All the power to him then. That’s kinda where I was at his age too in my own way.
Truth is though, while my style *was* intentional and while I didn’t really give a fuck about what others thought, I *did* give a fuck about what *i* thought and how I perceived myself and my own image, and that’s why I’d go to some lengths to develop my own style. Almost like I was constantly reaching to become something.
At some point though, in my late 20 I kinda stopped trying so hard to be my own person, and just accepted the person I’d become. Life became a lot easier.
To be honest, I’ve gotten kinda lazy with that shit. Life’s become *too* easy in some ways, so my developments have halted. But the. Again, this is the phase of life where external factors start to kick in (bills, work, saving for ho,e, kids, etc) so it is what it is. I still probably gotta rebalance in the other direction and find a balance to start trying harder on my self again (at least get back in to shape anyway lol. I’m not fat, but Im definitely a far cry from my shredded teenage days).
I think that’s what all of life is, struggling to balance yourself.
When you’re a kid, you freely develop your personality.
When you’re in your teens, you try to balance yourself around your peers and emulate others
When you’re in your late teens/20s, you try to find your individuality and confidence
When you’re in your late 20s, you try to find balance of comfort.
At least that’s what I’ve seen so far.
Only advice I can give you for that kinda shit is, make mistakes. Try new things. Don’t be afraid. “what if” regrets kill you worse than any kind of embarrassment ever does,