that it's as if we never happened. Saying because I wasn't cuddly enough that it would have driven her crazy and she's "glad she realized this now"

I know her well enough to see she's shoving me out and blaming me because accepting responsibility that her insecurities/communication issues/low confidence/non-romantic jealousy is what crumbled us. That I want a life to her but can't healthily commit to someone who handles their problems by not communicating, by mentally checking out of the relationship for months at a time, etc. Things at one point she admitted were very unhealthy. She was aware of that. Those are problems that should be addressed by a professional. I ended up replying with that. She saw it only as an attack on her, and asked me not to speak to her anymore.

1/2

>, he just works hard
There it is. He's tired. Now sleep soundly in his loving arms.

What happens when you initiate with him? Think of the last handful of times you've done so and what the result was.

>Guys always want it unless there's trouble
Ever heard of low libido? Some people naturally don't want sex all the time.

I later apologized, realizing that I should have brushed it off. But the things she said hurt. And while I did not phrase/intend for what I thought of as a necessary wake up call for her to be hurtful or malicious, I should have known well enough that in her mental state, that's all that was ever going to happen. She can't handle any criticisms, even when in our relationship she would just mentally shut down and cry, blame herself, etc.

I'm going to wait a month (will be three months total since we've separated) and am going to talk to her. She's doing therapy now, so I know she knows she has issues to address, regardless of if she blames me right now. I'm going to tell her I still love her, and want a life with her as she said she wanted with me. That we're not so far gone we can't come back from.

Wish me luck boys. She was the girl I wanted to end up marrying. She's got a lot of childhood issues but as a whole package she's the one I want to spend my life with.

2/2

It happened to me to get bored of having sex, I still really loved her and liked to be physical as your man. In my case it was because the relation was getting stale, we didn't had much in common except sex, we never did anything meaningful together. Eventually this made the relation degrade, but only on her part, I still loved her until the end, it was she who left me because of the lack of sex

>Some people naturally don't want sex all the time.
Yea, they're called FAGS

He gets pretty into it. Sometimes he'll tell me he's too tired and i'll usually respect it and just cuddle. Generally, we'll start getting more into it and end up doing something.

We don't have a ton of similar hobbies, but do enjoy doing things together. We still have a lot of fun and i don't think he's bored of me.
I'll take note of this, though.
I wouldn't leave him for lack of sex though

Run the other way. She might be mentally unstable but you're obviously an idiot. Let the break up stand and accept the heart break then move on with your life. Girl is nuts and is only going to continue to drag you down and put all her problems on you, no matter how much therapy or medication she's on. Those things don't work super well if you don't understand your own problems and it sounds to me like she doesn't. She might be able to list them, but she doesn't understand them.

>Sometimes he'll tell me he's too tired
Nailed it

So did I just have late puberty?

Then I'd suggest making one night a week a kink or fantasy night. You can take turns picking something you each want to try. The novelty might spice things up while the routine can interrupt the pattern of inactivity.

Thank you for the input
It helps a lot. I don't want to be an added stress or burden on his mind.

This sounds fun, thank you

I want to contact a girl I was more or less friends with in high school (4 years ago) and am pretty sure it's not a good idea. I was in a really bad place near graduation (she was a junior) and just ignored her calls. I think she also texted me to wish me good luck and I replied thank you or something. She wrote me later that year after I had started college but I didn't reply. She goes to college in the same city.

Why now? I am finally taking control of my life. I just want to apologize and maybe catch up and I want to do it in person.

Reaching out is fine. Digging up the past is not. All you should say is that she happened to cross your mind recently and you wanted to see how she's doing. Exchange a message or two and then let her know that she's welcome to join you for hanging out somewhere. Keep it low key. Do not bring up what happened in high school, not anytime soon anyway.

Why? You just met the girl. Ask to meet up and get to know her, it doesn't have to be a date right off the bat. Also, just embrace rejection if it happens. It hurts and it's scary, but you'll get over it.

Man, i had the same experience 1:1. Im glad you realize that she was being delusional, blaming on you and everything else. Once she left me she went really crazy and became really aggressive with me by message, even insulting me for not giving her attention(even tho she left me). Eventually she insisted to get back together and once I tried to open up for her she instead hurt me. Be careful man

So what do I do lol, try and not text him for a bit

I hate playing games though

She needs to start doing some introspective thought on why she's hesitant, because one way or another this is going to prove very problematic for any relationship.

Does she feel safe with you in terms of intimacy? I'm not asking if YOU think she does, but if she actually has expressed any concerns in regards to the act with you. Does she masturbate in her own time? You need to find the common denominator of the problem.

I will. Even if I end up with this same heartbreak again at least then I will know there's no hope for us. I know she's scared. I know she's aware these are issues that have affected her life even outside of romantic relationships. I've seen "friends" walk over her and that shit always pissed me off.

Man, i wish you the best of luck

Both genders.
Is it normal to feel slightly aroused when talking to a person you're interested in? Not about anything sexual, or anything, Just normal talking.