I'm 29. Single, virgin, necer had a date. Had some bad experiances and I decided that I'm better off single. Life's been pretty good in the years since but some times I get that lonely feeling. Usually I try to distract myself with some projects but its been nagging me hard lately. i dont mean like alone lonely. I have an apartment to myself. I dont mind solitude. I guess i want companship but I shouldent. Is they're a way to stop feeling this way? Or will I stop feeling this altogether in time?
I'm 29. Single, virgin, necer had a date. Had some bad experiances and I decided that I'm better off single...
I don’t think there is a way to stop the primal need for companionship. Humans are a social species etc.
Just get a gf.
I have friends. Youd think that would be enough.
>Just get a gf.
Cant do that.
I know watt you mean by having friends and it not being enough, it’s intimacy you want.
I get it you had some unfortunate experiences with the ladies but that’s just how the game goes. If nobody ever had bad experiences we would all marry our first significant other. But it’s not that easy and we keep moving on.
Pay for an hour with an escort, get it out of your system.
Unfortunately I wouldent even know how to start. I'm one of the last single strait guys in my friend group. The rest are all in ltrs for 4+ years now. So no one really goes out any more. And ive been told I. Here before that dating sites aren't worth it.
I really dont care about sex. Plus id rather be able to pay my rent and eat for the month.
That’s tough. Try askin your friends if they have any single friends they can set you up with. user from another thread suggested speed dating in your city. Meetup.com or dating apps.
You could try castration.
Wait... I missed that you were a virgin.
I’m not telling you to see an escort and get it out of your system, but you need to find a way to get it out of your system ASAP. Once you get a slice of pie you’ll be much more motivated to go out and get it yourself.
What's the point though
Your Avatar made me laugh out loud
I dont like the idea of dating a friend of a friend. Too much potential for drama. Scene it happen to friends and its not good. I was asking about dating apps on here before. Specifically about coffee bagels. General advice was that they should be avoided all together.
Not into escorts. Not legal in my city, and id rather save money for more important things. Casual sex in general isn't my thing. It would have to be with someone I'm at least comfortable with. I had a girl in the past tell me I'm past my sexual peak and id never be as good as I could have been.
Would if I could.
Getting your dick wet and eyes on the prize.
But why? If you aren't producing offspring, its just mutual masturbation. You're still on here so it's definitely not doing too good for your life
>Don't like the idea of dating a friend of a friend
>don't want to use dating apps
>don't want to try escorts
You need to stop making excuses or in a few months, or even years, you'll be telling yourself "I should have."
Yes dating friends of friends can potentially lead to problems if you act like a retard and create awkward circumstances. Yes apps can sometimes be a waste of time, but my best friend met his wife on instagram and a friend I met at work met his wife on Tinder. Your results may vary but it doesn't hurt to try. And if you're not into escorts, fair enough but the option is still there.
First of all, don't give up. I know a guy who was a virgin into his thirties. Not ugly or fat or anything, just absolute shit at talking to women, with social anxiety. He eventually got a girlfriend, and opened the floodgates. Now he meets girls all the time. Second, reevaluate your standards. You're a virgin, and that seems to bother you, but you also say "I don't like the idea of dating a friend of a friend". You might be looking for a perfect situation that meets your criteria, and that might be shooting you in the foot. Lower your standards, take some risks, and it might work out for you.
I re not that I dont want to use apps. When ever thr topic comes up on here its usually all about how terrible they are.
>You're a virgin, and that seems to bother you
But it doesn't.
In the past I was attractsd to incredibly terrible people. Like emotionally abusive types. Last girl I pursued wasnt like that but I would get that wishy washy butterflies in the stomach feeling. I hated that feelimg and I hated my swlf for feelimg that way and stopped talking to her.
Bump. Any guys in they're 30s successfully deal with this?
Last bump before work.
Bum
Welp that's a hard no. Or if there are, they aren't here.
Just try talking to a girl at the grocery store or something then. Or a bookstore. Or a gym. You can talk to anybody anywhere.
I have female friends that I'm close with. Its bit that I have trouble talking to girls. Since ive stopped caring uve even rejected a few. At the end of the day I know that I'm better off without it. Stores and gyms are generally shitty places to meet girls anyway.